Family: Question: Please complete this sentence: My father...?

Question: Please complete this sentence: My father...?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 02:14 PM PST

Question: Is father's ancestry more important than mother's?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 12:38 PM PST

Question: Am I disrespecting my gf?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 12:32 PM PST

My gf and I have been together for 3 years. My family has had issues with her and were very vocal of how they felt in the beginning. I didn't stand up for her for a long time. Finally last year, I told my family that they needed to respect her and I moved out of my mom's house and stopped talking to her for a while. My mom came to my work months later and apologized. I had promised my gf I wouldn't go to my mom's without her, but we got into a really bad argument one time and I went to my mom's house. I have come back a few times but my mom has invited my gf over because I kept telling my mom that I didn't feel right being over here without her and that I wouldn't be coming over very much if she wasn't allowed. My gf said she will never go over here until she gets an apology from my mom. She said i'm Disrespecting her by going over to my mom's without her. Am I disrespecting her? Should I be staying away from my family? I want to be with my gf and have a future with her.

Question: Is it ok to leave for a while without your parents?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 12:14 PM PST

I come from a Hispanic family and my mom mostly kind of expects me to tell her most things and be by her side. But I'm almost 21 and I grew up mostly in Atlanta Georgia. I have extended family and my dad in New York . I only lived in New York for 9 years and moved away in 2007 . My point is that I recently went to New York to pick up my grandma so she could come to Georgia. I spent a week there before we went to Georgia and for some reason most people want me to be there and work there . Here in Georgia I had a little job babysitting a baby for $30 a day so me being 21 I need a decent job to be able to get ahead in my life . My mom is a great person and I admire her and would like to live with her for the rest of our lives but I mean if someone offers you a job and you need it , it's worth going for it . New York is more expensive than Georgia and everything works fast over there. I visited the state here and there since I have family there but I don't fully see how it's like there. I am going back to New York in a week with my grandma and am staying for Christmas and New Years. But I do feel bad that I can't spend it with my mom and brothers and stepdad. They do have a choice to go but decided no . Am I dumb for being selfish and not staying in Georgia with everyone there?

Question: Mother in law keeps pushing me to invite her family?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 10:36 AM PST

My husband and I just bought a house that's 2 hours from where our families live. My MIL kept pushing me to invite her family over one day and that they wouldn't stay the night. I invited them (30 of them!!) and they ALL stayed the night because she told them to. Now not even 2 months later she's pushing me (through my husband) to now invite his dads siblings. It just won't stop and problem is my husband thinks she's right, because she manipulated him by telling him your aunts and uncles worship you and they love you sooo much and you're something else to them blah blah, and tells the aunts and uncles how much we love them and want them to come over. I'm only 26 and a newlywed and I'm literally serving his family with huge dinners all the time....

Question: Is it only me as a older/oldest sibling who feels like this about your younger sibling?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 10:18 AM PST

When they was/were little they admired you, wanted to be around you talked to you. But as they hit puberty they start to get arrogant think they are better than you, talk without respect to you even though you was like their mom and dad when they was at work. (Talking about my little sister) Her personality did a total 180 as she turned 13, disrespectful, non humble, thinks the world revolves around her, think she's the prettiest think in the world. She is now 20 and is still like this. As an older brother I can't understand her behaviour and why she has this weak of a personality who values friends over family. I fu cking hate it.

Question: My mom never eats any food I make?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 10:15 AM PST

It's kind of hurting my feelings like obviously i eat her food, but her food is starting to gross me out cause she kind of cooks the same things all the time, and when I tell her she should try making diff foods she makes excuses. So I try to cook different things and she wont even take a plate or bite of my food. Why is this ?? That's messed up does your mom ever do this?

Question: My dad physically and emotionally abuses me.?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 09:49 AM PST

Please read. I'm not here to have you make me feel better I just simply want to let some of this pain out. Theres not enough time in this world to write half the stuff even withen the last year and theres no way to say what I'm about to say without sounding corny or pathetic. I'm just going to be mentioning bits and peices. My hole life I watched my dad beat, scream, physically emotionally and mentally ABUSE my mom worse then you can imagine. I was born in a strictly Russian family so I didnt know any English until I went to kindergarten. I'm guessing I was about 5-6 years old and already at that point I seen so much stuff I wish I hadn't seen that I was sitting in the corner of my room crying. I had a packet in my hand that comes in shoe boxes for the humidity i think

Question: My mom is always angry and acts like me and my siblings are the worst thing to ever happen to her. What’s her deal?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 09:43 AM PST

