Family: Question: I'm 17, graduated and not allowed to get a job. Advice?

Question: I'm 17, graduated and not allowed to get a job. Advice?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:42 PM PDT

I turn 18 in three months. I just graduated from high school. My grandparents, who I live with, refuse to let me get a job. Before I graduated I would ask them once every few weeks when I could start applying to places. They would get very upset whenever I asked and they would tell me to shut up and not worry about it until I graduate. Now that I'm graduated, it's still the same thing. It's very frustrating because all of my friends and my boyfriend have full time jobs. I'm stuck at home all day doing nothing. I'm also not allowed to go out whenever I want, I have to ask as if I'm 12 years old. I want to move out as soon as I can and I would like to be financially independent. Now that I am graduated and I have nothing to focus on educationally (I'm not going to college, they also won't let me do that), I don't understand why they won't let me get a job. I feel like a deadbeat. Advice?

Question: I have no life because of helping my mom with my two sisters, please read does it sound like my mom wants more kids even though she said no?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:17 PM PDT

I told my mom how my uncle is trying to make me nervous, saying my mom is going to have another baby & is going to be a boy, & how me/mom are going to be stuck home (which we're already have been), my mom response would be different like yeah right, or I have enough on my dish, why doesn't he try having some kids, etc., instead she's "no matter what ur always stuck home" I believe she said "oh please" BEFORE THIS the other night I told her how my uncle said I'm going to be stuck home when my mom has another baby & she's "what does that & u being stuck home" or "what does being stuck home have to do with that", she's like "some people think like his father that you have to have a boy or your not happy" then "that isn't the case all the time" or "that isn't the case though" that was the night before BUT then she brought up on her own that even her mother was never happy with my mom having another girl my mom is like "that isn't nice, my cousin had all girls her mother was happy everyone was happy" I believe she said "you don't need a boy always" but then when I said how my uncle was like me/my mom are going to be stuck home because of another baby, that's where it seem she got kinda defensive but then I also told her that time we we went out with the kids/uncle, the kids had a crying fit & my uncle just wanted to run, he sees the kids don't do that now so he trying to scared me on you having another kid, she didn't say anything when I ask her do you hear me she said yes nicely

Question: Should there be someone to blame?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:16 PM PDT

If someone was told to open the garage door, that someone pressed the button to open it, but now the the garage door is dented in and the metal part that slides the door open is bent as well

Question: Mam didn't tell me about my dead uncle?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:07 PM PDT

So my uncle has been sick for a while , he has dementia , I've seen him quite a lot . Over the past two weeks he has got particularly bad and we knew he was going to die , I had seen him 10 days ago last but over the past 10 days he got worse and was in ICU and my Mam didn't tell me . (I am 18 and still living at home ) he died yesterday and she still didn't tell me saying "If you cared about him being sick you would have went to see him before he did . My aunty tells my mam how he's doing so my Mam should have told me ! I'm so hurt , what should I do ?

Question: My mom went outside and hasn t come back in. She isn t there?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:00 PM PDT

My mom went outside about 15 minutes ago to throw out the trash. When she had been outside for about 10 minutes I went out there to look for her. She not there. Her car is in the shop, so she couldn t have left. She left her phone behind. She never leaves without telling us, and even then there s no one here we know. We just moved. My mother isn t the type to go out for walks. What do I do?

Question: Girls would you do this?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:57 PM PDT

I have to leave in a few minutes to ride with my mom to go pick up my dad at work. I am at home now in my bare feet and since it is hot out and I am not getting out of the car and we are coming right back home I am going for the ride in my bare feet and I am not going to bring shoes with me. I don't need shoes for a 20 minute car ride since I am not going in anyplace.

Question: Should I move out?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:30 PM PDT

I'm 17 and about to attend my last year of highschool. Currently I've been working full time over the summer since my dad is disabled and can't find work (I've been working 20 hours a week after school for over a year) He's getting surgery soon and I'm struggling to keep up with the bills. I have a friend who offered to have me live with them cost free, meaning I could focus on my most important year of highschool with college applications and scholarships (which is already stressful enough) currently I don't think j can survive having to support both my dad and I while also being a full time student in my last year. The reason why I haven't left yet is because my dad has no income and no where to go, so if I left he would end up homeless. I don't know what to do and this whole situation just sucks

Question: I have a learning disability can I live on my own?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:22 PM PDT

Hi I have a learning disability and it's my first time getting ready to live on my own I have a job and I have a car the only thing I'm worried about living on my own is the bills I am trying to learn how to budget the only thing I have a problem with is reading and pronouncing big words I guess I'm just afraid of people taking advantage of me and my mother she's making it worse she keep telling me that you are not ready to live on your own I need you to live with me so you can help me pay my bills I am 30 years old and it's time for me to live on my own I am ready but my mother she's making it worse she keep telling me people are going to hurt me in the real world I don't know sometimes I believe her and sometimes I don't I don't know what to do I signed up for Section 8 and I got to move in the apartment in next year

Question: If I just give my grandma some time, so you think she will come around?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:13 PM PDT

