My name is Jake, i was besfriends with this girl Emily for 4 years. We were so close, we talked everyday and we would see eachother everyday. She made such a big impact on my life, but sadly we are not friends amymore. Our friendship ended early 2017 ( we had a very big fight.) Our friendship ending affected me alor, and it chaned me as a person. It has brought alot of sadness and anget inside of me, it has not been easy for me. I know that its been 2 years but i cant seem to move on. She had told me she wanted to be the godmother if i ever had kids. She helped my family soo much, i just have so much pain in life. I feel like this isn't nornal anymore, can i have advice???????

My married neighbors moved away 2500 miles to San Francisco 5 days ago. I am in love with his wife who is sexy. In the summer, I plan to take a bus out to San Francisco to visit them and let the wife know how I feel about her. After I do that, I will show up a few hours later and leave a letter on their windshield on how much I love her. If they're not home, I will leave the letter and leave. The husband got a job at Google San Francisco. Is this a good plan? After they've moved, I've been depressed. I've bought 5 cartons of Marlbro Reds cigarettes, marijuana, and 2 bottles of wine. I've already chain smoked 1 carton of cigarettes. I'm so depressed, is this a good plan? I need to let the wife know how I feel even I know she's a classy woman.

I either am extremely shy and standoffish , or I overshare and become (I feel ) clingy and annoying... How do I find that sweet, happy medium??? (Sorry, "try to make friends" doesn't really tell me how to make friends.)

am i useless? I want to help people in my family but theres nothing to help with: mom and i share SSI for renting our house but she's going to the nursing home. we have to move in with my sister but we just fought about their responsibility with cash. i want to scream. amongst other things, being forced out of our house and losing everything... there wasnt even any friends t lose. for 5 years, i've had no friends. jumping school to school because os faulty IEP meetings. being autistic means special ed but being high functioning means it all pools into social issues. I am incredibly smart with oddball knowledge from everywhere. i had everything changing and the only constant is being lonely. in and out of behavioral hospitals, filling my face with anti-depressants. i can't even leave because i'm not crying because i'm no good, its that theres no good to be. i can't even say i hate them because they do so much. How can i be so sad yet have such a nice family, cable, a tablet and netflix and youtube and clean water and air and food to eat and life to live and laughter to be had.. why am i so sad? I want friends, that's all i know. but no one i can connect with is any good. the best combination of close to my age and not a criminal is my married nephew about a mile and a half away in a trailer court separated from anything by a highway. i want to not be lonely but i have everything but friends. how do i fix this? i'm not even even able to leave as i have nowhere to go

As bestfriends he used to treat me like a queen we used to hang out nearly everyday we used to have 3 hour calls he used to make me feel so precious but i used to get mad at him alot and to tell him we must stop talking and get into big fights but everytime he would just come to me and apologize alott although sometimes i was the wrong one he used to tell me that he would never do this to anyone else he would never beg someone to stay but i was always feeling like i am not his priority and that his other group of childhood friends who were always girls meant more for him and in the last months he started to get really close to an another girl and her friends sometimes i feel like she is following him and we two drifted apart I couldn't stand it i called him and told him that he was selfish and wanted me only because he felt lonely and whenever his childhood friends come to him he would leave me and that he just replaced me with this other girl and i told him really tough words that i felt him nearly crying at first he tried to deny and stop me from talking but then he stopped to deny anything so i just told him we cant talk again and that we must be complete strangers and he didn't say no this time and i really miss him right now I can't get him out of my mind i feel like he is living his life with that new girl and his friends can anyone help to get us to talk again and return to what we were pleasee

I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half almost. This guy she dated before had lived with us, and was all around awful. He stole $5,000 from our roommate(currently being sued by roommate), and just constantly lied and acted incredibly two faced to both me and my girlfriend. She still wants to be his friend, and even calls him her best friend. All while she's doing this, he's refusing to pay back the money he stole(signed a note saying he would pay it back monthly, and is now refusing to do so, SO roommate is suing him). She however refuses to step in and tell her ex that what he's doing is wrong. She's just letting it happen and says it's because she doesnt want him and his family or friends to talk bad about her behind her back. So she's remaining neutral for that sake, plus his friendship makes her happy. But he just KEEPS abusing, using, lying, and acting horrible to me and our roommate. I don't want to be THAT partner by telling her she needs to ditch him. That'll just make her resent ME. But what should I do? Am I RIGHT to be upset and want her to cut ties with this guy? How do I approach the issue without sounding like i'm giving her a choice. (I'm not, I just. Hate that she talks to him even after all the horrible things he's done to me).

