Family: Question: Can I move out?

Question: Can I move out?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 01:33 PM PST

I'm 16 years old. I'll be 18 next year. My parents are very religious, in fact, they don't allow me to wear makeup (only a little for blushing) or do a lot of things. I'm very shy and I need makeup to cover my blushing. I always blush. They don't let me out of the house often whatsoever. Even if I go out of the house, it really hard because I'm never socialized. It's really tough living with my parents because they constantly remind me that I'm basically a failure. I want to go to college and get an education but my father doesn't like the idea of me leaving him next year. I want to leave now, if I could I would. There's many issues here and I can't keep up with them. I find myself depresssed and wanting to not live often. I'm not suicidal, though. I can't look sad or not happy because my father will call me "not a Christian because Christians don't get sad" and he will take away my makeup and my phone. I want to leave to go live with my grandparents but I don't think my parents would legally let me. It's illegal to move out at this age and they may or may not let me get the okay to move out. They don't really care for me. I don't think I can wait to turn 18. What should I do?

Question: Mom smashed my phone out of anger?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 12:56 PM PST

im 16 years old. the argument started with me sitting on the couch and ill admit i did give her attitude about her being loud and trying to sit with me. and it escalated with her on top of me screaming at me to give her my phone (she doesn't pay my phone bill nor did she buy me that 900$ phone my father did and they are separated) even then i wasn't denying giving her phone i kept telling her to get off of me and ill give it to her i gave in and gave her my phone with her still on top of me. she still didn't get off and ended up hitting me about twice while i was screaming. she left no physical bruises but it hurt me a lot. and then after she told me that she will smash it if i say another word and i tried to reason with her and tell her that its my phone that she hasn't paid for and that shes more than welcome to take away anything else she bought me and that she cant physically harm me. and her response was i own you and i can beat you senseless if i wanted to. and i was like fine just break my phone and she did. my father isn't in my life and thinks child support is all he has to pay. i only see him once every two weeks because he has a new wife and family. he makes good money as he works for a good company in a highup position.my cellphone and computer are all which he has given me even on birthdays all he has given me are cards. (which i still value0 i want to have a good relationship with my mother because she really is one of my best friends but she wont apologize or listen to what i have to say dont comment cps. or tell me to move out. be realistic guys.

Question: Is this a mental disability?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 12:55 PM PST

So a few years ago, my mom and I were living a good life. We were happy. She had a job and we could afford to do things/buy things, however, that all changed when she got fired. My mom has been out of a job for six years now, and it has been difficult. She thinks that I have a disability because I'm "depressed". But what does she expect? We have no money to do anything, we can hardly afford to eat McDonald's (let alone actual food from the grocery store), and we had to move twice because my mom could not afford the rent. So, she's making me go to counseling because she thinks I have a "disability". Her reasoning for this is because apparently, I'm never happy (around her) and I'm withdrawn. I'm fine around my friends, so I don't think I have a problem.

Question: What can I do about a little brother that cries too much?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 12:42 PM PST

So I have a little brother of eleven years old, and everywhere he is known as a crybaby. He is very sensitive about almost everything; at school, he is being bullied because of it, and at sports (soccer) his teamplayers are extra careful towards him. He also cries a lot at home, whenever my parents get into a small fight (or an argument) he starts to cry. Once he even cried because I cut my finger while cutting apples. I really don t know what I should do about it, and I just want him to become less sensitive. It s very important that he develops a thick skin before he gets to puberty, because the older you grow, the meaner people get. Does anyone know how I can teach him to be tougher?

Question: My parents dont care about me?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 12:39 PM PST

I'm homeschooled because I can't talk to people but my grandparents (I live with them not my parents) don't even try to teach me anymore. They just buy cheap books for me to do that arent even near my grade most of the time and they barely ever get new ones. The only reason they want me to do it is so they don't get in trouble. And they're more worried about CPS than me because my grandma is always talking about it. Like if I dont clean my room she says "If CPS saw this they would take you away". I couldnt talk to people when I was a little kid and they never did anything except take me to therapists that didnt even help and they just gave up on me. I have nothing to do besides stay in my room and they just ignore me all day except for food and when they need something. What should I do?

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Posted: 17 Feb 2017 12:08 PM PST

Question: I just got done breastfeeding in my office and my husbands ex girlfriend is touching my boobs should I pull my bra up or let her touch me?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 12:00 PM PST

Question: So jealous of my sister?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 11:34 AM PST

My sister is living in England with my Dad and relatives while I am stuck living in America with my Mom. I hate where I live, I miss my Dad and sister, and I want the life that my sister has. My Dad has chosen her over me. She has the best life now and my life is awful. What do I do? (Moving there is not a possibility).

Question: My mother likes getting a rise out of me.?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 11:33 AM PST

Seriously, she laughs at me when I m telling her my goals, and then when I make an outburst, she goes like, "Why are you cussing?" Who the **** provokes someone and then asks them something like that?