I live with my grandma. I have been driving for 6 months, my boyfriend taught me. A lot of stuff happened previously in my life that prevented ne from learning how to drive early on, so I didn't get my license until I was 21. I just turned 22 and my grandma bought me a car, she said she wanted to see how I drove first so she knew I was safe driving by myself. While we were out, some idiot saw cops ahead and decided to merge into my lane without putting his blinker on, so it caused me to slam my breaks, it scared my grandma and she kept saying, this is why I don't want you to drive people are idiots and don't pay attention. So she isn't letting me drive by myself now because she is scared

Question: My fiancé is making me lose interest on him. Help!!?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 11:44 AM PDT

My fiancé helps me w/ $300 monthly rent; still lives with his dad & his brother, he doesn't pay rent, has minimal expenses & owns a business, doesn't want to move in with me. I work for him & as soon as I go to the store he always has something to do. Whether is oil change,his dog, gym, groceries, going to suppliers for the store etc. I'm being resentful bc I'm always alone at the store, I don't have friends. I don't believe in having friends.I talk to customers and that's it. My mom is a very negative person & she always has something bad to say ,my family (cousins uncles) are always fighting so I stay away from everyone. I have been with my fiancé for two years and the first year was great. Going to dinner every week,I would go to his house & stay the night. Prep meals together, fun great. Now things have changed. I would like to go out to the movies, bowling, have ice cream, go for a hike, cook together. things that couples do but he doesn't want to. He is always tired, says that's for high school couples. (I am 26 he is 32) I don't think it's kids stuff. I don't think he is old either. He visits me once a week & we stay in don't do much. He hasn't told his mom about me, she is from the Middle East she leaves there. He goes to visit once a year for a month every year, talks to her often & he doesn't tell her. I love him and I have told him everything that bothers me, ( many times) But he tries to please me and goes back to the same old thing. I am getting tired of this.

Question: Why does my mother do this?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 11:35 AM PDT

She will constantly call and text me to the point where is is harassing and at odd hours and will tell me to come over to see her and when I go over to her house all she does is sleep and ignore me and talk bad about me to my step dad who is also there. Why does she do this?

Question: How to handle people who are deliberately trying to piss you off?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 11:30 AM PDT

My family is becoming extremely hard to handle. I am trying my best, but it's just not possible. I ignore them but they keep coming back at me again and again, and I can't avoid them because I live with them. They try to make me rage by words, by actions, by anything. It doesn't change the fact that tomorrow is my birthday. It will still be at least 2 months before I can move away, so that's out of the picture. There is literally nothing I can do except endure, but I have problem doing even that because this has been going on for far too long. Any, and I mean any advice is welcome. I did anything in my power to defuse the situation and it's simply not possible. They fell short on their end.

Question: Is it OK of my father to be forcing me to either get a job or do summer school at 15?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 10:31 AM PDT

There are a lot of other things I could be doing, like hanging out with friends or just relaxing around the house or even working on home projects. I realize that getting a job wouldn't be the worst thing, but it should be my choice, especially at 15... There are a lot of other things I could be doing, like hanging out with friends or just relaxing around the house or even working on home projects. I realize that getting a job wouldn't be the worst thing, but it should be my choice, especially at 15... There are a lot of other things I could be doing, like hanging out with friends or just relaxing around the house or even working on home projects. I realize that getting a job wouldn't be the worst thing, but it should be my choice, especially at 15...

Question: My younger sister has her new home and she refuses to even let us,her family, including parents to visit? She'd rather leave the unit empty.?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:50 AM PDT

the pet peeve is i allowed her to stay with me when she came to my country and brought her around.now she even refuses to let me know where is her place. what shall i do with such blatant selfishness?she has a very nice condo is an upscale area yet i dont understand why she is behaving like that and she refuses to give a reason.

Question: My sister is a worthless person. Why do our parents love her?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:28 AM PDT

Question: My mother doesn't support anything that involves my step-father's family. Could it be since she dislikes them she just refuses to see good?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:28 AM PDT

They are all really good people, she has this bias against them since she had some disagreements early in her marriage. Like she is mad my step-father has to work when he does. He works for his family. Yet she'd be proud of him if it was her family. She has a "all in" or "all out" personality. She also holds him back from going to his family events like at holidays. He is weak and so he allows her to keep him from his family a lot of the time. Like this weekend while I will be with my Dad, I asked what they were doing and they will be with HER father and not sharing time with HIS elderly father also. She is holding him back. So my question is when one has a bias does it block them from seeing anything good in someone or in a group of people and is that what likely is happening here. How does one change a bias they have?

