Family: Question: My mom threatens to hit me for little reasons?

Question: My mom threatens to hit me for little reasons?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 12:09 PM PDT

To start out i should probably say i have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and i am currently on medication. when people scream or yell at me i tend to tense up and start shaking and i usually draw a blank and yell back. yesterday my mom asked me to get everything out of her car from the back seat. i thought i got everything but i didn't see her lunch box that was in there and accidentally left it. she came in my room screaming at the top of her lungs at me asking why i could do such a stupid thing by leaving HER lunch box in the car. she the proceeded to almost call me a name (but bit her tongue). i yelled back "WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT ME I DIDNT KNOW". She then proceeded to scream in my face and then threatened to hit me she threw me into a full on anxiety attack to where i was hyperventilating. this isn't the 1st time she threatened to hit me. she has threatened to hit me for jokingly asking for a pet bunny. she has also threatened me bc i accidentally told her the wrong show time for a movie (that she wasn't even going to see) and a bunch of other things. when she can't get her way she tends to scream at me and sometimes threatens to hit me. is this normal or considered abusive?

Question: I am 66 and have not worked in 38 years. I am on welfare why does my niece and nephew put me down for this?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 11:18 AM PDT

My niece is 17 and my nephew is 20. I always get on to my niece and nephew for not having their careers settled yet, yet they both of them tell me "shut up" and that I do not have room to talk since I have not had a job in 38 years. I am on disability for ptsd. Why do my niece and nephew put me down for? I admit I have been calling them names and such since they were 3 and 6 years old

Question: I cry a lot when I see my newborn nephew and idk why?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 09:15 AM PDT

My sister just had a baby boy and when I first saw him I cried a lot. Every time I see him I start crying, every time I FaceTime my sister or she sends me pictures of him I cry from how much I love him. She doesn't live close by btw. She had a daughter, who's 2 years now and I didn't cry as much when she was born. But every time I think about him, I start crying from the amount of love I have for him. I know it probably won't sound weird to you guys but I have a lot of nieces and nephews and never once did I cry this much. It just feels like I have this motherly connection with him, that I never had with any other niece or nephew.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 09:01 AM PDT

I am very sad at this moment. Dont know what to do. A year ago I`ve moved to another country, got a good job, found a good flat, I am not rich but I am pleased with my life. I am trying to do my studies which is not easy when you are working at the same time. So my life was finally getting better. Except I was a bit lonely. But that is another thing. Then, after couple of months my mom told me my younger sister could come to the same country and could live with me. She started to make the plans. Just like that, she did not even asked what I think about it. I wanted to help my sister and said all right she will live with me. But the trouble is now I might want to change my job soon cause I am struggling to pay the bills and the place where I live does not have too much to offer.. but that would mean that my sister has to go back home and that would be not good as well. My mom knew that I wanted to live alone but again, she felt that she can decide that my sister should live with me and now she asks me to find a way how to stay here. I feel trapped, I feel responsible for her, but I have my own plans too. I think that my mom does not realise that I am 27 already and I really need to find my way mainly. How can I come out of this situation as a winner?

Question: After my parents divorced my mother talked bad about my Dad to us daily. How do I overcome my guilt of believing her and disliking him?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 07:59 AM PDT

As a kid I believed my Dad was the worst person I knew. My mother insulted him daily to us. All bad things in our life were because our Dad had left "us" not just her. As a teen I realized my mother was lying and he left her but not us. She said he had countless affairs but there was no evidence of that other then one emotional affair. She said he might love us kids but does not want a relationship with us, now I see he very much did and feel guilty I'd blow him off when he'd invite me places. All these years later I still carry this guilt and starting at age 16 spent the rest of my life obsessively making up to him. He is dead now and I am in my 40's. I now obsessively make up to his family. My mother is alive but not as bitter as she was. I resented her for years cause of it but have softened to her and tolerate her more now. How do I get over my guilt of betraying my father and his extended family as a child?

