Family: Question: What should I do?

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:35 PM PST

My grandma doesn't really talk to my dad because she is very involved with the church and didn't agree with how he got married to my stepmom. She lives in Arizona and we haven't seen her in years. She just texted me asking if I wanted to have lunch with her this week and I said yes and my dad knows which is making him very sad and angry towards everyone. I want my dad to come out to lunch with us so they can see eachother but I'm not sure who to ask first and what to say to each of them.

Question: How to stay thin when my family serves fattening food?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:30 PM PST

I am a thin girl who is very conscious of her appearance. I have never been overweight or even chubby in my life, but my dad is overweight and my mom is obese...my little brother has a rocket metabolism and is teased for being too thin. I want to stay thin, but I am scared because my parents are constantly making the least healthy foods imaginable. My dad use to be a chef, and constantly makes such unhealthy food and so much of it, it's crazy! Just last night, he made fettuccine Alfredo with extra heavy cream and cheese, cesar salad, and shrimp. When I heard shrimp I was happy, but then he put them in a gallon of butter and didn't listen to me when I asked him not to. After that, he brought in a dozen gourmet cupcakes. You'd think that after that, they'd be fine with the leftovers and cupcakes? NOPE! Tonight, along with leftovers, he's made a pie, my mom is making cookies and fudge, and of course, we have to have stupid game day snacks of assorted gourmet cheeses, and cocktail shrimp. I'm crying writing this. My fear of getting fat is crippling, and lately I've been skipping lunch in hopes of staying under 1600 calories a night. I can't tell my parents no as it would be disrespectful, it would be shameful to say I'm dieting (and 1600 is just what I need to maintain my weight!), and if I refuse they will overreact and say I'm anorexic and threaten to send me to the hospital. Food is almost addictive and once I have a little it's hard to stop..I feel stuck! Please help!

Question: My family does not listen?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:12 PM PST

There is nothing in the world that I can talk to my family about (mother, father, sister). I am 27 now and I know that they are just out of reach. My mother, she will talk for hours if you let her about pointless things. Although I am not interested, I listen to every word and I respond to her and I have conversations with her about what she is saying, every single time. I became self employed at a young age have lived well and am able to travel the US freely. but my father, he has only ever been able to tell me "you should get a job" and "you should go to college". He can not say anything else. At all. and the same with my sister. I listen to everything my family has to say and I converse with them about what they are saying. but since I can remember, whenever I have something to say, they blank out. They start looking around and doing other things. They make remarks that have nothing to do with what I was talking about and I really feel like they just want me to shut up. My mom was telling me a story a few months ago and she just-so-happened to bring up that when I was little, I grabbed her face and said "moooom, listeeennn to meeeee". and so I know, it has always been this way. but why are they like this??? I do not speak much. I listen a great deal. but I have started speaking to my family and then just stopped and they never noticed that I stopped. I have done this many times. Many strangers and friends can have long conversations with me but never my family. Update: I guess my family is just very selfish?

Question: Growing up were your parents embarrassing?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:55 PM PST

My parents are so embarrassing that I try my hardest to avoid having to go out with them in public. I'm 25 and their 70 so the age difference is significant and maybe that's why I find it difficult to be around them. I love them more than anything but they are absolutely humiliating.

Question: New Years Day, Trouble w/ Stepmom, confusion....?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:47 PM PST

Im a 14 y.o. Christian girl, and would like some advice from people with similar backgrounds. I recently, at my request, moved to Mississippi to live with my dad and stepmom because my biological mom has drug problems and has been a very inconsistent mom (to say the least). I love her, but my dad and stepmom have always been there for me. and I needed stability. Before I made the decision to move here, my dad and stepmom warned me that they still believed in spanking as a last resort even at my age. I was kind of shocked, but really wanted to move in here, and (since I rarely get in any trouble) wasn't all that concerned. This morning I got in big trouble for something that I, in all fairness, deserved to be in trouble for. But I was still flabbergasted when dad had my stepmom take me out back and bust my behind. She didn't leave any bruises or "hurt" me or anything like that, but she did light me up something good and the pain was/is very intense. I'm just kind of shocked. I know that they love me, I'm NOT looking to turn them in or get them in any trouble (regardless of the answer to this question), but this is so far from my cultural norms that I have to ask, are they even legally allowed to do this? Is it fair at all? I just never really saw this happening at my age, and it all went down so suddenly.... Is this legal? Common? Fair? Typical? I lied about where I was going, and yes it is a 2nd offense (I got grounded the 1st time), and lying is their #1 rule (understandably). I'm usually very honest but I was really stupid this time. The lie was about where Id been. I said I went to a friends house but I really went to a mall that is off limits because of what part of town it is in, and got a ride with a friend I'm not supposed to ride with because she is a "bad influence dead fundie----i didnt get many serious answers the first time i posted it

Question: I wanna die?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:33 PM PST

i just can't bare to live in this home anymore. i'm suffocated. my parents hate me and pray to god that i drop dead or something. she (my mom) told me that i was a failed abortion and she never wanted me and my twin. nothing i ever do is good enough and the harder i try to impress them, the harsher they criticize me. i have a 4.0 GPA and a 31 on the ACT but when i showed them my grades, they said "what? do you want a ******* round of applause of something?" my dad told me that he got a perfect score on the GMAT even though his mom had died the night before. i just don't know what to do? they've stopped talking to me and making me food. i've started walking to and from school without complaining because they didn't wanna drive me. now my mom is in the other room weeping and praying that something bad happens to me. she's saying "i hope none of your dreams come true because you ruined mine" my dad is cnsolidating her. i'm scared he's going to come in here and beat me again. he's smashed my mirror and slammed my head to the wall. i've had bruises on my back and cuts from his belt before. i'm scared! i want to die. for me and them. what should i do?