Question: My sister is dating a guy with 3 kids from 3 women. How do we stop her?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:24 AM PDT

Question: What s the best way to deal with a passive aggressive spouse?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:16 AM PDT

If there is a reoccurring problem that you can t reach an agreement on, but your spouse has a passive apersonality aggressive should you.. a) do nothing about the problem and get over it b) fix the said problem on your own and get used to doing so c) challenge the spouse and take the reprecussion if any

Question: Why does my dad keep calling me a 'teenager'?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:05 AM PDT

I stay in my room all day. Teenager. I don't agree with something. Teenager. I got to a little get together. Teenager. It's mad annoying. I'm 17 and I don't usually go out or anything, but if I have a chance I will go. Also, the ways he say it is like with a disgusted look or like, "wow, she really is a teenager." Look. I don't want to talk about it cause he's either going to be surprise call me a teenager AGAIN then tell my mom who's probably going to laugh too. My mom don't call me that.

Question: Issue with my son being at my party?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 09:03 AM PDT

We're both 21, have a 5 year old son. We split up about a year ago and decided to do the joint custody. I get him on weekends. She is strict with him as far as bedtime, eating veggies, TV time, etc. When she hears that, when I have friends over and we're drinking( I'm not going extreme) & listening to music or whatever, she got mad because he was around( having a great time, being the center of attention for all the girls). She says I'm irresponsible and that if I'm going to have people over, than she should have him. Is this that bad? the girls keep everything PG with him, I don't overdo it with booze, if the party goes past his bedtime, music is turned down, everyone's cool with it, no smoking. worst that happens is maybe a cuss word gets said, usually followed by an apology( assuming he heard it)

Question: Am I wrong for not going to college graduation?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 08:52 AM PDT

I'm graduating from uni in '19 and I really don't want to go to the ceremony. I've made this decision since 8th grade. The thing is, I HATE huge social gatherings because it makes me feel unbearably anxious. It literally gives me panic attacks and all I can think about is leaving. In addition, my years in uni haven't been as magical as I thought it would. I have absolutely 0 friends, so I won't have anyone to sit with at the ceremony. I won't have anyone to say, " Yay, we made it" with. The thought of being at the ceremony makes me cry and gives me panic attacks. I've felt this at all graduations and social gatherings I've been in and I don't want to go through it again. Having friends would make the situation a bit more bearable because I'd be with friends. However, I don't have any friends in college. I don't have a squad. My mom always forces me to go to things like this, but this time I'm sticking to my ground. I am NOT going and I don't care how selfish it is. It's MY graduation. I would be the one sitting there sweating and having a panick attack. I would be the one sitting their lonely with no friends. I would be the girl that walks on stage to complete silence because no one knows me on campus. I'll be the one hearing comments like, " Who the hell is that" when they call my name. I AM the one. I jus can't go through that.

Question: Would you let your 18 yo daughter go on a 5 hour road trip?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 08:52 AM PDT

I d be going to a sleepy beach town at which my boyfriend of 2 years is living at (he s in the military). I ve seen him a total of three days since january and I feel as if it s not too much to go five hours, but my mom doesn t feel the same. Can someone give me any suggestions because she s saying it s terribly unsafe even though I d not go through any big cities, and I m not driving at night. I have a good bit of money saved up but the car and insurance is in her name still (I technically pay her for the insurance but it s through her plan). But she said would kick me out and report the car stolen if I go (she refuses to put the car in my name if I decide to just leave). I am moving out late August anyway but that s still two months away and I don t feel like being homeless until then. ANY SUGGESTIONS ON GETTING HER APPROVAL. THANKS.

Question: I have a crush on my cousin! Is that normal??

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 08:26 AM PDT

I'm 16, and she is the daughter of my Dad's brother, her name is Jennifer, she's 15, she's beautiful, long dirty blonde hair, browns eyes, pretty smile, the whole thing, but is it normal to be attracted to such a person?

Question: My father attacked my mother?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 06:29 AM PDT

Trying to cut the long story My mum and dad were married to each other but unfortunately got a divorce when I was 2 years old. I still had a good relationship with my dad, going to stay with him every other weekend until the age of 11 when he stopped looking after me because of a feud he had with my mum I'm not sure what it was about. Eventually around the age of 13 I bumped into him at a family friends party where I broke down in tears because of everything. He then tried to keep in contact with me even though it was minimal and giving me £60 pocket money a month to fund everything. My mum still was fine with it and constantly told me to keep in contact with him and call him. As I was approaching 17 an incident happened at a family members house where my dad attacked my mother and tried to bite her finger off. I wasn't present but my mother called me and explained that they got in to a argument about me (not sure what it was exactly). The police was called and he was prosecuted for it. Since that day my dad hasn't spoken to me since its now 8 years later, he lives 15 minutes away from me and I have seen him after at family functions on odd occasions but he doesn't say anything. I don't know what to do or feel. I feel like can I even repair a relationship with him now hes missed the most important times in my life when ive needed him the most and my mother has done everything. As well as that he hasn't even tried to approach me to apologize. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Question: How do I deal with my mom taking my stuff?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 06:05 AM PDT

Over the past weekend my mom has been yelling & hitting me & Im not sure what i did. She s been acting crazy. She got mad at me for staying up late (but it s summer so it shouldn t matter & it usually doesn t) & she took away everything i use for entertainment for saying "theres no reason that i shouldn t be able to stay up late if i don t have to get up early or have anything to do the next day " she hit me & took away all my stuff. that s just most recent incident but it s getting tiresome. she takes away all form of communication & entertainment & leaves me by myself all day. i m tired of it. what do i do?