Question: My aunt is a narcissist. Is this reason to consider her a bad person or is she just too sick to know what she is doing?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 07:56 AM PDT

Question: My mother law doesn't seem to like me?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 07:15 AM PDT

My husband and I got married in 2016. We met in 2015 his 36 I'm 28 now . We met through a mutual friend and hit it off. He is everything that I have ever wanted and he feels the same about me. He lived just 25 minutes from me we just never knew each other. Everything was going great until I met his mother and father. I feel they don't like me much or they don't like that he got married to anyone for that matter . I don't know if it's me or if they wanted him to stay single. They didn't seem happy at all when we got married because they told him to wait a little while . After we where married he told me that they said things about me like asking if we was both dividing are Money out for the Bill's and told him not to tell me she asked that and that I probably didn't tell him everything , he told her he was going to tell me anyway because I am his wife. I decided not to say anything to her about it. The things his Mother says seems harmless sometimes at the same time it doesn't.I get hot easy so we keep are heat around 70. If my Husband gets a little cold he puts a thin jacket on . He got outside in the cold and got a cold from it. His mom asked where we keep are heat and she said we should keep it higher & she said there is two people in a marriage. Of course she didn't say that to me only him. He told me about it because I asked what she was talking to him about. Having the heat at 70 did not make him sick because we got out on a day that was cold. That's the day he got sick his never got sick before with the heat on 70. I know there is two people in a marriage. Last Christmas I was sick and she wanted us to come over anyway , my husband said no because it was cold and that could make me worse she tried to get him to come over without me but he didn't. Am I over reacting on any of this? How should i address her about this if i decide to say anything

Question: AZ Representative's 6 Siblings Denounce Him in Brutal Campaign Ad. Is Gosar that bad of a human being that even his siblings hate em?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 06:42 AM PDT

Arizona Representative's 6 Siblings Denounce Him in Brutal Campaign Ad for Brother's Opponent https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/msn/arizona-representatives-6-siblings-denounce-him-in-brutal-campaign-ad-for-brothers-opponent/ar-AAAuvRS Swampboy, do you not know how to copy/paste? Or should I get a Mexican to do that job for you too?

Question: What do you do when you feel that your life is at a standstill?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 06:35 AM PDT

I am 24 years old and a college graduate. I have been pretty depressed lately because I have found my life to be at a standstill. Although I graduated college with honors, I can't seem to find employment anywhere. I am thinking of going back to school to pursue a new field, as my current degree is in Criminal Justice. Even if I did find a job, I wouldn't be able to get there because I do not own a car and both of my parents work out of state. I earned my college degree at my local community college, but online because I didn't have transportation. My parents failed to teach me anything about independence, such as working at an early age, learning to drive on my own, etc. I put in at least fifthteen job applications a day with no luck. On top of having my own issues, when I reach out to my mom for help or guidance she drowns me with her issues at work and negativity. It is impossible for me to change my surroundings at the moment because I am unemployed. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can put myself in the position of living a self-sufficient lifestyle?

Question: My grandfather is 84. He is going to die soon. How do I stay stable when everyone else in the family falls apart upon his death?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 05:40 AM PDT

He could die tonight or in another 2 years. However, when it happens my mother's family is the type that is going to dissolve. Her mother has Alzheimers. Her siblings and she have love / hate relationships with one currently estranged. Holidays in particular will be difficult for a few years after his death and my grandmother's death as my mother will be unable to function. I want to remain stable as I have anxiety and depression as is. My mother will want us to be miserable with her. Any advise? I want to be sympathetic with my mother and not degrade her pain while not falling into the same misery she will be in. They are an extremely emotional family to the point of it not being healthy. I asked last night but got crummy and troll answers so asking again.

Question: My Mom drains all of my energy, makes me feel unmotivated, and is emotionally abusive. What do I do?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 04:07 AM PDT

My entire life I've always taken care of her, my little brother, cleaned her entire house every single night and not done JUST dishes or laundry like a normal kid/teenager. I was her housekeeper for 17+ years and I was her baby sitter for 8 years. I lost half of my childhood and teenage years because all my friends would want to do something or hang out with me, and I would have to say no because she would tell me she needed help with something. Yet every time I said I didn't feel like it, she'd scream at me and cuss me out and make me feel like literal crap about myself. Even if I said "Okay" in the slightest wrong tone she'd say I was backtalking, take everything I own, and go off on me for a literal HOUR. She has mental issues no doubt, she was in a mental hospital twice in the past couple years which is why I still try to be nice. I'm engaged and have my own home now but she still calls every single day or almost every single day and if I don't feel like coming over everyday like she wants or doing something with her everyday she gets mad at me or guilt-trips me with the "after all I've done for you" even though everything she did do she offered, I never asked for anything out of her except when I was younger and couldn't work for her to pay my phone bill which my Dad always did. It's just everytime I'm around her I'm worried when she's going to get mad, sh** talk me to friends, or tell my business. What do I do? I'm so sick of it!!

