I am a single female and I have a profile on a dating site. I do get people messaging me but most of them tell me they have not had any luck on there and it seems like I am the only one that message them back, which is something I always do since I feel like it is impolite not to respond to someone that messages me. anyway, since it seems like the majority of people that message me are those that have no luck on there would this indicate that I am not good looking? I am trying to figure out why only the ones with the bad luck on there are messaging me? Thanks and will choose a best answer

My coworker used the last of the Coffee Mate knowing i already started pouring my mug. Next day she asks how to sort contacts in her phone so i selected them all and deleted them. I never told her why i did it just chalked it up to being clumsy with technology.

I am roommate with these two guys who works at construction sites, they are both good people, but omg their shoes smells..... they leave their shoes on the shoe rack in the entryway, but it will stink up the whole entryway all the way to the living room. But I want to say something but I don t know what way to put it without sounding offensive and make them feel bad about it. I m not asking for more, I just want them to put their boots on the patio instead. (But sometime it s not possible because Miami rains 10 times a day." I don t know what to do! I mean I know them a little bit, but not to a point where i can just tell them what to do. And I can t lose them as roommates since I can t afford the rent by myself. I tried to use Febreeze but it s just worse.

Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Friends

I'm 20 gonna be 21 soon. Was wondering how much fun is clubs and bars. Is there a lot of women there? Are the drinks good? Are they expensive?

So.. I've been friends with a guy for awhile but I don't rly want to be hanging out with him anymore I've just been ignoring him lately and not contacting him etc. And I have my reasons but it gets difficult since he has no other friends I know of so.. and plus he told his mom and apparently is calling mine (they've known each other awhile) but we're teenagers! I just ignore him at school then that happens, isn't this ridiculous?

So, I (20m) have this best friend (20f) that I've known since elementary. She's super fun and we make each other laugh all the time, and I really enjoy talking to her. Things have been better for her lately since she's found a medication that actually works for her depression, and I try to keep things light between us to keep her spirits up. The only problem is that she's a very empathetic person with strong morals, and like normally that wouldn't be a problem at all, but lately most conversations with her has me feeling really awkward and guilty. For example I would send her a meme video to start a conversation, and she'll reply with some neutral comments like "Huh.", and then she'll comment something like "I liked that video more then a liked Mt.Rushmore, because it was a defacement of Native American land". Which makes me feel... incredibly guilty about sending the video in the first place.... and I have no idea what to respond with other then a possible "Sorry", to which I know will make the mood even MORE uncomfortable. So, instead I just avoid messaging anything back to her until I find something (like a video) to change the mood in our texts. And part of me wants to talk to her about it, but I don't know how to start a serious conversation, or if I even SHOULD talk to her about it. So, basically, what should I do? Should I ignore it and stay as her cheerful confidant? Or become someone she can rant this kinda stuff to? How do I stop feeling guilty?

I feel like I m in an impossible situation. About a year ago I was living with my mom and brother waiting to go to boot camp (I d just graduated high school). Long story short, my brother s also military and got stationed in Japan and I m in a small town called Erie, PA (I m from Atlanta, GA) and I ve been here for about 4 months. I m a 19 year old, black, gay female and everyone who lives here is in the middle of their lives and are starting families. I m in a very secluded location, so I only have 11 other co-workers who are also in the middle of their lives. I thought when I started school I would meet people I could relate to, but they also fit that description. Plus I m taking night classes so when class is over everyone vanishes because they have to get home to their husbands/wives/kids. My friends from home keep telling me to go out and meet people, find people online/through apps, but I ve tried that already and it doesn t make things better that I m socially awkward. And every time I try to go to a social place you have to be 21 because there s alcohol. Financially, educationally, I think I m doing pretty well, but relationship-wise I m suffering. Every weekend I m all alone with nothing to do and every time I do go somewhere I m by myself and it s depressing. If it weren t for my co-workers, I d be crazy by now. Idk what to do, please help and thank you.

my neighbour, she always complains about the interview because she always failed and until she give up. she finished BSIT but she becomes a housemaid and as what I heard that she finished because she always copies the answer's from her classmate and she did not learn anything so why did she graduate if she is not smart enough.

