I pay half of the rent and my food and bills I clean everything and do laundry So is it bad I'm taking an online full time program for school and I cannot afford an apartment on my own on minimum wage?

My little brothers are struggling in school, one is 15 and the other is 13. They both have straight F's.. yes even in PE... They're both very anti social and so awkward and never go outside the house unless it's to school. All they do is watch YouTube videos 24/7 the only time they look away from the screen is to use the restroom I'm not Exaggerating at all... I think YouTube fried their brains and is making them believe a totally unrealistic perspective on the world.. they live with their dad (my stepdad) he shows no concern about their situation and I always give him advice on how he should handle their situation but he just has that "I don't care" attitude.. he also is not very successful in life he is 39 years old and his parents pay half his rent... so I can see where my little brothers get it from. i graduated class of 2018 Im in the US Marines now. I always tell my brothers to fix their grades or else they won't be able to get a job and will most likely be homeless after highschool. They don't care about school all they talk about is youtubers and vloggers. They both have straight F's. cmon now how do you do that?...

When I was about 12, my dad asked what I wanted to be when I older. Not having any solid plans (again, I was 12) except not doing much hard work and making lots of money, I told him that all I wanted was a fat pocket and a cute-*** dog. He told me I would make it as a high-class prostitute if I dyed my hair red. Now my dad is retired, and he recently started asking me what he should do with his time. What is the best way to get back at my father for this childhood grievance?

theres this girl thats always physically bullying him and he hit her back today and defended himself and won the fight and got suspended and my dad grounded him for a week. how can i convince my dad to un ground him

I have been in a relationship with an alcoholic for 8+ years. I was an alcoholic when we got together but sobered up 5 years ago. We have 2 kids together, live together, and are for the most part.. happy. Unfortunately he drinks whiskey from the moment he opens his eyes until he goes to bed at night. He doesn't get falling down "drunk" slurring, or anything just a constant buzz thorough out the day.. on occasions or from time to time he does get "drunk"....I've pleaded to him every way possible to stop drinking. He always has his empty promises saying he's going to, and that he's "slowed down a lot"...I haven't seen a change at all. He'll go through a huge bottle of whiskey in about 2 days...that I'm aware of..our kids know he drinks it and i hate the influence he is setting them. They are both still young but soon enough they will be old enough to know what he's doing. I love this man dearly and want him sober..I want this family to work ..it's coming down to the end where I know I will have to leave him.. because I don't want my kids around him like this. I don't want to but I feel he's never going to stop drinking and we'll always continue our cycle of me getting mad at him for drinking and him saying his going to quit but than makes a drink first thing the next morning... Do you think an alcoholic will stop drinking for the sake of his family?... Do I need to leave him for him to understand I'm serious...how do I get him to stop!!?

I need help my bf is in a tough living situation he makes $9 at a clothing store he only works part time and he also lives in a basement that is terrible and run down with rats and bugs but the huge problem is I have with him is that he blames everybody for his living situation he claims he doesn't have food at his house so he is always at my house eating and sleeping. he constantly blames his mom for the way his life is and everytime I bring up and ask him what steps is going to take to make his life better? he gets very defensive and saids he doesn't want to talk about things like that. its as if he doesn't want to ownership of his life for the way it is everytime I bring up him taking actions he gets mad 😡 or yells. what can I do to get him to see its his fault that his life is the way that it is????🙄🙄🙄

So my mom has a boyfriend and he always spends the night and he is constantly over and I hate him so much. My mom I guess is happy but like we never spend time together anymore and he is so ******* weird as in he like gets offended easily and when he doesn't like something he expresses it through these facial expressions like ***** you have a mouth use it. AND OMG HE SPEDNS THE NIGHT SO MUCH AND they find me annoying now since I constantly ask him to get the **** out and they started locking the doers to my MOMS bedroom. I just want him out of my life and I wish I could go to my dads place sometimes because I want a second home to go home to but he lives in CALIFORNIA. can anyone sort of relate, I just need some little thing that I'm not alone on this whole situation. Please :(

While my parents were out of town my brother had lost phone privalages and I was in charge of keeping his phone. Of course my other brother and I know how his phone works and what stuff he s into so we snooped for proof. But we found more than what we bargained for. Like stuff no underage kid should do, but how do we bring this up so he doesnt get anyone hurt or pregnant without getting in trouble? We knew it was wrong and it s an invasion of privacy but we are genuinely concerned for our brother and the fact that out parents are oblivious to his actions.

