It's thanksgiving break next week and my parents planned a trip for my family and several others to go on. I recently received a huge opportunity with work though my campus that I won't come across again before I graduate. I'm really wanting to stay back so I can take this opportunity but when I tried to talk to my parents they didn't understand and basically refused for me to stay. I really want them to know how badly I want to do this but they are really hard to talk to because they're pretty stubborn. What do I do? I'm willing to pay them back for what they've spent.

My parents are getting divorced. My dad has custody of me right now. This pissed my mom off so much that she's falsely claiming that I have an anger problem and need to see a therapist, and that if I don't see a therapist, she'll get the judge to get me to live with her. I'd much rather stay with my dad. I DO NOT HAVE AN ANGER PROBLEM. Because of my mom I was already forced to go to one therapist who said I don't have an anger problem, but now my mom is saying if my dad doesn't get 2nd opinions she's going to get custody. I do not want to go to therapy for an issue I don't have just to stay in my dad's custody. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! The judge refuses to see me. My dad has tried explaining to him that I don't have an anger problem, but the judge is being a real *** and taking my mom's side on this.

So basically I feel like I'm very unhappy with my major and I really want to get into architecture because that was always my first choice but I was chosen for a scholarship for physics and my parents told me it was best to take it NOW I REGRET IT!!! I already wrote a letter but they rejected it and said I couldn't change it and now I really really want to make them feel something when they read my second letter but I don't know how to make it deep and emotional. Please someone help meee

My Mom and her family broke up. I am the one often writing on here about trying to get my Mom's family to like me. I probably ask one or two questions a week about it. How do I get to the acceptance stage where I just accept the estrangement and move on? Don't just say therapy, I am in that for lots of things including this, looking for additional ideas to add.

soo today was the day ever year we can wear color dress . my mom and i decided i wouldnt be going as to save study time . then only yesterday did i get the info that i would be getting an award , so i decided i had to go as getting an award in front of my classmates is quite great. my mom is really very jealous of me , she started shouting at me saying that i wanted to go so as to show off to the boys and all that kind of filthy stuff , then she kept chatting with my teachers asking them to take my pics not becoz she loved me but just to chat , she gave me the most comical attire to wear, when i came back she again started shouting and beating me , she then recieved my pics from a teacher and she started boasting , she uses my name to glorify my sis., she just now came to me and was like "every one praises your sis for her character has anyone told something good about yours till now" , she is soo jealous becoz she knows i am much better than her . she also insults me in public all the time. in malls , . , she has ruined me .she has destroyed my beauty, charm , innocence, belief in god almost everything but still she sacrifises a lot for us please reply

I'm 24.

They let me down because they are my parents. I want them to be stable and they are not. They use me as a pawn in their family feuds and my Dad is very ignorant to the anxiety I have and belittles me for it. As a kid I found them so strong, now as an adult I find them difficult, especially my father. I am hurt and angry at them, my Dad especially.

My Mom's family does not like me cause I am her son and they dislike her.

something they were not supposed to.The 5 year old cant call 911 except some little time when it hesitates.Is it the 5 year old s fault the kid died?

My mom had said something earlier that struck a nerve and sheand my brother had been fighting already. We were all watching a movie and I couldn't finish because i had to get out of bed early in the morning. We were arguing a bit and i settled back down. Then my mom brought up something from the day before and said: "Why did you watch that stupid movie anyway was it urgent? To which i reacted: "Yeah it is the only good memory from my childhood." (superdumb and totally not true but i was mad) and now she is really mad and i have tried to apoligize but evrytime i do she seems to get madder. Today i was very ill and throwing up constantly and i didn't go to school and now she is even madder! Shouting stuff like never going on summer holiday again and that i have to move out and stuff. Shes done stuff like that before but it still makes me sad. How can i make it up to her? I recently turned 16 btw

I'm 20 and I make 13.50 an hour working at Alcon. When I hang out with family and friends they call me kid and treat me like one.

Ok at the age 5 to 7 my stepfather was molesting me my mother didn't even notice it and his parent was always never around the house when it was happening he did physical damage to me and mental he forcefully made me watch porn well. My teacher noticed the bruise on me and got me help my mother didn't now i had to deal with ppl asking me things and even she just sent me away several times and I tired killing myself in her care couple times and I even ran away thinking some one else better would adopt me i was drinking sneaking out under my mother nose ok I was put in group home and hospital when I was in her care in middle school i was so Medicaid i couldn't do anything on my own ok well I was sent away again and didn't get home until age of 16th thing was hood at 1st. Until I told her husband at the time grabbed my *** and she didn't believe me well age 17 i was dating a black guy i was on the phone with him she took the phone and hit me in the head so i ran away too my boyfriend and ended up getting held down by him while he let his friends take turns ok i 18 i dropped out of high school she's didn't even try stopping me well I was raped by my real dad at 18 and he got away with it ok i was seeing my 1st husband at the time my dad had him working with him so he knew I was home alone

I basically became estranged from my entire family recently. I m super depressed because of it but it is for the best. Does anyone have any advice on things I could do to heal? Right now I just feel like doing nothing all day but I can t.

