Family: Question: My mom’s daughter and son are abusive teenagers, how do I make sure I’m not associated with them?

Question: My mom’s daughter and son are abusive teenagers, how do I make sure I’m not associated with them?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 02:18 PM PDT

They're my half siblings but I just called them my mom's children.

Question: I have a sister that I am estranged from and I don’t like her so I stay away from her. However, what family obligations do I have for her?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 02:00 PM PDT

By this I mean how should I be obligated to treat a family member who is estranged? Do I never speak to her again even if I see her? I think that almost seems cruel but I wrestle with this. Do I just act nice when I see her but never seek her out? Do I have to be friends with her since she's family?

Question: What do I do if my dad does not let me go to his family celebration this summer because of social distancing?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 01:52 PM PDT

I am an adult but if my dad tells the family not to ask me that they want. he's afraid of me getting the coronavirus because if I give it to him and he gives it to my mom and she gives it to my sister then my sister could get really ill and conceivably die because she has Crohn's disease. Well I certainly don't want that to happen me going to a family celebration is not gonna cause my sister to get coronavirus as long as I wash my hands and don't get up to close to anybody. So how do I avoid getting held back by my dad's paranoia about the coronavirus which I assume will still be here throughout the summer? I don't want to be the only part of the family not going to the family celebrations in June and July.

Question: My dad has asked me to lie for him to my mom, do I have to do as he says?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 01:47 PM PDT

He uses me for his lies and he's gotten mad at me for not being good at lying. I thought dad was supposed to teach his kids not to lie. He teaches me to lie. When I was little it was the opposite but now that I'm older he wants me to lie for him. He lies to my mom so much she left him for a time but she returned. 

Question: How to ask my mom not to move where I go to college?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 01:14 PM PDT

First off I want to clarify that my mom is a great person and I love her very much. I'm at the age where I'm visiting/researching colleges and my mom has told me multiple times that she wants to move wherever I go to college (not the exact same town, but the same area.) When I asked her why, she said that she doesn't have anything keeping her in our hometown (which isn't entirely true, her brother and his kids live there and a lot of my family is very close.) I dislike this for many reasons; I really would like to live by myself for the first time, I don't want this to lead to her following me around my adult life, and I don't love the idea of her being within surprise-visit distance of me. It will be her final decision, and since she'll be helping pay my tuition she has the right to do what she wants. Am I overreacting by not wanted her to move with me, and if not, how can I ask her not to without seeming ungrateful?

Question: What should I do with this computer?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 01:05 PM PDT

I bought a 2015 MacBook Pro 15 inch and it came and the screen is cracked horribly and there's lines covering half the screen. what do I even do with it? I was going to use it but I didn't realize how bad It was damaged

Question: Would you still be scared or not? Why or why not? ?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 12:56 PM PDT

Supposed, you live in a haunted town and it is mostly empty. But you, your family, and all your relatives and friends live are in a high rise apartment building that very safe and secure. The building has metal doors that are closed and locked. Everyone in the building has everything they need. Each family has taken one apartment in the building. For every meal, they all meet in the dining hall, since it has big enough for everyone in the building to sit and eat together. They have weapons and also school buses, in case they have to evacuate the building and go somewhere else. So would you still be scared or not? 

Question: Is it weird that my mom is a former party girl?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 12:54 PM PDT

She had me at 22 when she had just started partying as a 21 year old and well as my dad says "An alpha male impregnated her". He stuck around to atleast let me see him but he had his own life. Well fast forward 15 years and someone called my mom a whore today and saif that she is nothing but a sperm bank.

Question: My parents are fighting - What should I do?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 12:45 PM PDT

They are shouting and slamming the doors. I can't sleep but I'm afraid of telling them because my dad might beat my *** or my mom.

Question: (UK)What was something you found out about your mother later in life that changed your perspective? ?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 12:11 PM PDT

What was something you learned about your mothers past that changed the way you either viewed your relationship with her or perspective on your childhood. Answers from the UK are preferred, but this is open to anyone.

Question: How has being a mother changed since the 80's to now?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 12:01 PM PDT

bonus points for those that actually WERE mothers in the 80's-present.

