First off, my dad is an alcoholic and mentally abusive... It is apparently a tradition that the parents of the bride pay for the wedding, but they are divorced my mom is very poor and my rich dad is very abusive, selfish, and unsupportive so I don't know how that would even happen. My dad said he isn't going to help. We are willing to pay for it ourselves, but I know that it is going to be so expensive. My dad hates my fiancé (been together for three years) and says horrible things about him all the time. I want everything to be perfect and I love my dad, but I almost don't want him at my wedding because he has damaged me so badly about this and also for most of my life. I don't know what he will do if I don't invite him and my step mom because I am so afraid and terrified. Please can someone with similar experiences with abusive parents and weddings tell me what you did.