Ok so little back story me and my younger brother have memories of this family member molesting us when we were about 4 and 5, but she convinced everyone that we told that we made it up in our heads for attention. I even started to question whether i actually had these memories or if i just imagined it. We have problems from this. Fast forward i ended up getting pregnant at 17, i was homeless due any day. I had no one to help me so when this family member offered to give me and my baby a place to live until i get back on my feet i took it because i felt that was the best option.. when my son was about 5 months old she pointed out that he had a "huge d***" and "will make a great pornstar", i was disgusted so i called her out for it but the family members that were there said i was overreacting and she didn't mean anything by it. Since then i try to avoid changing his diaper around her. There's been several occasions where I've caught her kissing him on the mouth, neck and shes nibbled on his ear before. Once she came out of the bathroom naked because she said forgot her towel and she laughed and said my son was giving her looking her up and down. Which i really doubt my baby would be checking her out. It's ******* gross. I'm so disgusted by her. I don't trust her around my son. I'm positive she did molest me when i was little, because the way she acts with my son is how she acted with me. My question is, does it sound like she wants to rape him? Or am i just overreacting?

She made a new account and she keeps posting about it

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My dad always makes promises and then breaks them. I can't trust him. I'm gonna make my own travel plans next summer without him, but how do I get over the sadness I feel about him doing this to me? This has happened twice before with the same trip and also many other times with many other activities life life not just this trip to Washington state. I can't tell him how I feel right now because he accuses me of being ridiculous and that makes it so much worse, that's been true since I was a kid. I'm 26 years old now. He does the same thing to my mother.  Linda: he's taking the trip, he just decided to take it with somebody else as my stepmother's brother wants to go so he is with him and their friends. Like I said this is the second time on this and there are many other times on other things.  Good idea though to make a back up plan next time he makes one of his promises when I know he's lying

My mom is on disability. Therefore she doesn't work and receives money to not work. She cuts grass and does extremely hard labor almost everyday with yard work that she doesn't get paid for. She goes through her day to day life with no pain at all... and like I said she does hard labor! I'm 23 and she is depending on me to take care of her. She says she doesn't have to work because she's worked before in her life. She's 50 years old and I think she's capable of working. My father died last year and now she wants me to give her money I simply can't make right now. (Her and my dad weren't married so she didn't get any money) she lives with my grandma in a nice house for free and doesn't have to pay for bills there or rent. Do I need to move out and let her figure it out on her own? Do I need to stay and help? I feel worn out and not appreciated at all. I have a lot going on... I feel like she hasn't given me any time to cope with the loss of my dad or a fair chance. Tell me what you think! 

my friend just told me her best friend passed away. how do i reply? is sorry for your loss ok?

People who skinny shame. My family is always telling me I'm shaped like a stick and I'm too thin. They compare me to anorexia and accuse me of starving myself. I just ask why would I do that?

I was late to leave for work and I forgot to lock the bathroom door and my teenage son walked in just as I was getting out of the shower. I quickly got a robe on but not before he said "Wow mom, you really have a beautiful body". It did not embarrass him any but it sure did me. He has not said a word about this since it happened. Should I just forget about it or should I tell him that was not an appropriate comment to say about his mother? He acts like it was not a big deal.

My ex girlfriend and I had our daughter when we were both 18. We fought a lot and decided it'd be best for us to just co-parent. She's 5 now. The way we have it worked out is I get weekends, starting Friday afternoons. My ex though, always looks for ways to cut my time. There's always a reason she needs my daughter on Sunday or Friday night. When I stand firm, she passes it off as I'm not flexible. Really makes it awkward when its time to do the " drop off/pick up" and we're trying not to bicker in front of our daughter. Should I try and be more flexible?

I know no one would have the actual answer besides my mom but I'm afraid to ask her, so id just like to seek help on how to deal with it myself or tell her exactly. My family often shows affection by 'gently' bullying each other, its obviously not serious when we call eachother stupid or dorks etc. But recently my older sister and my mom have started being a bit more harsh with their words, normally I wouldnt care as sometimes im not sure if its a joke or not, but its started to bother me as they know exactly how to directly hurt my feelings, and mock me for even making a slight noise or gesture that it hurts. They know, me being the youngest and "daddy's girl" I could easily cry to my dad, and i dont want to give them the satisfaction of being right, nor do i want to start another argument. I'm only 16 and don't have much to do about it. My sister and my mom sometimes tell me not to cry, or tell me if I do they don't care it hurts my feelings, and how ive caught an attitude lately because of personal issues i dont want to type out, not enough space lol. My mom even told me that I would be stupid for the rest of my life because "I dont do anything" Ive tried telling her its hard to be motivated when youre being bashed, she tells me im overreacting and being dramatic, and ive started to believe it.