Question: Overweight daughter doesn't care?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 11:27 AM PST

She's only 14, but over 200 pounds. She's in denial about her weight; isn't bothered by it, doesn't ever exercise. We fight about it but she says she feels fine, what do I do?

Question: I don t want to live like this anymore.?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 10:19 AM PST

When I was about five years old I was molested by one of my brothers friends and then by one of my neighbors, my mom had a close relationship with them, when I told my mom about what happened she told me not to tell anyone not even my bad that it should stay between us, I was just a little kid so I did what she said, when I was 13 it happened again by my now ex boyfriend, I didn t tell anyone since he was my boyfriend I thought it was normal or ok for him to do that, when I turned 16 I got raped by a stranger and I guess it was my fault since I was skipping class at the time, I was so afraid of telling my mom that everyday when I got home from school I would go to my room and cry, I cried for a week straight before telling her, I shouldn t have told her because she got super mad at me and said I was stupid for letting that happen to me she cursed at me all she could i just left the house that night I felt so sad and heartbroken how could my mom tell me all that stuff. I just wanted to tell some about it so I told my bf, he didn t believe me, all he said was "I know you like Being treated like that" and so he raped me again. I had to go home and my mom acted like if nothing ever happened. Now I m 19 and think about ending my life constantly, I can t talk to anyone about my feelings since I ll just get ignored like usual. I can t live like this anymore! The only thing that stops me from suicide are my youngest siblings but somedays not even then cross my mind.

Question: How do I snuggle up against my Dad and feel safe like when a little kid?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 09:19 AM PST

Question: Would it be purposeless to call the police? My brother tried to push me down the stairs.?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 08:55 AM PST

My brother go in my face. And I got up to hold him back from getting in my face. And he grabbed me and tried to push me down the stairs.

Question: Why do most people love their mother than father do you think?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 08:35 AM PST

Not all but most people love their mom than dad more, no matter which age young or old most people say I love my mom especially children. When I ask somebody who do you love more your mother or father almost everybody says my mom, very few say my dad. Even in family's where the father is affectionate to the kids and the mother cold or strict they still love their mom more and cling more on to her. When I watched the movie Parent Trap of Lindsay Lohan where she played twins and switched with sister to see the opposite parent they never saw pretended like they are the other twin sister. She cried when she saw her mom for the first time but never cried when she saw her dad for the first time. I wonder why this is. Is it because moms deserve that cause they suffer 9 months and afterwards 18+ years or is it just in our nature and DNA to love our moms more cause they are something special. They gave us life and because of them we exist or is it something else? Do we just love them more for no exact reason. Even my dad says a father can never replace a mother, a mother is a mother and way important than a father. He loves his mother very much too and is a mama's boy.

Question: Is it unmanly to cry?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 08:29 AM PST

My aunt warned my parents that she saw three ice trucks immigration trucks and I was so flipping scared about my parents they came here illegally and the first thing that pops in my mind is my little sister and that brings tears to my eyes and I felt so bad I was hurt I know my little sister will be devastated is there a way to help my parents get papers my dad the main one who supports this family and my little sister has a mental illness and my friend told me that my parents can get papers quick about my little sisters illness is this true I really don't want my parents deported if that does happen I got nothing in life and I would be preying for danold trump assassinated cause he the worst president and needs to ******* die or I'll be sleeping good once this president is dead

Question: My dad told my mum that I have a nice ***,waist and sexy lips.Why would he tell this mum?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 08:27 AM PST

Question: Is he stalking me?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 08:15 AM PST

Dear everyone, I am currently following an internship at a company as an assistant. However I am currently doubting about my phone, e-mail and well my privacy. My boss, my intership praticioners brother, the owner of the company has said several times that HE as well doubts about the privacy of the company. He once mentioned the fact that you can people can listen through your phone, without even being on the phone with you (as if there is a microphone in the phone so the government can stalk you). Now he mentioned it again, stating that someone has been trying to hack the company's website several times. He gets a lot of e-mails stating that from different IPs with one who sent him some porn websites. What I have noticed and well I am alarmed now. Is that my internship praticionar - my boss. He has been saying some, "weird" **** lately. For instance, the last time I was talking to my dad about going on vacation to a certain place and I told my dad that it would be between for example 23 may - and 8 june. However I stopt the conversation and we haven't talked about it. Today I told my internship praticionar that I might go on vacation, but I don't know when. He first asked me - weirdly - "where? I told him the place and he asked me, where that is, and I respond close to another country. He than looked up to the IT and asked me when will I go. I told him I am not sure, maybe for Easter or earlier. I don't know the date. He then said. "Is it 23 - 8? Is it?"...