When I was 11 my mother made an email similar to that of my friends and sent me ecards (with funeral music playing) accusing me of killing my brother (he drowned) telling me to kill myself. And much more at many differebt occasions. I literally thought it was my friend for months until i found the index card with the email and password on it. Anyways.. i have always been curious if any one elses went through **** like that

I am a pediatric oncologist and 1 1/2 years ago I headed to my car at 1am at the hospital I worked at the time. It was not a good area and as they had security guards to walk you to the car at that time of night I was in a hurry and figured as my car was fairly close I would be okay. However, a man was waiting in the car park to hijack someone. I was there. He hijacked my car and took me to an abandoned area and raped me and then left me.Two people who were traveling home in the area found me and called the police. They caught him and he is serving time. I have received therapy but I am still not completely back to myself. I have a beautiful and supportive husband who has stood beside me but I can see it in his eyes that this is starting to drain on him as well. I still will not let him touch me. I am upset and frightened sometimes to the point I will not leave the house. I am essentially scared of everyone. He is a audio engineer and he travels for work alot. He doesn't even want to leave me alone anymore. My children know only what they have to about what happened as they are still young. But they know daddy is stressed and mum cries a lot. Sometimes I feel it would be better if I got away from him. Then he could find a stable wife and mum for his kids. I said that once and he got angry at me and left the room. I just am not his wife anymore but a burden and he doesnt deserve that. So I am thinking about asking for a separation from him so I can heal without burdening them. My question is...How do I ask him for a separation and still help him understand that it is not because I do not love him but because I cannot be a good wife or mother now? Anyone have any advice?

huh?

I was told to breastfeed the baby until a year. And he's all up my butt about it.

So I feel like as if people are out to get me very often e.g 'my father wants to kill me' or 'my friends are trying to take my friends away from me' or like some presence I can't actually see punishes me if I do something wrong or makes all my life decisions for me. My behaviour is very erratic and i don't know what to do, any advice would be great

My eldest sibling, an unemployed 31 year-old, who has never worked and lived with his parents and siblings, has been treating me in a way that is considered bullying. I suspect he has a mental illness because I've bought him things and for my other siblings and that he still had the audacity to actually tell me that I'm a terrible brother for not buying our younger brother a keyboard much sooner. He does clean around the house while me and parents are working, but he also has a grudge against the father and that he would me pi$$ed off at times even though it didn't really call for it.

So I'm 16 years old and yesterday I got a beating from my dad. Basically, I gave him an attitude about how irresponsible he is for taking in two dogs just because his friends have dogs and he feels left out about it and now he's not taking care of the dogs and make me and my siblings do it when none of us wanted a dog. He got super pissed about it and started whacking me in the heads a couple times about how disrespectful I am. I got so pissed about that I started going off on him about how he's acting like a kid instead of an adult going off partying every day when my grandma was in the hospital while my mom was taking care of her, spending an unreasonable amount of money on stuff he doesn't need like DJ sets, etc. He then got a broomstick and demanded me to lay down so he could hit me and my mom agreed that I should do what he says and I refused. He then threw me on the ground and started to kick me while hitting me with the broomsticks and kick the dogs away. He was hitting me so hard and was expecting me to beg him to stop but I didn't really care. After a couple mins of him kicking, throwing me around, and hitting me with the broomsticks, my mom begged him to stop and he didn't. My mom then begged me to say sorry to him so he would stop, but I refused because what I said was true and I don't care what he's doing to me he needed to hear that. He stopped after a couple mins then threw my phone. My sister called me a disappointment and told me I should've said sorry.