My fiance has a four year old niece that is having a hard life. Her dad is in jail and her mom has never provided a home for her since she's been just living at different family members home every few months at a time. Recently she dropped her daughter at a family house that can't afford to care for her and she won't keep in contact with anyone. I would like for her to live with us to get some stability in her life but I'm not sure how to go about this process. I live in Florida if that matters. Thanks. 

My sister lives a few houses down from me and EVERY. SINGLE. MORNING. i have to wake up at 6 am (on my days off. I wake up much ealier for work on weekends) to go to her house and get her up so she can take her son to school.  My nephew has been late and missed school countless times because her inability to wake up. Social services has already talked to her but nothings changed.   She has many alarms all blaringly loud. She sleeps right through them. (How i have no idea. I keep telling her to go to the dr cause this isnt normal but she refuses and dosebt have the money for a sleep test) Everytime i wake her up its the most annoying tedious process. And she gets mad and yells and insists that shes awake when shes not. Shes increadibly heavy sleeper and talks in her sleep. Its near impossible to tell when shes actually awake if she dosent stand up and even then theres no garuntee she wont go right back to sleep. Many times ive left thinking she was awake when she wasnt or her falling right back to sleep. And on too of that when she wakes up shes MEAN. yelling raging ungrataful fits. Its like pulling teeth for like 20 minutes or so every morning.  I cant go on like this. What should i do? I dont want my nephew to suffer but i cant deal with this bullsh*t much longer. 

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My 15y/o has recently not been eating. At first I thought it might be a phase or whatever, he has random bouts with food (a love hate relationship). Lately though, he hasnt been eating at all and I'm not the only one who noticed it. He puts off eating breakfast till lunch time, then says he doesnt know what he wants for lunch and drinks (milk, fresh juice, tea or coffee) instead. Then by dinner time he says he's not hungry bc he had a late lunch (ie. the drink and maybe a small fruit if I pushed it).  It's become an everyday thing. Some days in between he'll eat some fruit with the drink (usually grapes or a pear). We obviously cant force him to eat but we're not sure how to approach the issue. Important to note: He doesn't snack much either. Again, if I nag him he might eat a handful of cashews but that usually backfires and he wont eat even the fruit later.  I'm still hoping it might be a phase but it's been like this since the start of the semester (almost 2 months). I'm assuming its stressed related but that assumption doesnt really help anything. He's still not eating and has been reduced to essentially "skin and bones".

My parents don't like people who hate their children. Do I get immunity since I'm your child? My sister is a really bad person.

I was raised in an abusive household. I never had a "sense of self" as my mother puts it. I was screamed at and degraded every week for my whole life. Then, turning 18, I was scared out of my mind. My parents used this against me, controlling my college because I don't have the guts to stand up for myself. So they hurt me to the point I was psychologically crippled then continued to hurt me by destroying my college. Now, when I tried applying to my own college I wanted to go to, they wouldn't take me because they think I'm a college hopper. It's technically true but it's not actually true. My mother says my father is a narcissist and my father says my mother is borderline. I think they're both right. I'm doing online college now and it's paid for but I live at home and my mother complains that I still live at home, even though she says she's a victim due to living through the same nightmare I did. I went to several different colleges never choosing what I majored in or what classes I took. My parents controlled it all. Even now I'm doing something my aunt told my mother to tell me to do.

Long story short my children's father has been away in Florida in rehab for drug addiction for the past year. He is approaching one year sobriety soon and living in a halfway house now.   I really had no idea he had a new girlfriend who actually still lives in NY. She's in graduate school. My ex and I still talk everyday and he never mentioned her. His mom ended up being the one who told me about her. She knows we have two kids together.   I did look her up on Facebook because I was curious about her. She could potentially be a step mom to my kids. But I realized she blocked me before I even knew about her. If she wants to be with someone who has kids I'm always going to be in the picture. I've never met her or contacted her, so I don't understand. I would like to have a civil and mature relationship with who ever my ex dates because they will be around my kids potentially if he comes back to NY. I do feel it is to soon in my ex's recovery for him to have a girlfriend, but that's his own choice.