A coworker and friend of mine wants nothing to do with me after I opened up to her about my suicide attempt. About 2 months ago she had me over to her house one night telling me how worried she was and how she cared, how she would take me to the hospital if I ever felt suicidal and how I could always call her. She literally sat up all night with me on the porch, telling me how she would always have my back. When I actually got closer to my attempt, I told her how bad I was feeling and she said she wasn't comfortable talking about those things with me because she didn't think our friendship was close enough. She said that was like going from 0 to 60 and that she we weren't close enough yet to talk about things like that. This made me feel even more depressed and isolated, and I later attempted to take my life on Christmas by overdosing. After opening up to her about this, she would not speak to me at all and acted very angry and distant. She would also make snide comments when I walked in the office about how I made up my attempt and lived in my "own version of reality". I ended up requesting to move to another desk in the office, because it was hard hearing how she was having a great time on the weekends with coworkers without me. She never asked me if I was ok or how I was doing in my recovery. Any interaction between us at all has been initiated by me trying to make things right, but she didn't seem to want that. How can I fix this, and why does she hate me now?

I tried to see if I could be cool with a co worker and found out later he spread rumors about me. I've been with the compamy for 2 years now and I don't care to make friends from work. I used to do retail and gone out with some co workers a few times for drinks but never got close. I do remember gossip and drama. Where I work now I have my own area at work and don't work with many people. I just find my own way to meet people. I like to go to some good bars amd I find it better that way.

I'm involved in this weird situation at work, my name is Luke and I'm 24 years old. I used to be friends with this secretary on my floor who was 36, and she was married. Everyone including her knew i had a crush on her, I would always come to her desk and we would always talk. She didn't mind my company, she would always laugh and smile so much and sometimes she would flirt with me. Recently we began getting a bit closer, So later I was asked by manager to not talk to her anymore because a lot of staff were complaining that our friendship is inappropriate. Me and her would still talk, but we would keep it on the down low. Eventually I noticed that a lot of coworkers we're targeting my friend and she was becoming very stressed out at work. It got so bad that she was going to walk out one day, my management told her that if she ever talks to me again she will be fired. One day I gave her a $20 gift card around Christmas and she accepted and then she said thank you. Days later she sent an email to my manager explaining how stressed out she feels at work with all this drama, and that my presence is affecting her. she also mention that I bought her a card. later I was removed from her floor, and I work in a different department now. This woman used to talk to all my friends, now she avoids everyone and me. She just looks down on her phone. She has become so different. We were such good friends that other people kept asking if she was my girlfriend. Why did she throw me under the bus??? I need some advice??????

it's my sweet 16 soon. i don't wanna make a big deal out of it, and i'm not really sure who to invite to the party. i switched schools about 6 months ago and i've made 1-2 really really good friends who i would like to invite, and like 20-30 people who i get along with very well. those people also invite me to their parties all the time so i'd feel bad if i didn't invite them. i don't feel like having a big party tho. i want a max of 5 people maybe. and i don't wanna seem rude and not invite everyone who invited me to their party even tho i don't want them there lol. i'm thinking anout not celebrating at all. will i regret it?

okay so, me and my best friend have fell out and it's been about 5 days since we last spoke and since then there's been nothing & neither of us have tried to sort the argument or anything. Although he still follows me on instagram and hasn't unfollowed me... and still views my stories etc on snapchat. Does this mean anything? and also i just don't know what to do bc i can't see either of us reaching out to try and sort anything & at some points i feel sad and i miss him but at other points i seem to feel happier but i just don't know does him still following me on instagram mean anything because he does tend to unfollow people he doesn't like thanks xxx

We've never been buddy-buddy (primarily because there's about a 10-year age gap between us), but since she's somebody who runs an in-home baking business in our small town and not just some complete stranger at Walmart or something, I feel a little weird about not inviting her to the shower. She is being graciously compensated by the hostesses, of course, but would it be tacky not to invite her?

I feel like my teacher is being very rude to me. A couple weeks ago, she made a statement to the whole class saying to get your work out and do it, so I did. I had a book in my hands, reading and she was talking about different kids of students, and when she got to the 'kid who doesn't do anything', she looked over at me and said 'we have an example right here, right (my name)?' I always do work In Study hall! Today, our class was talking about friendships and stuff when my friend pointed out that I always 'flick her off' (I raise my pinkie and pretend) and she started laughing. The teacher told us to stop talking, and so we did. This is what she said. "FYI friends shouldn't influence friends to do bad things. Right (my name)?" I was confused! I had never influenced her to do anything! And at lunch today, I was eating my food, and she was looking directly at me. I am overweight btw. I was eating and she just stared. I felt really uncomfortable, considering I'm super insecure about myself. Then one of my ex friends came over to her and started talking to her about me and she just kept staring at me. I thought maybe I was too fat and she is just judging me by eating, so I fell back into what I haven't done for awhile and threw all of my food up. And then after my ex friend told her that I was throwing up my food and the teacher just said "its for attention. It's just a phase" Is she coming after me or am I just doing something wrong???