Question: Should I quit the Band?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 03:11 AM PDT

My band leader expects my family to help me with everything. He asked me for my family to help me transport a drumset for our gigs. He asked what if we had gigs in over a 198 mile radius. I said 10 miles is okay but not 198 miles. That's alot.

Question: How do I escape my controlling parents?

Posted: 25 Sep 2018 02:39 AM PDT

I love my parents, but especially my mom is very controlling to the point where she's now controlling my bank account and telling me that the money that I work for is for my insurance and to pay my student loans. I was going to save up to get myself a used car and then an apartment. I just feel very hopeless, like I can't escape. My house is a pretty toxic environment, my parents constantly fight. I can't even go on a date with a guy without my mom freaking out. I'm 20 years old and I don't have my license yet, so that makes things even worse. I feel trapped. Idk, does anyone else relate to having controlling, tough love, perfectionist, judgemental parents? I feel as if I can't even express myself without feeling judged in some way from my parents

Question: Is this emotional abuse?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 11:34 PM PDT

My dad will ask me questions/get into sensitive topics with me, knowing good and well they are sensitive to me, then will laugh in my face when I don't answer to his liking. I'm 23 and he doesn't like the fact that I don't go to church or refuse to discuss religion, spiritually, or politics with him. What he doesn't know is that being forced to go to church growing up was extremely traumatizing for me, and that I hold in a lot of my story for 2 reasons 1. to keep him from going after some of the horrible people who abused me in the church and 2. To keep him from putting my business out there (he isn't the keeping secrets type.) He probably doesn't know how hurtful he's being, but he'll ask me a question like "do you believe in Jesus?" and give me a passive-aggressive, insensitive, demeaning laugh if he doesn't like my answer. I don't think he respects my views at all so I think that not having religious discussions should be a boundary bc I find it degrading for him to interrogate me, just to make a joke out of me. I love my dad but I really hate the passive aggressive energy, like there needs to be boundaries but Idk how to go about it.

Question: My parents are getting divorced and my dad doesn’t love my mom anymore and I’m losing all my childhood friends? Whatshould I do to be happy?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 11:11 PM PDT

Question: Should I invite my daughter’s boyfriend to my birthday dinner?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 10:26 PM PDT

I am turning 65 next week and my family and I are going out to a restaurant to celebrate. My daughter is 18 and her boyfriend is also 18 likewise. She has asked me if he can come to the dinner. I'm just wondering if I should. Would you? He seems nice

Question: Should I marry this woman I've been with for 5 consecutive years?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 10:25 PM PDT

I met a woman, and she had a few issues stemming from her from her divorce. Needless to say, we fell in love. Things were a little rocky at first, but somehow we continued to date, and then it got serious. I helped her a lot and rediscovered myself in doing so. Then I had some issues from a mountain biking accident, and she was there for me and helped me. We've helped each other on and off, have fell deeper in love, and almost seems as if we're soul mates. We love being around each other all the time. The only thing is, I'm 34 and she is 55. However, she looks younger than she was when i first met her! I've put a lot of thought into the age difference, and although we can't have kids (no big deal) We're deeply in love. I'm considering marrying her, but what do you think?

Question: Planning a road trip, but I feel like my parents wont let me go?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 09:53 PM PDT

Me and my boyfriend of 4 years are planning a road trip to nashville, Tennessee to go visit the Soda Parlor and to just have a fun time. But I m afraid that my parents will say no even if we plan it out and give them all the details. I m 19, in my second year of college, work every day except weekends and I help out my parents alot with the Bills and with household work. I feel like I m a pretty good daughter. But my parents really chain me and my siblings up. We rarely go out and when I do go out with my boyfriend or anywhere they always want me to come back home immediately or else they ll get mad, especially my dad, he ll ignore me for a week if I come home past 8pm. I still ask permission to go to places because I feel like I should still but they re really strict on how far I can go. I m in Texas btw, they wouldn t even let me go to the beach with my boyfriends family or anywhere with them. So I could really use some advice on how I can convince them and show then I am responsible or how I am in the wrong and I should just listen to them. Please help me out!

Question: He’s 18 and I’m 21 we want to get married but his mother disapproves and is making threats. What can I do?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 09:20 PM PDT

1-His mother and father are disapproving so strongly that they confiscated his phone and won't let him use any social network without his parents watching. 2- His father threatened to HIT him. He told him I swear I will beat you out of this relationship if I ever catch you talking to her again. Last time we talked was 2 weeks ago and he told me he will talk to me when he has the opportunity. I'm starting to lose faith maybe they got into his head? Maybe he gave up? I can talk to him through his friend he told me maybe but it's not preferred. Does anyone have ideas of how I can contact someone who's basically isolated from the world??

