You want to co-sleep with your newborn daughter, but your spouse is afraid the child will not learn to become independent. What might you tell your spouse in response? Do you support co-sleeping?

My father died... I have 4 brothers & I'm the youngest & only girl.. he left me two retirement accounts. My brothers are angry. We also unexpectedly all received a nice check from his Life Ins and they're still mad & saying it's not fair that I got more. Now we're receiving another check from his estate.. now they are demanding I liquidate my retirement accounts and split my share of the estate money "to do what's right & be fair" or they're going to cut me off/ out their lives. I have a son & not married.. I told them I'm not doing it & now they're extremely angry with me. None of my brothers are struggling, they all make really great money & are married with families of their own. My dad told his wife this is what he wanted.  Am I wrong?

My 7 year old daughter hates going to her dad's (my son still wants to go). I try to encourage her to keep an open mind and try to have fun when she goes because I want her to know her half brother and sister and I also think it's important for her to know her father. It's unfortunately not a simple situation...he's ordered only 2 overnights per month not to be consecutive. There are some alcohol issues with him as well, hence the weird custody order. He will mostly only see them when it's convenient for him or when he has a party to take them to or a church event. Most of the time he is not involved.  He doesn't attend school events, has never once taken them to a doctor, etc. I have tried to get him more involved for their sake but he will often go 3 weeks without calling or anything, then text me on Friday night to see if he can have them for a family member's birthday party the next day. If they're unable to because we already have plans, he will get angry and accuse me of keeping his kids from him. I don't want my 7 year old to think she has control over when she sees him because that's too much for her at this age, but I do want her to know that I care about her feelings because they matter. As I mentioned, my 5 year old enjoys going most of the time. So, has anyone else gone through a similar situation and have any thoughts here?

the relationship is going well. (3 years). Just wondering. We r starting to look ahead.. I mean here on yahoo answers lol

My husbands been out of work for three months and has only applied for five jobs. I'm struggling to pay for everything and I've made this clear on several occasions, he doesn't care! His parents have talked to him, I've talked to him. I'm paying for everything and it's to the point where starting last month I had to start pulling from savings. I only have about another month left where I can pay all the rent and bills by myself and he knows. He doesn't seem to care. Last week he didn't apply for any new jobs. We have three children together and I'm getting very frustrated paying for everything as well as all his things. Since hes been out of work he sits and plays xbox most days,   rarely does any dishes, doesn't do the laundry at all, it's like pulling teeth to get him to clean. I have to come home from work and clean up the whole house 90% of the time. I have had to take away all his money privileges because he was blowing money. Any ideas on what I can do here? 

Low income obese women who have a lot of debt and work many hours in a low wage job/multiple jobs

I am so envious of my friends they have wonderful childhoods I grew up in an emotionally mentally physically verbally mentally abusive household I was treated like trash I was reminded I could never do anything in life I was reminded of this daily I was 6 years old when my brother started hitting me I remember cutting myself with a knife I still have the scars all over my body my brother would slap me, belittle me and yell at me. But, he was the only one that would hold me in his arms. So, I always end up forgiving him, because I needed to feel love. It was only in 6th grade when my teacher pointed out to my parents that I was nearsighted. My parents refused to buy me glasses. My needs weren't met growing up I was desperate for attention, desperate for love. I did everything my sister wanted me to do, I covered and lied for her. In the end, she called me a stupid ugly ***** and laughed about me with her friends. She would walk by and slap me behind the head, for fun. I was also bullied a lot in high school I left home at 18 I got married twice my first husband was emotionally abusive to me so I divorced him 2 years later I am happily married to my wonderful current husband for 78 years we have our own children and grandchildren but I still break down and cry about my parents not loving me during my childhood somehow I will remember than BAM!!!! get depressed again it wounded me very deep and I never moved on or healed from it  Is it ok to cry about not being loved  I also forgot to mention that I wish I had a perfect childhood I cry myself to sleep about not having any love at all it is not fair  When me and my current husband met we moved 9000 miles from my and started a new life away from my family my husband and I started dating at 16 years old and I moved in with him and his family at 18 and I stood up to my family and I left and never looked back not even once  Anonymous We broke up and I started dating my first husband who was abusive to me then I divorced him I got back together with my husband and he proposed I got remarried and moved in with him and his family at 28 years old  then move out of my husbands parents house at age 30 and moved 9000 miles from my family 