Question: Girls at home are you always barefoot?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 11:56 AM PDT

I always am. My schools are closed and we are told to stay home to stay healthy, I have not left my house for 10 days. My mom only goes out to get groceries so I have been in my bare feet for the past 10 days and love it. It is so much more comforable being barefoot.

Question: Would you be open to your children taking your wife's last name?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 11:32 AM PDT

I'm a woman, not married or even closed to having kids right now but it's something I'm planning on. My last name is pretty important to me - my great uncle was genealogist who studied and wrote a book on our family history, going back centuries to the origin of this name. It's always been something valuable to my older family members that we knew and respected that history. It also happens that me and my siblings are the end of the line with this name; if none of us have children that take it, it dies with us. I do have 2 brothers, but they're set against having kids. I'd really hate to see that name die, especially when it could give my kids that same connection I felt to a rich history. In this kind of situation, do you think it's reasonable to have the kids take their mother's name? Would you do it?  For reference: I'm not at all traditional or religious so it wouldn't be a compromise for me to do it, but potentially for my partner.

Question: My grandma is kicking me out, is this allowed?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 10:59 AM PDT

I'm a 20 year old female living with my 83 year old grandma and i work at a gas station and i've talked to my boss and i can't take off and if i don't go i would get fired, and my grandma said if i go to that job again i won't be allowed back in the house because she doesn't want the disease, she even said she would lock the door, i'm stressed because I NEED my job i can't find any other ones and i'm even on the lease for my grandmas house now and pay for the house too, how can she just kick me out plus i have all my stuff in the house

Question: How does my father do this?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 10:48 AM PDT

He showed me a sleight of hand trick where he put 30 drumsticks up his urethra within a span of 10 seconds and then extracted 25 within 5 seconds.The rest he managed to sprunge out of his reat end entrance. Wow how did he do that? Can i learn?

Question: Regret letting my daughter make her own choice about her weight?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 10:32 AM PDT

About 2 months ago my daughter and I had this huge argument about her weight. She's 14 and at the time, was about 170. She said that she should be in charge of her body. Picking my battles, not wanting to be overbearing, knowing you can't make someone do what they don't want to, I gave in, let her be in charge. In those 2 months, she's only gotten noticeably heavier. She won't admit it, but, she's struggles with more now. Is it to late to get control of this?

Question: How do I get my car back from my parents?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 09:55 AM PDT

They took it last year around July and I was promised I would get it back and it never happened. They took it because their car broke down. Legally it's in their name so there's nothing I can do about it, but I'm 18 now and I'm just going to buy another one because it's clear I'm never getting this one back. My parents are poor right now. My mom lost her nursing license and is trying to get it back. She's working at Hardee's and my dad delivers flowers for a living. Great that's something I can be proud of. I'm ashamed of our home life and I don't go over to my parents house that much, especially not with friends. I live with my roommate right now and if I want to get to work, I have to request a ride from my parents. I hate being dependent. It pi$$es me off and makes me feel less like an adult. I told them I'm going to buy another one and my dad is trying to get me not to, because he keeps saying I'll get mine back. He's a controlling a$$hole anyway. Everything is about him. I could've had it back a long time ago if he didn't spend all his money on pot and beer every day. It's like they don't even give a sh*t and aren't even trying to make our situation better. Forgot to mention that I paid for said car. Only reason their names are on it was because I was too young at the time to make it my name.

Question: Does this make me a bad son?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 07:24 AM PDT

I am a guy in high school. My step mother is just a few years older than I am. Dad married a much younger woman. She is the greatest mother any guy can ask for. Dad must like young beautiful women. To say mom is beautiful is an under statement. She is gorgeous. Wow what a figure (36G would be my guess). Every morning when I leave for school, she give me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and says "You are the greatest son ever". I am ashamed to admit it but sometimes when she does that, I have thoughts that a son should not have about his mother. Does this make me a bad son?