Question: Isnt it weird for my boyfriends family to live backwards? Like they wake at 2am and go to bed at 6pm-ish.?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 05:54 AM PDT

He said they've lived like this for a long time. At least since middle school. They do all the stuff normal people do in the evening, in the early morning- so TV, family things, cleaning, just living. Then they all go to work/school. Then they come home and go to bed. I'm finding it hard to do things with him because it's like we live in different time zones! He says it's not that weird. I think it is I didnt think about his dads job. I know he works weird hours so that could be it. lol

Question: College-aged daughters fighting the blended family situation.?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 05:01 AM PDT

I was recently re-married in August. I have three college-aged kids and my wife has 2 high-school aged kids. My two daughters are home for the summer. They are failing to try to develop relationships with my wife and step-children. They stay in their room, won't clean areas when I ask them to, and last night one of them walked out on me after I made her come and sit at the table for dinner. She went home to her mom, my ex-wife, who called me and told me my daughters are feeling like I have chosen my "new family" over them, and that I need to stop trying to push blending. Thoughts?

Question: My father has disowned me?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 04:59 AM PDT

Trying to cut the long story My mum and dad were married to each other but unfortunately got a divorce when I was 2 years old. I still had a good relationship with my dad, going to stay with him every other weekend until the age of 11 when he stopped looking after me because of a feud he had with my mum I'm not sure what it was about. Eventually around the age of 13 I bumped into him at a family friends party where I broke down in tears because of everything. He then tried to keep in contact with me even though it was minimal and giving me £60 pocket money a month to fund everything. My mum still was fine with it and constantly told me to keep in contact with him and call him. As I was approaching 17 an incident happened at a family members house where my dad attacked my mother and tried to bite her finger off. I wasn't present but my mother called me and explained that they got in to a argument about me (not sure what it was exactly). The police was called and he was prosecuted for it. Since that day my dad hasn't spoken to me since its now 8 years later, he lives 15 minutes away from me and I have seen him after at family functions on odd occasions but he doesn't say anything. I don't know what to do or feel. I feel like can I even repair a relationship with him now hes missed the most important times in my life when ive needed him the most and my mother has done everything. As well as that he hasn't even tried to approach me to apologize. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Question: Is it bad to leave sleeping children in bed under the age of 10 and a 7 year old, to get a cup of coffee at McDonald s just 4 a few minutes?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 04:46 AM PDT

Question: Why does my mom treat me like this (read details) PLEASE Help?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 04:34 AM PDT

Im 12 and I have a 16 yr old brother. everyday my mom always asks me to do dishes, clean the whole house, do laundry, cook dinner, etc while my brother sits in his room al day doing video games. SHE NEVER ASKS HIM TO DO ANYTHING and i feel like a slave. today, i made a cake for my brothers bday, blew many balloons and so much more and no one even thanked me and just complained about the cake. (oh also i didnt do the dished cuz she didnt ask but then she yelled at me for not..) right now my mom just came into my room and started yelling at me about my messy room, throwing away my cat, and telling me that tomorrow i have to clean the WHOLE FRIDGE. When i told me mom i was upset she yelled at me 'DON'T TALK TO ME I DON'T WANT TO EE YOUR FACE" even my brother agreed im like a slave. I asked my mom why and she said because my borthers bday was soon.. but my bday was a day after his (ik ironic) ps, this has been happening my whole life even when my two other sibling lived with me and i get much better grades and is nicer than my borhter so PLEASE HELP ME i feel like im not her daughter update: i just went to ask my mom why and she was like 'FINE THEN DONT DO ANYTHING" and she was like "i make him read and do kahn accademy" but the thing is, she also makes me do that and doing those things are for our own selves but what im doing is for her

Question: How do I get over my sadness on Father's Day?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 04:17 AM PDT

My Mom's family has a big gathering on Father's Day Weekend. Aunts, uncles, grandma, cousins, my Mom's cousins, and 2nd cousins. We are the only ones not to go. I have pleaded with my Mom to let me go and she will not. She says I'd be insulting her if I saw the people who hurt her. She is mad her Mom didn't protect her from a predator step-sibling who is long gone and she also is mad she didn't get more of her father's estate (she was ripped off as the only daughter). So I can;t go as I can't drive (I am only 14) and my Mom says I never can go while living with her. It hurts so much that all my cousins are close and the only person I am close to his my grandma. I feel bad about myself more then anything (doctor says this is shame). I am mad at my Mom but I don't blame her for being mad at her step-brother who hopefully is in hell but that doesn;t make the rest of the family bad. It is hurting so much more this year then most. I talk and talk and talk about it to my Mom and now she just says "stop, we are not debating it. Your sisters don't care so neither should you". I hurt so bad. I hate Father's Day. At least Christmas we see my granny but Father's Day and Thanksgiving I want to crawl up and die. Please help, this is all sincere.