So the question may not make sense so here s some clarification. A lot of responsibilities have been placed on my shoulders this past year and on top of that, My parents want me to be financially responsible for them (I love them and will never regret that decision) and I ve recently had a career change. A lot has happened and my friend and I have drifted -- primarily because of me. She lives across the country and it s been hard with my hectic schedule to make time to chat on the phone. But when we do, all she does is complain about life. If I don t have time to talk, I get guilt tripped because I m not making time for her mental and emotional needs. When we lived in the same city, it was easier but ever since I ve moved, it s been this constant neediness. I ve reassured her the friendship is fine, my life is just not. I ve got the weight of so much responsibilities and I won t lie, I feel like her emotional needs is too much for me. I don t want to sit for an hour on the phone hearing her ex, work, or kid drama. I ve barely got the time to even handle my own. I told her these things but it always gets switched around to me not being there for her. It always goes back to how friends are supposed to talk to each other but what if one doesn t want to talk? What if one just wants some time to just stabilize for one second so they can breathe for a small moment? I love her and don t want to loose my friend but she s not giving me the space I need. What do I do?

Okay so someone's my friend will joke around and call me names, and be like I'm kidding. And they do this with all of their other friends to and the only other friends they do it with and the ones who they are really close to. Besides that they seem to be good fiends but sometimes they will be like dumb@ss when I do something stupid. Like I said they do this with other people but still. Me and my friends are also very very close so idk but I'm also really sensitive. They do build me up confidence wise fars making me feel better and confident about myself but idk if I'm being played or not bc I'm popular. What do y'all think?

I was good friends with this girl, Amy, for about 2 years. I developed feelings for her and told her I wanted to be more than friends. She, in a pretty harsh way, rejected me "I don't like you and my opinion of you will NEVER change." After that, the friendship ended between me and her. I see her everyday in school but she ignores. I have tried to reach out and she just ignores everything, I believe she even blocked my number. I found this new girl that I like very much...we are exclusive. Long story short, I find out that my girlfriend's best friend is good friend's with Amy's roommate. Soooo....via a tertiary connection Amy is pretty much in my gf's friend group. There is strong chance that I will see Amy at various parties etc. She hasn't done anything, or said anything nasty about me yet....but I would not be surprised if she does. My gf does not know her personally, nor have I told her about Amy (not much to say...a friend rejected me lol). However, she is def in the friend group and I could see them interacting in the near future. What should I do? Reach out to Amy, in person, and try to restore some level of cordial friendship (she is ignoring me and blocked my number so this may be difficult)? Explain the situation to my gf, in case she hears any false slander through the grapevine about me? Or just not worry about it?

People say I don't defend myself, but my problem is if I do I get too personal. My friends for example might blindside my and call me a c**t or •fa••to all the time, or even get random people to join in all the time. But I turn around and start attacking their personal problems that I don't have like being jobless, lazy, alcoholic, or have you cheated on this girlfriend yet etc..

I'm a quiet person. Like, extremely quiet. I just don't like to talk that much except with a few very close friends then I talk and laugh a lot. Maybe I'm shy around strangers, but the problem isn't shyness it's the lack of talking. I've had so many instances of people telling me how quiet I am and then they imply that it makes them uncomfortable. My question is why? I don't mind sitting in total silence, with strangers or with friends, but most people find this awkward. When I went to visit some relatives, they had friends over and we were gathered around eating. There was conversation going on but I didn't talk that much except to answer some questions or make some brief comments. One of the guests mentioned how funny it is that some people don't talk. He was of course, implicating me. Not once did he did this, but twice! It occurred to me that what was perfectly normal to me, was so inexplicable to someone else. I didn't do anything or say anything bad about these people, but for some reason my silence really offends them. At first I thought maybe some people are just talkative, or get bored easily. But I think perhaps the majority of people don't feel comfortable around quiet people? My question is why? Why do people HAVE to talk.