Question: How should I respond when my mom told me about her sex life with my stepdad and about the sex lives of other relatives?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 07:49 AM PST

I am scared that people find out that I know stuff and therefore won't want to be around me. But my mom won't shut up about it.

Question: I have not spoken to my mother in nine years. If I were to reach out to her what do I say without getting caught back in the same situation?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 07:12 AM PST

She is a narcissist and I was the scapegoat child. On one hand I'm happy without her on the other hand she's my mother and I'll have regrets if she dies one day. I doubt very much that she's changed any. She always resented me because I had learning disabilities and so it was not a straight a student like my two sisters. Plus I'm a guy. my sisters don't speak to me either but they're under the command of their mother. I'm close to my dad and he's divorced from my mother. So I'm curious if I were to seek her out what would I say assuming she's not changed any? I'm 30 now so I'm older than I was when I broke free of her at 21. This is just how she was raised so I'm not sure if she knows she's a narcissist or if it's just how she was made. She did hurt me a lot emotionally though when I was a kid by favoring my siblings.

Question: I'm trying to bond with my 4 year old daughter-however her mother keeps poisoning her against me how to stop this?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 06:58 AM PST

Question: I'm trying to bond with my 4 year old daughter-however her mother keeps poisoning her against me how to stop this?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 05:56 AM PST

Question: My father passed away 5 days ago we have no idea how to handle all the legal issues like closing his small business.?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 05:51 AM PST

Our parents were not organized to put it graciously. My mom is now cash poor but house rich. My mom, sister and I have no idea how to even begin to close my dad's small business - don't know it there are bills that need to be sent or paid. Don't know about other accounts there might be.We don't even know if there are things need to be taken care of that we are completely unaware of their existence. We can't afford to hire a lawyer(s) to come to sit at our house for 5 days straight and help us through every little thing, even though that is what we feel like we need. Can someone give me direction? I am hoping no one will criticize my parents for this. That won't help the situation as it is. Plus, if you knew my dad, you would have loved him and wouldn't want to say something hurtful. Thank you.

Question: What do you think of my mom?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 05:36 AM PST

My mom is always doing things like checking my phones, going though my online record. She is clearly snooping on me, but she doesn't think so. She thinks she has every right to know everything about me. Neverthe less the fact that I am 19 and in college now. I tell her things and keep her posted of my school life. I don't keep her out of the loop or particularly hide things from her. I just let her know all the normal things parents should know about their kid's life, which clearly doesn't satify her. When I talk to her about my problems, she does listen. But it is more like whatever she hears, she would come to the same conclusion:you are young so you are wrong. It seems to me that she just wants me to take stuff meekly and never give a second thought about it. I just see something wrong, I am not even talking about changing it, can't I just say it is wrong? You want to know so much about me. Then why aren't you listening to what I say? Usually she would interrupt me before I even finish what I am talking about, sometimes even a sentence. Now I just think it is not possible to communicate with her. I was straight A student back in high school and am now in college. My mom made some bad investment with our money and is now complaining why my college would cost so mcuh and why I wouldn't work to earn money. I don't get why she is saying so since she is the one taking all the money I made during summertime while I was saving up for college. I still need to focus on my study.

Question: How do I get my mom not to abandon me a New York this weekend?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 05:28 AM PST

We're going to New York and I heard her tell or boyfriend that she's gonna leave me there with my aunt. My mom has a boyfriend and they both do drugs together I guess that's why she wants to leave me there. I like my aunt a lot but I don't want to be abandoned there I might never see my mom again. She did this to my sister when I was a baby and she never saw her again.

Question: My dad comes into my home when I am working. What do I do?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 04:36 AM PST

I recently figured out that my father is coming to my house when I leave for work. I live alone with my daughter and he is recently retired. I am 37. I realized that he is coming to use the restroom and eat his lunch here (take out bags in the trash). I am not okay with this. He lives in the country and I am int he city. Hs started having packages sent to our house. I don't mind that too much. I got one yesterday, and I put it away in the garage. I just waned to see if he said anything about it. It as gone today! I am so upset that he does this and violates my boundaries and my respect. I dont want to hurt his feelings, but I dont like it and I feel violated about it. How do I handle this? Thank you. Oh and I do have a lock. It he knows where I keep my hide a key. I took it tonight and put it inside the house. I have a feeling he can get in with his own key he made.

Question: Did my eldest sibling have every right doing this to me?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 03:34 AM PST

My eldest sibling has put me into a situation where I am seen as the exact opposite of everyone and that women and metrosexuals would laugh at me and give strong disapproval if I appear in certain places, dress in a certain manner, get a styled haircut, see it as a major insult if I freestyle, or by giving people even the slightest idea I'm metrosexual. His reason for doing this to me, he decided he no longer wants to be a macho man and thinks he was "metro" before me after parents took teen siblings and him there while I missed out due to work. He also did this at the wrong time due to the fact this organisation was already believing in other lies about me since 2010. My identity was naturally aligned to metrosexuality even before he attended this metro program and got those ideas. I find it extremely insulting why he should do this to me.