Question: Have a big problem and need help! :(?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 08:44 PM PDT

So my other half who is 22 has his father as his guardian due to him having autism, adhd, and schizophrenia. We want to move out due to us being so far out of city limits and overall we are tired of being stuck in the house all day, everday, for almost months on end! The only time we ever get out is for appointments for us or our almost 10 month old daughter. Neither of us have drivers licenses or jobs (only source of income is his ssi, which his father controlls). I had my permit awhile back but my car went kuput and I never got back into driving. I'm wanting to get a job but the problem is all the jobs are in the city (we live 40 minutes out in the country) the upcoming winter, and transportation. The way we get into town when we do go is his stepmom will take us (her brother will not because he is super lazy) but she can't always do it since she has major health problems. Also going back to his father having guardianship; I don't think his father will let my fiance become his own guardian. They may have to go to court which will turn into a bloodbath. See the dilemna? We are all stuck in a rut and need some ideas, advice, or insight on what to do. So please post below.

Question: Will my 16 year old daughter eventually stop giving me such a hard time (she’s been like this since she was 11 or 12 years old)?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 06:37 PM PDT

Ever since 7th grade, my daughter has been harder to get along with. The awkward silences and teary glares when she disagrees with me. I think my girl knows that I love her and wants the BEST for her. She tends to think of me as a ruder, meaner and angrier person than I really am. Puberty hit her about 4-5 years ago. I know she's not a fully responsible woman, this is why I do not trust her to attend late night concerts or festivals without trusted mature adults. Yes, it's a teenage hormone situation and I remember one specific day when an older friend would tell her "parents get worse" (she must've been in middle school). Compared to years ago, she's gotten better at regulating emotions and not getting straight up angry at me. Still, there's still the occasional conflict.

Question: Why do American children seem so immature compared to children from other countries?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 06:06 PM PDT

It seems like people start fending for themselves at younger ages in other countries. I hear many Canadian and American parents complain that their 13 year old kid can't remember to pack their own lunches without reminders. They're either staring at their phone screens or getting into a fighting match with a sibling. Even their mindsets seem very different. I see a huge difference between immigrant kids and those who were born/raised in North America. Some first world country children think what "adult" or "grown up" means is using bad language, dressing inappropriately or provocatively, vaping, drinking, etc. (not just in the US, many Canadian, Aussie or English children think this too). They all happen to be first world countries. Is it that our cultures somehow make them less responsible and therefore seem very immature?

Question: Would you feel lucky if you run to your moms beck and call if she as much as stubs her toe but if you have a medical issue she doesnt?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 05:52 PM PDT

Want to even run to the drug store to get some relief for you? Just great.

Question: Does you family allow your SO's family inside their house for any reason?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 05:30 PM PDT

My boyfriend lives with his extended family and his mother, his extended family include: Grandma and 2 Aunts. My car is going through some issues, but I had to drop my boyfriend off at his house after school and turned off my car (stupid mistake). I called my mom to come help me jump start it and she really had to go the bathroom and I've told her before that his grandma doesn't like "strangers" coming into her house. I told my mom from the window not to ring the doorbell and to stay where she was at, but she didn't listen. Anyways, would your family allow your SO's family enter their house and use the bathroom?

Question: My grandfather is 84. He is going to die soon. How do I stay stable when everyone else in the family falls apart upon his death?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 04:47 PM PDT

He could die tonight or in another 2 years. However, when it happens my mother's family is the type that is going to dissolve. Her mother has Alzheimers. Her siblings and she have love / hate relationships with one currently estranged. Holidays in particular will be difficult for a few years after his death and my grandmother's death as my mother will be unable to function. I want to remain stable as I have anxiety and depression as is. My mother will want us to be miserable with her. Any advise? I want to be sympathetic with my mother and not degrade her pain while not falling into the same misery she will be in. They are an extremely emotional family to the point of it not being healthy.

