It started in 2015, when one day I was in my moms room talking to my stepdad, hanging out with my cat, just messing around. My stepdad grabbed my head forcing me into a kissing position his tongue in my mouth. My mom walked in when this happened; and when i finally wrenched myself off his grasp, he laughed almost as if it was funny, while I looked at my mom. I told her that his tongue went in my mouth, and she made a face and we never discussed it again. Fast forward to the summer, I went up and visited my grandmother. The conversation came up and she said that was sexual abuse and from there everything took a turn. She wanted me to stay with her, and I agreed. My mom was upset my stepdad upset, and everyone was upset the only person believing me being my grandmother and of course her friends. Well in the end of the summer basically my mom made me feel extremely guilty and so did my stepfather saying how could i make an accusation like that. My mom cried and my stepfather was disgusted in me. I had to go home and tell everyone I lied and make everyone believe that I just made a big story up.

I know there are a lot of questions that are similar to this on here, but I needed someone who is unbiased to help me. So, earlier today, I went to go buy myself some lunch close by, without asking my sisters at home if they had wanted anything. So, to keep money I ordered them a grilled cheese sandwich and fries. When I got home, I offered the sandwich to one of my sisters, who angrily refused it, shouting how it's not what she had wanted, that she should've told me I had been going out to get lunch and bought her what she had wanted. I retorted that she should've been thankful for me buying her anything, and that I didn't have to get her anything. As per usual, the altercation heated up, to the point where I told her she had no redeeming qualities and was extremely ungrateful, to which she responded that my entire family had grown to hate the person I've become. While I do regret saying she has no redeeming qualities, I felt extremely angry that she had been so ungrateful, yelling at me for not buying her what she had wanted. And I cannot apologize, she is the type to not accept when people accept they're wrong. However, it has made me ponder how I'm living my life. I'm an active person, since it's summer now, I wake up at 6:30, run about 4-7 miles, go exercise for two more, and then work a few days a week. As a result of this, I come home tired and oftentimes rather grumpy, to which my sisters, who wake up hours after I do, and are not employed bash me for it.

I previously asked a question very similar to this, but clearly a lot of ppl who answered suggested the things that I can't do. Even though I did mention that I wasn't able to do those things. Hopefully this time I can get slightly better answers. Let me just mention, my parents and I are Not poor, they just choose to work that much. I included the actual description in the update. It's not too long, thx I'll try to make this as short as possible. I'm a 15 year old girl. Basically every day my parents leave me home alone all day. Lots of teens enjoy this, but this is going too far. My mom has a morning and night job so I don't see her much. My dad works 2 days then has the next day off, and it's been that way for a Long time now. But he works ALL day. Leaving me home alone. Missin out on all the summer for fun. It gets annoying cuz it's a small house with almost no yard. I'm an only child. I don't have a dog due to the landlord's rules. Whenever my friends invite me to places I can almost never go, cuz I don't have a ride and don't have money to always be paying the bus. They come over sometimes but rarely cuz it's a bit of a drive. I see no point in getting a driver's permit since my parents take their cars to work, so I wouldn't get to use it. I don't have a job either due to the ride issue again. Any suggestions on what I could do?

My sister in law is now engaged to a guy the family does not approve of. Her parents have recently just given in in order to not hurt their relationship. However, my husband and I are just not on board. They have been together for a couple of years now and my husband and I know we need to somehow mend the relationship between us and his sister. We don't know where to even start at this point. We want to move on, but the guy has not impressed us at all. He actively avoids us and has never introduced himself to us formally or anything. I get that we are all adults here and anyone can reach out, but I just believe that in any family you are coming into, you need to step it up and sort of woo the family. We went to mend and have a relationship with them, but the guy has given us nothing to want to move forward and do that. His sister even moved very suddenly across the country with him without telling us personally. We only heard is through his parents a week before the move. Basically the guy avoids us, and his sister is becoming distant because we never approved of him. He has not given us a reason to change this stance, but I know it's not healthy to continue what we have been doing. Do we just go ahead and reach out, out of nowhere? She was secretive about him from the very beginning, years ago. We get why she wouldn't share about him now. The fact that she was keeping this a secret for a long time just makes him and existence shady from the beginning. There are comments about how it's obvious she wouldn't want to share any news with us because we clearly were not thrilled about him, but she has been secretive from the beginning. Maybe if they are content without a relationship, we should also be content with that?