My mom, sister, and brother did a lot for my dad when he suffered. My dads brothers and sisters are blaming my bothers. But they are the ones who always gossiped and were fake. My dad knew that and told me to stay away from them. Why we suffer so much? What should we do? Will they get their bad karma? Mother* MY mom had two cancers last year

I've asked this probably a year ago but everyone called me a troll. I'm being serious, i'm only posting anon because my dad used to moniter every little thing i did, giving me severe anxiety, an being anon helps. My dad left my mother and i when i was 9. He said he was building a house for us, and then we could move there together and be a family. We ended up finding out that he was dating my brothers (she was 18 he was 45) ex girlfriend. So he wasted our time, lied, cheated on my mother, never came to my birthdays, never called, never visited, didn't ask if i was alright when i put my dog down, didn't pay child support, burnt a dogs eye off with a meth pipe, starved a litter of kittens in his basement, tied my dogs up in his shed for days straight (until i rescued them). I witnessed him throw my brother through walls when he was younger than 13. I remember my mother crying for him to stop but eventually she quit crying over it because it would just make it worse on my brother. My father disgusts me, with how he treated my family. My therapist determined my underlying cause of anxiety is from how my father physically abused my brother, manipulated all of us, and emotionally abused me. If i don't answer his texts, he says "i'm your father answer me right now". If i still don't answer, he tells his dad, who i live with, who he left us with before he dated my brothers ex. If my grandpa finds out then i get told how ungrateful i am and i'll go to hell for not obeying my dad.

I am currently attending university out of state. I live across the country and will be going home for two weeks at Christmas break. I have a cousin who lives nearby and she has offered to watch my dog so I can fly home instead of drive this year. It's a really big favor! I want to get her a nice thank you present and I am looking to spend around $50.00. I know she wouldn't want me to spend more. Any ideas?

I am a bisexual male, 28 yrs old, only child in the family, to be honest, although I am bisexual, but the rarely want to have anything to do with girls. I am more attracted to male qualities( Looks, personalities.) My parents knows I am bi, so they are saying that I should have a kid, because I am the only child, and I need to reproduce to continue the family's DNA, otherwise it'll ends in my hand. I think the my main points are (1) I don't like crying stuff (2) I need my personal space (3) I want to live my life however i want without getting stuck with a kid. (4) I am more happy with guys than i'm with girls. My parents main points are (1) I am bi, it's not like i'm gay, so why not choose to live a "normal" life. (2) I am the only child, i need to reproduce to continue the family's DNA. (3) They think I'll be happier in life with a girl because guys are all promiscuous they all cheat. (4) I'll have my kid/kids take care after me when i'm old. I never thought about family's DNA and all that crap until they talked to me about it. Now I don't know what to do? Be selfish and make myself happy not have a kid or Be normal, have a kid but be miserable. My parents even said that me and my future wife can just stick the kid to them while we r at work, and they will take care of the kid during the day, and then they even will take a kid off us for a few days so me and my future wife can have some alone time.

I'm 24 years old (female), and I come from a middle eastern family. Started recently talking to a guy, and we've only been on one date so far, but the chemistry was great. Way too early to tell how it's going to pan out obviously. Anyways, I was considering going out on a second date with him....but my family found out what he does for a living, and now they are all against me going on any further dates with him because they found out he's a construction manager. P.s don't ask me how I know this, but apparently he's making almost 200k doing what he does. He's redicolously career oriented. Anywaysss, none of this matters to my family....nor his drive/ambitions or his salary doing what he does. They're telling me that they would be extremely ashamed to tell our family what he does as a career. And also telling me that I would potentially be setting up a terrible example for my future children, potentially marrying someone who doesn't even have a bachelors degree. Anyways, all in all, I'm getting MAJOR sh*tfor even considering going out on another date with him. Keep in mind that I come from a family of doctors/engineers/lawyers. The money or drive doesn't matter to them- they think the title of his career is extremely shameful to potentially bring up to all of our family & relatives in the future. My family has usually given me so much freedom, but for once, I feel like I'm literally trapped & living in a cage. How would you guys have handled the situation?

My family keep saying this to me becuz of issues. Why do they say this what do this mean.?

When I was born, by mother and father divorced and my father obtained full custody of me. As a child, I was allowed to see my family only 2 times a month, and my father did not want my mother or her family near me. This naturally created distance between me and my mothers side of the family before I was even old enough to know differently. As an adult, I just never had them around so i never reached out, and they just never reached out either. My mother and I have never been close because she did some abusive things to me when i was young. I moved away from them to Texas to live in a warmer climate. I have no family here. Several years ago, I started becoming quite ill, and my mother and her family don't contact me (even though I have brought it up, and for several years tried very hard to reach out). Believe it or not, they are actually quite close as a family and constantly meet for vacations and things, but i am never invited. I just want to know if this is partially my fault

My mom has always been there for me and have taken care of me when i was in my rebellious years. My dad wasngoijg to disown me but my mom was always there. She was there when i had an ex boyfriend that wasnt right for me and when i wanted to break up with him tahe quickly helped me find my own apt and moved out. While i was living on my own i met up with someone i have know for drinks. And soon after that we got married. My husband and i have different views on how to spend our money. I was told by my mom especially that i am suppose to take of her by giving her allowance to spend, taking her to trips and taking care of whatever bills she need. She gave me her bank account number so i can transfer the funds. Its kinda making it difficult for my husband and i because he feels like my mom juat doesnt want to work and expects her daughters to take care of her when she is able to work. She is 58. My sister has complained to me and asked me why doesnt mom just sell the house she has rented out so we dont have to pay for the property tax every year. My husband thinks we shouldnt even pay since she is the one that collects the rent from the tenants. I dont know. My mom even told me that i need to repay her now for taking care of me for so many years.. i dont mind helping my mom but i dont like the way she asks for things... is that normal? Is my husband right about my mom?

Since they have kids I feel I should treat her as a distant aunt still. He says you are in or out and she is out. She is not particularly close but has been in the family for 17 years.