Question: Needing quick advice ?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 03:16 AM PDT

My good friends sister died last year. Friday will be the 1 year mark and I know she's feeling it badly in her heart. I wanted to call and check on her and send my love and prayers. I can't buy anything and I'm too far to visit, would it be weird if I could tomorrow morning (super early 6:30am, that the only time before I leave to my boot camp) and just give her sweet words of encouragement? Even if she doesn't answer I would leave a voicemail.. should I do it? She's my Bestfriend and I just want to show her I care. I decided to call tomorrow instead of the actual day. What do you think?

Question: Should my mum look at me while I am changing my clothes?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 02:46 AM PDT

Hi, I'm 13 and I'm a boy. My mum always check on me while I am changing my school uniform. Is this fine or unacceptable to you? I hope to get some comments. Thx! :)

Question: My parents wont take me to Thorpe park?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:56 AM PDT

I hate my parents so much, they are boring and lazy. How can I convince them to take me to Thorpe park? I really want to go.

Question: I caught my sister when she masturbated?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:25 AM PDT

My sister's is 12 years old and I had just got home from a friends house and I walked in her bedroom and she was going at it while watching hardcore porn. What should i do should I tell my parents

Question: Why does my mom do this?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 01:21 AM PDT

She always talked about how all she wanted was a daughter her whole life, but I get the feeling she likes my 3 big brothers more. She respects them so much more. She lets them get away with more. When she's reminiscing about when my brothers and I were little, talks about my brothers fondly but she doesn't ever talk about me as a baby. I have a brother in the military and one in collage She even talks more nicely about my criminal brother. I don't understand. I'm the only one left at home now and she pays me little attention. Shes got a baby girl on the way and she seems just as disinterested in me as her surprise unborn child. I dont know whats going on this is killing me

Question: My mom is narcissist.?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:51 AM PDT

I love my mom and lived most of my life trying to please her up until now. At 31 I finally completely comprehended that she is a very toxic manipulative narcissist parent, who has been manipulating me all my life not necessarily wishing me well. I don't have so many friends and it's hard for me to make those, so most of the time when I need to talk or seek advice, I call my mom. Then I am left feeling down, often depressed or just feeling like crap afterwords. I could never point out of what was wrong. I mean I am taking to my mother, how can this be bad for me?! Today I clearly realized that when I seek advice or discuss a certain matter with her, she tries to discipline me by saying "don't say it this way", or "don't use this expression, it doesn't suit you", totally going away from the subject and making me feel like I just did something bad and forgetting what it is we were talking about in the first place. When I get frustrated and tell her to focus on what I was talking about not how, she can start complaining that I don't treat her well by talking to her this way, and even end up crying... It's a complete mess, I know I need a therapist. I can't afford one now. Thankfully I can vent on here.

Question: How can I go live with my aunt?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:23 AM PDT

I went on vacation to visit my dad and my mom used it as an opprotunity to kick me out. So now my dad and step mom are trying to take me in but i really don't want to live with them. My dad can be pretty abusive and controlling i'm 17 and he tries to put me down like a kid. My step mom always sides with him even when he's wrong. I've been thru a lot in my life & turned to smoking weed. my dad/step mom found out, Now my dad treats me like trash and calls me a bunch of names ( instead of trying to see whats really wrong with me like a decent parent ) we even got into a fight & the police were involved. & my step mom treats me like i'm some recover crack addict. I really want to go live with my aunt because she's the only one that understands me and wants to help me. These people constantly judge me and try to make me feel less of a person, always speaking on stuff they dont know about and it irritates m soul. I talked to my aunt, she says she'd love to take me in but the only problem is my step mom. She's saying she refuses to let me go with her because she wants to help me. I understand that but honestly I don't want her help. can she even do that? Just because she's married to my dad doesn't mean she can just take me in like that. She's the only one keeping me here my dad wants to send me back after the fight and my mom doesn't want me around anymore. Honesly im not even hurt because im better off without them anyways. What can i do? Even the police told them its better i go live with my aunt because obviously im not happy here. My step mom thinks i just wanna leave so i can go back to drugs and even worse but thats not the case at all! I'm changing i just want to start over and find peace and i know i wont find it here!

Question: Does this seem like my mom is being defensive when she says no matter what you'll always be suck home?Does it seem that my mom wants a kid?

