My husband and I have been a little tense this week past week. Yesterday, when my friend and I were about to make a trip in town, I noticed that he was a little drunk so I took his keys (like a responsible adult). I got a call from him on the way to town. He asked if I had his keys. I said yes, he cussed me and hung up. When I got home, one of my flower pots was missing and my flowers were all at the bottom of the stairs. In my room was a few items laying on the floor. I found my beaded purse with the strap ripped off. I asked him about everything today and he said he tripped on my flower pot as he was carrying stuff down the stairs. Believable. He said he was putting my purse in my room and the strap hung on the door which is plausible. I just noticed that my dresser drawer is spit in half horizontally. My heavy metal drink bottle which was also on the floor has two dents in it that match EXACTLY with the dents in the wood. All the items I found were in front of the dresser. He pitched those things into my room in a drunken angry fit! This may sound like little things but he's an alcoholic and it's not the first angry hissy fit I've had to deal with. I just don't know if I can trust him anymore. He's never lied to me before...that I know of. And we have two small children. My 5month olds swing is right next to my dresser. What if he had been in it?! Any advice? 

Hi I am a man 36 years old

I am a non-custodial parent and I currently have my son for spring break. The divorce decree says that I must return him to his mom the day before school begins. however due to the coronavirus outbreak, the district has canceled classes until the end of the month. I want to keep my son with me but I do not want to violate the court order agreement. So can he stay with me or not?

What's that thing on all the news outlets now? What's that thing cancelling sporting events and closing schools? NOT your viguane ladies.  Those stories are yesterday's news.  Might as well FESS UP and send them my way since nobody else is caring like me. Yor Fren, Xavier 

He wants to go because he wants to be loyal to you but he's very kinky and likes women. He also used to be a player

I'm a guy and I have a very hard time telling if a woman is interested in me. I am married and still have many women "flirting with me" according to my wife. I am just having a regular conversation with them and somehow my wife sees these women "flirting" somehow. I just don't see it at all. And I usually can't see it with women interacting with other men either. But apparently my wife can see it easily. Men make it much more obvious when they are interested in a woman and I can easily tell and so can my wife. But only my wife can tell if a woman is interested in a man and I have no clue.

So I've been married to my wife for 4 years now and its been a real struggle with her attitude. Its hard to talk to her because any conversation leads to her getting emotional or angry either yelling and screaming or breaking things around her or physically hitting me. She constantly puts the blame on me for the way she acts and says her wants are the only thing thats important to her. Its been starting to get really bad where she starts throwing temper tantrums in public places like restaurants getting loud if I say something she doesn't like and even has pushed her plate onto the floor and sat there with her arms crossed refusing to speak. She just turned 30 years old and I dont think that people should act like this at this age. Will she ever change or is there anything I can do to get her to change this behavior?

because those STD's are contracted in the past too and past is none of the husband's business? Why not? If he can deal with the emotional and physical problems of her past, he should be able to deal with the health problems of the past too? So is it justified?

Me and my husband have been married for 10 years and together for 13. He became a police officer and we moved states away from family together. He recently brought to my attention that he made out with someone else close to our year anniversary many moons ago at a party and he wanted to tell me. He did this shortly after high school and honestly? It kind of hurt my feelings. We have 3 kids and he promised that it was the only time and he was stupid and that it was eating him up for some reason. I feel upset but then again I dont know what to do. Is the right thing to do to forgive him and just move on? I don't know why he never told me before. Is this stupid to be upset about? Will I be ignorant to ignore it or is it best to be mad? I want to move on but part of me feels like I must address this. Thank you guys! 

I am a healthy 38-year-old that could use to lose some weight. 

Ok a bit of a weird one.  I've bought my ex and his partner a hamper for their new baby but it felt really odd doing it. I also got an odd look for the woman in the shop when I said, don't go too ott as he is my ex. Then I looked online and new wives said they would hate an ex buying for their baby. The reason I've done it as I know our children will not.  We have 3 children 24, 20 and 16. We also have a 1 year old grandchild.  I know my 16 year old wanted to do it though she is finding it hard not being his only little girl now.  My ex also has very little family, so I feel we are really the only family he has. I also grew up with my ex from a little child. Here is the thing though, I have absolutely no relationship with his wife. She has hardly any relationship with my children. I think she begrudged my children and things were very strained when my kids were teenagers but some years have past and they've grown up now. I feel my ex will really appreciate it, in fact I know he will but maybe she won't? and maybe it is a bit weird?  What do you all think?  I would hate to spend this money for her to throw it all away but on the flip side,  I wouldn't want to be judged as being bitter and not accepting they have a child

And why do they always propose if they're sleeping with other women?