Question: I hate my family so much i wish we were torn apart!?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 02:37 AM PST

my dumb sister got me sick and my idiot family wont do anything

Question: My mum spent my money on random stuff!?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 02:34 AM PST

I had some money left over in from my birthday and I left it in my safety deposit box which is normally hidden away. But, one night I kept it out on my kitchen counter and yet my mum just took the money out of the box and spent it on random stuff for my birthday as "presents". What should I do?

Question: Who's in the right?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 02:27 AM PST

Basically. today I was in the hospital in an infusion center for 4 hours with sleeping meds, etc. Me and my dad don't have many problems until after we get out. My dad doesn't seem to understand that I am tired and that I don't want to be in the sun! I wanted cold air conditioning but no, instead he gives me hot air conditioning making it even worse. I was sweating in the hospital for 4 hours because I couldn't get out of the chair unless it was to use the bathroom.So I just want the air conditioning cold but he has to make it so complicated! I had gotten out of the car while he was driving because he was not listening to me. I have anger problems so when I'm at home I just walk out of the house. In this case, i just walked out of the car 2 times. I just wanted some cold air conditioning and some peace as well. He was annoying me on purpose by putting the music loud and pulling down the windows when he KNEW I was on the Benadryl serum and other sleeping medications. as we were arguing he had decided to act like a 6-year-old and pull wax from his ears and flick it on me. Very disrespectful! That to me is at the same level as spitting on someone. Anyways we were arguing and I did say something that wasn't nice that I did regret 5 seconds afterward. I told him that he's a roach that doesn't go away and he can live in the car when my mother comes over. BTW he hates my mother's guts and he doesn't want her to come over and I only get to see her for 4 times a year for only 5 days. The reason why I told him to go sleep in the car was because he's cheap and he doesn't like my mother to come over and because they're in a bad situation. My mom doesn't want to see him so that's why I made that comment. The reason why I told him to go sleep in the car was because he's cheap and he doesn't like my mother to come over and because they're in a bad situation. My mom doesn't want to see him so that's why I made that comment.

Question: Is it wrong to hate your own dad?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 01:53 AM PST

I'm 21 and 2 days ago i got into a fight with my dad. My dad has assaulted me 4 times before (and calls it discipline) from throwing boxes of cereal at me, punching me multiple times in the face, body slamming me, and choking me. He's always been such a jerk and not just to me but others, and when he is nice i do not find it suthentic. This point I'm recovering from a knee surgery that I got 6 weeks ago and I had to go back home to my parents to recover (I go to ASU and live on campus) I'm on crutches too BTW. He choked me for a long time in front of my siblings in the kitchen because I told him to calm down and would clean up the crumbs from the counter (that he made from eating cake) I scratched his arms pretty bad in order to get out if that choke hole and he told me to leave his house. I was just fine with that too, but that didn't stop their he followed me to my room and started punching me in my head and finally I snapped and started punching him back. I'm sad because after being assaulted by him so many times, it kind of felt good to do it and that's why I feel bad because what kid wants to be happy to hit their father? So yeah I'm still on my crutches and I'm staying with my friend for a little while. I feel so glad to be back away from him, like I'm just so happy when he's not in my life. I hate to be estranged from him, but I can't keep being a punching bag. I've hated him so much and it has grown so much I don't think I can ever truly forgive him and reconcile.

Question: My dad is a pu$$y and does everything his mother tells him to and always justifies her. How do I make him normal?

Posted: 17 Feb 2017 01:15 AM PST

Since my mom left us, I've been seeing more thatn before, how blind he is in terms of his mother. That woman is a terrible person- she makes all sorts of mind games on me 24/7 and whenever I say something to my dad he is on her side. Now I understand that you may think I'm angsty or something, but I'm not- because cooking onion and making the whole house stink because she isn't opening windows (and it's warm outside!) or putting dirty dishes as clean, or putting her jaws in my mugs and not washing them also throwing crums and dead insects on the floor instead of the bin is a FUKKEN MIND GAME and makes me mad because I've told her politely not to do any of those things for a thousand times, and when I rebel- ooooohhhh I'm the bad person. I just hate her, idk how my mom managed to live with this monser for 20 years.... Pint is, his mother has complete control over him, like he is still a kid! How do I overcome this? (I can't move aesy beause I live in a ****** up country where you can't find a job (and even if you do, who knows IF you'll ever get paid))