Question: My parents are mad at eachother and then they kinda take it out on me I just want my parents back and I don't know what to do ��?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:14 PM PST

Question: How to hide weed smell in a car?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:04 PM PST

I have to go on a 6 hour car ride with my parents to another city in my state and they both know the smell of weed is there a way to keep my loud on me without smelling on the ride

Question: My mother lost my birth certificate and refuses to get me another one. she also refuses to give my my social security card?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 11:45 AM PST

i m 18 years old, my father is not in my life and my mother refuses to help me get my documents. my mother lost my birth certificate and refuses to get me another one in order to keep me from moving out. if i move out she can no longer get government assistance from me. my boyfriend is trying to get everything for me since i cannot get a job without those documents but she refuses to work with him. what can i do to get my documents and not be forced to live with my mother.

Question: How to keep someone in there place?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 11:36 AM PST

Recently my parents told me I'm acting like a child because I argue back and forth with my sister when she gets out of hand and says foul things to me. I told my parents I'm not going to let anyone just talk crazy to me and they say that's not how I act like an adult. When my sister gets mad she throws things and if I react they turn they tables and say it my fault and don' say a thing to her which makes me upset. Now my sister think it's okay to do anything she wants now cause she can get away with it. What should I do because I don't like being disrespected

Question: Can you trust a family member who stated several occasions they USE to hate/can't stand you and you think you're better?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 11:35 AM PST

When I was younger it never bothered me when my cousin said this, but when I became an adult I wanted nothing to do with her. I never been in a situation like this so I really don't know how to feel, but now that I am ignoring her she wants to be closer? How can I have a relationship with a family member who feels this way about me? Everytime she is around me she is always mimicking my voice because I am very proper, asking where I get my personal items from and my sexual life? Furthermore, she is always taking her childhood issues out on me. My parents have worked hard to give me a decent life--providing a food, clothes and a roof over my head "NORMAL THINGS" that I am sure any parent would do, but she acts like we are the Jackson's? just because her parents made poor decisions. What should I do?

Question: I think my mom is bipolar, what should I do?? I really think she needs help.?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 11:20 AM PST

So, my mom has mood swaps constantly. for example, in a minute she´s being nice and calm with you and then she starts arguing and being loud with you about something you did, even if it wasn´t that bad she keeps yelling at you for like half an hour, i´m not kidding, and even if you don´t respond to her she keeps talking really loud about it around the house. and that happens several times during the day.I´m not the only one thinking that she needs help, everyone around her suspects that something is wrong with her, and the environment in my house isn´t healthy with her behavior.

Question: Should I accept being called outside of my name?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 11:03 AM PST

No, I will not accept it. I told my sister and nephew this morning to stop calling me "Chacha" because it means something negative in another language that we both know. I just found out that it means a whore in Creole slang, hence the reason I demanded it to stop. She insist on calling me that and she's making her son call me that. She went on and said that my mother named me that and that I should talk to her about it. Firstly, it was a nickname not a name. Also, I highly doubt she knew what it meant. BESIDES, even if my mother did name me that, I have every right to tell people to stop calling me something that I do no like. As a method of retaliation, I started to call her a "hoe" and her 7 year old a Bastard. Am I wrong for this?

Question: Should I be mad or happy about what my brother said about me?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 10:57 AM PST

I forgot to lock my bedroom door and my brother walked in as I was changing clothes. He said "You are the most beautiful hot and sexy woman ever". "If you were not my sister I would have a b0ner the size of Texas 24/7". Is that a compliment or not something appropriate to say to your sister? How about my saying In your dreams shorty?

Question: My parents are overcontrolling.?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 10:40 AM PST

So I am 19, in college, and live by myself. They require me come home every weekend to work at their business, but I also have a job during the weekdays near my college. Whenever I m home, they never let me out with my friends. I don t get time to do homework at home. I have a curfew of 9 and I m 19? Just yesterday, they followed me in my car when I went out with my bf for New Years Eve. My dad has showed up at my apartment unannounced at 7 to 8 in the morning. I live with a bunch of girls, this shouldn t be tolerated. I have a boyfriend and they re pressuring me to introduce him to them, but I don t want to. Isn t that my right? Its just that they re the type to think if I have one boyfriend, I should be with him forever. They start dictating how I should act in the relationship and how he should act to show that he loves me. For example, they get mad he doesn t pick me up sometimes for dates and they say it s because he doesn t love me. They also hold traditional views of relationships and I m quite the opposite. My parents are too controlling of me. I don t think it s justified. I m a good student. I don t drink, do drugs, and they know that. In high school, I barely went out and when I did, I always have to scramble to get home by 8 PM. I still do. I ve talked to them but they won t listen. They re always right. What should I do? I don t want to be a "bad daughter" and not listen to them. It s stressing me out to the point that I can t concentrate in school.