I have been physically, and mentally/emotionally abused by one of my used-to-be close friends back in middle school. Ever since then, I've always had the urge to tell my parents, but never had the chance too because of being too scared. Now I think I've mustered enough courage to start thinking of it again. This was back in middle school, being alone 6th grade, and being abused the rest. Now I've been in High school and a year from graduation. But yet I just don't know how to tell them, as they know very well how I hate this person, and how I've been told they hate me, but yet they talk to me and act all buddy buddy with me and still messing with me. Please help me understand on what to do.

my friend hates ladybugs. she also hates all reptiles and probably all snakes, too. she also hates all insects except worms. oh, also she believes that worms are insects. should i kill her? btw- she is a high school student taking ap bio.

I recently had to cut some friends out of my life. These friends were friends I grew up with. I cut one out because he can be a really selfish drunk. He get's DUI's and doesn't go to jail for them. He don't care if he has a warrent out. He got his 3rd 2 years ago and doesn't care if he has warrent out. Another friend I cut because he stabbed someone over his girl. Then other friends was because I lost trust in them. I've had friends that I know messed around with there friends girl. I even cut out some family for good. Sure I have a couple friends and i'm easy to make friends with. I just need the right ones.

I got a call from my friend Alice who wanted to meet me for lunch. She had a problem she wanted my advice on. At lunch, she told me her son in law (her daughter's husband) wanted her to loan him some money. She had already made him 3 loans and he had not paid any of those 3 loans back. She wanted to know if she should make him a 4th loan. I told her this is a VERY TOUGH situation. She should probably consider the 3 pervious loans as gifts as the odds are VERY LOW they will be paid back. I told her I think the best approach would be to tell him that after he paid back the previous loans, she would consider making him a new loan. I told her to be prepared from a bad reaction from him and also possibly from her daughter. If there are grand children involved, be prepared to hear you will not see your grand children again. I told Alice to think very carefully what she wanted to do. I predict if she made another loan, there will be a request for a 5th loan in the future. I hope I gave her good advice. Do you think I did?

My married neighbors moved away 2500 miles to San Francisco 5 days ago. I am in love with his wife who is sexy. In the summer, I plan to take a bus out to San Francisco to visit them and let the wife know how I feel about her. After I do that, I will show up a few hours later and leave a letter on their windshield on how much I love his wife. If they're not home, I will leave the letter and leave. The husband got a job at Google San Francisco. Is this a good idea? After they moved, I've been depressed. I've bought 5 cartons of Marlbro Reds cigarettes, marijuana, and 2 bottles of wine. I've already chain smoked 1 carton of cigarettes. I'm so depressed, is this a good plan? I need to let the wife know how I feel even I know she's a classy woman.

So an hour ago I received an email from a girl, who's been doing projects with me since the start of the school year, accusing me of not doing my part of the work. In reality we always split the work, I do the parts I'm responsible for and she does hers, and we talk about who's doing what beforehand. She's not what I would call a friend but we do manage to be civil and sometimes friendly with one another. However the tone of her email was quite alarming and totally not the way she usually talks to me. I honestly have no idea why she sent the email now, and I don't know what I'm supposed to say to her in class tomorrow. Should I bring up the email or just act like it never happened? Or should I ask why she sent me that email, and ask what made her think I wasn't doing my share of the work? Please help.

I dont want my friends to see where i live because i dont want them to treat me differently or think im spoiled. I need to get my priorities straight and stuff i know but its still an issue to me

I'm mad at my friend for being late to our meeting, she agreed to meet with me but when she was running late she didn't even tell me and I waited 50 min before asking her. When I did ask her she told she would be there in half an hour. I just told her that she was being rude and should've texted me if she was going to be late so I told her off for wasting my time in a calm manner but I did cancel our meeting. She knows I put off time from work to meet up. She still hasn't apologized should I forgive her? The reason for our meet was to study together at campus because we usually study late for a test so that's why I decided to just meet up on campus to make it more convenient for both of us

So a friend of mine agreed to meet with me to study after her class, we planned to meet up and study because we both had a class on campus that day. I even put off work to meet with her to study. But when she was running late she didn't even text me, so I texted her 50 min after we were suppose to meet but then she told me she would be there in half an hour she would have made me wait 1hr and 30 min. The whole point to meet up was because we don't want to study last minute but our next class would be in 2hrs. The plan was to study for at least 4hrs.

At the beginning of the year, I was great friends with a girl named Lindsay. Then as the year went on I became friends with a girl named Sidney. We would always hang out together and do fun things and this friendship was looking promising. Just recently Lindsay has gotten mad at me because I want to go to college and she doesn't and we argued with each other. I told Sidney and turns out Lindsay has been talking behind my back to Sidney. Now during study hall they talk and leave me out and they hang out with me. I just want to forget them but I want to have them as friends

that they don't need to be. They have a lot of interesting things that could talk to you about, but they choose not to -or- don't know how to.