Question: How do I tell my parents I’m going to start spending the night at my boyfriends?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 06:35 AM PDT

Background information: I'm 19, with a full time job. I have two dogs at home that, when I'm not able to take care of, I make arrangements for. The two things my parents help me with is: free rent, and half the payment on my car. Other than that, I pay for everything of mine and am very responsible. I've been with my boyfriend for just about 2 years, they've met and love him. But, they're extremely "religious" and slightly controlling. When my older sisters began to move out, not even with a boy, my parents took away the laptops they paid for, cars, and kicked one off of the insurance. With a full time job, I want to see my boyfriend more. I don't know how to go about telling my parents this.  Edit: I am NOT asking for permission. I want tips on how to start the conversation and good points to bring up. 

Question: My uncle is an alcoholic and Mom enables him and covers for him. Why the hypocrisy when with my alcoholic Dad she barred me from seeing him?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 05:44 AM PDT

When my Dad was around I was grounded from seeing him and my Mom insulted him daily to me once she had divorced him. She also insulted his family to me daily saying they enabled him. Yet, my mother is my uncle's enabler even giving him alcoholic drinks. She also allowed me around her uncle at Christmas each year and he was a really bad alcoholic who died from it (it runs more in her side of the family). Her brother is not drunk all the time but is an alcoholic who always has a beer in his hands despite having been to rehab before his divorce. His now ex was also an alcoholic. So long story short I am wrestling with whether my Mom was really being protective with banning me from my Dad and insulting him to me every day or if she was just using that as an excuse to justify parental alienation? Why would she let me around her family's alcoholics but not my Dad or his family (he was the only one still living in his family with it)? My Dad is dead now and I have long wrestled with guilt over not knowing him after the divorce and with participating in my Mom's hatred of him (I would join the gossip and even enjoy it). Once i got to high school I rebelled from my Mom's gossip and was allowed to reconnect with my Dad but he died 2 years into the relationship. I was 8 when banned from seeing him anymore. So ages 8 to 16 I was estranged from him and insulting him with my Mom and to my friends and maternal relatives.

Question: My Dad is arrogant and dishonest. Once I come out of self-quarantine how do I deal with having to see the man every now and then?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 05:31 AM PDT

He is my father so I still have to see him from time to time even though I hate him. Luckily right now he had Coronavirus so I don't have to see him for a while (he is okay now).

Question: Is it weird that my stepmom is 28? ?

Posted: 22 Mar 2020 04:44 AM PDT

My dad is 41 and mom 36 and stepmom 28 and I'm 16.

Question: How do you cope with being so far away from your family with all that's going on in the world right now?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 11:37 PM PDT

Even though my family have refused to help me get back home, I'm so worried about all of them, and I hate that I'm so far away from everyone, with all that's going on in the world right now, it would kill me to hear that someone in my family has been diagnosed with the coronavirus. I don't care what happens to me, but if something happens to anyone in my family, it's scary, and it's hard to think about something so terrible happening to the people I love so much.

Question: What money did you receive from parents when you got 18 y .o.?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 11:10 PM PDT

Question: How to deal with controlling parents when you're an adult?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 09:47 PM PDT

I am a 23 yo female who lives with her mother and father. I have a brother who is younger but moved to the states so he's saved. I need HELP and ADVICE on what to do in this situation. I am currently living with my parents because I JUST got a job last year (full time) and just got a brand new car which is costing me a fortune because I was never allowed to have a credit card before so I have the worst interest rate at the moment because of no credit history. I mentioned this because of the credit situation, I cannot move out at the moment but TRUST ME guys I am trying to get out soon. In the mean time what should I do with these two?! I am old enough to pay bills, help in the house, work a full time, pay my phone and car, etc and GREAT but then when I try to do the fun stuff of a 23 year old like go out, hanging out with a bf or friends or even staying up late AT HOME they always have **** to say. Do I just ignore them??