(A loser, Unemployed, 19, Mentally ill) (Excuse my sentence structure and bad English, I'm half asleep writing this) Straight to the point. My mom use to force me to play w/ kids and family members, whom were abusive, mean, and showed little regard to my belongings and self worth. These young adults and kids were also molesting and encouraging sexual attivity w/ me (prefer not to discuss). It seemed to have always been my mom's side of the family who have these issues rather than my dads. My cousins would always get in extremely verbal and physical altercations w/ me, but since I was always notibly being the wild/bad, and the most intolerable kid, I'd always be the one to receive the punishment over things such as possession. Most of our fights escalated off of their envy towards me, and because they liked to lie their way out of trouble, I wasn't shown any gratitude. Almost everyone was abusive to me. Even my mom (verbal physical) people at school (verbal physical), and ex-boyfriends.  To this day my mom throws in my face, ever since I was a kid, on how they're more successful, prettier, and well accomplished they are compared to me. I just wasn't "good enough"  Wouldn't be surprised if someone told me to suck it up, and stop being a sore loser, but I'm actually trying to provide for myself. I sell art, but jobs aren't prominent in this city, so I'm stuck not making a full living off my passion... living with someone who thinks I'm stupid, worthless, not good enough, 

my friends are telling me i look like tara. btw my picture isn't exactly what i look like in person. i'm a bit lighter and my lips aren't as full. i kinda see it, my parents and sister do too.

Like the rule is they can't yell at me and I can yell at them and ground whenever I want. Since it is my house. Because I'm beyond sick of putting up with my Moms yelling and finding fault. I only tolerated it because I lived in their house under their rules.

I have fraternal twins, my daughter has always been a little more to handle with behavioral issues. I've tried to separate them with everything I possible can but she still finds a way to tournament her brother every chance she can. They went to spend the reason summer with there father and during the short summer he could also tell it's an tremendous problem. She's currently in counseling and it's honestly not helping. She's also harassing the other kids in her has. My son is the sweetest thing I just feel awful like he's not getting the attention he needs! There father thinks it'll be a good idea to split them up for the rest of the school year. I just don't wanna do the wrong. Thing there 6 soon to be 7 I need a mother's advice  In her class*

So basically my mom has had this man who is a sex offender level 2 or 3 , but he's done so much wrong in the 15 years that they have been together and long story short or shorter rather me and my 4 other siblings all feel the same way but need help truly acting on this in the correct way. Basically he's said things that are just way out of line is very emotionally abusive towards her and they currently grow weed in the house in which my younger sister lives in I'm 20 years old I moved out and this is the second time and it was because of him it also was the first time he was the reason he's crazy and he manipulates my mom into spending more money than she needs to and just make the ENTIRE HOUSE SMELLING LIKE WEED my sister is 16 and doesn't need that this is such a serious matter although it's posted as anonymous the area I live in is in Saratoga county upstate New York and I just can't really take it anymore he's abusive towards my mom he cheated in Vegas and he tells me and my sister these things . YET she continues to defend him day in and day out he mentions he wants to commit a murder suicide as in killer her and then kill himself I just don't understand and I've wanted to hurt him physically a lot but she keeps defending him and honestly if my mom wants to be with In that sort of relationship and won't let her children dictate her life although he's insane whatever but any serious suggestions on how to get my sister out I would be happy if I could bust the operation  

It's late and It will be uncomfortable for both of us... here's what I'm debating sending you'll get the gist of the situation. I'm in college away from home.  I gotta tell you this rn man, I just got off the phone ab it w my parents a while ago but... I have to go back home next semester, I'm not gunna be able to get in state tuition next year. I would have to stay here over the summer, and I just can't man. It sucks dick and I want to stay here but I cant have two years of out of state debt. I wish I could stay, but I'm kind of forced to. I'm sorry. 

My step-sister and I ( well at least that's what she told me) was a dick and lied about having a blood relationship with me which means I am a (pedophile), but not really. I would say I am a victim of deceit. I thought in my head that she told me I was step-related which was a marriage relationship, now it's a blood relationship. Thanks, to my sister who doesn't know ****. I'm not the one who is retarded, she is for lying and getting involved with family. If I knew, I would have told her to shut the **** up. Am I a victim of deceit? Of everything? I would have had something with her if I wasn't related to her. Now I can't THINK clearly. Everything is confusing. All thanks to her! I AM A VICTIM! Should I call a crisis hotline?