I'm being pressured to move up to management at my job which would mean working ot and with a rotating schedule which would pretty much end the time I have to spend with my daughter. I value the time we spend together because she's growing up so fast and I'm scared of losing that. She'll only be little for a split second but I have the rest of my life to make more money. For you older parents which route did you take when your kids were little and do you regret or wish you would have done it differently?

Alright, so let me just say that they rarely get along but when it comes to me doing something "wrong" my mom always runs to my dad to yell at me. Not only that, but my mom comes to me for advice when my dad and her argue, but when I ask her for advice (when she's no longer arguing) she tells me to go away and that she doesn't have time to talk. They were on the brink of divorce just two weeks ago and my mom was blaming it on me, saying that it was all my fault because I don't get along with my dad. There are so many reasons on why I don't get along with him (calling me fat, a failure, etc...). So of course, my mom threatened me. Why would she come to me as if I was the adult here? And how is it even my fault? This is really pressuring me. I turn 18 in four months and I know exactly what I'm gonna do. To make things wrose, she still babies me and follows me around almost everywhere with LIMITED freedom. But, I want advice on how to deal with stressful situations such as these.

She doesn't use those words but it is her lifestyle. She is wonderful and amazing and spectacular and the victim of others cruelty towards her and her two daughters are one spectacular and one evil. Might she be right?? I mean her good daughter is very sweet and her bad daughter sometimes does live a distorted reality. Her stunning and amazing daughter has never spoken ill of anyone unless she does so to please her mother (regarding the hated sister) whereas the sister gossips. The aunt does have friends and the aunt is pretty looking. She posts selfies more then anyone alive. So might the narcissistic aunt be right and rather then being a narcissist she is stunning and amazing and has one amazing daughter who carries her genes and one horrid daughter? We seldom see this aunt, maybe once every other year, which is why this fascinates me so much. I plan to major in narcissism come college.

A few months ago my grandmother moved in with us, due to her being retired and no longer having a car she spends most of her time at home. Since she has been here I have noticed her on several occasions going into my room without her asking me. I went on vacation for a week or so and came back and noticed that I was missing some makeup, I dismissed it because I thought I had just misplaced it until one day I found it in her bathroom along with her own makeup. I haven't said anything about this to her. A few days ago my mother noticed that some items were missing from their room as well, no one has said anything to her. Just now, I caught her attempting to sneak into my room claiming that she was going to spread my bed (she never does). I don't know what to do but I am very much getting annoyed.

Before dating me , my bf got his ex pregnant. She's been texting him like crazy . He strictly told her not to text irrelevant things . Just focus on the child . Ok , that's awesome. On the other hand, he was friends with her months ago . I'm afraid he's only temporarily saying this because he's mad at her or something. Anyway , she's having his baby in a couple of months . He told her he would be there to watch her have the baby and wants dna testing . He says , he knows it's his baby , but he's just reassuring his family . Why does she still have feelings for him ? Is it possible they can do visitations without liking each other again ? I trust him , but wondering if his mean attitude with her with last , or if he will eventually have a chance of heart :( She's beautiful and hes said it a couple of times . Yet , he hates her , she's drama . Should I be concerned?

He has said in the past he is happy I'm his wife as I brought so much positivity into my husband's life. It's been 3 years now, and recently I feel like he is becoming possessive of my husband in a small way. I can't figure out if I'm just imagining it and perhaps he's always been this way but now I'm seeing it, or I'm becoming sensitive to it. We all went on a family vacation and he didn't talk to me much, only his brother. He wouldn't be quiet and was very loud and any time my husband was just talking with me, he'd yell something just to get his attention. And now his brothers (he has 2) got a new tv and are always asking him to go over there. This brother has a girlfriend too that lives with him. The adult brothers also both live at home still with their parents. He will also text my husband things on group text with the other brother, asking questions he could have simply googled, like about video games. It's making me think of in past relationships how my ex's guy friends were possessive of him and wanted the single version of him, even if they had girlfriends. It was like they created situations that would make him come around and leave me behind. My husband gives in very seldom. But his brother is the type that will ask you if you want to do something and if you say no, he will ask again. And again. And again, over and over, same day, another day, another week or month, until you say yes. Could he always have been this way or could he be acting like this new?