Question: Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 11:00 PM PST

Alright so recently out of no where my dad gave me this cutip looking thing and told me to rub it against my cheeks (inside). Then I asked what it was, he said he would tell me later. Since I have been caught with weed many times I assumed it was a drug test. I am the oldest of my siblings and Im 18 btw, 3 other siblings.Today I found a box that had those cutips and it said it was dna testing.... I was in disbelief. It said "father and son testing". I cant believe he even had a thought of me possibly not being his. Idk we never had a real close relationship, but it was never to ever make me question if hes my dad. Idk how to confront him but I just want to know, am I wrong for feeling this way? Doesnt this show he doesnt love me? The fact that he wanted to test? Please help. Btw I asked him if it was a drug test and he said yesh, so he lied

Question: How do I cope being the unsuccessful sibling?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 10:49 PM PST

I have two brothers and I am the middle child. My parents has been pushing us to get into the medical field. My older bro has a successful career as a nurse and little brother is about to graduate from RT school in a year. And I'm the one who couldn't get into PT school not because my grades weren't good but because they were good enough (my gpa was 3.6 needed a 3.8). I got into nursing school thou and failed out first try. Now I have been branded a failure by my parents. My siblings are more successful than I am. How do I cope being the unsuccessful child? The failure? The child who everyone believed was going to be the most successful but turned out to be a complete let down.how does one cope with all this?

Question: Why am I shorter than my dad?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 10:43 PM PST

I'm 17 and 5'6 and my dad is around 5'8. First question is why am I shorter than my dad and the second is will I still grow?

Question: How do I make my mum stop crying over me smoking weed?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 10:38 PM PST

My mum found out that I smoke weed because my sister has told her. She start crying and think its going to ruined my life, she say I am going to hallucinate and do weird stuff and hurt myself. But the thing is it doesn't work like that, weed just make me chill. She has told me dad but my dad is cool with it since he smoke weed during his teen year. How do I make her stop crying, since weed aint going to kill me and if she want me to stop I will stop but she think im addicted.

Question: My 12 year old met a "boyfriend" online - help?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 10:38 PM PST

My 12 year old daughter can be quite rebellious and has been caught lying to us many times over the past two years or so. Not specifically about what she does online, but things like not doing her homework, being rude to people, spending money on things, and whether she ate her fruits and vegetables or not. I never allowed her to have social media. Not because of the age thing, but because of the fact that she lies to her parents and she isn't very trustworthy. She went on a chatroom and started talking to a male person who claims to be 14. She did it by using the school computers and she even gave out her phone number and where she lives. We found out when her teacher confiscated her phone for texting during class and she found inappropriate sexual messages on it, then contacted us immediately. I need her to understand that this stranger is not her boyfriend, and he is most likely not a 14 year old kid who wants to make new friends online. He doesn't have the hobbies that a typical 14 year old would have and his texts are mostly sexual. I called the police and they are investigating. Meanwhile, her phone is taken away and she is never to be allowed to use electronics again unless it's schoolwork. She blames us for not letting her have Facebook or Snapchat in the first place, but the ONLY reason we restricted those apps was because she isn't honest with us and she's very vulnerable. Not because we "hate" her or want to isolate her from her peers, we're just being parents.

Question: How should I educate my 13 year old daughter about online safety?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 10:17 PM PST

My 13 year old daughter secretly created a virtual avatar on this game called Weeworld. She asked me if she could sign up, but I told her no because after searching it up, the game sounded very inappropriate because people actually do "virtual porn" on there. She secretly made an account at a public library computer and has been using it for a while. She lied to me that she's stays after school to do schoolwork when all this time she's been spending it on a video game. I found out when she was taking a shower and her phone kept beeping and someone was spamming her with text messages. I read them all and it turned out to be a male who claims to be her "boyfriend" and kept telling her to go on Weeworld. The number was unfamiliar and when I searched it up, it was all the way from America! We're Canadian and she knows no one who's all the way from Manhattan. She confessed that she lied to us and gave him her phone number. He also knows all kinds of details about her family life, school life, and which part of Canada we're from. With that kind of info, it won't be hard for a predator to easily stalk her and find out more information. I took all electronics away, no more library trips without an adult going with her, she's absolutely grounded, and she's in serious counseling. Thank God I never allowed her to have any social media at all, otherwise it would've even been easier for someone to find out more about her life. Not because of her age, she just isn't trustworthy enough.

Question: Brother and I plan to kill ourselves.?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 10:08 PM PST

This isnt really a question of any kind, more so I just wanna put this out there for someone to maybe see and I don't know, connect with or some ****. im 17. My brother is 14. We are best friends. Like best friends, ever. We sleep together, we eat together, we just live together. Our mom and dad are ***** though. They beat the **** out of us for everything, especially sleeping together and stuff our dad hates how close we are. We can't really like be close anymore cause of that. But we were hanging out a month or so ago, and my brother said suddenly that we should kill ourselves together, like a not romantic Romeo and Juliet. We are probably going to do that at the end of this month. It will be our chance at peace. It's exciting to know we're gonna be at ease and just have each other. But it's scary, really scary, it could go wrong in so many ways. What if he dies and I don't, then I'd be so screwed. My parents would probably kill me and I want it to be by my choice to die. I guess it is just a big gamble, but what ever. So is everything else in life. thanks to anyone who read this, hope you guys have a good night or day or whatever.