Posted: 15 Jun 2017 12:13 AM PDT

I told my mom my uncle told me my mom is going to have another baby & I'm going to be stuck home, usually my mom response would be I have enough on my dish what does he know/etc., instead she said "how would he know you'll be home" or "whats with that & being stuck home" I said that he said it's time for the boy & she said "u know why his father was like that, u gotta have a boy because people think that if you have girls your not happy u need a boy or like Asha (my neighbor) she has three boys, people tell her to have a girl but ITS NOT THE CASE ALL THE TIME) or "IT ISNT THE CASE THOUGH". Now my mom brought up on her own, that my grandma used to not be happy when my mom had a girl & said you should have a boy. My mom is like that isn't nice, my cousin has all girls & her mother was happy. I told her how many times he used to say me/my mom are going to be stuck home because she going to have another kid. My mom kinda got defensive,shes like no matter what your always stuck home, I believe she said "oh please", she said u don't mock others because your free then ok. I told her the two times he went out with us & kids had a crying fit how he got so nervous,he sees the kids don't do that anymore, so he says my mom is going to have other kid to make me scared, to make us go through that again. She didn't respond to me, when I ask her if she hears me, she said yes in a nice way then after a little walk away. A week ago she said "what are u crazy" when I ask her please no more kids

Question: What happened to my brother?!?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 11:45 PM PDT

So tonight I was laying in bed (just now) and I heard loud banging and screaming. I went into my brother's room....and...he was locked in his OWN closet. He was punching the door hard and screaming "LET ME OUT I'M NOT KIDDING!!!" I opened the door and he came out with baggy eyes. He went straight to the bathroom, in tears. After he finished, I got my dad and he asked him what happened. He said he didn't know. I asked if he sleep walked and he said he didn't even fall asleep. I honestly think he sleep walked, because I read that sleep walkers get REALLY confused when they are woken up. Can anyone give answers?! It was really weird.

Question: What should you do on father's day when you have a bad relationship with your dad?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 11:42 PM PDT

Father's day is coming up, and I've found myself to be in a bit of a predicament. I don't really like my dad. When I was around 8, he left the country to form start-ups back in his home country in Africa. Everything from selling apartments, running a small-time college, mining businesses, etc. He only came home around Christmas and sometimes summer, and it was like that for about 8 years. We were close before, but then we hardly spoke. What's worse is he didn't even put in the effort to stay close with me. He just suddenly left to pursue something simply because he felt like it, not thinking about what it meant for me or my sister or mother. The business ended up not doing too well and they cost us a lot of money. I don't know the whole story, but he ended up liquidating a lot of it. He's home now, but our relationship is icy to say the least. We speak about 10 words to each other every day, despite living in the same house, and we've had quite a few explosive fights. I don't think our relationship will ever be the same, but I know i'll feel guilty just completely ignoring him on Father's day. I don't know what to do.

Question: My dad is so cheap?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 11:22 PM PDT

Hello, so my dad is a millionaire, I am 13 years old. we have a great house and stuff like that but when it comes to clothes or electronics for me he is cheap, I have a $50 Metro PCS LG Phone, and my dad buys me clothes from JC Penney and Old Navy. I am getting sick of this, I really want an iPhone 7 Plus but he says that the phone I have right now is perfectly fine, but I dont like it. And my clothes look too ghetto. Also, he wont let me be in an Acting Academy which is only $3000. He acts but he wont let me act. I am so fed up! He never buys me anything I want, he always buys the cheaper versions of everything. What should I do? How can I convince him to buy me more stuff? He is a really boring old man. I am starting to hate him

Question: Test in hospital show, my mother poison me with rat poison. What to do in this situation?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 11:10 PM PDT

When i was in highschool i start feel weakness. It was hard to finish school and enroll to university. All time when i was in university i feel weakness. After university i find a job in my city, i from Ukraine (poor country) so it very hard to buy or rent own house so all time of university and work i live with my mother. 12 years i felt weakness. Then few monthes ago i was at first business trip, of company, where i work, to other city for two weeks. While i was in other city, in first 3 days, i start feel better, after first week my weakness gone. After business trip i come back to my city and to house of my mother. Then after i eat dinner cooked by my mother in 30 minuts i start feel weakness again. It was weird. I did not believe in fact my mother can poison me, because she have no reason. After that i start to make sure if she poison me or not, so i tell her, no more diners for free at my work so i need to take her dinners from home to work. I Start take her food at my work, and i did throw it into garbage. And i start every day to eat food cooked on my work (free food for workers). Then i tell about that to doctor in hospital, he said i have symptoms of poisoning and he tell me to make a test to figure out what in my blood after my mothers food. After test, doctor say i poisoned by arsenic (he tell me it like rat poison). I did not speake with my mother about that. I keep eating only food cooked at my work. Now i feel very healthy. What to do in this situation ?

Question: Is my dad right or not about slapping someone's face?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 11:01 PM PDT

So I'm a girl and I'm usually really shy and scared to even talk to new people. My dad always says to be really confident and stand up for yourself. So since a few days this girl has really been mean to me and annoying me whenever she can. So one day when we were in the changing rooms she annoyed me so much that I slapped her right in the face as hard as I could. She really deserved it since she was making fun of me. Anyways I got sent home and my mum was a bit angry but not that much. My dad was really happy for some reason. He said you should stand up for yourself and that was the right thing to do. I'm glad he's happy but is he wrong or right?