I'm 18 and my sister is 17. Some time back, I got my belly pierced, even though my mom was against the idea when I talked to her about it last year. My sister found out about it eventually when I forgot to wear a tank top over my sports bra at the gym when I was working out, and she's been holding it on my head ever since. Yesterday, I caught her stealing some of our dad's money from a drawer by cramming it down her cleavage. I threatened to tell our dad about it and she got really mad. She walked over, pulled my shirt up, and said "If dad finds out about this or anything else I do, then mom will find out about this right here" I pushed her away from me,but I could tell she was serious, so I had to back and let her take the money. I just don't know what to do now

I am 17 and my sister is 19 and although it may sound like an exaggerated question or a misunderstanding I am mature enough to know that her behavior isn't normal. Ever since I was little, my sister always expressed some forms of hatred towards me, she'd belittle me in front of her friends or would humiliate me to my parents. We had a normal relationship growing up, but then suddenly, for a reason I've yet to figure out, she stopped wanting to spend time with me. She always tried to get me into trouble, she always talked horribly about me to our mom. Today, I found out she had brought something up to my mom that she heard me say, (not something of much importance), but moral of story was I didn't even know she had heard me. She went to my mom and told her what I had said, not to protect me, but to make fun of me. And I know this because my mom told me what my sister said. She always calls me names and she tells me I am a disgrace to the family and that everybody in our family hates me or doesn't trust me. I've spoken to her about this and have told her that those type of comments are extremely hurtful, yet she always says them to me. She's very controlling and picks my classes for me, which aren't in my interest but hers and are too advanced for me and proceeds to tell me I'm worthless for not doing well in them. She makes my life completely miserable and I've always tried to avoid arguing but sometimes I don't and we've gotten I to several fist fights about it.

I am a girl, I am 25 and I ve been with 3 guys sexually though i ve dated 6 guys. I m not ashamed but whenever I am dating a guy and I usually have the first time having sex with them which is close to a year into the relationship, I lie and say I ve only been with 1 guy. I haven t had a lot of sex so I m not like stretched out. But I did tell a guy I was dating a few years back I ve been with 3 guys and he said, "That s slutty but I m into it." And his comment was a huge insult. I broke up with him right there. After that I ve just been afraid to be truthful so I just lie. Is that bad? I just feel like I want to avoid drama and the guy shaming me. I also don t feel comfortable telling my numbers I feel it s none if their business. I don t ask them how many women they have been with. I ve never had an std or sti and I always have the guys go get checked by the doctor before we do it so I feel the entire question is pointless. What do you think?

Am I wrong or being cruel? Both of my parents are over 50. But they still don't have a permanent place to live or at least a vehicle. We live in a place where there only two tiny rooms to do everything. I don't have a room. No privacy. I.turned 18 a few months ago. Now it's been more than 3 years I've been suffering from depression and anxiety too. All. I want is to die but I don't know how to. Because they don't have money all of my mother's sisters want me to find a job to make money and after that go to college and do the degree. I've been suffering all my life. So I always get angry at my parents and argue with them so I make them very sad too I'm not a good child to them and i always think to my self why did my parents make a baby when they have financial problems when don't don't even have a propertl place to live. Once I asked my mom that and made her sad. Am I wrong to think so. Am I being cruel. Am I wrong to think that they shouldn't have had a baby in that situation? I'm making everyone miserable. Thanks in advance for you all.

Okay, to start off my parents have been divorced since I was 3 and there have been arguments here and there that have caused so issues and left some pain behind. Most of the time I felt it was because of my grandmother that there were ever problems in the divorce becausw my parents got along. Ive haf two stepmoms, the first one actually helped a lot and still spends time with me, but the second one has caused some family issues. There have been times, many times when she's tried putting herself on a pedestal by saying rude things about my mother, past stepmom, and even me and my siblings. She has tried putting herself in my mother's place in a way of trying to control how we do things. Ever since her and my father have been married it's been rare to have alone time with him. She has caused many arguments by being controlling and manipulative, but whenever someone tries to call her out she gets all defensive and tried to blame other people, having it usually fall on me and my siblings. I love both of my parents very much, but she makes it hard for me to want to be around my dad and I dont know what to do because I dont want to cut him out of my life, but she gets under my skin. And I know she stresses out more people than just me and many people in my family cant be around her long. How do I handle situations where she tries to bring my Mom down just to make herself look good and how do I keep my distance from her without discluding my dad from my life..?

thats the case in my house idk if thats the same for most people or is it just me? i notice that my mom has a soft side for me and is more ruthless with my sis and vice versa with my dad and me and my dad with my sis