[Sorry if my writing style is bad, please don't be mean about it] So basically, he's not really emotionally available (he only thinks logically mainly) along with not being very patient but he also doesn't abuse me verbally nor physically.. I'm ******* confused.. I'm not sure if he emotionally abuses me also, but he can be rude in a sly way.. Like for example; a couple of hours ago while having dinner, I eventually ask my parents to talk to me later despite not knowing my tone wasn't the best, and he chooses to accuse me of not wanting to listen to them.. What the ****? He wrongly assumes my intentions a lot, it looks like he purposely misunderstands me probably just to be dominant.. He's quite a macho man as well if that helps with this question, I hate how he occasionally tries to make me like himself since I hate macho men (same with SJW women) because I just want to be able to be a sensitive guy still. I kind of can be, but he can get to me at times when he seems emotionally cold if I needed emotional support and such, even my mum can slightly be like that :/ He tends to be frustrated or angry at me if I caused an accident, along with him trying to overly "enforce" how to not do that again instead of just telling me what is needed to be told... He somehow gets annoyed from me having trouble doing things or feeling overwhelmed, what the ****? Is my step-dad actually mean or am I too sensitive? Is my step-dad actually mean or am I very sensitive as I'm told by him?

So I'm 14 years old and my mom just got a boyfriend, he is always at our house and when he stays over my mom or him locks the door to the bathroom and their bedroom (my moms bedroom is connected to the bathroom and I share that bathroom with my mom) I don't think they are having sex since I can't hear anything but I guess they don't want me to barge in randomly. Opinions on this, is this wrong?

My dad has a very bad temper and my family is suffering from it. He will get in our families faces and yell and belittle us. He is also very controlling and rude to my mom. When I was around 11 or 12 my dad would call my mom a snake or a pig to belittle her...I haven't heard him say it to her recently but over the years my mom has just changed and so has my family. I dont like being around my dad anymore but now he complains about me staying in my room all the time. I sincerely think their is something wrong with him, what can i do to help? ps: when i was 15 i confronted him about it but he just redirected the blame to my mom and my sisters

(When you have no choice)

I didn 't know once a week was too much but apparently she likes to complain. my dad doesn't seem to have an issue with it but it seems like my mom has an issue with things. my boyfriend was over the other night. I told him to come over and eat because I made a big pot of spaghetti, garlic bread, and salad and no one eats home cooked food around here. Literally my family just eats fast food on a rotating basis. So after I was done cooking my mom told him to wash all of the dishes and my dad was looking at her like " huh". My dad normally washes the dishes while I cook. My mom was like " oh your father is too tired to wash the dishes tonight" And my dad was like " I never said I was too tired. that's a lie. It's rude to ask guests to wash dishes. I can't believe you did that". There was another time where I had cooked catfish and she asked my boyfriend to take the grease outside. Then today my mom confronts me and she's like " Why does your boyfriend come over every weekend and then leave after he eats.. open your eyes.. don't be naive like a 5 year old" And I was like " what are you talking about. I TOLD him to come over and eat this food i cooked, I can never finish it all myself and ya'll never want to eat it. plus, he doesn't just come over to eat. he talks to my dad a lot and they watch tv together" My boyfriend has helped me a lot in more ways than one, he's always there for me. my mom has made comments about how she thinks he's cheating on me and everything. I would also like to add that he literally only comes on saturdays, not the entire weekend so he is not over-staying his visit at all. I wonder if we should go back to eating in the car since she always has an issue with everything. It seems like my mother has had a problem with me ever since i learned how to cook ( jealousy, idk?) She hasn't cooked dinner for the family since we were 10. I'm not stopping her, she can always learn, I don't know why she seems angry every time I cook

When they divorced I was used as a pawn to get the other back and it was especially by my Mom. Like her telling us my Dad left us, instead of her. Also being kept from visiting him over Christmas and having to wait until after New Year. Told he liked me but it was not love cause he couldn't love anyone. As a 9 year old I internalized all this. I believed it all. It wrote on the slate of who I am today almost 20 years later. On my Dad's end he would not fight my Mom in court and he also argued to her in front of us the couple times of year we did see him. I felt growing up he did not love us. My Dad says "well that was 20 years ago so time to let it go" and nothing else while my mother gets defensive and says she was trying to protect us from his unkind attitude towards her and his girlfriend who was not patient with us kids (I have two siblings). Then she says "why do you care and your sisters have moved on". All this hurts cause I am so scared I could lose a family member to rejection again like I did as a kid. I go to extreme measures to prevent this and it is an obsession. I am in therapy but get grief for that also "how many more years will you be seeing that doctor" or "they just want to drug you up". How can I get my parents to have more understanding of things I am very sensitive to due to childhood traumas regarding their divorce and have appreciation for the suffering?