Question: Narcissistic dad?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 04:35 PM PDT

I'm an adult guy. Dad is an narcissistic, he yells if you don't agree with him. If i defend myself he yells. I generally keep to myself. He isn't concern about what has to do with me. Blames me for everything. If i don't say anything to him, it seems it's an issue. He act as if he is perfect, he left family at a point, i don't trust him. Sometimes he randomly talks to me, but if i talk to him he isn't concern. Not trolling

Question: Is my mother selfish?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 04:09 PM PDT

So I'm an adult in my early 20's and a while back I was playing a poker game and my mom was asking me what was I doing I told her just playing poker. And she asked me was I winning I just said yes I have a billion chips on here; she then asked me would you give me some I said sure if yo want to play I'll give you several hundred thousand. She got all defensive and was like you have a billion on there and you will only give me several hundred thousand. Then she started talking under her breath. I said if you don't want that I'll give you several million or 10 million. And she got in her feelings. She asked me after what would you give me if you had a billion in real life I said I'd give you a few million and she got all upset and was saying the same thing (only several million? and you have a billion dollars). Sometimes when she makes food or something there is some rice and she and I eat a half a bowl and there is like 3 bowls of rice in there and she gets upset and slams cabinets and is like I keep telling you to stop leaving me these little bits of food it doesn't make sense etc.. Sometimes she gets me pringles when she's out shopping and she gets a big bag of chips like party size of dipping chips and says when your chips run out don't come asking me for none. Or if I'm out shopping and come back home she's like what did you bring me? So I'm not sure what her deal is I've tried asking her but she gets upset and gets defensive.

Question: Ok I'm 26 and my sister is almost 30. She won't let me wear shorts all at she will throw a fix. Won't talk or ever look at me when I do?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 03:53 PM PDT

Question: My family tells me to give up on my dream? I dont know what to do?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 03:46 PM PDT

So I had a dream since I was 14 years old. I worked so hard for many years to get closer to this dream. I sacrificed my own halfpennies my social life I made big decisions and choices just to get closer. Now I am closer than I was more than ten years ago. They tell me every time they see me or I call them to give up. One of my sibling who I haven't seen for two years first thing they said to me to give up. My other sibling who is so close to me whom I supported in every single decision they made they tell me to give up every time I call them. I have no friends things are getting tough at work people try to convince me that I am not worth it so I run to my family but all what they say is I am desperate and I should give up. I do not know what to do anymore I feel extremely alone and betrayed and discouraged and unhappy. I mean I did everything by myself why they can not say I am worth it

Question: My bf has 2 amazing opportunities?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 03:38 PM PDT

So my bf of 6 years is currently unhappy at a dead end job, and has the opportunity to stay in new york (we live in FL) with family to learn either his fathers business and eventually take over, or learn his uncle's business. Either one would be amazing because he's interested in both, but hes scared at taking such a big leap and leaving what we know and moving there. He would love for me to come which i would love too (i currently take college courses online and recently left my job to care for my parents). My mother is against it, (she's a worrier and doesnt like change) but i have almost 2 grand saved and my family would help take care of my parents. since we would be staying with his family up there all we have to pay for is our gas and food. Do you think: 1. My bf should make the move (which would happen after xmas)? 2.that i should go with him?

Question: My Mom died in 2015. I am reading her old letters and learned my Dad had two affairs. I am shocked. How do I cope with these feelings?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 03:01 PM PDT

My father died in 2002 so long ago. I am 56 and going through them with a nephew who is into archiving though I didn't show him the two about the infidelity. If it was two I wonder if my father may have had more and got away with it. I know another family member who had an affair but only one and the couple divorced in their 30's and grew up. My father had at least two and is the only habitual offender this way in the family. I am feeling shame. What do I do? I thought it was all family fun letters so I read them, I wish I hadn't.

Question: My sister is narcissistic and mean. She bullies me. How can I see the rest of the family while never having to see her again?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 02:59 PM PDT

Question: Is this wrong, do I need to stop it?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 02:36 PM PDT

Okay so I have two kids, one seven and one almost five. I know this sounds strange, but my almost five year old could easily pass as under three years old. Thus, when we go out, a lot of the time I lie and say she's under three to get free stuff. I'm starting to think I should stop but I honestly don't feel it's a big deal for the time being, it gives me an advantage, So is this wrong, do I need to stop it?

Question: What are the advantages of having a Identical Twin sibling??

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 02:32 PM PDT

Question: My Mom's ex-sister was a real estate agent. Is there a website where I could see if she still is?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 02:29 PM PDT

I am curious about her though have no intent to reach out now that the family disowned her. She and my Mom were sisters until their 40's when I was about 13. We've only seen her once since the left the family.