Question: Helpful(positive) advice!?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 09:58 PM PST

I want my partner to be happy with me. I want things to be good between us. I slacked a lot on the relationship so is said. I was not a good listener I was not good at cleaning or cooking or maintaining the household in any way. I know that I slacked but I was so young and I slack a little still. I am a 24 year old mother of 3. I have a 5 year old 2 year old and 1 year old. I've been an at home mom since I was 18 years old. At this point my children's father is fed up with me because I've slacked so it's like whatever I try to do now is not good enough because he had to go through so much to get me on my feet. I have honestly been depressed throughout the years. I've also been Exhausted because I'm always busy. I have never gotten any me time unless I was in the hospital giving birth. He is a magnificent provider but he never listens to me. Im weak if I was to tell him what be on my mind. I just don't know how to go about things anymore.

Question: Have you ever had a normal conversation turn into an unexpected argument?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 09:37 PM PST

Ok so I ordered a pizza and with the delivery charge tax tip and sides it was $28. I paid for the pizza myself. I don't order pizza on a regular basis either. My husband was laughing at the fact the I paid $28 for just a pizza. Then it evolved and evolved and evolved into the HUUUGE argument about how I need to make healthier choices cause I won't be able to raise a family one day if I don't. I mean I get that but I'm only 21 and I don't plan on having kids anytime soon and if I want to order a pizza I will! Anyways..... that's just an example lol the question here is, have you ever had something so small and menial turn into the biggest fight ever?

Question: I am attracted to my brother's wife?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 09:34 PM PST

I am 16, and my hormones are out of control and I do not know what to do about them, but in the meantime, I am sexually attracted to my brother's wife, and I would like to be sexually engaged, even though I know that it is wrong and I do not want to, but my body is begging me to because she is really hot. What should I do about this?

Question: A 19 year old girl holding hands with her dad in public....?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 08:58 PM PST

I have a close friend who's a 19 year old girl. Her dad is famous. He's not extremely well known, but he's famous enough to occasionally have paparazzi following him. The other night, my friend and her dad went out to dinner at a very popular, high profile restaurant in Los Angeles. While they were leaving and walking to their car, there were several paparazzi taking pictures of them. My friend had one of the worst panic attacks of her life and grabbed her dad's hand with her left hand. With her right hand, she latched onto his arm, so she was holding his hand and also clinging to his arm while trying to shield her eyes from the bright flashes. She and her dad held hands all the way to the car and dodged photographers. Is this weird or not weird?

Question: I WANT TO LEAVE HOME AND LIVE IN FIREHOUSE FOR THE NEXT 2-4 YEARS?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 08:45 PM PST

Okay so,I am 18 and home life is so shitty, I want to leave and never come back home, Should i move out into my local fire department and become a live in volunteer for the next 2 years until I graduate community college then a 4 year, I will be working a full time job. Is this possible? Do I have to tell the crew about my situation, and that I don't have anywhere else to go, or can I just live their temporarily and offer my services?

Question: Is it weird for a 24 year old guy to still live with his parents?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 08:33 PM PST

I still live at home with my parents, I cover my own expenses and give my parents $600 every month to help out.

Question: Songs about fathers abandoning their son?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 07:25 PM PST

I'm looking for songs specifically about how the son had to grow up too fast or struggled alone after his father left.

Question: How do I get my dad to stop saying hurtful words to me?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 07:13 PM PST

I have a good relationship with my dad, but he says really hurtful words to me often. He always tells me how I should act and that I am not normal. When he says this stuff, he has a very angry/aggressive tone of voice and it makes me scared. I have expressed to him that what he is saying hurts, and that I wish he would stop, but he doesn t listen. How can I explain to him that what he is saying is really hurting me, not just my feelings at the current moment, but how I feel about myself in general?

Question: I'm writing this with tears in my eyes. Is my sister a bad mom?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 06:59 PM PST

My sister is being put down by friends and some family because she doesn't stay home full time to raise her son like alot of women her age who also have kids. My sister works part time and attends college in the evenings and still comes home and spends every minute of her night with her son and doesn't sit down to eat what would be her dinner until very very early in the morning (1-2am). She calls me crying some nights after my nephew is in bed because she doesn't see or spend time with her fiance during the weekdays and feels so bad for my nephew because she only gets a few hours to spend with him before she puts him to bed. I think my sister is the definition of a true mother because she is doing everything she possibly can to better her life so her son can have a good life. I don't understand why so many people are putting her down! What is wrong with what she's doing?