So how do I overcome this feeling?

I don't feel that i need to attend my graduation ceremony. But at the same time i don't want to let my family down what should i do?

I'm 14 and my brother is 15. My brother does not care about anything unless it benefits him. If you let him borrow something, he won't give it back unless it'll benefit him. If he's mad, he has no problem destroying our house, and there's nothing my mom can do about it. He smokes weed, cigarettes and drinks. We've tried therapy, but he refuses to go. He has a parole officer, but he can easily avoid it. Rehab and boarding schools won't take him unless he agrees to go, and mental facilities wont take him unless he threatens to kill himself, or threatens to kill one of us. I'm extremely depressed and always have been, and I really want to just run away. I'm scared of making him angry because I don't want him to destroy my things. I have 2 guitars that mean the world to me. I'll answer any questions asked, but please, what should me and my family do about this?

His mother is an alcoholic who is financially unstable and can barely afford a roof over her head. The father is financially stable but he is an alcoholic as well. (They have joint custody) So my mother, my sister's dad, and the whole family agrees that the mother cannot raise the kid but the father is a better parent. They are planning on taking my sister to court and having her rehabilitate herself. If she fails, she loses the kid and the dad has full custody. Now my mom can't help raise the kid because she's too old and cannot financially support him, our eldest sister can't take him in because she already has two kids and is a single mother, and his grandfather cannot because he is out of the country. So that leaves me, a 20 year old college kid who has a future ahead of myself to be eligible to help raise him. We fear that if we give the father full custody, we (the mothers side of the family) will never see the kid again. That's why they want elected me to be the representative for the mothers side. Pros: If I take the kid in I can watch him grow up and learn responsibility and keep the kid around. Cons: I really really REALLY don't want a kid to hold me down. I never planned on having children and I planned on living in a house by myself... I can't do that if I have to help raise a kid. I also don't want a bad relationship with my sister. My question to you is, if worst comes to worst, should I be the responsible one and take in my eleven year old nephew?

I love both my stepmom and stepdad equally. I love both of my parents. They all treat me well. I love my stepbrother, he is kind. I love my half brother, he's really cute. I have two separated families whom treat me well. Sounds great huh. The only problem is, my mom always think I love my dad's side way more. Everytime I come home from visiting them, she always think I support that side way more than my mom's side. Of course I love my mom and stepdad when they're the ones who's actually really taking care of me! My mom always thinks I'm not on her sidE. My mom thinks I love my stepmom more than her. Well, of course I love my mom more cause she gave birth to me! My stepmom is nice too, it's fine if my mom doesnt like her but she always talk that kind of **** of how i love stepmom more to me everytime i come back from hanging out with my dad's side. We argued couple of times. I made my mom cried I really didnt mean to Its cause she speaks nonsense!!! How do i fix this I love both sides ok This is a mess Honestly. Being the child in a blended family sucks Too much problems tbh :/

I'm currently living with my family and I'm not sure if I should tell them that I'm seriously considering dancing. I don't really care about anyone's opinion about me dancing, but because I am living with them, I'm not sure if they would be I comftorable with me dancing while staying with them. They knew that I was trying to waitress at Hooters and even told me that the job would be too far to look into getting it. I know that being a waitress at Hooters and stripping are two different things, but a lot of people put those jobs in the same category. I'm still not sure if I should tell them because I don't want my close family to find out that I'm dancing from someone other than me and I'm not sure if they wouldn't tell anyone right away. I don't think they would kick me out , I just don't want for them to feel wired about me doing that while I live with them.