My husband and two toddler-aged kids are currently living with my widowed mother while we await the completion of our house being built. I never wanted to live with her, as I felt it was a bad idea, but she and hubby felt good about it. She just recently retired and spends a lot of time at home. She doesn't go anywhere and just wants to spend time with the kids, which is fine to a point. I take care of cooking all 3 meals for the family as a way to show my gratitude toward her. I try to keep everything as tidy as possible as I know we're in her home. I don't know if it's intentional, but lately I feel she is becoming more and more opinionated about how we raise our kids. She doesn't share these opinions with hubby, only with me while he's at work. She'll ask if I'm going to give them sweets, and when I say fruit, she makes a face. When my daughter starts misbehaving and being disrespectful to me I spank her. Of course, I'm made to feel like an abuser. She will literally sit on the couch and watch everything I do with them. Sometimes smiling (which is sweet) other times eyeballing me when I start explaining things to the kids. At this point she chimes in and adds her own two cents to the conversation. She'll make backhanded comments like, "grandma's useless" when I say "it's ok, I've got it Mom," when it comes to getting them water, etc. I do let her help whenever she wants, but I'm also a hands-on mom. We had a really bad argument and now I feel bad! How can I resolve this?

i told my dad that i m depressed, and all he responds with is "get over it". im not suicidal or anything but im not happy and he doesnt get that. he tells me it runs in the family. which ya, it might but that shouldnt mean to ignore it. everything i do he tells me to do better and screams in my face. he acts like im this horrible kid. he treats my sisters like angels but takes everything out on me. im not to productive and i dont do the best in school. but he acts like everything i do wrong is as bad as murder. when i tell him all of what i think he yells and tells me how without him id be dead. what do i do? im lost.

I was 5 years sober and recently had a relapse. I feel like my family deserves to know the truth and this will be the only time we are all together

I left my son's father because of his drug use and he's now in jail for some other reason. I know he's not coming out because his fine is at least a year and he's an illegal immigrant so he'll most likely be deported back to Mexico. I know that it's all for the best because of his actions but I'm uncomfortable with moving forward. I don't talk to other guys and I have a hard time thinking about me with anyone else because it seems off. Before he got into drugs he and I used to do everything together and he treated me pretty well, every time I sleep I dream about the things we did together and him actually being in my son's life. Then I tell myself how stupid I am for thinking that because it won't happen. I want to move on but I don't know how.

This is probably a 'first world' problem but it's causing a lot of stress between us so I'm looking for help Ok to start off I haven't celebrated my birthday since I was 12, throwing parties give me anxiety so I just have something very small with immediate family. But in 2018 in September I'll be turning 21, and it's a massive deal in our family where there's a massive party (200+ people - big family) so I decided to celebrate it. Late last year my mother's mum past away in December '17, and she's refusing to celebrate any major family event till a year later. She'll celebrate it in January 2019, but the timing will be awkward because most of my close friends will be gone due to it being Summer and won't be able to attend, so ideally it will be held closer in late February. I'm not willing to compromise 5 months later, and this is the first time we've heard about this 'ritual' especially since we're pretty casual normally. I understand I could have something small with friends on my birthday, but my mother won't approve and I'd like her to be there. While I do understand it's her mother who died, I don't understand having to wait a year to celebrate things, one of them which is an important milestone in my life.

Hi. I'm 21 yrs old and I grew up an only child just with my mum. My dad left before I was ever born, I've never met him and I only have a couple of pictures of him and a card he sent one birthday. My mum told me a week ago he had died, I didn't really feel anything then but over the last few days it finally sunk in that I'll never meet him, never have a relationship with him, never even talk to him and I just feel really really crap. How can I miss and be crying about someone I never knew ?

My twin brother had just left to go with his buddy to a baseball game, and as soon as they left, my dad came into my room. He asked me why I never go anywhere and don't have people come over. I said the classic, "I don't know" line. He said. "Youre such a loser" and left. It hurt tbh

My husband doesn't want me to talk or touch him because i am forcing him to go to my uncle's funeral. I have a big family and he doesn't. I don't expect him to go to every family events but during bad times i would appreciate if he could be there and be little supporative but nope. He is argung with me how he doesnt like funerals and doesnt want to go. I am like can you please show little respect? How would my dad feel that his son in law didnt come. He doesn't understand that. I asked him how would he feel if i did same thing to him. His response that's fine. I don't expect you to go. He is saying he doesn't like funeral & gets sick. He doesn't want to even go to their house to give respect. I have been with him for 9 years now & dealing with emotional abuse. My parents doesn't know about it. He gives silent treatment if things doesn't go along his way. I am seriously thinking of my marriage. I feel like I dida mistake getting married to him.

Driving & another car acidently crashes into his car, My father will be held liable for the collision. Even if it was the other drivers fault since my father was talking on his cell phone at the time of the collision. (a few days ago my father got a moving violations ticket from a police officer for talking on his cell phone while driving) (I'm a 17 year old guy)