Question: How do I get over the anger at my now late father for abandoning me when I was a 7 year old girl?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 06:53 PM PST

My mother and I and my brother (aged 3) went to our aunts for the day. We got back and my supposed Dad (he is my Dad but sure didn't act like one) was gone. Someone said they saw him with a packed car but he didn't say where he was going. My mother had herd rumors she later revealed of another woman but hoped they would fade. He fled and we never heard from him again. We never heard from his family again other then seeing one sister once two years later and my mother learned (and told us a few years later) that he had remarrried and had a kid. I am 31 now. I have hated my Dad with a burning passion since I was about age 10 and it sunk in he wouldn't come back even if I asked Santa or the Tooth Ferry. He was truly an evil person to do this and is in hell now forever. He died two years ago I found out about a month ago when I looked him up on-line for the first time in a few years. I thought I'd be happy he is in hell now and I am but it also triggers even more anger. I know anger only hurts me but even therapy in high school did not release the hatred I have for him. My mother shares that hate with me though my brother doesn't seem to. When I saw the obit. He had two kids and a grandson. The funeral home site had a picture of him with his family. They looked so happy. I wrote to his son and daughter to tell them "I hope you know your father had another family" and I did not hear back. I did write to the widow also finding her address on a google search. The widow replied with a letter "please do not ever contact us again or legal action will be taken". Followed by "we are a happy and close family and do not wish to have your mother and her children (us) interfere. Attached is a photo I do have". And the photo is him with is when little. This made me even more mad that he saved a photo but wouldn't contact us. I can't contact her again or the ***** will call the police. I have no way to get passed this anger and I mainly don't want to. Yet everyone says I need to. I feel I am letting him off the hook if I forgive him and I'd be forgiving someone in hell now for sure and thus evil. PLEASE HELP ! ! ! !

Question: My adult daughter recently stated that she was embarrassed growing up poor. Would you consider that being ungrateful?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 06:22 PM PST

Question: What does Pearl L do all day?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 06:03 PM PST

Question: I'm 14 and want a baby?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 05:55 PM PST

I want a baby so bad. But why? I'm 14, a competitive dancer & tennis player. Having a baby would change my life drastically because I'd be kicked out of my foster home & id move in with my boyfriend & his family. However it almost doesn't bother me? & I know they're hard work. My mom gave birth shortly before she was diagnosed with cancer so I was taking care of my brother with my boyfriend almost entirely. That means getting him when he was crying at 3 am, feeding him, changing him, buying his necessities... everything, really. and then when my mom passed, we were forced to live with our dad who was never home because he was always at a bar getting wasted and if he wasn't, he was staying with another woman. So basically, I took care of my brother with my boyfriend almost entirely for 5 years. & now we're in a foster home yet I still want a child of my own. Why? My boyfriend and I have been together technically since we were like 8 so it was juvenile at that point, however there was still 'commitment' from then until now and hopefully forever. I'm not saying I know we'll get married because I don't know. I have no idea. I'm still, myself, a child. However I do have a feeling we will & if anything, I think a child would strengthen us. Would this be a bad idea? I am sexually active & he doesn't usually use a condom, just pulls out. he's only actually came in me once, also.

Question: On a family tree should I mark the following things?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 05:33 PM PST

My Mom is asking me to help her make one. Do I mark 1. Who was estranged from who among branches of the family. 2. For divorces do I state why the couple divorced and who was at fault. For example, "Uncle George banged up a lady from work and got her pregnant. It was his 2nd known extramarital affair so his wife filed for divorce". 3. Do I mark rumors not proven. For example, "great-great-great grandfather is rumored to have killed a dozen innocent people of color in the Civil War fighting for the south". 4. Who was an alcoholic and who was not. She said her Dad was not the only alcoholic in the family. 5. Method of suicide for my Mom's cousin who blew his fùcking brains out with a gun in 1998. Or a 3rd cousin who killed himself as a teen 2 years ago (not sure how). 6. Do I include the great-uncle I only met once who allegedly molested his daughter causing her to become a heroin addict and causing her death in 1977 (mother was scared for me to be around him). 7. Do I include when people lost their virginity and if with their spouse, future spouse, or someone else? 8. Do I mark "Homo" next to the names of all homosexual family members (at least 4). 9. Do I say "retard" next to the cause of death for the child who died of developmental disabilities combined with Sanfilppo syndrome. 10 And lastly do I use profanity like "3rd cousin once removed Carol was fùcking hot" or "Diane was a real ****** when on her period"

Question: Who was rude, me or her?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 05:17 PM PST

Okay so I was at my church earlier today because they were having a potluck and some lady had some chocolate strawberries and she asked me "do you want one" and I said "no thanks" and she looked so mad, and yelled at me saying "NO THANK YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN NICE" so I said "yeah, it would of been nice. Too bad I didn't say it." And she was telling me to stop talking to her like that and stuff, so I just got in my car and left. Who was rude me or her? I think what she did was very rude.