Happen to her? I'm 26, my brother is 22, and I have an even younger one who is 18. My 22 year brother recently bought a house and had been having his girlfriend spend the night a lot and my mom doesn't approve of it because she sees it as shacking up and she's a Christian. I have depression and anxiety issues and my mom sees me as a mental nut case, my 18 year brother bought the newest iPhone and my mom went off on him saying how he had no business buying a new phone when he doesn't even have a car. The difference between me and my brother is that my brother won't tolerate her going off on her, he was like " do you work my hours, is it your money. It's my money and none of your business . I work doubles all the time and I needed a phone my old one broke". I don't bother arguing with her cquse I don't need the extra stress, I already got enough health problems. The other day my mom was telling My 22 year old brother that she did not raise us to be this way. She was like " you shacking up, your brother buying a thousand dollar phone, and your sister is crazy". My 22 year old brother was like " I'm not even shacking up but I'll talk to you later mom" and he drove back to his house

Question: Should I support my mom?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 09:24 AM PST

My mom is 60 years old and she pretty much doesn't have anything. She has always depended on my father or boyfriends to support her and take care of her. She recently left her boyfriend so now she has nowhere to go. I am 31 and I am living with my aunt and I am looking into buying a condo. My mom is bouncing around to different family members houses but no one wants to take her full-time. She is extremely difficult and asks everyone for money and wants everyone to pay her bills for her and refuses to get a job. I know once I get a condo everyone is going to try to pin her and me full-time. I have never lived on my own And I want to experience living alone and being independent. I work and I want to create my own life and have my own space. My mom gets really nasty when people don't give her money and has even threatened to come to my job and embarrass me and cause a scene. She continually curses at me and threatens me, demanding money from me. I can't live my life like this. When her mother was around, my grandmother, she drained every penny she had from her. What should I do, am I a terrible daughter for feeling this way? She will never be able to collect social security because she never worked a "real" job. Just random under the table Cash jobs.

Question: Should I support my mom?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 09:23 AM PST

My mom is 60 years old and she pretty much doesn't have anything. She has always depended on my father or boyfriends to support her and take care of her. She recently left her boyfriend so now she has nowhere to go. I am 31 and I am living with my aunt and I am looking into buying a condo. My mom is bouncing around to different family members houses but no one wants to take her full-time. She is extremely difficult and asks everyone for money and wants everyone to pay her bills for her and refuses to get a job. I know once I get a condo everyone is going to try to pin her and me full-time. I have never lived on my own And I want to experience living alone and being independent. I work and I want to create my own life and have my own space. My mom gets really nasty when people don't give her money and has even threatened to come to my job and embarrass me and cause a scene. She continually curses at me and threatens me, demanding money from me. I can't live my life like this. When her mother was around, my grandmother, she drained every penny she had from her. What should I do, am I a terrible daughter for feeling this way? She will never collect social security because she has never worked. Only a few jobs under the table.

Question: Why would she let her 13 year old daughter change in-front of a 25 year old man?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 09:14 AM PST

I have known the mom( tammie) for 15 years, because she was friends with my mother. My mother passed away, but we kept the friendship going and talk about once a month. Now, I have had sex with the mom, in Las Vegas about 4 years ago and still continues every now and then. So are relationship changed... Her daughter is 13 and looks 18, but that still doesn't matter. I understand that we are close, but in NO way should her young daughter be half naked in front of any man...not at her age. The mom( Tammie) and daughter came too visit for a couple of days...In the morning I went to Mickey D's for hash-browns and when I got back her daughter was in the living room in bra and panties( who let's a child wear a thong?) ...No joke. I stopped. and went to the kitchen, where I could not see. I even said she could change in the bathroom or my room, but her mom said " it's only ronnie" and didn't seem to care..I could tell the daughter was a little uneasy... Tammie has always been a little out of her mind...She told me in bed that I could have her daughter when she turned 18....I was like wtf...Tammie is always bringing up topics that are uncomfortable. Tammie talks about her daughter breasts, bras, shaving,...Should I confront her about this? Something I don't need to know, even if we are family friends.