Question: New info, the top story is last night, the second story is from tonight. Please read/answer, does it sound like she wants more kids?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 10:39 PM PDT

I told my mom my uncle told me my mom is going to have another baby & I'm going to be stuck home, usually my mom response would be I have enough on my dish what does he know/etc., instead she said "how would he know you'll be home" or "whats with that & being stuck home" I said that he said it's time for the boy & she said "u know why his father was like that, u gotta have a boy because people think that if you have girls your not happy u need a boy or like Asha (my neighbor) she has three boys, people tell her to have a girl but ITS NOT THE CASE ALL THE TIME) or "IT ISNT THE CASE THOUGH". Now my mom brought up on her own, that my grandma used to not be happy when my mom had a girl & said you should have a boy. My mom is like that isn't nice, my cousin has all girls & her mother was happy. I told her how many times he used to say me/my mom are going to be stuck home because she going to have another kid. My mom kinda got defensive,shes like no matter what your always stuck home, I believe she said "oh please", she said u don't mock others because your free then ok. I told her the two times he went out with us & kids had a crying fit how he got so nervous,he sees the kids don't do that anymore, so he says my mom is going to have other kid to make me scared, to make us go through that again. She didn't respond to me, when I ask her if she hears me, she said yes in a nice way then after a little walk away. A week ago she said "what are u crazy" when I ask her please no more kids

Question: No Room for Me at Home?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 10:32 PM PDT

My half sister moved in with us 3 weeks ago. She's taking a class over the summer and has her school crap spread all over the place. She's using a whole couch in the living room and all 3 seats at the counter. She has her own room and I don't but it's too messy to use. Sometimes she can't even sleep in there and stays on the couch. Anyway, today my dad asked me to clean off the desk I use in the den so that she can do her homework there. I was kinda mad but I'm not in school so whatever. We've been looking for a bigger house for a while so my mom said to just pack my stuff and open it once we move so i did that. Now my sister is still using a whole couch in the living room, all 3 seats at the counter, my whole desk, her rooms still a wreck & now she's laying on the den floor talking to her mom's cat on the phone! No kidding! She also uses every spec of the bathroom counter, hogs the shower and leaves her dishes in the sink, which were not allowed to do. My parents don't want to say anything to her cause her mom sent her away and she's sad. So here's my question, I'm planning on packing up the rest of my stuff little by little, when I'm done if we don't have a new bigger house i plan to ask to move in with my grandma. I know that my half sister doesn't have anywhere else to go, and my little sis needs my mom alot but I'm 14 so I'll be ok. There's just no room for me here. Is it ok to ask my grandma if she'll take me? She's nice and my gramps is dead.

Question: Guys y would you introduce your baby mother to your sisters?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 08:57 PM PDT

My baby father took me to meet his sister's. I have no clue y its a nice thing but I'm just curious because before I moved he never did until I moved to get help. Then when i went back he took me to the

Question: How do i deal with a super dysfunctional family?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 08:55 PM PDT

Im 15 and I have an Extremely dysfunctional familly. My dad drinks a lot, my mom works a lot and when she isnt working she is cleaning the house and forcing me to do things for her. I usually dont get a break once my mom gets home from work. When my dad isnt drunk he is a selfish jerk. He works too but is a verry irresponsible person and parent. I find that im always stressed out about random things that teenagers shouldnt stress about, and i cant be myself around my family at all. i want nothing more than to move away so i dont have to deal with my family that much, but i cant until im 18. I need help dealing with my family. if you have any tips for a dysfunctional family i would greatly appreciate it. I really just want a normal family, i want to be able to enjoy my childhood. If things keep on going the way they are i probably wont have much of a relationship with anyone in my family once i move out. I really just want a normal family, i want to be able to enjoy my childhood. If things keep on going the way they are i probably wont have much of a relationship with anyone in my family once i move out.

Question: What to do if your pissed to someone?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 08:42 PM PDT

Hello guys, I'm 14, and I'm really pissed to my half-sister's son, he's a brat, he always bullies us that usually makes me angry but if I shout at him, they will scold me and they will just defend him even he's the wrong guy. He gets everyrhing he wants, and I don't choose to live here for 2 years, I have no choice, my mom and dad did choose to put us here because no one willtake care of us because they work and work everytime. I suffered here for 2 years, I told my mom and dad about my emotionally abusive sister and grandma, and they said we have no choice, we have 3 houses. But, they having trouble who will take care of us, and my father is there to save money for our college, and I have no choice. I suffered from depression everyday, my anxiety, anger and OCD don't go away, and I feel that I wanna die. Sometimes I don't know what to do I just cry. Why is this happening to me?

Question: Do many adults still get spanked by their parents in the US?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 08:23 PM PDT

My husband is an enormous, tough, and manly man. He never takes **** from anyone for any reason. However, sometimes when we go over to his parents house for dinner and he curses at the dinner table his mother threatens to beat the damn hell out him. She uses the typical "I'm never too old to whoop your ***" line, but last week he dropped a few "**** bombs" at the table and she snapped. Grabbed him, pulled down his pants, bent him over, and spanked him like a little girl in front of everyone. It was very awkward. Do many Americans engage in this activity? I'm from Vietnam so I'm not familiar with the culture all the time. Thanks many times :)

Question: What's the best way to handle this situation? I think my little brother needs some type of help, but nobody else thinks so?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 07:25 PM PDT