My mum passed away five and a half years ago shortly after I turned sixteen and I've been thinking about her a lot. I used to get sad at the fact I don't have a mum to see me do well at school, work, etc. but now I'm simply missing her presence. Like I miss her company when we would've sat in the living room in the evening watching TV or chatting about whatever, but it doesn't make me feel sad. Is it weird to think about stuff like that and not feel upset?

Today I cooked the food as my mom told me to but when she saw the food, she said it looks like pigs' food and even worse than that. I got mad so didn't say anything. She kept grumbling about that and got angry because I didn't answer her. I said if you don't like the food then don't eat it. She said I didn't have the right to say that because she bought the food and this is her house. She then went up to her room and slammed the door hard. I'm so stressed right now

i was hungry, so i made a sandwich. right away,she gets angry, and asks me to clean up the mess i was making, and i do. i was pretty tired, so i simply cleaned up and ate my food, and didn't make any small talk. she starts SCREAMING at me about how i'm a disrespectful, condescending brat, and how i'm a "big, fat, ugly pig" because i had made myself a sandwich (lots of carbs, apparently). this happens a lot, and it really hurts my feelings. i've been diagnosed with anorexia and it sucks. anyways, in response i just kind of brush it off; she comments on my weight so often i don't have the energy to respond anymore. she launches into a fit of rage, and continues to insult me, so i leave. all week, i don't really talk to her; after all, she really hurt me, why would i talk to someone i know is going to belittle me in every conversation? today, i wanted to go the mall with my dad, and she refused, saying i was grounded. she told me i had to apologize for being so rude and disrespectful to her this week, which i responded to by saying she had to apologize for calling me such nasty names. she gets extremely angry once again, and screams about how she's the parent and can say what she wants, etc. What do i do?? My dad is the worst part - he just sits there, but when i talk to him in private, he agrees that she shouldn't say awful things to me. but when she screams at me, he does nothing. he thinks i should apologize to her, since when we fight, it "makes his life harder. help?

my boyfriend was over the other night. I told him to come over and eat because I made a big pot of spaghetti, garlic bread, and salad and no one eats home cooked food around here. Literally my family just eats fast food on a rotating basis. So after I was done cooking my mom told him to wash all of the dishes and my dad was looking at her like " huh". My dad normally washes the dishes while I cook. My mom was like " oh your father is too tired to wash the dishes tonight" And my dad was like " I never said I was too tired. that's a lie. It's rude to ask guests to wash dishes. I can't believe you did that". There was another time where I had cooked catfish and she asked my boyfriend to take the grease outside. Then today my mom confronts me and she's like " Why does your boyfriend come over every weekend and then leave after he eats.. open your eyes.. don't be naive like a 5 year old" And I was like " what are you talking about. I TOLD him to come over and eat this food i cooked, I can never finish it all myself and ya'll never want to eat it. plus, he doesn't just come over to eat. he talks to my dad a lot and they watch tv together" My boyfriend has helped me a lot in more ways than one, he's always there for me.

My daughter is in the 4th grade and she has this bad habit of getting into other peoples conversations and has even been teased and yelled by classmates because of it. I guess she lacks social skills and she also asks so many questions sometimes and she automatically assumes that when someone looks mad that they are mad and she thinks people hate her. She doesn't even get jokes and she has no friends. Church is just as bad because she even got in trouble in church for not paying money and she could have asked me for a dollar. They want to teach the kids about tithing I guess but I just take her because I don't care to attend a money making place that doesn't help the less fortunate. I prefer to read the Bible on my own since that church loves money. She even started to ask questions about Jesus and sometimes she asks so many questions about stuff in general such as Jesus, school work, life, puberty stuff, etc.

Im early-mid 20's and my family still wants to stop by weekly to do my housework for me and bring me food and it drives me crazy. I keep my house clean and feed my self just fine, yet they act like I'm incapable of doing anything other than drool in my lap. I have been completely independent of them for years and they just won't get over the fact that I don't need them to care for me. It is completely belittling and I just want them to stop acting like I'm an elementary aged child.

I'm in charge cause I am the only mature one in the family.