Question: Isn’t this ridiculous? plz answer?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 08:53 AM PST

so i'm 16 and almost 17 and my mom was telling me to keep the door closed when i had a boy over. isn't that dumb? i'm almost an adult i just don't understand. and when my sister had a boyfriend they were always behind closed doors this just isn't fair. and when she opened my door i shut it while she was in her room and then my grandma came in and goes "DONT EVER SLAM THE DOOR ON MY DAUGHTER I WILL PUT YOU THROUGH THE WALL LEARN SOME RESPECT IVE SEEN IT ALL WEEK DO YOU UNDERSTAND YOU WONT LIVE TO TELL IT" blah blah blah. isn't that also ridiculous and messed up that she yelled at a 17 year old for not to mention NO Reason at all. also the fact that i didn't do anything this week! and isn't it messed up that she threatened me? tell me what y'all think about this

Question: Customised mugs for Christmas?!?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 07:27 AM PST

Hello people from the UK! I'm buying my brothers motorbike looking mug it's brilliant it really is and I know it's something he'd love but they have girlfriends so I thought what's better than to get them both something which is personal mug wise So recently she got a new dog she has an old one too but what better than a customised mug with them on it and her name! Does anyone know what way I'd go around to do that? I want it to look cartoon sort of style not just putting photographs on a mug I want it better than that any ideas?

Question: My parents make me feel spoiled, and at other times stupid and incompetent?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 07:15 AM PST

My parents make me feel spoiled. My dad does make a lot of money, and there's just me and my sister, so we get lots of nice stuff frequently. My parents always compare us to many of our friends, whose parents make less money and have 5 to 8 kids. This makes me feel spoiled and guilty. Then at other times, they compare me to my peers and kids of their friends. I have dyslexia, so it makes it hard for me to score well in school. They compare to me this guy who is the master at cross country, this girl who scored 5's in BOTH lang and lit when she was only in 8th grade, these twins who can play many instruments well, etc. This makes me feel stupid, worthless, incompetent, and a piece of crap. I wish they will instead tell me they feel sorry I have dyslexia and point my strengths (for example, I'm the best in my class at Spanish, and I'm the most motivated to earn badges in my troop, etc.) I wish my parents weren't like this. I'm not sure if this is true of all Asian parents, but they point the spoiled part of me and compare me to make me feel worthless. They say you can't be good at everything, and yet they expect me to get the highest score in act, sat, ap, etc. This is just bull.

Question: Ladies will you be barefoot all day today?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 07:02 AM PST

I will be.. I am having my family come over for Thanksgiving dinner so I am cooking now and I am barefoot. I am so glad my family is coming over today so I can just be barefoot all day and not have to put any shoes on.

Question: Advice please?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 06:06 AM PST

My daughter has coeliac disease, her school rang me today saying she accidentally ate gluten, now I know this wasn't an accident just carelessness. How do I deal with this? I don't want this to go off lightly as mistakes like this can be life threatening. What do I say to the school?

Question: My mom wants to come to my friend's sleepover?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 05:51 AM PST

My mom wants to come to my best friend's sleepover. I'm already 15, and I feel like this is over the limit. There will be around 8 girls there, and she wants to come to "chaperone and make sure I am safe." I think she's coming just to embarrass me. She'll be really embarrassing, cuz she's Asian. She wears weird fat pajamas, and she'll make me go to bed at 10PM, even though everyone else will be up till 4 in the morning. How do I get her to stay home that night?

Question: What can I do today to make this a memorable dysfunctional family Thanksgiving where I am the one causing the dysfunction?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 03:30 AM PST

I have never been the dysfunctional family member before other then as a teen one year when I wouldn't speak due to Bipolar. I am 41 now, single nerdy male, will be at Mom and Dad's with about 14 other family members on my Mom's side. This morning my Dad and I are going to see his family but there big family gathering won't be until Christmas (most are with in-laws). So what can I do to make this a dysfunctional family Thanksgiving without causing any long-term upset feelings.

Question: What do I do when my toxic sister begins to bully me today and Uncle Chuck is drunk and Mom and Dad are covering our ears?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 03:28 AM PST

Also when Mom and aunt begin to fight over the cooking to please Granny while Mom is busy insulting all my step-father's family who we see Saturday and then rants about how my Dad never loved me and I walk out of the room with head=phones on mad at Mom. Also Great-Uncle from Tennessee will likely be drunk also and his daughter leave early in disgust with her kids and my Granny mad that she made all the food and niece left anyway. By the end my mother will give the lecture about how she is not doing this next year and we are going to a beach but then next year we will all be together for again for another dysfunctional family Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving.

Question: My Dad is a very ignorant and arrogant person. Could this explain why he enabled my younger sister so much to become the narcissist she is?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 03:16 AM PST

Question: Spying on my sister?