Question: Am I being overthinking this?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 10:39 AM PST

My husband and I have always visited NYC quite often. And this year for New Year's Eve, we brought along our 12 year old daughter. Before our show, we decided to grab an appetizer and a couple drinks. We went into a very nice piano bar, and got our food and drinks. We say at the bar, and my husband ordered a virgin drink for our daughter while we had ours. However now I'm thinking that it may have been a bad idea to have her sit in a "bar environment" at her age. I don't want her to be in a rush to have alcohol. Yes sometimes we go to a restaurant and order a drink with our dinner, but that's different than actually sitting in a bar. Just wanted another opinion in case I'm overthinking the situation.

Question: My mum is always threatening me !?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 10:38 AM PST

the other day she was screaming in the car at me and my brother on how much we were the worst kids and she wanted us dead and it really hurts cos i never go out i look after her 12 month old every day non stop I m behind in school I m crying myself to sleep every night i really want to die I m going to commit suicide if i dont get any help I m only 14 i don t live with my dad she abuses me sometime ?????what do i do i don t want to dob on her I m just gonna kill my self

Question: Do I have to file a divorce?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 10:34 AM PST

I have been really stressed out. I'm the only one who works because my wife doesn't work. We spend almost $1400 just on our bills($500 on rent, $200 on electricity, $200 on cellphone and internet bills $500 on our credit card bills). In addition to that, if we buy food and stuff, we spend more than I make. My debt is growining more and more and my credit is ruined. She complains about not enough food so I've been working hard and even had a night job. But she keeps complaining that I don't spend anytime with her. She gets so mad and cold. I tried to explain that I just don't get much time because I have to work hard to support the family but she keeps saying that I'm not taking care of the family. I'm the step father of her biological son. He is 8 years old and he can't even read the basic words like bag, find, and, bring even though he was born and raised in the US. I told her about it and she gets upset and keeps saying like I don't understand what being a single mom is like. He even has bad habits and I just told him to go to sleep at 3 m and and she got mad and said he's just a kid and said I'm mean. I can't even say anything now

Question: Is this bad parenting?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:56 AM PST

I'm sick and tired of my parents bringing me and my sisters to the casino hotel. They leave us in the room to gamble. Whenever I try to argue with them they say they're going to put us in danger if we stay in the house. My middle class neighborhood very rarely has any crimes. And the oldest sister is 16 and she can take care of us at home. For the whole 2016 year they have brought us to the casino for about 50 times. How tragic is that. And ever since Thanksgiving they brought us to the casino three holidays in a row: Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. During Thanksgiving the food sucks and it made my day terrible. They brought us to the casino three times over Thanksgiving break (9 days). For Christmas Eve the buffet was fine but not enough food to make the day. And on the day of Christmas I woke up in the morning and we were still in the hotel instead of waking up in the house to open our presents. On New Years I usually spend time with my parents to countdown. Instead they left us here to gamble money. During the nights I would always get pissed off, thinking about being 18 and moving out of their house because I have the right. Now my desire is freedom. AND **** THIS **** I cant spend time at home during the weekends because they're bringing us to the Goddamn casino! I just hate it there! It's full of adults and people are cussing and yelling! Do you think this is bad parenting? Do you think this is just terrible and stupid???!!!!

Question: How can I make my parents understand this? Plz read.?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:52 AM PST

I am an introvert and my parents do not understand it they ask me to interact with people and thy thnk that I am a complete loner but the thing is that I have a few friends with whom I share my feeling and talk to but just because I do not talk to these few people they forced me to talk to they have the idea that I am a complete loner and I just had a very big fight with them on this issue…. okay so I will explain …the thing is that I just moved away from home into a new city and in this city my uncle also lives and so my mother asked me to text him and notify him that I am also living in this city but I did not and it s been a week since then but she just recently found out that I had not texted him and she got really really angry and she was like if you do not communicate with them and talk to them they re going to think that I am being rudeand then slowly they also eliminate me and this I do understand but I just cannot make myself do it I have tried but I just cannot force myself to do this one thing.i respect my parents I agree with everything they say and we hv a good relationship but it is this one thing and they just cannot seem to understand.they also think that I consider myself as above my relatives n thus I dnt talk to thm… so I want to know if I am the wrong one and like how can I make my parents understand I am an introvert and I just cannot make myslf to just talk to someone out of the blue…

Question: My female friends tell me this is a VERY KINKY thing I did. Was it?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:46 AM PST

I was setting on the couch with my much younger 14 year old brother watching a movie on TV. The movie had a sex scene in it and my brother got a b0ner. He said "excuse me Sis, but something came up and I have to go take care of it but I REALLY want to watch this movie". "Please remember all the details so you can tell me when I get back". I told him he could spank the monkey setting on the couch and not miss any of the movie and I would leave the room and that is what I did. My gal friends that I told about this said that was a VERY kinky thing I did. They said you NEVER talk to any guy about spanking the monkey. They will deny they do it. Do you think what I did was really kinky. I was just trying to accommodate my brother so he could watch the movie. All guys do it (don't they) so what is the big deal?