Question: My parents use me to get back at enemies within the extended family. How do I get them to see this hurts me?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 01:49 PM PDT

I cry as I write this. I have OCD and am respectful of all the extended family. My parents resent this cause they always have enemies within the extended family. Right now the enemy is my Mom's sister. She stirs up trouble with all her siblings and then acts like "pitty me, no one likes me". My parents, especially my Dad, accuse me of being wrong to be nice to her. Parents say it is an OCD thing. I feel I'm being used to get this aunt back. Meanwhile my Dad admitted after my mother went through my email that he feels I'm responsible to make a point by not being nice to her or she'll use being nice as ammo for her "pitty me" attitude. I am so mad I could kill myself. The only outlet I have for my anger is self mutilation. This has been done many times to me and I can't get mad at my parents cause they think their being protective and yet I'm being used to make statements to these people when it's not my problem. The same happened with an alcoholic grandfather when I was a kid and an uncle who had an extramarital affair when I was a teen. I am expected to give the silent treatment to get a point across to the person. Yet I am not the moody middle aged woman. I am not the alcoholic grandfather. I am not the married uncle sleeping with another woman. So I am asking how do I get my parents to see how much this hurts. I lost seven years with my mom's family cause of my mother and grandfather at war over his alcoholism. As a result I do get obsessed on family stuff sometimes.

Question: My mother used to be a dirty racist. She is not anymore. Is it common people born in the 50's are racists and then change?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 01:49 PM PDT

Question: My mom’s uncle was accused of sexually abusing his daughter years ago. My grandmother said there was never any credibility to it. ,....?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 01:08 PM PDT

So who do I believe?

Question: DO I HAVE TO LIVE WITH MY DAD???

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 01:04 PM PDT

Okkkk, so lm 16. My mum told me that l can choose where to live cause lm 16. But for over a month lve been living with my dad. I HATE LIVING WITH HIM! This is because of stuff he did to me and my siblings when l was younger, he doesnt do it anymore, but l feel extremely uncomfortable around him bc of it. I really want to live w my mom again and my dad said l cant email her or call her from school. If l want to call her at home, l have to use my dads phone, put it on speaker, and sit next to him on the couch. He is very strict and mean to me. What do l do???

Question: My aunt had a married man stay at her house. Is this okay since he was working there?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 01:03 PM PDT

Question: My brother pulled a knife on my mother to be mean Yesterday. He’s 15. Is this normal teen garbage?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 01:03 PM PDT

Question: How do I tell my parents I want to change my name?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 10:34 AM PDT

(I'm 15, so obviously I can't just change it.) I hate my name, and I want to change it, at least socially, but my parents have told me they spent a long time picking it out, and I know it will hurt their feelings. So what I'm asking is how to tell them that I want a different name, and preferably softening the blow as much as possible.

Question: How can I let go of someone I loved who didn’t love me?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 10:22 AM PDT

My child's father and I got into a big fight this morning and we aren't together. We co parent but more than often still sleep with each other. Our son is 5 months & we have "family" day every Sunday. Go to church, then lunch or dinner, then spend the night. We fought this morning and he pushed me so i pushed him back and things got ugly. He busted my lip.. we have date since 2015 & I've never seen him act this way. I wanted to travel down to the another state & take our son. I offered for him to come with us & he said if he comes well get two different Rooms so I asked what was wrong because we've always gotten just one room. Anyways, things went left pretty quick and he screamed out "we'll never be a family" I got so upset. I was so angry, hurt, confused. I love my sons father will all of my heart but he doesn't love me & has told me to move on.

Question: How can I get people to have faith in me and what im doing?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 09:57 AM PDT

My mum and other people in my family doubt me and comment on me a lot. Mostly I laugh it off or press it back to my mind but lately its been more personal I m studying music and I play piano but most people in my life have been telling me I cant pass and should just choose a new career plan AND BEFORE YOU ASK I HAVE TOLD THEM IT MAKES ME FEEL and it always turns into an argument or they just turn it into a hate comment even more once they know its effecting me. My mum in particular one day says she supports me and then next says I should give up. and its not just music its anything I set my mind on or even look at Honestly after all the hate from them it starts to knock my confidence in what i m doing but if I do give up or show any weakness its like i m giving in to it which I know is wrong too. any advise for either mentally dealing with it or story s similar to this?

Question: Is it ok to steal your brother sperm?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 09:01 AM PDT

Have you ever tried to. Get your brother's sperm

Question: I feel like a babysitter?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 08:18 AM PDT

So my sister has mood disorder, she's 17 and constantly has problems with school and our parents which I help her with. I don't have a problem calming her down, almost daily she blows up and cusses me out. When I tell her how it hurts when she does that its overreacting...I'm thinking of leaving because my patience is really thin. Advice?