So I recently went through a rough divorce with my wife because she didn't love me anymore. I'm worried about finding another woman with a divorce on my record now. I feel like it just looks bad, and I'd feel iffy dating a woman who has a divorce on her record as there's usually good reason for it. Wouldn't a divorce make you skeptical of someone?

My husband has never been violent and especially not against me. Yeaterday we were having an aegument though and he kicked my uterus hard. I fell to the ground and cried. He immediatly helped me onto the sofa and begged me for my forgiveness and helped me out. I feel so bad for him but that violence was not OK. We are 34 and 39 and yes we do have a child together.

I found out my bf ex checked on him when him and i were going through a rough patch. She also stated childishly that i dont have anything on her not a car or ring and that she has a husband. But to find out. She doesnt even have a husband she isnt married and she is a stripper. Im so confused like why lie and make up that whole thing about being in the bed with your husband. She still lives with her mother. I wander if he is still talking to her because he talks about the stars and galaxy and what not and she changed her name to galaxy on social media so its kind of weird. Should i speak up or leave it alone? I KNOW THESE THINGS BECAUSE I CHECKED HER SOCIAL MEDIA. I ALSO HAVE A FRIEND WHO IS FRIENDS WITH HER FAMILY. SO ITS NOT HARD TO FIND OUT I ALSO LIVE IN SMALL TOWN. IM NOT CHECKING ON HER WHO WOULDNT WANT TO FIND OUT ABOUT THE OTHER WOMAN  By the way we are only 22 

Me and my wife connected with another couple through our kids and they would like to hang out. I dated the wife of the couple back in my college days and have known her for years. We where intimate a few times, but non thing more than sex. It was over 20 years ago. I don't know if she told her husband or not, but so far To the both of us it's Clearly in the past. No future anything happening. Should I just move on and let it go or at least tell my wife before we hang out?

I recently conversed with one of my old teachers. We were just talking and I asked her about the people who she cares for. She said her children only. I said, " Ma'am you forgot your husband". She said, " I do love him but marriage is the most weak sort of relationship. It takes a minute to divorce someone". These words just surprised me for I'm the sort of person who knows that there are good and bad things in the world. I tend to be positive.  She has three children and has been married for 17 years. But her husband lives in UAE so my sixth sense tells me that they're divorced. Then she said that people are selfish and only want to fulfil their own desires. I said that she's negative but she said she's very realistic. At the end of the conversation, I was very low and gloomy. I was like, " are relationships, love and friendship bad"? What was wrong with her? Was she hurt in life herself? I know I shouldn't change my perspective for her but still I'm curious as to what was wrong with her. 

I've been married for 12 years. We have very little in common and husband is always moody and grumpy and rude to me. I'm not a needy person so I've adapted to his coldness. We actually don't even share a bedroom, and haven't been intimate in over a year.  Recently, I got an email from an ex who lives in England. He was always a sweet person and he's still very sweet. He wants me to come see him but how can I? I have a child and a mortgage. We talk everyday. I miss him very much. I could leave my husband but I'm afraid I'd hurt him.  By the way, husband knows I talk to ex. He knows we were good friends and doesn't seem too bothered. I am so sad.  

Having a child is no different than being married, you have an obligation and a vested interest in another human being. Kids fight and cry and whine and so do spouses. Yet people get divorced over these things. A nagging spouse, an over emotional spouse, a spouse who can't support themselves. But a kid is the EXACT same thing And does the exact same things. You don't divorce your kid. So why divorce your spouse?