Question: I worry about my little nephew all the time now?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:42 AM PST

Ok I know it wasn't really a question but I'm not sure how to. I have a 1 year old nephew he will be 2 in April, I am a female. My brother isn't really together with his mom but they are still married because the Air Force. Well she cheated on him then she cheated on that guy when she has my nephew she meets random guys at a motels, like what if they are a serial killer or a pedofile?! Now my brother isn't as bad of a parent but he doesn't buy the child much our mom buys him all of his clothes and food, yet he yells at her because some of it isn't good for you but she doesn't have much money so she asked why don't you do it? He was quiet about it since. I am worried about them moving across the country the baby probably won't be cared for much at all.

Question: My mom and her boyfriend keep fighting?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:31 AM PST

i m visiting my mom and her and her boyfriend argue almost everyday. They argued last night which was also my birthday and they re arguing again today, right now they arent talking, only texting. Usually they text when they re not in the same room and when they are they start yellimg, more him than her. What should i do?

Question: I'm in high school and I want to stop wrestling but my mom is making me still wrestle do you think she should?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:20 AM PST

I wanted to wrestle at the begging of the year this is my second year. But now I hate it and don't want to do it. I'd rather do Brazilian jujitsu and focus on school. But my mom says I can't quit and is making me still wrestle do you think she should be making me do it when I don't want to

Question: My parents limit my electronics time to the point where I might as well have none?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 09:17 AM PST

I m 14 and Indian guy. They limit my time telling me it is for my own good, but even my friends who would rather work than play get more time then me. If you are curious, I get 2 hours of video game time on the computer(my only gaming console) a WEEK. And I m not allowed to use my iPhone in the house. Is this normal, and how do I change this. My parents always acts disappointed in me btw, but we re Indians so I assume this is normal.

Question: Is my dad right?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 08:53 AM PST

I'm a soldier I'm proud to serve my country. My dad recently got out of prison he's a jerk and he was supposed to be serving a life sentence. Allegedly he killed people. My sister invited him over for the holidays (we haven't seen him since we were kids but from what I remember he was very abusive) anyway. He said to me that what I do as a soldier is no different from what he's been accused of. He's still as smug as I remember because he was trying to provoke a fight with me. Now he's got me questioning my life choices because I've always thought I was different from him now he's got me thinking I've just been fooling myself. His exact words were "So say I was a hitman or whatever not much difference between that and what you do same job different name Son." I mean maybe he's right maybe I'm a sociopath like he is (trust me he fits the bill) I use to think that my abusive childhood was why I never really felt stressed or whatever during any tense situations now I'm worried I'm just like my dad because I use to be a bad kid and then my mom married a military man and he helped me get through my problems now I wonder if I've just been fooling myself.

Question: My "parents"?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 08:44 AM PST

I do not understand... I m 13 and I m currently living with my grandparents (I m living with my grandparents because i was sick of living in the same house as both of my "parents"because of fighting)while my mom, her fiance (for like 2 years), and his 2 kids are living are all living in "our" new house that is not finished with its interior construction my mom wants to marry this guy (who I really do not like) he s a jerk he let s his bratty kids do whatever they want and is constantly fighting with my mom (no physical fights but intense screaming at each other) my mom almost had a child with him but the child sadly passed before birth a year later to the day my mother was very upset and her fiance was not or maybe he did not know but this was one of the many days that I was woken up by fighting she ended up haveing to go to the hospital because she was having a panic attack and I won t even talk about what happend at the fair. He s not who she should be with. I know I can t change anything I ve tried, but I just feel like I don t care anymore but I just don t know how to cope with everything.

Question: I was walking In the living room with my sister and I was sitting down. My mom asked If my sister would clean up my mom s mess.?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 08:08 AM PST

My sister stormed off and walked away. Keep in mind I would normally clean the mess up but my mom was being a B**** to me. So I walked away politely. I said in a second to my mom. We were going to go to the mall that day but then my mom screamed "YOUR NOT GOING!!!" to me and I asked "Why?" and My Mom Said "BECAUSE YOU IGNORED ME!" after that my sister quickly ran out and cleaned up trying to be a suck up. I begged because I wanted to go to spend only a few hours with my all night working father. But he agreed with my mom and I was left in the house alone while they had fun. I tried to address a conversation with them, they just ignored. This has gone on for a while now my dad just agreeing with my mom. I just wish somebody was on my side.

Question: My dad is a hermit and I hate it?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:56 AM PST

He literally NEVER leaves the house. He goes to work, comes home and sits in the kitchen all night. He is home all day every weekend. He's been this way pretty much my whole life. He's about to be 53 I think he should start living. He doesn't make enough money but he never even wants to visit friends. It's kinda pathetic. Before my mom passed she said I'm not to give up my life to sit home with my dad and let life pass me by like he does, but I feel bad for him? Every time I ask him to go somewhere he gets angry

Question: Why is it so hard to be a father in America??