Posted: 22 Nov 2018 02:22 AM PST

I really need good programs or something so my mom can I guess spy on my sister... my mom always gets calls from her school saying she skipped class or something like that and my mom gets worried sick so from now on she wants to spy on my sister is there any good programs or something my mom can use to track her? She has her phone number... my sister is 15 and it's for her safety we need help she's loosing hope quickly.

Question: Are my parents abusive?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 11:40 PM PST

I am moved out now, but now that I'm moved out I feel like I was in an abusive household. My mom and dad are divorced and I stayed with my mom most of the time. My mom did things like put soap in my mouth, force me to sign up for clubs, religious activities, and jobs I didn't want to be in and made me walk to work and I was forced to buy my own car. When I did she would ground me if I didn't tell her every little move I made. She turned off the wifi a lot too because she thought I played video games too much. Then when I got a girlfriend she hated her right off the bat without even knowing her just because she didn't have her license. My dad has always been a lot better so I dont have much to say about his side, anyways is this all abusive parenting or am I overdramatic?

Question: Is it selfish to not want children?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 11:38 PM PST

I was having a conversation with someone who claimed this

Question: Why was I born?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 11:37 PM PST

Question: Do you think adopted kids can love their adoptive parents as truly as their biological parents when they grow up ?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 09:20 PM PST

Chinese girl adopted by American family miraculously reunited with her birth parents on Hangzhou's Broken Bridge

Question: Is it possible to strongly dislike, even hate your daughter?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 09:11 PM PST

She is one of the meanest, cruelest people I know. She likes to ridicule family members, hurt their feelings, lie to them, she has even done this to her husband and son and her brother on more than one occasion. I don't know who this person is...she is not the person I raised.

Question: How does a will reading work?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 09:09 PM PST

Question: How do I get my parents to kick out my thirty-year old mooch of a sister?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 08:47 PM PST

I want that loser to leave already. She's already been here for about three months wasting space, and has even looked at other places. Letting her fithly dog roll around om the couch- because its 'her dog and she can do what she wants'. She constantly manuplates my mom to get what she wants, and my dad can't do anything because she'll play the 'he hates me cuz I'm his stepdaughter' card. She never does any chores, never does anything but: expect people to hand over everything she wants to them, try to control every living thing, and talk to her stupid boyfriend who I hope to dumb enough to marry someone like her. I just want her out, but all my mom ever does is defend her because she's her oldest. I want her and her stupid dog to just leave my home forever. Right now she's been taking up the bathroom for an hour. What do I do?

Question: My sister is a cruel person. What do I do when she starts to insult everyone at Thanksgiving tomorrow?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 08:38 PM PST

She is even mean to our cousin with autism. My sister is 26 going on nine.

Question: Why do my parents scream in the middle of the night?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 08:28 PM PST

Question: Why does my own mother seem to hate me? I promise I'm not a bad person. It's super hard to accept this for me. Help!?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 07:10 PM PST

I'm doing very well for myself. Got married. Have a good job. I take her & my dad out to eat whenever I can. I try hard to be a good daughter, hoping she'll change w/ me but nothing works. I'll tell u some of the things she's put me through. She protects & loves all my other siblings the same. She takes their side no matter what over mine. My brother's are terribly disrespectful & she doesn't care as long as it's not me. She judges me a lot. She'll immediately stop talking to me for weeks if I dare disagree with her. She thinks everything I say is disrespectful. I used to seriously hate myself bcus of how she treated me. She puts me down. She puts my dad against me. My brother's have gone as far as hitting me & she's done absolutely nothing claiming I should've kept my mouth shut when they tell me to! I'm the oldest & a female. She is super prideful with me. She's never congratulated me on any of my achievements. All of my brother's are grown losers that still live @ home w/ her yet she puts me down when I live well in my own home. My uncle (her brother) died in a car accident 1 night while he was driving & she had the audacity to blame me knowing how traumatized & hurt I was over his death. She blamed me for simply being there. This caused me yrs of severe depression thinking it was my fault. She promised to come help me after going through a surgery but decided to completely ignore me bcus I argued with one of my brothers. So now she won't talk to me during my recuperation.