I have been with my husband coming up to 4 years. We are 80% perfect but when we argue it's bad. I suffer from chronic anxiety and panic attacks and he has a terrible temper. So when we argue it's a shouting and screaming match teamed with me usually having a breakdown and panic attack. His problem is that when I go out, I stay out late sometimes (9am). Just to put it into context, we live on a Carribbean island and the nightlife doesn't start until 12am and places are open until about 7am. I don't go out alot (maybe once a month if that) and it's not everytime I stay out that late. He says I need to respect him and come home to my husband at a reasonable hour. I understand where he's coming from but my nights out come with many other rules too, letting him know where I am hourly, with photo evidence if possible.  He has a problem with communication and instead of talking things through, he ignores me for days on end if I haven't come home on curfew (I'm 30 he's 35) and he always ALWAYS goes out, turns his phone off and gets back super early in the morning too the day after I've broken "curfew". I told him you can't be angry at me and then do the exact same thing. It doesn't work that way. His anger is too much to deal with. He screams in my face and just now blamed his anger issues on me. He's unable to take criticism. Anything he does wrong, is because of me and I've made him that way... Any advice on this is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

So I let my 20 yr old niece move in with us due to her not having her mom, dad or any other support in her life. She's moved around from house to house since losing her mom 10 yrs ago. I have to go out of town for work for 2 days, and she has to stay home because she works as well. I usually don't leave ANY woman home alone with my husband especially if my children aren't present. There over to there grandmothers for the break. What are your opinions on this? Am I being insecure? Or would you feel the same way I feel? Men and women. Would you leave your spouse home alone with a family member of the opposite gender? 

To be honest I'm not exactly sure what I'm feeling, I just know that I have to do something. My ex-girlfriend and I have been in contact (as friends) since she she contacted me on my birthday and we got a chance to catch up through text. Since then we've both have kept in touch back and forth and it's been good. Since then I've been thinking about her more and more. It's been about 7 years since we broke up after we went to different colleges. We were friends all throughout our teens and there really hasn't been a time when I haven't thought about her in some way. She's single right now (I know through our talk and one mutual friend we still have) and lives near the area I do. We haven't spent time in person since we've been in touch so should I ask her to get coffee or lunch? Also, is this a "bad" idea? I know she still thinks of me or she wouldn't of contacted me out of the blue, but I feel like there's still something there. Am I off? Thanks for any reply.

My parents keep saying I should not have moved in with my fiancee, then girlfriend until marriage....but had I stayed at my parents' house we would have broken up by now ! A woman likes a man who can take care of his needs....its much harder to give this impression WHILST living with your parents ! Why cant my family understand this ! Dating is much harder for a man if you still live with your parents....so the whole dont move out until you are married thing is a paradox ! If I still live at my parents' it means I cant take care of myself, if I cant take care of myself I cant take care of a family...how am I supposed to sell this deal to a woman and convince her to marry me ! Parents are so stupid sometimes ! sigh....I don't mean to call my parent's stupid but...they keep going on and on about this, and even insist that...if my girlfriend did not want to get engaged until I moved out then "she" was controlling me. But I disagree. She's just being a woman, a modern working woman. You can't convince a woman to marry you, if you can't show her you can take care of business...you can't do that whilst living with Mommy . That is very old fashion thinking that would have kept me single had I listened to them.

My parents older siblings and most of my aunts and uncles hold steadfast to this stupid belief that you are supposed to stay with your parents until you are married, whether you are a man or a woman . I find this ridiculous ! What if it takes years for you to build up the finances for a wedding ? What if your relationship dissolves, and you have to start dating someone new when you are in your 30s ? ...Are you going to wait for that new relationship to build into marriage b4 leaving the nest ? I don't know why so many older folks want to make young adults into perpetual children Yes I know rent is expensive. But learning to budget is part of adulthood ! If I don't learn to budget on my own now...at 28 ! How am I gonna do it when I am older. And secondly...I don't think its very attractive to women...dating a young man who still lives with his parents My family insisted that I should only move out after my girlfriend and I get married. My girlfriend insisted that Im not ready for marriage until I move out of my parents' house (...yes I know...polar opposite ideals,,) so..... I moved out. Now we are engaged. Had I stayed at my parents' house I would not even have a fiancee to begin with and at 28 I honestly can't see myself staying at home to START a whole new relationship; and wait another 5 yrs for that to blossom into marriage b4 leaving.

My husband & I have been together for eight years before tying the knot. A couple months later, we found out we were expecting. And we welcomed our baby nine months later. However, four months after our baby was born I found out that he had downloaded grindr and was chatting with others. I was so heartbroken and still trying to heal. I won't let him see how much it still hurts me because I don't want him to feel guilty but I needed to vent anonymously. Any tips for whoever went through the same thing? How can I cope? How do I let my husband know how I feel without making him feel worst about the situation?  If your unaware of what grindr is, it's a gay chatting app. And when I did bring it up that night, I was afraid he would do something to harm himself. Which is also why I don't bring it up again because I'm scared my child will be without a father.