Question: Do you think I should run from a man who chose his father's career, lives one block from his parents and is mostly captivated by my breasts?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 08:03 PM PDT

Question: What is your opinion on this?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 07:12 PM PDT

I'll try and keep it short but this is really bothering me. Any advice would be nice. My fiance who is 24, me 25, just graduated college a few months ago and is still living at home with his mother until he saves up to move in with me. Plus we had some disagreements a couple months ago so decided this was best.  I'm two hours away from him but he was just here with me visiting for a while but was forced to go home (by his mom) because she's kind of controlling and always wants her kids there and is afraid of this whole pandemic that's going on. She has three adult sons and one minor child. And she has negatively persuaded my fiancé to go home and be with her instead of me. She's 41 years old..so young and very capable of taking care of her self so it's not like she's unwell and needs to be cared for (that I would understand.) She made my fiancé feel like if he didn't go home she would resent him for it. And since he is out of work and cannot support himself until he finds work he was forced to go. I'm capable of taking care of both of us until he finds work but he refuses my help which is admirable. But the thing is now I'm all alone during this whole thing, I'm very brave and independent but I'm not made of stone so I would like him here with me. He says he'd rather be here too but his mother really pushed him by implying she would cut him off. My family lives almost 5hrs away and they're telling me to stay put until this thing clears so I'm literally all alone.

Question: How 2 make your teenager not feel bad 4 his bedwetting?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 07:03 PM PDT

he already  feels bad and wants to be dry

Question: 2nd chance?? ?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 06:46 PM PDT

the other day she told me - "you have a perfect life. it's not fair." she then told me she couldn't be around me or my family, because it made her feel upset since her parents are going through a divorce. I guess I understand and will be there for her  However, she doesn't understand that I don't have a perfect life, even though my parents love each other A LOT and never really argue. I am struggling in a class at school, friend drama, arguing with sister, struggling with weight (even though I'm a healthy weight). I tried telling her this.. She keeps getting angry at me and the apologizing and just saying she's really upset and not thinking straight.. We've grown a little apart this year... Should I stay friends and continue to let her bring me down? Should I be more patient? She never asks about me, just assumes I'm ok bc my life is "perfect?"  she = my friend (sorry for not clarifying, I am just ranting lol!)

Question: Is cuck a really bad word?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 06:30 PM PDT

My mom got super mad at me cause I called my brother it. Should I call him a c*nt instead next time?

Question: My 10 year old son doesn't like normal boy things like sports and stuff. What should I do?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 06:14 PM PDT

Question: What should parents help with?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 05:08 PM PDT

My parents growing up were pretty chill but my father just sat down and watched TV all day. He never helped with a resume, college application, internship, how to start a business, how to make money. He didn't reach me squat so I do question myself. What exactly is the point of having a father that doesn't take control to get his children ahead?

Question: Is it okay for my wife to sleep with teenage nephews?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 04:45 PM PDT

My wife lives in Thailand and she has known these kids since they were very young. She lives in her 4 bedroom house and to this day, it is elected to have one of those rooms (upstairs with a single 4X6 mattress) be dedicated to sleeping my wife and two teenage boys. Am I being too concerned? Is this normal? I've lived in Asia before and understand that the culture may be different, but this seems a little extreme to me. I would like people to weigh in. Perhaps I am over-reacting. In my own experience, I would NEVER, NEVER, be placed in such a situation. 

Question: Sister drama?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 04:36 PM PDT

Hi my sister and I have been arguing a lot. We have never gotten along great, but it used to be better. We both share a room as I am one of 5 and our home only has 4 bedrooms.  She is 2 years younger than me (12 yrs old).. she is good at everything (I'm not trying to sound jealous). She can run a 5:30 mile and is a level 9 gymnast, who excels in all events usually.  I am also a gymnast and switched from level 8/9 to the xcel program - it is my first year of high school.  She is always super competitive and I feel like she never has my back.  If I had a bad meet, she doesn't really say anything kind. She says - you should work on dismount.. or something.  I talked briefly with my mom, and we both agreed she's competitive.  She's serious and really driven in training and healthy eating... I admire that of her. Lately we've been arguing over my side of the bedroom and how it's a mess. She says that I have more free time and should at least work to keep my room clean. She can be blunt sometimes and I guess I am sensitive.  Luckily I get along better with my sister (19) brother (17) and brother (11).  So what can I do to deal with her different personality? How can I tell her how I feel? Will she ever change? Will we become closer? 