Question: How disgusting of a person do you have to be to have 6 of your siblings come out in an ad AGAINST YOU? #AZPOLITICS?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 07:32 AM PDT

6 siblings of congressman endorse opponent The Arizona political feud shines a light on similar family disputes heating up across the nation. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/6-siblings-congressman-endorse-opponent-n912246

Question: Do I have the right to claim my son as a dependent or do my girlfriends parents have that right?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 07:28 AM PDT

I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 17 we have a 2 month old son. I wanted to know if I could claim him as a dependent or if her parents have the right to that. Right now my girlfriend and my son are living with her parents. So I don't know if they get that right, right away just because of that. The only thing they provide for him is the roof. I provide him with everything else he needs like diapers, his food, etc. I'm living with my mom right now but my mom has said before that she would be okay with her moving in, and her parents would always tell her that she needed to leave already but as soon as I told them that my mother said it was fine for her and our son to come live with us until we got our own place they started to say no that she needed to be 18 and I understand that they are still in charge of her but I feel as if the only reason they did that was because they wanted my son there only so they can put him as the dependent. But anyways, can someone please tell me how this works? I'm stressing over it and I just want to know to get this weight off my shoulders.

Question: I don't like children, is there something wrong with me?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 06:42 AM PDT

When I was young I didn't have a great mother. She would force me to watch my younger siblings, there's a big age gap between us. She wouldn't watch them and let them do whatever they wanted in the home, and I was always upset of how she would allow this. She had no patience for them. (Please don't say it's normal for siblings to watch siblings, if you have children they're you're responsibility, not their sibling's) I am in my 30's now and don't like children. I don't like the noise, the worry for money troubles, and the fact that it is a decision that I can't turn back on, I get really bad headaches remembering the past. My family thinks there's something wrong with me, that the children are not the problem, it is the way they're raised and how my siblings were like that, not their fault, but my mother's. While I do agree that part of the problem is the parents, the screaming and stress are from the children themselves, am I wrong to think of this? Aren't the women usually the ones who end up taking care of the kids most of the time? I don't like children for many reasons, but is it wrong to want a bit more peace? I have enough stress with work and my family/house issues.

Question: My son has recently stopped wanting to hang out with his dad. Please read details below?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 06:18 AM PDT

My sons father was in prison for 8 years. When he got out our son was 9 and I told him to please take it slow since he doesn't really know him well yet and his dad kept pushing and pushing. I've let him take him every time he's asked but recently my son does not want to go or stay anymore. His dad has kind of a new "family" and it includes children an they all get along great but his dad doesn't really do one on one time it's almost like my son goes to play with the other kids. I don't respond to my son negatively when he vents to me but he tells me his dad is annoying and he just lays in bed and does nothing. What would you do? I want to encourage their relationship but his dad is now saying to our son that he is mad he doesn't want to hang out with him etc and I feel stuck and don't want to be blamed for how my son feels either

Question: Is it wrong to ignore your adult children who ignore you ?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 06:14 AM PDT

I have two adult children ...who seem to have forgotten I am here and alone most of the time . I have come to realize that i must not mean much to them unless they need something be it money , babysitting or a place to stay while in town. So ive decided to break off all communication to see how long it takes before they contact me for another favor . I find it heart breaking that I dont mean much to them . Is this the way to handle it or do you have any ideas how to address the lonliness and rejection .

Question: Is my mother unreasonable.?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 06:03 AM PDT

Bit random but wondering if I am or my mother is unreasonable. My husband and I and our children have family photos in a few days I have my hair booked to be colored and cut (haven't had it done since our youngest child was born over a year ago I have greys poking threw!) my husband called me and told me his getting home from his business trip late and won't be home to watch our children for my app. I called my mother in a panic and asked if she could watch our children. She refused to she said she has errands to run and refuses to do them in the afternoon. I got upset and called her selfish she then turns her phone off so I can't contact her which obviously makes me more fuming. She tends to turn her phone off when she is told things she doesn't want to hear I am getting to the point I think my mum is toxic she acts like this all the time and no one can ever have a issue or a problem she will always have it worse.

