I have not seen my grandmother in eight years she is the woman who raised me out of all of my family members I have decided to take a trip back down to where my grandmother and family is who I have not seen in eight years. The problem is I have not spoken to my mother in more than 10 years. She never helped me or took care of me. But my grandma will not see me while I'm down there unless my mother can come along. I have made a Val to never talk or see my mother again. Yes she gave birth to me but that was about it. She has done more harm to me than good. I tried to talk my grandmother in to just coming out for dinner or breakfast or lunch. And she goes in to a crying mode and tries to get me to tag my mother along. Should I just enjoy myself or keep trying to get her to meet me just to say hello. It breaks my heart that it has been almost 10 years and she will not see me for 10 minutes.

Yes, everyone screws up from time to time, but I screw up all the time, and always in big ways. If you remember Steve Urkel, I could give him a run for his money any day! A couple of good examples... 1) when my husband was bedridden, I realized if I could move the bed over, I could make things easier for him. As soon as I tried, I literally broke the bed frame! 2) a couple weeks ago I went shopping. I kept searching for the milk, but finally deduced that it it must have gotten left-behind. A couple of days ago, my mother s trunk began to stink. I ll let you figure out the rest. For some reason, I just don t have any common sense. I m ok with books, but stupid with life. Certainly there aren t any books that will help me. So what can I do?! Sincerely, Sick of SELF!!

What was difficult? What was easy? What was completely unexpected? Please answer all the above... I'm asking for a friend who's pregnant and nervous

I'm not some high school kids or anything. I'm 21 years old and while I don't have a boyfriend(the father is a friend that I hook up with occasionally) I do take care of myself. I still live at home though and work as a waitress but what little bills I do have like my car note and cell phone I always pay on time so I don't get why she got upset and is saying things like she's not raising another child but it's not like I'm telling her to. So I don't understand her anger and why she's treating me this way. But I can't take her judging me any longer especially since she's a hypocrite since she had my brother when she was 17 which was worse. What should I do?

I know it's weird but like I have a weird obsession with the parents of my friends. It doesn't matter if they are my best friend or just an acquaintance for some reason I always feel like I love the parents. Not necessarily are than the kids but I enjoy the company of the parents as much as the kids. I've had this problem my whole life and I'm 15, almost 16 now. I feel like part if it is the fact that I was raised without a dad and both my mom raised both my sister and I (from different dads) by herself with the help of my grandparents (my mom's parents) Neither my sister and I know our dads, they both left us, and maybe this is why I like seeing normal families so much. Even if the family isn't functional I still like talking with the parents and considering them my "friends" it's weird and I don't know how to stop it.

My own parents and siblings are fine and we try our best to live peacefully, but ever since I can remember, my other relatives (whom live right next door to us) have always been dysfunctional, always bickering, backstabbing each other and gossiping behind each others back. They are perpetually jobless and all they ever do all day is gossip and slander other people all day. I've been trying for years to get my own parents to take a stand and tell these people to stop their negative and caustic behaviour but they only tell me "they're family" and when I ask that we move away so we can have some peace of mind all I'm told is "they're our family, we cant cut them off". So I when I recently turned 18 I finally told my parents that if they were not gonna leave this toxic environment for the sake of the familys well being; then I would leave myself and cut everyone off so that I could finally have some peace and not be the a part of constant gossip & slander and bad mouthing all the time. And to this I was told by my parents that "I'm being selfish & that I CANNOT abandon my family no matter what happens because it's the wrong thing to do." So now I am conflicted. Should I stay & be part of a family that is constantly involved in so much conflict and tension all the time? Or is it the right thing to do to move away & cut everyone off including my own parents and siblings as they won't leave themselves & insist on keeping the toxic people in their lives, so that I can start over?

I was talking to my younger sister. I told her that my professor told me that I was pretty (I was in grad school). She was saying that she thinks that it's legal to date your professor at that age and I was saying "oh I didn't know that". And, I look over and just see my dad leaned over towards me and my sister (nobody was talking to him and I forgot he was even in the room).

I'm 25. If I wanted his input or wanted to talk to him, I would have

Yesterday, I was at my uni, emptying my room because I'm leaving. I bought a present for my coed the very same day for her birthday that's upcoming. A Lush bag full of soaps'n'****. Wanted to leave it in my room, but unfortunately she saw it and asked : «  Ow, I see you went to Lush » . And I replied : «  You weren't supposed to see that » Thus revealing my designs. Should I worry about my IQ ? Am I affected by severe mental retardation ? Should I take an IQ test to be sure ? Thanks in advance, community.

Hello. I am a 22 year old male from the United States and I would like some help on how to talk to my mom about some of the issues that have been going on in my life as of lately. I need her help with something serious going on, because I can't deal with it on my own, but I don't know how to explain it to her, without hurting her or making her worry. I left home when I was eighteen and haven't been back since, because I moved across the country to go live with my boyfriend (now ex) and even though we talked a lot on the phone, I don't think she is going to recognize me when I see her next weekend. I have spent the last four years of my life, struggling with anorexia. I struggled with bulimia from the ages of 14 to 17 (my mom never knew). After meals I would make myself throw up, I would use all of my allowance for laxatives or enemas, and I always wore pretty baggy clothes/makeup to hide anything when around her. Then when I left to go live with my boyfriend my eating habits changed completely. On top of the laxatives, I have been limiting my calories (I eat a slice of toast about every 2 days), exercising excessively, and I withdrew from all of my friends/family/boyfriend. It's been 4 years since I have seen my mom. I left weighing 128 lbs. I now weigh 77 lbs and still feel fat. I know I need help or I won't be here much longer, but I don't know how to ask her for help, or even see her again, without hurting her or making her worry/cry. Any Advice?