Ever since I was 10 (I'm 14 now), my mom has always been pissed off for no reason whatsoever. I talk to my older brother about how my P.E teacher hated me, and when ever she hears it she screams at me about how I'm a weak pussy who never stands up for her lonely self. I came out and told her I was lesbian, so now she yells at me about how I " don't know myself" and " She's just going through an idiotic phase just like everything else she does ". I tell my friends at school, but they just think I'm joking around because of how much I talk about it. My mom criticizes everything I do and hates when I try to tell her something, and gets annoyed when I have an anxiety attack after her yelling at me. She acts like our family is perfect whenever my friends come over so they think I'm lying when I say I hate my life. And here my mom is wondering why I have severe anxiety and depression, as well as where all her Tylenol is disappearing too...

My daughter's dad and I were dating for almost 4 years, we had already knew each other from high school and college. We broke up earlier this year and it started to be an on and off thing until now, last week I finally told him I'm done. He got all emotional and tried to get me back but I cant be with a compulsive liar just so we can raise our child together. I preferred coparenting. Two days later he tells me not to call him anymore and he wants no dealings with our child. He even said he dont want to be her father anymore hes going to move on and start another family. What sickened me is the fact my daughter has been asking "wheres daddy" and I know shes only 2 but I cant stand to see her cry for her dad and he chooses not to be in her life because of something so ridiculous. I always tell her daddy's gone bye bye and she'll start crying. I dont know what to do when she keeps asking for him. It just blows my mind how a man can live his life while neglecting his child. Do you all have suggestions on how to help her cope with the absence of her dad???  P.s. I have things planned for us this weekend to try to get her mind off of him until she's old enough to understand but idk what else to do 

How can I stop seeking approve from my own family? Deep down I know my Family doesn't give a crap about me. I could die today and they wouldn't care. Besides my mom and daughter. My family always make it seem like I'm This bad person when I'm not. Yes, I'm the pass I would sometimes talk back but that's it. I was always a good kid. I cleaned for my parents, cooked, and didn't drugs and never partied. When I went through tuff times they never cared they never asked me If I was okay or if i needed help. I bust my butt and they always put me down. My own family Try's to compete with me and they are twenty years old Than me. All I want if for them To be supportive like a family Should all I want is for them To be like "wow Emma  you did it" but they always tell me about their problems or how they have it hard when in reality they don't. They have their mommy take care of them and they are in their 40s with kids  I hate feeling hurt and left out it's a bad feeling especially if it's from Both sides of my Family

My parents have always been psychologically and emotionally abusive towards me. 6 years ago, I left home and went no contact with them, but recently ended up having to move back in with them until I can get my own apartment after an incident where I was living at first where I complained to my landlord about my roommates bullying me and he just took their side and kicked me out of the house. Ever since I moved back in, they have been trying to convince me that I'm mentally ill, telling me that bad things are always happening to me because I make poor choices and provoke everyone I cross paths with, and trying to talk me into quitting my job and getting another job closer to their house. Now, I've been noticing that after I've been around them for any period of time (especially my mom), that I start experiencing headaches, fatigue, drowsiness, and [sometimes] irritability. (Even if they don't say much when they see me.)  I also remember 7 years ago, when I first tried to leave when I was 21 and went to stay in hotel, when they tracked me down within a week, started calling the hotel, sending police to look for me, and telling other relatives where I was and getting their help pressuring me into leaving the hotel and going back home; supposedly under the pretense that my parents were worried that I been abducted or lured to the hotel; and all of the harassment from them actually caused me to have a headache. Does this mean that they're toxic and draining my energy? I had no other choice but to go back. I have no friends that I can stay with and everyone around me appears to somehow be under my parents' influence (as if they've been brainwashed against me) and unwilling to help me. I mean nowhere and nobody will rent out an apartment, house, etc. to me; whenever I look online for a place to rent, I only get responses from scam artists, but no real landlords; and then my job has recently cut my hours, so now I'm making less money than I used to make.

I'm 24 with no kids. I don't regret waiting. I want to have my 1st child at 28 or 29 because I want to travel & party while I have energy.