Question: How to forgive a bad mother?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 06:51 PM PST

My mom is not a drug addict or a person that has had many partners. She's been married to 1 man for 34 yrs & that's to my father. I'm 32 yrs old. I have 3 other siblings, all younger men ranging from 21 to 29 yrs old. Anyway, my mother adores them. She would choose any of them over me any day. She treats me differently. Even 1 of my ****** brother's once said that my mom really doesn't like me. It's clear to see. They all act the same. They have no respect amongst them, they love to argue & love drama. They're almost always arguing. My psycho mother is like a spoiled brat. If I dare say something she doesn't agree with, shell immediately stop talking to me. Takes it as the ultimate disrespect. I just had surgery & she had promised to come help me but she didn't like the way I treated my youngest brother which is a very disrespectful person. All I said was that I didn't want him coming over to my house that day because I wasn't feeling good. So she now won't speak to me. She hasn't even cared to check uo on me for 3 days. I'm on day 6 after ny surgery. I still get fevers & get dizzy walking. I could use her help but she's prideful. I am sitting here crying over what I did to deserve such a toxic mother. She has always put me down but come on this time it's different. I can't believe I actually believed she'd be here for me. She's a hypocrite. Whenever any of my brothers have disrespected me she's been super cool with it. Any advice? Thanks.

Question: Does my mom act childish or am I just crazy?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 06:47 PM PST

My stepfather but a dog toy for my dog in as a squeaker she kept squeaking it so I asked my mom to take it away and said "no" so I took it away and told them I had a headache and she kept laughing like it doesn't matter if I have a migraine and then she took it out again and my mom kept squeaking it and then mocked me and then squeaked it more after I told her my head hurt she talks too much and I'm not a adult yet I know it's her house her rules but she never is considerate of my feelings no matter how countless times I tried to talk to her she makes a excuse and goes on her phone.

Question: Is it weird how both of my sister in laws still haven’t come to see our 4 month old baby?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 06:14 PM PST

I get people are busy and do their own thing , but I feel like they should have met him by now ? I wonder if it's something i did for them to not want To come over ? ( I can't think of anything )

Question: My father inlaw doesn't like me I am pregnant and he emotionally makes remarks is this classed as domestic abuse?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 05:48 PM PST

He has never liked me I don't mind as I know I've never done anything wrong. He doesn't like me because when he talks about me or makes remarks I don't respond . At the start of my marriage he would try to get me against his son my husband that didn't seem to work so now his always gossiping about me to other family members so I can hear when I want to sit down he won't give up his seat and he can see I am heavily pregnant. Other women in the family who are bitchy are well liked by him and he is scared of them. My husband has said if he carries on we will live seprate but it's our tradition to live together so I don't really have a option he is also rude to my parents he ignores them when they come over I have never done anything horrible to this man I've made him food given him lifts brought him birthday presents but he just doesn't seem to like me . When I am home alone with him I choose to stay in my room and he doesn't like that as I have heard him gossiping about that

Question: Will my Grandmother be ok?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 05:35 PM PST

I love my grandmother very much and we are pretty close. When I was younger she was happy and nice but now as she gets older she tends to be more on the negative side. For example, I was watching a movie at her house with a wedding and she walks in a says, "That dress is SO ugly! I don t know why ANYONE would ever wear that!" she also yelled at my little sister for saying "Donald Trump is stupid" when my sister is 6 and doesn t know what she is talking about! My main concern is 1. She is 80 years old. 2. She is pretty overweight (idk how to say that without sounding rude) My mom told me today that yesterday she fell down and my uncle had to get her up. Today she was talking on the phone with my dad saying she fell again near her bed and an ambulance had to take her to the Hospital. I m really worried! Especially since tomorrow is Thanksgiving! Please give me advice on how to deal with this. Thank you.

Question: How do i deal with my parent’s favoritism?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 04:56 PM PST

apart from anything else my parents have always let the things my siblings do slide. my brother and sister are always cooped up in their rooms and i spend the most time and am the most nice to both of them. i dont spend time with them because i want anything to come out of it, but now i'm feeling empty seeing the difference of treatment between the 3 of us despite the little things i do for my parents.

Question: How to get disowned by my parents?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 03:49 PM PST

So the past year has been super bad because of how my parents hate that I smoke weed. And honestly I'm getting so much stress from my parents is so bad it's making my hair fall out. They want to like change my school and do all this **** and keep in mind I get good grades and they put me in drug classes and I just really don't want to live like this anymore because it's so terrible. I just want them to leave me alone and let me be. (Don't ******* tell me to stop smoking becuzse it ain't happening)

Question: So my girlfriend is coming to Thanksgiving dinner tmrw.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2018 03:02 PM PST

I'm honestly scared as can be. My family is soo judgemental with every single situation. I don't want my girl to think I'm ashamed of her or anything. But I also don't want my family to scare her off. She's only met my family that lives in my household (Mom,sisters,brothers). Mind you I just came out as being a lesbian to my mother not to long ago. The rest of the family doesn't know yet. But I guess they will tmrw.