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:38 AM PST

I c to many men going through it, if they can't please the mother they become a dead beat n everyone believes the mother while the man is lucky just to be a visitor. Why is there still not a child support card or anything??? Y does the broke mother have to use the man's money in order to support her own child?? If the woman can't support the child y not jus give custody to dad??? Y does the dad have to put in the blood sweat & tears jus to pretty much end up broke, homeless or in jail cuz he's a slave to the mother n being a visitor is a privilege??? The system is rigged to make jus about any dad look bad if he can't keep the mother happy. When will all this stop so kids can finally start having dads in their life???? We need that in America.

Question: I cry ever single day, because of my parents. I feel so unwanted. I don't know what to do?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:36 AM PST

Everyday i cry because of my parents. They always say i'm lazy and i don't anything when i always make sure my room is tidy and i even clean little things that they don't even notice, like when i have a shower, i clean up after myself and if i make them a coffee i clean the side up after me, even if i never made the mess, but still i don't do anything. They are always saying this; like I was sitting there on my phone and they were like ''make me a coffee'' and i was in a middle of a game on my phone and then like 2 mins after my mom goes '''i'll make the coffee then'' and then my dad goes ''she is to f****** lazy'' and he starts shouting at me so now i'm upstairs looking what to do now. I always try making an effort with them, like staying down stairs and watching moves with them but it just leads to arguments just because i don't make them a coffee, when they ask, like i still make them one quite often and then there are my brothers who are always upstairs and don't do nothing and they get shouted at for staying upstairs and not spending any time downstairs so i cant win! Bearing in mind, i can hardly do anything as i'm only 13, nearly 14 in feb and i can't go out on my own unless i'm with someone as i'm a girl and my dad gets paranoid. Also after getting shouted at i come upstairs like all week i've been upstairs alone with nobody to talk to and i hate it! I feel so unwanted! I don't know what to do anymore! I understand they're my parents but...idk. Am i being the brat?

Question: Was she getting mad ad me?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:20 AM PST

I'm dealing with the loss of my 2 aunts and my older friend came to check on me. I was very sick and cry and she was comforting me, I was saying how upset I was and how unbearable things were becoming. She was hugging me. Then I started saying " My anxiety builds as I get older because I know more losses are coming." Then she said "sweetie stop" and then she added "do you think your loved ones would like you being so torn apart?.. imagine how happy they must be in Heaven-" Was she getting mad at me when she told me "sweetie stop"

Question: Why does my dad love my sister more than me?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:20 AM PST

me and my sister are very nice and never even fight one day me and her asked my dad who he loved more he said he loved her more he loves our oldest brother more to he didn't even know him or that he was the dad for a while wasn't there when he was growing up why doesn't he care about me he says i make up the major depression me being suicidal or my feelings he puts his friends before me and my cousins before me he steals my loving grandmothers money and makes me help he doesn't care when i cry just yells at me to stop he has told me i am his least favorite child and i don't know why i am like my sister i look like my sister and i behave like my sister why does he like them MORE he doesn't care about me and didn't care about how i felt when he took me and my sister from our loving grandmother with me crying the whole time he wont help me he wont talk to me one on one and i am his least favorite of 4 and he doesn't even know the 4th. sorry for grammar and spelling

Question: Do you like to spend time with your family?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:14 AM PST

How do you spend Time together?

Question: The holidays aren't ever fun in my family?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:09 AM PST

By this I mean my parents aren't very open to people. With other family members we don't even spend time with them even though they live less than an hour away. Especially my dad. We had a little incident where a really drunk cousin of mine tried to swing at my dad but didn't actually hit him. Well my dad pressed charges against him and he was on probation at the time so he got put in jail. My cousin got caught with drugs on him later on after and now he's serving a longer sentence. Well now after all that happened now over 2 years later my dad still won't communicate with my uncle who is the father of my cousin who's in jail. I actually went over to his family's house one night and I told my dad about it because I was tired of him acting this way over something that wasn't that big of a deal. I had talked to my cousin about it in person and he was very apologetic before he went to jail again. Well when I told my dad about it he got super furious. He told me "whenever you f*cking want to you can go live with them and leave this house" like seriously ? Now every time we have a holiday it's spent inside the house not doing anything just our little family. Which is fine but it's so annoying having to live like this when I want to see my cousins who are related to the one that's in jail. I actually have 2 cousins in jail but that doesn't mean I can't see that part of my family. I still want to communicate with them but my dad doesn't approve of it. Like what the hell ? Oh and by the way that side of my family isn't all bad people it's only the 2 cousins I have in jail the rest are very good people. They make mistakes just like anyone else. Obviously if I knew they were all bad people and if I knew they were all into drugs I would stay away from them but that isn't the case. I'm 22 I can tell from right and wrong.