My crush confessed to me but doesn't want to date, he just didn't want to keep that a secret. I'm not sad he doesn't want to date, I mean we're in middle school it's pointless, and he agrees. But if he did want to date now I'd be fine with it too. Anyway, TODAY he wants me to call him because we've only discussed this in text. But we've basically already discussed everything. We want to stay friends, we're going to the same high school, and we both like eachother. what should I say? Not too mention calls on the phone makes my voice sound higher pitched and like a baby. And on Monday when I see him, I don't want it to be awkward, jeez what do I do?

this person at my school just DMed me if i wanna go get coffee with them. i know it's in a friend way to get to know me and not in a date way. but i don't really know the right thing to say back.

She's going to my number #1 choice college next year that I didn't get into. It was like her 3rd choice. I got over that pretty fast. But the more I hang out with her the more frustrated I became. At first I kind of matched her spending cause I had a job, but when I stopped working and neither of us had jobs (we were high school seniors btw) I realized how much money she has cause her parents just give her their credit card and don't pay any attention to how much she spends. I always kind of felt like a buzzkill when we'd hang out and go somewhere to eat and I wouldn't order anything, or go shopping and I wouldn't buy anything. Being friends with her I ended up spending a decent amount of money that I was trying to save and didn't need to spend to avoid feeling awkward when we'd go out. I listen to a lot of music, so I got my friend into tons of artists. One thing that has happened 3x this summer, is she would mention a concert or a festival with lots of artists that I introduced her to and listen to more than her, and I would really want to go to said concert, but be unable to cause of money, but she would just buy herself the tickets and go with someone else or alone. I'm talking festival tickets that cost hundreds of dollars. She's done a lot for me, she basically drove me anytime I needed a ride in the car her parents bought her and I really do appreciate her. We have a lot of fun together, but lately I feel like my jealousy is preventing me from enjoying our friendship.

Basically, I m a sophomore in college and the friends I ve made and spend all my time with don t respect me and riff on me all the time. They can be chill and I feel I m too old to call it bullying, but its almost always negative if we hang long enough. I push back and joke around back, but it is never enough to make me still not feel bad about myself. The dilemma is that these are the only friends I have and I don t know what to do. Its not like I m never in on the jokes sometimes, but I m in a small school and have been known to hang with these guys so word will get out.

So this woman whom I went to college with and I are friends on Facebook. We will message on Facebook ocassionally. We haven't hung out before. Even though she thinks I'm weird and a nuisance, she's never blocked me. She also knows I find her physically attractive. Her and I messaged today and she told me how she lost a lot of money on a lemon (junky car) and how she's having trouble paying her bills. So she said to me "lunch is on you" when we can go. But she knows i don't work. So I don't know what to think. I'm not rich. Is she using me as a last resort?

So, I'm in 8th grade and last year I established a friend group with 4 other girls. They would all do little things that would piss me off. Here are examples of things from each girl that annoys me. -She is immature -She follows me around -She gets jealous when I talk to another friend in my homeroom (which is the only time I get to talk to my other friend because we only have HR together) -And this other girl just doesn't talk to me at all I have other friends who I find I get along a lot better with and they don't get on my nerves as often. I think about cutting them off every day and it's getting to the point where I think I might do it. Should I??

Sorry if this is not very well written, I'm feeling sort of distressed right now. We've been through some heavy stuff together, and just a week ago we talked nearly every day on our group chat. He would ask me for art requests sometimes, and we'd play games with the other people in our conversation. I've been friends with him for about three years, and we've been through a lot. Then, the other day, he suddenly left the group chat, and he won't tell anyone why. He said to my best friend the reason would make her mad. I texted him and asked him why, and he said 'no comment.' I had a short conversation with him. I asked him if he just didn't like us anymore and he wouldn't reply. So it seemed to me like that was it and I just told him 'it's ok' and stopped bothering him. But he still talks to me at school, he makes jokes and laughs with me, so it doesn't add up. He acts completely normal in person but so weird and vague over text. I feel heartbroken that he'd just abandon our friend circle so suddenly. We hadn't talked in a week prior on the chat; not out of spite, we just didn't get around to it so it couldn't have been something I said. I'm so sad. What could've happened?

there s this person that i want to be friends with but theyre from london, england and i want to know how i should approach them and have them accept me as a pal do i ask them if they want to be my mate would calling them "mate" be weird