Question: How do i tell my parents about serious stuff?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 05:10 PM PST

I always get really nervous to tell my parents stuff and back out every time i try. When i got my period i waited 6 months to tell my parents and when i told my mom it was no big deal but i still get really embarrassed. I don't know why but i always do this even though i know my parents will be okay but i feel really embarrassed.

Question: How can I calm my sister down ?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 05:06 PM PST

My little sister was watching a documentary about dinosaurs before bed she had a bad dream that a T. rex was chasing her. She loves dinosaurs but she likes cartoon ones not real ones. The real ones scare her. She's scared to go back to sleep and afraid to go outside tomorrow. It's gonna start warming up tomorrow she's been stuck in the house all month because it's been too cold. But she's afraid there might be a t-Rex out there. She can't stop crying she said the dinosaur ate her. How can I calm her down ?

Question: I'm trying to bond with my 4 year old daughter-however her mother keeps poisoning her against me how to stop this?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 05:02 PM PST

Question: Girls who drive would you have done this?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 04:46 PM PST

I just got home form picking up my younger sister at her friends house. Since it was warm out and I did not go in anyplace and was only gone for about 15 minutes I just drove in my bare feet and did not bring my shoes.

Question: Is it wrong to be mad at my brother for this?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 04:40 PM PST

So My brother and I don't have a good relationship, we're about 5-6 years apart and we never had a good relationship. When he went to college I was still in 8th grade and I took his room because he had a dorm and i was sharing a small room with my older sister. Now he hasn't talked to me since Christmas because he thinks I was over reacting when we got into a fight because he "forgot" to take me to my doctors appointment for my pre- surgery appointment. And now he goes into my room, after years of him YELLING at me to stay out of his room when he's not there and he goes in and takes my mom's old camera ( which I use almost everyday) and takes it because I haven't used it in a week because I was sick. Now im better and he keeps saying that im holding a grudge because he missed a lot of things that I did (Girl Scouts award ceremonies, NJHS/NHS things, etc) and I'm not mad anymore because i've let it go. All I did was text him, "Hey, you took my camera and Madolyn (My Friend) and I were going to use it to take pictures of us at the beach, can we have it back soon?" while he says "Shut up, you just don't like the fact that I went into your room, get over it."now im pissed, he calls me a ***** because i don't text him all the time anymore, while he's being the meanest person to me. He thinks im rich and spoiled because I got an iPhone and Im still in High School while he never got one in high school. I just want to stop being mad at him, but I don't know how without yelling at him

Question: Husband arrested my moms boyfriend!?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 04:35 PM PST

So, my moms boyfriend is an alright guy, but more so of a jerk. Hes cheated on her, doesnt treat her like a lady at times. They have so many relationship issues yet their still together. I feel bad for her at times. But he is not abusive. Okay anyways, my husband has been a police officer for 2 years so far hes 24. My moms boyfriend is not very fond of the guy because hes jealous of my husbands success. My mom loves my husband though. And her boyfriend just isnt very fond of him at all! Never has anything nice to say about him, we can never pinpoint why. Their relationship as guys doesnt seem very bright. Anyways,The other day, he was patrolling the streets when he saw a red truck swerving all over the road. Husband sirens the car, and it ended up being my moms boyfriend!!! He had gotten back from the bar and He was pretty drunk but was taken into custody, charged $5,000. And is currently spending 30 days in jail. My husband gladly wrote him up in a heartbeat. Once he gets out of jail though, im afriad its going to cause so much drama in my side of the family with my husband. Any advice what to do?

Question: Abuse or discipline?

Posted: 16 Feb 2017 04:32 PM PST

Yesterday I got into a physical altercation with my own dad. He was freaking out over a some crumbs on the counter (that he made himself from eating cake) and I told him I'll clean it up. I was wrong because I told him to just calm down, and then he got mad at he choked me in front of my 4 and 11 year old siblings. I'm healing from a knee surgery I had 6 weeks prior and was on crutches, that didn't stop him. He choked me so long I felt the oxygen leave my brain and I scratched his arms up pretty bad... I didn't want to die. He told me to leave the house and I said fine and he followed me to my room and started punching me in the face multiple times, so I couldn't take it anymore and I threw punches at him. I feel bad for it, but this type of situation happened 4 times within 7 years. I'm not talking about being hit with a belt, I'm actually talking about being beat up like you would beat up a kid in school. My parents love to justify this and say its discipline but I just don't think so. I feel they cross the line and not only that but when they've gotten in heated arguments they've hit each other 3 different times. I can't do this anymore, I don't agree with putting your hands on someone like that. I'm of college age anyway so I decided this time is final. My mom wants me to come home so I can fully heal but I just don't want to right now. I'm at a friends house and just looking for my own place. I'm just never gonna talk to my dad again. That's a promise.