Question: My 4 year old likes his dad more than me. Here's why?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 07:02 AM PST

His dad has money to buy him whatever he wants. I was a single mom and when he was baking in my belly hi dad was mean violent and verbally abusive to me. He was a liar and cheater as well. We worked out our differences over the years. He was able to be in his sons life. Now he babies my son doesn't make him mind and buys him whatever he wants. My son calls him his best friend. Also when I was a single mom it was hard for me for a few years that my son was with me. I went through failed relationships and I sent my son to be with his dad because I couldn't afford to be with him. Now because me and his dad are helping each other out we moved under one roof. We don't sleep together and we just co parent. My son has a tablet that he plays on all day that his dad bought him. He won't eat and I cook very great. His dad can be mean to me but if I yell or cry my son tells me to be nice to daddy. Even though behind clothes doors my son doesn't see how sick I am of his dad trying to sleep with me and touch me and he keeps entering in my bedroom even though I don't want to be with him. My son only sees that his dad gives him things and can afford things because of his nice job but me I'm here I cook I clean I give him baths I'm the only one who teaches him things. My son only wants to be around his dad and he only sleeps in his dads room.

Question: My parents keep telling me that they I hope I die,what should I do?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 06:56 AM PST

Ok so basically my parents never wanted me(because I was not a boy like they hoped for) I do all that I can to try and be nice daughter, I do for them all the time all they still tell me they hope I die and that I am a sorry excuse for a daughter. I give them all my money from my job I work without putting up a fight or back talking them(they say I owe them all the money I make for being a burden.) I also wear the hand me downs and used clothes they provide me without fuss,but they still say I hope you die or you don't deserve to live. Yes i do struggle in school and get A's, B's, and C's instead of all A's like my older siblings have gotten, and I am more of a loser and loner unlike my siblings.

Question: Why would family members who were never metros in the first place, force the one who was a metro into being a macho man?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 06:28 AM PST

I missed out on attending a metrosexual program that parents took my teen siblings and eldest sibling, and now my family members have since "automatically assumed" I was one or forced me into being one just so it can suit their beliefs. My eldest sibling also defamed me on an online community with all the bad things he does. He also got others there to perceive me as a macho man when that's his identity, and not mine. I did miss out, but that was due to an unexpected problem at my office.

Question: What do you think?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 06:12 AM PST

My children refuse to get a job. We live in the south and public transportation is 15 miles away in the city, and the jobs are all in the city too. They refuse to walk 15 miles as they say it would take 6 hours. I refuse to buy them a bike. I refuse to teach them how to drive. I refuse to drive them. They have no money and I will not give them any or help them at all. They are 17 and 18. I am 53. Am I a good father? I am also not paying for them to go to college. I have had them in online school, but stopped letting them do it in 9th grade. They have not done any high school grades. That is not my problem.

Question: Any help with nervous breakdown?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 05:53 AM PST

I threw my plate of rice to my sister during a heated dinner conversation. It's because my sister treated my problem like a joke when i wanted it to be serious. We had an argument and i played silent with her until she said sorry. When she was mad, she didnt want me to laugh and now im mad and she's laughing. Shes a hypocrite. She was thinking it was funny when im mad at her when she accused me of saying a bad word but when i made a small nearly unnoticable mark in my essay, she got mad and i stopped laughing at it and printed my essay in another sheet. In short, when she is mad at me, she wants me to be serious but when im mad at her, she brushes it off like a joke and i lose my temper due to that.

Question: I NEED HELP I am threatened ?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 05:31 AM PST

Okay so I have got that iPhone 6 from my brother , he gave it to me .. he had had it for 2 years , and when he gave it to me he said , if u break this , then I am taking it away , and idk how !! But I accidenlty fell on the ground when I was running in a rainy day.. it was raining and I fell down and my iPhone came out of my pocket right into The water .. the street was flooded with water btw . I took it outta there it was working fine till I found out that I have problems with hardware ,cause the microphone doesn't work properly ! I can't let my brother take that phone away! If he does , he will convince my father to not buy me a new one cause he wants me to suffer !! I need help

Question: Uncle shot aunt in leg at new years?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 05:25 AM PST

During the countdown my uncle was sitting on the couch and my aunt was standing up watching tv. When it got to zero and it was new years he shot her right in the leg. He said, "wonderful way to start the new year." Then he said, "Next year I might aim a little higher." Why is he so nice to her? She is not very nice to him and his affection for her goes unmatched.

Question: What if all the Christmas presents I get in 2017 for family get stolen days before Christmas?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 05:20 AM PST

Question: My parents like to hold grudges how do I avoid their being brought into the conflicts they hold so dear?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 04:45 AM PST

They try to suck me into it by things like not telling me when we're invited somewhere by family but they hold grudges against. My mother does this especially iand sucks my dad into it and my dad is an enabler. When I object my mother says " I am your mother you're supposed to support me". I don't think my dad would be bad at all if it was just him. so I'm an adult but painted by my parents image even though I live out on my own. How do I avoid being sucked into their conflicts and bitterness? Other people might make mistakes but my parents don't need to hold a grudge for more than a day or two as it's small stuff.

Question: Why Won t my adult daughter move back to her home state?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 04:36 AM PST

She is struggling all the time. Struggling with career, struggling with men, struggling with drinking. I want her to come - take a breath and figure things out. Get into some therapy to wok through all her childhood crap. Learn to drive the car that sits in her driveway that is collecting dust. What I say sonthat she will see the light and say .... ahhhh, it doesn t have to be so hard family wants to help me.

Question: How can I help my sister??