My school sucks. There's no school spirit, and everyone who goes to my school hates the school we go to. No one shows up to football/basketball games. It's very cliquey and everyone sticks to their own friend groups. Everyone is afraid to reach out to someone else in a different friend group in fear of judgement. People throw small parties and only invite people in their friend group. How do I unite my grade? I want to meet new people and I want everyone to be friends. I want people to throw bigger parties, but I can't throw one myself. I want there to be more exciting events and school spirit.

My high school sucks.There's no school spirit and no one shows up to basketball/football games. My school is really cliquey and everyone sticks to their own groups. Everyone is too afraid to reach out to someone outside of their friend group in fear of judgement. Everyone throws their own small parties and only invite people in their friend group. How do I unite my grade? I want to meet new people, and I want everyone to be friends. We need more school spirit and their needs to be more parties that more people are invited to.

hi, I am 18, a guy. this is kind of a funny story. I could care less for partying. I have a wide verity of friends who I always hangout with. ok so here's what happened: it was freshmen year in English and I was doing work. I yawned and sometimes when I yawn water drops from my eye. I didn't notice what happened since I like to get my work done. this girl said "he's crying" and I didn't know she was talking to me. in Biology Sophomore year, we were watching a movie. I had something stuck in my eye and kept on trying to get it out. this group took out their phones and posted it all over social media saying I was "crying". should I confront these people and ask them why they did this and ruined my reputation? my friends don't care but I can't go down the halls without people giving me crap.(a majority of them being girls)

I'm a cheer senior and we're going to regionals and every year the day before regionals we have a regional dinner and every year the seniors make a video for the rest of the team and my grade has no idea what to do. We want something fun and cool but don't want it to be the same as the ones before. Last year the senior did a video where they mocked each girl from the team and the only person that changed was the freshman because it was only one senior last year so the rest of the team is the same. We keep trying to figure out funny video ideas but have nothing. Pls help!

Growing up I've always been the awkward person in the group. I'll be around and other people will be laughing and joking and doing silly stuff, but for some reason, I can't. I really want to, it looks like fun to have fun. I recently experienced this as an adult, and I just don't understand what is wrong with me. I'll go to clubs, bars, hang out with people but for some reason, I just look at everyone else having a good time and I'm not.

I am the only girl in one of my high schools classes (AP Math). It is a very tough class and all the guys in the class offered to help me study and do the problems? I often took them up on the offer. They were VERY HELPFUL. I thought it was appropriate to somehow tell them thank you. I made cookies and took the cookies and Cokes to class and gave them to the guys. I also gave each guy a kiss and said thank you for your help. Much to my surprise some of the girls at school complained about what I did with their boyfriends. Do you think I did something wrong? None of the guys complained? If the guys are OK with it and I am OK with it, what is the problem? If the girls continue to complain, I think I will give the guys something they will enjoy more than a kiss. Guys, any suggestions on what that might me.

A lot of my gal friends work at the XYZ company that is being taken over by the ABC company. They were told they had to upgrade their computer skills to keep their job. They priced this computer training and it was expensive. They asked me if I knew where I could get this computer training cheaper as most of them are on a tight budget. I told them it was a long shot but my ex husband Tim was a computer expert and he might do it for them on credit. They should give him a call. They called him and he told them he would train them FOR FREE. They were VERY HAPPY. He did the training, they kept their jobs at the new company and some of them got raises. Now when I see them, they tell me what a great guy Tim is. They are taking him to lunch as a way of saying thank you and they asked me what would be A GREAT PRESENT they could get him. I gave it some thought and I told them what he would really like is to go on a date with each of them. He really likes to date beautiful women and they all qualify. They were all shocked by what I said. They said are you sure you don't mind us going on a date with your ex. I told them he as MY EX and it was none of my business who he dated. I don't consult him about who I date so why should I care who he dated. Is it so unusual that I feel this way?

22 years old

I sent my friend a message 2 and a half weeks ago that still hasn't been seen, but it's been delivered so I'm pretty sure she's been on Messenger, and she's online all the time. But then when I text her she replies within 10 minutes. I don't get it. I meant Facebook messenger, by the way.

After graduation, I've been seeing a slow downgrade in my friendships with people I knew back in high school. Some just ghosted me, so I ghosted them, some drama (I didn't do anything, but they just selfishly blamed it on me, so I decided they're not worth a friendship), and others just simply do not click with me anymore. I still have some very close friends that I can rely on, but they're pretty busy with their own lives too. I know I can make new friendships (as I am in college), but how did it make you feel when you ended/they ended a friendship with you?