I am 28 years old I got fired from my truck driving Job 2 years ago. I recently moved back with my mom and I am making $200 a week at a pizza shop. My soon to be wife is used to us being alone she's tired of being at my mom house and stresses me about making more money. I always tell her it takes time, it seems like she find a lot of things to complain about but now she's threatening to leave me if I don't get my life straight. I'm miserable right now she's constantly on me about not making enough money and my boss is talking about reducing my hours to part time. I dont want to lose my life I just need her to give me time shes talking about leaving me and I dont think i could cope if she walks out that door. I'm so unhappy that when I play with my 1 year old daughter I put on a fake forced smile it be so much on my mind and she even wants to take my daughter away. Today she told me my life is **** and I'd be better of dead if I don't get it together. Can anyone please help me give me advice?

I have a nice body. I don't have anything to hide.

I used to keep a diary which I wrote in whenever I was sad, upset, or angry... This went on for a couple months and helped me to better manage my emotions. However when my mom discovered it while I was gone, she tore out the pages and told me she never wanted to "see this **** or behavior again" It honestly made me feel more alone than ever to know that I can't even be open about my feelings with my mother and when she figures out how I have been feeling, she chooses to punish me by taking away my phone, diary, and not allowing me to see my friends for a month outside of school

I was at dinner with my mom, girlfriend, moms husband. I was on my phone while my mom was talking and she threw a lemon at me that was in her drink. I am 28 years old by the way. She is obsessed with family functions and thinks its funny to call me out if I'm on the phone for a short time.

Like my cousin who asks her boss not to hire me because I have been to better Schools, who stalks me and calls my mother in law, says bad stuff about me to my rich BF, ... My then BF, now husband. He is not American. His parents are very rich, so do mine, to a lesser extent. But that is not the point. I am very much down to earth. I went to the best Schools.

My mother's family is like this. For example, my Mom dislikes her one aunt because she is bitter her aunt's parents (her paternal grandparents) left her mother nothing in their estate as their son had already died (her father). As a result she was bitter and there were already issues with the grandfather being a heavy drinker and verbally abusive. So my mother dislikes their daughter who is very sweet, very carrying, but sometimes can have poor etiquette judgement. Meanwhile, my mother loved and adored her mother's parents. They had a son who was a heavy drinker and a racist and my mother never ever judged him. She also had a favorite aunt whose son became a druggy and died in the crack epidemic and my mother has said not one negative thing about that cousin. But boy, the aunt who doesn't have the best social skills, we are out to get her. So my question is why is this? Right now my mother has a brother she doesn't speak to and so my step-father refused to go to the graduation for that brother's son last summer when the son has not done anything wrong and is innocent. My step-father often acts on my mother's orders. So why is this in families? Is it unfair like I feel?

I caught my dad wearing my sister's clothes yesterday. I threatened to tell on him, so he bribed with a $100 bill to shut up. But later I saw him doing it again. What should I do about it? Is he bi or what?

So I have three daughters. I am divorced. I had one daughter before marriage, one daughter with my now ex, and another daughter we adopted. The daughter from before marriage is everything to me, She is the world to me. The adopted child I also love though she doesn't bring me the same level of joy as the daughter who is the oldest. Then their is my biological daughter from my marriage. I love her but do not like her at all. She will tell one sided stories to make me look bad. She was unmotivated in school and used an ADHD diagnosis as a crutch. She even stole when she was little and would stay out with friends. She has gotten my siblings to turn against me thinking I am a bad mother for being truthful about her and they believe her lies. I love the 3rd daughter but do not like her as she is the worst child, now adult, I have ever known. She is 24 now. How do I let go of her and this bitterness I feel towards her? My other two daughters love me and know the truth but my siblings are fooled by my 3rd daughter's lies.

It's getting annoying. I'm sitting down doing hw on the computer and he'll just come in, run his hand around me, maybe touch my leg or my face or my hair, etc. Just now he came in and touched my butt trying to feel if it was hard or soft? And he touched my stomach and my face. I got annoyed so i said "can you please be weird somewhere else?" but he didn't stop. Occasionally when I'm walking he will slap my butt as if it's funny, yet it's getting annoying and I don't want him to do that, but idk how to say it. I've been standing up straight so that I'm not bending over and he slaps me in the butt. Idk what he thinks of it- but I find it annoying. He doesn't do it to my sister or my mom either, just me. I swear to God, no matter how weird/trolly this sounds, it's all true, and this is the reason I've never told him - it just sounds so weird!

Hello everyone. I am a 20 year old male who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past four months and I need advice on how to deal with the negativity that it has brought between my family and myself. Before I go into why my family is having such a hard time with accepting my relationship, I do want to say that my boyfriend is an absolute gentleman, with a heart of gold and an endless amount of love for me. He makes me incredibly happy and treats me like a prince, and I couldn't imagine a world where he isn't a part of it. Our relationship is important to us both and we are committed to spending the rest of our lives with each other. Now, my family is refusing to accept my relationship, because one: they don't approve of me being gay and two: my boyfriend is 51 years old and they think he is too old for me. It's stupid because I spent two years prior to him, being in an abusive relationship that made me so unhappy, yet they didn't seem to care about that, but the moment I find someone who makes me the happiest I have ever been in my life, they judge him just because he is older than me. I want my family to be a part of my life, but I don't want that to be at the expense of loosing the guy I plan to spend the rest of my life with. O I can't live without him and he can't live without me. How do I show my family that he is a wonderful man, who only has the best intentions for me and that he makes me happy? How do I make them understand where I am coming from?

The other day my hamster was at the edge he was trying to jump but i cached him, im a little concerned...need advice?