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 04:30 AM PST

It's the second time that I'm asking this question, because I didn't get any useful answers in the first que stion... I'm an 18 year old female and I have a 10 year old sister... She's too naughty, bold, cheeky and brash... My parents are tired of her boldness and rudeness, that's why they want to send her to a boarding school, faraway from home... I'm also tried of her bad behaviour, but I love her and I don't want her to grow up far from her family... I'm afraid that the teachers will be abusive to her in the school... She still doesn't have puberty and she doesn't know how to manage it... I'm worried that the teachers won't help her in learning a few things about puberty and adolescence... I've tried to convince my parents to let her stay at home, but they said:"We've tried many ways to teach her to be a good girl... We've paid for a lot of therapists and consolers to find a treatment for her,but our efforts were vain, so the best solution is to send her somewhere faraway from us... "... I've also explained to my sister that if she continues behaving like this, she'll experience a very bad life in the boarding school, but she keeps teasing my parents...

Question: My children refuse to lose weight. Should I kick them out?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 03:48 AM PST

My son has a 28 inch waist he weighs 129 pounds he is 5 foot 6, my daughter has a 26 inch waist she weighs 124 poudns she is 5 foot 7. I don't let them choose what they want to eat. They call me a "jerk" but I am not one. For breakfast I allow them to eat 150 calories, for lunch I let them eat 300 calories, for dinner I let them eat 250 calories. Why are they so rude to me? I have been doing this off and on to them for 5 years

Question: My dad is stalking us?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 03:31 AM PST

My parents are divorced and I live with my mum and sister. We went on a trip for a few days and my dad sent me a message. My mum and sis don t talk to him and they didn t want him to know that we re on a trip, so I didn t answer that message. Then he sent me a message saying that our car is parked and that lights ara off and he asked if everything is ok. I answered him that everything is good, but next day I again got a message saying that our car is still parked, that lights are still off and that he hopes we re having fun. That really creeps me out and I wander if I can tell him that if he does that again I ll report it?

Question: How can I help my sister??

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 03:29 AM PST

I'm an 18 year old female and I have a 10 year old sister... She's too naughty, bold, cheeky and brash... My parents are tired of her boldness and rudeness, that's why they want to send her to a boarding school, faraway from home... I'm also tried of her bad behaviour, but I love her and I don't want her to grow up far from her family... I'm afraid that the teachers will be abusive to her in the school... She still doesn't have puberty and she doesn't know how to manage it... I'm worried that the teachers won't help her in learning a few things about puberty and adolescence... I've tried to convince my parents to let her stay at home, but they said:"We've tried many ways to teach her to be a good girl... We've paid for a lot of therapists and consolers to find a treatment for her,but our efforts were vain, so the best solution is to send her somewhere faraway from us... "...

Question: Can I run away to my dad during my mom's custody legally?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 02:56 AM PST

First things first; I live in Texas and have done some research about divorce laws, second, my parents are divorced with a 50/50 custody, third, my mom is barely home and I don't like/ don't want to live with her. So here remains my question, can I legally "run away" to my dad's house during my mom's custody and stay with him a few nights? I know I am old enough to stay wherever I want so long as my mom or dad aren't forcing me to(according to state laws), so can I go to my dad's house during my mother's custody over me without him getting arrested? I really need some help in this situation, as my father is the only family I have who is there for me besides my sister.

Question: My dad is so annoying?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 02:32 AM PST

Well, the kitchen is closer to my dads room He passes that kitchen and comes far to my room and say get me some orange juice or whatever I don't know why he does that it's so annoying especially when I play video games like I'm already in game why would he do that

Question: My sister showed my diary to everyone?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:43 AM PST

I have one full journal that chronicles all of high school. Im in the middle of my second one, and I m almost 19. My soster is 15 and she showed my first diary to all of my cousins and former cruch (totally over it now, he s an *** although I did write about him). He brings it up a lot and I know they laugh at me. I feel violated. I honestly don t know why my sister hates me, because she steals all my stuff, all of it, calls me names all the time about my weight (I m not even fat), everytime I say something, even if not to her but just in her presence, she yells at me to shut up. She is always trying to make me feel inferior and dumb and stupid in front of everyone. I hate that she showed my journal to everyone, especially him, because it s the only place I can vent. It s the only place I ve written about wanting to get away... away. I guess I m asking what to do about it. I live on campus noe but when I m here,,,, shes a ***** and i just found out she showed my diary again. I dont know what to do I have ro keep writing

Question: Is this stalking?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:36 AM PST

My parents are divorced and I live with my mum and sister. We went on a trip for a few days and my dad sent me a message. My mum and sis don t talk to him and they didn t want him to know that we re on a trip, so I didn t answer that message. Then he sent me a message saying that our car is parked and that lights ara off and he asked if everything is ok. I answered him that everything is good, but next day I again got a message saying that our car is still parked, that lights are still off and that he hopes we re having fun. That really creeps me out and I wander if I can tell him that if he does that again I ll report it?