Question: I added more info, plus the only reason why I'm like this is because I'm the only one helping ALOT. What does she mean by this? Please read?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 07:20 PM PDT

My mom said to my sister that she's always going to be the baby, because she's the last child the last born, then my mom whispered, it made me think maybe she said something like if she has another kid she'll always be the baby?Because then I came in the room & she look at me, went back in the kitchen, when I said what did Skyla (my little sister) say? She didn't answer then I said she said she wants to be a baby forever? My mom smile & said yeah. I told my mom a few nights ago that my uncle (we're not close to) said my mom is going to have another baby a boy & I'm going to be stuck home, usually my mom response would be I have enough on my dish what does he know or etc. instead she said something like "how would he know you'll be home" or "what's with that & being stuck home" I said it again that he said it's time for the boy & she said "you know why his father was like that, you gotta have a boy because people think that if you have girls you're not happy you need a boy or like Asha (my neighbor) she has three boys, people tell her to have a girl they think their not happy but ITS NOT THE CASE ALL THE TIME) or something like "IT ISNT THE CASE THOUGH". that part of her saying "what does that have to do with you being stuck home" in other words if I did have another child what does it have to do with you being stuck home. I used staying up until 7 in the morning helping her with my sisters. She's 41 complains theres to much work for her she never wanted a boy & says shes done

Question: I want to move out at 19! Advice please!?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 07:08 PM PDT

So basically i'm honestly so tired of this bull. I think after my dad left my brother and i when i was 16, it mentally ****** me up. I'm a good child- never done anything out of line with my mom, always respected her, never slept out of the house even if it was at a friends house. Basically in my opinion i'm a good poster child, me and her are close. Anywho, i got a job sometime last year May and have been working there up until last month when i quit because i thought i had another job offer better than the one i was doing, and i was eager to quit anyways because i worked at a restaurant/bar and the men in there did nothing but harass and degrade me.. Ever since i quit i've been home, just doing my thing until i get another job but it's not enough for my mom? She's always mocking and picking on me and making snide comments about the fact that i don't have a job and that i don't do anything all day but sleep! I recently went through a tough time with friends and we all split, so it's safe to say that i really don't have much friends anymore. My mom taunts and teases me about it on the daily. My dream is to travel, i wish i could book a ticket to London and fly out for a few days and just leave her behind. I'm desperate to move out, she's always treating me like she's a bully. Just now, i was sleeping and she ripped the sheets off me and started complaining saying i'm worthless and etc. I had to sacrifice alot for her; i sold my 2008 car that i had just for her!! i need advice

Question: How do I switch doctors/medical plan during a move?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 07:07 PM PDT

Next spring I plan to move back home to Houston (from Massachusetts which my parents currently reside). I have been living with my parents during college, and next spring I will graduate college and will still be on my parent's medical insurance plan. I am prescribed medication by my current pediatrician which I receive monthly refills from. How do I quickly find a new pediatrician in the area I am moving to in order to make sure my monthly prescription isn't interrupted? Any other advice you have would be helpful

Question: Is it bad that i don't want a relationship with My father?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 06:59 PM PDT

Am 16 and my parents got divorced 3 years ago(dad was a cheater of 20 years had a kid on my mom),my Dad barely comes around and he want to be my day over the phone so I just prefer to never speak to him.he is always texting asking to go fishing or ride my motorcycle he bought me I don't care for him is that bad I love my mom.

Question: Does it seem my mom wants more kids? Please read?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 06:45 PM PDT

My mom said to my sister that she's always going to be the baby, because she's the last child the last born, then my mom whispered, it made me think maybe she said something like if she has another kid she'll always be the baby?Because then I came in the room & she look at me, went back in the kitchen, when I said what did Skyla (my little sister) say? She didn't answer then I said she said she wants to be a baby forever? My mom smile & said yeah. She later told my dad out now "I told sky she'll always be the baby (or stay the baby)" She's 41 complains theres to much work for her she never wanted a boy & says shes done

Question: I can't find happiness after my dad passed away?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 06:45 PM PDT

Hi.....i'm a 16 years old boy my father passed away 1 year ago he had cancer before he died my mom used to hate him for a year (2 years ago) I lived between their fights which was really harsh . after he passed away by 3 months she got married to a guy who I thought was cool and is gonna fill the place my dad left. At the moment I figured out that I hate my mom and my stepfather because they don't give a **** about my feelings they always have loud sex in their room which sticks to mine and it seems like they know that i'm awake and might be hearing them but they don't care . i'm not strong enough to face them by such thing and I don't have anyone to talk to as I don't trust they are gonna keep it a usecret I feel that what is happening to me is beyond the limits I never had a girlfriend but when I loved a girl I couldn't tell her that I love her and now it has been a year since I have last seen her but I still love her and I will always love her .....i really need help ...after my father's death I can't find happiness I always fake smiles in front of people but i'm broken from the inside HELP ME PLEASE

Question: How do I get over the shame of being molested by my father 26 years ago?

Posted: 14 Jun 2017 06:36 PM PDT