Question: Elle F. Entemann?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 03:45 PM PDT

Question: Fighting with husband and his family.How do I tell them no ?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 03:35 PM PDT

My FIL recently was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. My husband  and his siblings have taken it upon themselves to elect me (stay at home mom/wife) to be the one to take care of him and expect me to do everything for him 24/7...running his wrrands, dr appts, daily helping him shower, cooking , laundry etc.... I did all this for my MIL before she passed several years ago. I was completely stressed out,  exhausted , mentally drained but none of them stepped in to help me because they did not want to mess with her. How can I make them understand he needs 24 hour care now. I can't handle an 80 year old man alone! I don't mind cooking meals but I can't physically handle daily tasks, I'm not a spring chicken myself!! I just think I'm being used so that they don't have spend money for his care. 

Question: Can I go back to my dads house from my moms during the corona virus lockdown?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 02:58 PM PDT

my parents are separated and I live with my dad but I'm currently at my moms, I want to go back home(dads) but I don't know if I can now that this lockdown is happening  I need answers please help 

Question: Is it normal for parents to constantly tease or ‘judge’ their kids over every little thing? ?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 02:56 PM PDT

My parents have been doing this to me and my siblings our entire lives. I almost always overhear them in the mornings mocking us for things we did the day before, saying things such as "oh did you see so and so do this" or "did see how much he/she ate yesterday? Wow" this is typically followed by laughter and mocking. In some instances, they'll do it to our face. I can't really describe it but it seems like everything we say or do, they find a way to make fun of it. It's made me and my brother pretty insecure, as they will even make fun of questions that we ask, sometimes not even answering the question which, in turn, makes us embarrassed to ask something. Even when we say something serious or legit, they'll still find a way to laugh it.  I will often procrastinate or wait until they're not around to do something because I know damn well they're going to make fun of me for it the next morning. I hate this behavior, it discourages me to do anything because I don't want to be ******* teased. One quick example of this is, I love washing my car and taking care of it, it's relaxing and I like having my car look nice, but of course, they make fun of me for this. I will often just wait until they're not around to do anything with the car so I won't be laughed at at dinner time. It's just very frustrating and anxiety inducing. Anyone else have experiences like this? Is this normal or are they going overboard?

Question: Can my parents kick me out?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 02:56 PM PDT

I pay my parents 380 a month for rent which includes utilities and such. I'm 28 years old and I have had enough of my parents emotional abuse. I came forward and told them I am pregnant and they did not take it well and started threatening me if I kept the baby. They tried to force me into the abortion and drive me there themselves. They calmed down the moment I stuck up for myself and when I felt I could open up on saying I wanted to keep the baby but planning on moving out in the beginning of fall, all of a sudden they are upset with me again and told my sisters that they want me out by the end of March. They also lied to my aunts telling them how they are being so helpful to me but then in my ear they tell me something else so my aunts believe my parents and not me and they aren't speaking to me. They are not letting anyone help me, not even my sisters. Can I take legal action against them? They kicked me out once when I was 19 and forced me to move in with my aunts and when my parents found out I was planning on moving somewhere else, they threatened to never speak to me again so I lived where they wanted me to live. They've been emotionally abusive my whole life. Idk what to do.

Question: Should parents let their kids get addicted to video games now?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 02:25 PM PDT

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic, Al-Anon is cancelled due to Corona. I am in the house with him and he is binging, what do I do?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 02:18 PM PDT

He is drunk and Mom and my sisters went to a beach house but my Mom said I had to be the man and stay with him so he didn't get hurt. I am 15 and a high school freshman but school is now closed through mid-April. I have some assignments I do but otherwise just me and my drunk father. He is scary when he is drunk. I walk in the room and he screams at me so I just stay in my room but i have to get food. He took a dump on the floor and blames me for it thinking I had friends over. Now he is claiming I had sex with someone yet I have had no one here. I want to run away. He is just making no sense. Then he came in telling me my mother is having an affair with her brother which also makes no sense. I haven't seen him today but I heard him cause he was screaming at a pizza person. Any ideas?

Question: I was scammed on ebay, next steps?

Posted: 21 Mar 2020 12:01 PM PDT

So like I bought a 2015 macbook pro and it came today and the screen is cracked and shattered and there's lines all over the screen... i'm upset because the listing said it was in perfect condition