Question: What can I do? HELP PLEASE?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 05:46 AM PDT

My son is having bad behaviour, he's 16 years old. He sneaks out to meet with his two best friends and they go meet with their "friends" which I think is totally inappropriate since they are much older than them, this people make house parties where they do bad things. The other day we where having dinner and I invited some old friends of mine and so one of my friends came with her son which is the same age as my son. They seemed to not get along and that's how I knew about all of this, because this kid is also friends with someone who knows my son's older friends and he told me.about him sneaking out and using illegal substances, even selling them and how he acts like a different person when he's with me, he even showed me a video of my son kissing another guy. I feel like a failure, then I privately asked him and he started talking bad about my friend's son. I told him about the video of him kissing another guy and asked him If he was gay, which I would accept him with no problem but I told him very clear that I wasn't going to tolerate him using drugs anymore, now my son is pissed at me, saying that he is not gay and that he doesn't use drugs. What should I do? I never noticed him sneaking out since I am always working, also my friend called saying her sonshowed up to her house with a broken nose and that he claims my son did it, please. How do I fix my son? I don't want to lose him. My friend didn't press charges because she is not sure my son did it, her son won't speak to us about what happened. I am a single mother, his dad and I divorced a year ago because he was seeing someone else my son was the one who caught him cheating and he abused him physically because he didn't want my son to tell me. We had it rough, obviously I needed the extra hours since now there is only one pay check. Which barely covers everything including his private school. My friend knows everything and.even if it was my son, she won't press charges instead she said she would help out with my son. I Will look for professional help for both of us. Thanks to all of you.

Question: My dad said I never study even though i study alot and i'm a straight A student, and I called my dad a *****, am I the worst person ever?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 04:41 AM PDT

Question: I can’t deal with my mom anymore?

Posted: 24 Sep 2018 02:42 AM PDT

Please, just give me advice or something. I'm only 14, so I can't leave or anything. My mom is absolutely insane. She indirectly insults all of us, constantly causes fights with my dad, screams at my brother and me, and is a ******* racist. I can't stand it anymore. If you so much as bump her arm by mistake, she'll start crying and won't speak with you. She screamed at a woman at school because they took 'her' parking. If anyone tries to stand up to her, suddenly she's 'oppressed' and does everything for us. I didn't ******* ask to be born, especially not to her. I don't ask for anything. My shoes are at least 3-4yrs old, I've had my uniform since grade 5, I only have the absolute necessary stationary you need. And yet she still goes on about how we're taking her life away from her. She married my dad (who's 20 yrs older than she is) for his goddamn money. Today, she was abusing my dog. I had enough and I actually stood up to her. Now she's crying for god knows what reason I don't know what to do I feel so helpless, I think I'm actually depressed. I can't see a therapist or whatever, just what do I do?

Question: How can I cope with the idea of my parents dying?

Posted: 23 Sep 2018 11:10 PM PDT

So basically I have been dealing with the idea of death itself, but then i thought of the idea when my parents die and how i can live without them and it pains me to imagine myself at their funeral, can anyone please help with this. (I'm only 12 btw)

Question: Ever since my brother has moved out to college things have been really tough. My parents are really boring, and life itself seems boring now?

Posted: 23 Sep 2018 09:38 PM PDT

I start college in January, but it feels like this last month has been forever. I'm insanely bored and I find almost nothing fun. I do talk to my brother on the phone but I seem so much more happy when he is here at home. What can I do to fix this, and stop being so bored(I play video games and watch videos all day). Help please.

Question: Why some Americans still hate Mexicans even after the moving family movie Coco was released a year ago?

Posted: 23 Sep 2018 08:21 PM PDT

Question: How to get over a sibling distancing themself from you?

Posted: 23 Sep 2018 08:20 PM PDT

So my sister moved in with her boyfriend and won t have much to do with me anymore. Don t tell me its normal and she ll want to hang out again eventually. I know her and she won t unless they brake up. I thought we were close but sence she obviously doesn t miss me like I miss her I guess I was wrong. That s not all that surprising really. Both our parent s families were pretty distant. Look I actually like her boyfriend. If things were different we could have been friends. But if he in the same room or car as us she won t say a word to me and even ignores me when I try to talk to her. If I call her she tries to hurry the conversation alone so I d hang up. If I text she doesn t text back. HE talks to me more then she does. When we lived together we had to share a cell phone and I found out she was texting him lies about me. Some horrible ****. I have no idea why, and it seemed like she wanted me to find out sence you can erase messages. Years ago I droped out of high school leaving an art scholarship behind to because she told me she kept haveing nightmares about my bus crashing and that she was so lonely she was haveing full conversations with the dogs. And she just ditches me as soon as she could. I really hate myself for that now more then ever. Both our parents are dead and I m totally alone. Worse I start work at the same place they do tomorrow (cuz life). I need get over it fast. I m depressed as Hell. I ve told her how I feel. She just said I be okay.