Question: Cutting out family members who pretend to care?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:09 AM PST

I have had years of pain and suffering, and hate. I want to let go of this once and for all. I was adopted by my grand parents, so my brother and sisters (As I've come to know them) were their children, and I was told that my biological mother was one of those sisters.. I was bullied in school my life. My biological father claims that Doug lied to him and said he'd get to see me in a verbal agreement, after my biological father agreed to sign my adoption papers. I haven't had it easy. marijuana use and video games have been my escape. I need to cut them out, because I really don't want anything to do with them. I have so much baggage and hatred for them that any chance of mending a relationship that was never there is pointless.. I have given up, and it will hurt, but I need to cut the cord. I need to get them out of my life, I've given up on family once more.

Question: Brother moving back home?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:02 AM PST

My brother moved out to my city so he can spend Christmas with us after 2 years, he goes back tomorrow, I started crying this morning at 2 am because I'm afraid to let go, he hasn't been here for 2 years and now that he's finally here I'm so happy, but I keep thinking of the fact that he has to go back tomorrow, Tears keep streaming down my face and my eyes are red from how long I've been crying. I have minor anxiety because it runs in my family so I don't know if that has something to with that but I have always had a problem with people, letting someone in and then them leaving. I let him in.. Too much, only for him to have to go back to Arizona tomorrow and I know I'll be crying at the airport asking him why he has to go, i just can't deal with loving someone only for them to leave.. It's tearing me apart slowly

Question: Do you think this is bad parenting? Do you think this is terrible??? Bringing kids to the casino hotel and leaving them there?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 01:02 AM PST

I'm sick and tired of my parents bringing me and my sisters to the casino hotel. They leave us in the room to gamble. Whenever I try to argue with them they say they're going to put us in danger if we stay in the house. My middle class neighborhood very rarely has any crimes. And the oldest sister is 16 and she can take care of us at home. For the whole 2016 year they have brought us to the casino for about 50 times. How tragic is that. And ever since Thanksgiving they brought us to the casino three holidays in a row: Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. During Thanksgiving the food sucks and it made my day terrible. They brought us to the casino three times over Thanksgiving break (9 days). For Christmas Eve the buffet was fine but not enough food to make the day. And on the day of Christmas I woke up in the morning and we were still in the hotel instead of waking up in the house to open our presents. On New Years I usually spend time with my parents to countdown. Instead they left us here to gamble money. During the nights I would always get pissed off, thinking about being 18 and moving out of their house because I have the right. Now my desire is freedom. AND **** THIS **** I cant spend time at home during the weekends because they're bringing us to the Goddamn casino! I just hate it there! It's full of adults and people are cussing and yelling! Do you think this is bad parenting? Do you think this is just terrible and stupid???!!!!

Question: I want to go home??? Help?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:41 AM PST

So I'm in another state visiting my mom for New Years and I really just want to go home to my dad/family in another state but my plane ticket is in another 7 days but I really just want to go home. I love my mom and all but I don't think she's all that great and I love my dad and miss him. What do I do?? I just want to go back home :/ I don't really like my sisters here either

Question: I'm embarrassed by my family?? Help please?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:37 AM PST

Honestly I'm done with my sisters and my mom. I am the only one who wants to go to college and get an education and do great things and earn money and become successful and then there's my sisters who smoke and underage drink and it's all they talk about anywhere and they don't want to go to college and they say money is irrelevant. They embarrass be a lot and I hate being around them and my mom condones this behavior. I'm the youngest one but I'm the only mature one. I live with my dad who is a very responsible father and my mother always asks me why I don't want to live with her and it's cause she's an irresponsible mother. And my mom is always telling me how my dad is a terrible father and he is full of bull**** but that's really her. When people at school come up to me and ask me if I'm related to them I just want to disappear. I'm so ashamed of my sisters that I want to cut them out of my life but I live with them so i can't and I can't talk to them because they don't listen to anybody but themselves so someone please help me and tell me what I should do please. I'm so done with them

Question: I am a gay male and meant a guy last night that has austism, I have very little knowledge of it. My 17 yr old brother also has it.?

Posted: 01 Jan 2017 12:19 AM PST

So my half brother has it too, but we are 15 years apart so I really don't have vast knowledge of it. My question is; and please excuse my spelling, my auto correct is not working. Actually I have alot of questions. 1: he makes weird noices out of no where, only happened 4 or 5 times while we were sleeping on the floor and watching tv, kinda like he was tring to let something out. Would also like to state he is 12 years younger than me, im 34. He, unlike my half brother is great at communicating, he would not stop talking when we meant," it was nice no awkward scilence" which is competely different than my brother who is a total intravert. He over thinks everthing and thinks he is not attractive, I use to model and I know I look good for my age, he looks better than I did at his age, but he has no cofidence at all. So my brother and him both supposeduly have aspergers < "spelled wrong im sure". He also likes to stare straight into my eyes, even when im not looking for way to long, is that normal? So i have not really just asked 1 question here, Im really just looking for your thoughts as to what his problem really might be. My brother is crazy good at math with no communication skills, he is the oppoisite. Any help? I like him alot, hes great a communicating and very romantic. Few examples, killing my forehead, and the side of my knew, always wanting to hold my hand.

Question: If both parents call daughter awful names and threaten her ,tell everyone bad things about her to they love her?Or want to get rid of her?

Posted: 31 Dec 2016 11:46 PM PST