I don't bother asking my parents because they would never tell the truth anyway so it doesn't matter. First off my parents are not married and had me at 20 and 23. They had all of my siblings 10 years later.

My mother wants to keep this estranged sibling, my sister, calm. So she gives her what she wants. If I join in a family conversation and this sister says "Mom, I don't like it when he talks" then my mother will ask me to leave for a little or sit outside. We are adults and I could just leave but it will make me look immature.      What do I do? My sister has Crohn's so hopefully can't come this year due to COVID-19 as she is high risk. However, there will be future holidays, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc.....

She doesn't exercise at all and I dont bother fighting her to anymore either. I get relaxed after I exercise and find her to make me feel anxious a lot on days I want to relax. She gets in these moods and is super impulsive. What can I do to help change her to be more like me?  Would paying for a gym help?  Another thing is she has these negative things to say everytime I say something she has a smart remark. How can she be more optimistic? 

If I told my mother to cut back on going places, she'd get upset and treat it as if I told her to never do it. She'd stop inviting me to do anything and I don't want that, I'd rather take my chances with the virus. However, she always is running about. I'm surprised she hasn't gotten the virus already... How would you manage that situation?  I live with her and she really needs my help getting in and out of places.

So after 5 years my fiancé & I have gotten our own house that we will be moving into in the next few weeks, we are pregnant & we only have space for us & new baby.. we had a conversation with her about us moving & she started saying she was gonna hate to move again & we stated to her she will not be coming with us very straight forward & not rude, she has money but we are stuck paying everything she's an alcoholic so when she gets into her fits we deal with it she has a boyfriend but it's more like they are playing house instead of helping out with bills. (Smoke weed & drink all day together) my fiancé asked them a few weeks ago what they are going to do & they said nothing... she came in our room yesterday asking my fiancé where "we" were moving too again & showing him furniture that she wants to buy for the new place it's like she is saying f*** what we say she is coming either way is there a better way to go about this? Cause I feel like we've done enough & don't want to go through the same situation in our own house, are we being cruel to want to be in our own space? Please let me know thanks 

I guess when she complains about your ways. It least she pays the bills

Whenever I put my feet up in the desk in school I used to get slapped in the face at home by mom and then repeatedly be called stupid kid. Ugly. Nasty. Shut up kid.  At times when I wanted to play with the other kids, I was 6 or so, I said I was going to heathers house, she says to me in a tone of voice to imply I'm stupid as she said Heather don't wanna play with you!  My older brother by a decade looks at me with a glare as well. I don't know what I could have done to heather.  I wanted to go to Pam's house to watch movies and play. My mom said girls only like to be around girls. So I stayed away from them.  When mom was in one of her moods, she would get all nasty and hit me in the face with the back of her hand as she constantly told me to shut up. I'd finally yell out stop and she would hit me again and tell me to shut up. This is if I had a bad day in school. I didn't burn anything or shoot up the school. I simply had a bad day in class.  If a bully kept hitting me in school my mom would hit me at home because "I don't want you fighting kid!" "Tell a teacher or walk awaaaaay kid. Stupid kid". My brother would make fun of my then weight problem and tease me about it. Mom would say, Steve stop. You can't kid with him you know how he is" Steve would look at me with a smirk going, "yea mom. I know how he is".  To be continued.  Whenever Steve came home from work all pissed off and on roof rage he would threaten me and beat me. Mom said to me I don't want you doing fight. I'll talk to him. He has an anger problem kid.  I was always made fun of when the subject of girlfriends came up. I would be the center of attention during dinner during uncomfortable subjects. My dad died when I was 9   After that it got worse.  The same process would repeat itself all throughout my adolescence years and to this day, I can't even get a girlfriend. I'm afraid of women yet society wants to further isolate by calling me an incel. 

I usually join them but in a damn towel. It's so weird that rhey are completely naked.

For awhile now I have suspected that my Mother is on the narcissistic  spectrum.  In fact, I've done my own extensive research on the signs/symptoms. One in particular is jealousy. In many ways I've outdone Her (in education, travel and employment) She has even jealously commented on this. However, I believe that She is using the tragedy of my massive stroke to sabotage me and  bring  me to Her level. For example, insisting I am completely incapable of living on my own, not helping me find a job, dictating where I have  to be at all times, and even going so far as dragging me to court to obtain guardianship!  To add insult to injury, She is morbidly obese and tells me(who is at a healthy weight) that I look "gross." Welp, I'm not a giant hunk of sagging flesh, but rather slim, trim, and have an athletic build. Somehow THAT'S gross!?

i am being evicted while going to travel for work in two days, my siblings are started to maneuver their way into my moms life and manipulating her decisions. my brother has for years but is threatening me via voicemail, text, and calls, and putting me down to feel as if in worthless, my sister and mother do the same just not to suck an extreme, they tell all their friends that im not mentally ok so now they all treat me different or accuse me of mental elder abuse to my mother and father. (my mom slaps me and puts her hand and nails into my neck but is very small person, my dad over the years has WHOOPED my ***, for good reason at times im sure, over the years to the point i fought back but only successful once or twice) my mother puts me down constantly and has made me feel SO low about myself, she even likes to have =people on the phone without me knowing when i am upset or angry so her friends or family will think less of me and therefore say hurtful things and talk about me and my friends behind my back. i have no family i consider them all strangers and bullies. i am stressed out i cant figure out how to put one foot infront of the other and at this point after so much abuse alkmost just want to give in and let them put me in a psych ward for the rest of my life on meds, i know dont want or deserve such but i am suffering bad from all this loss and abuse i feel as if everyone is stabbing me in the back and in tired!

as the question states, Me and my Twin brother made plans to have lunch together today. But instead, he blew me off to do a magazine cover with two of his other friends instead. He never even told me what was going on, and I am feeling really hurt right now. What should I do?

I've been knowing my stepson since he was young. Me and him are really close and can talk about anything. I'm glad we have a good relationship. But, I really want him to have a close relationship with his mom and his other siblings that she has with the man she's with. I try to enforce and explain that to him and he never wants to visit them. Am I wrong for making him go over to their home to see them on the weekends? I feel he's neglecting them. My husband does not agree but I don't feel it's right. I'm close to my family and I want them to be close one day. What do you guys think? 

When I was 5 years old my mom was 26 and my dad wad 28 I believe. I remember an evening where she told me that we would watch a movie together. We started watching the movie but she left to their room and told me that she would be back soon. She didn't come back after around 10min and I went into tbeir room to get her back. Well, I walked in on my dad banging her in missionary. He told me that they were wrestling. I didn't care and tried to pull my mom out of the bed but then my dad shouted "Get the f*** out now!" I left and watched it for quite a while before my mom came back. This has alwqys been fondly in my memory.

My sister in-law is getting mentally and physically abused by  my brother.  Their kids calls me all the time that they are scared for their moms life and that he hits her all the time and talks so bad about her to them and puts the kids in the middle of their fights and if the kids don't agree with him, he fights with kids and takes things away from them and breaks their belongings and calls them terrible names and says he hates them. I confronted my sister in-law  and told her i I was calling the cops on him and told her I would keep her and kids safe and they can stay at my house and she said to please mind  my business because she won't ever leave him bc she is scared of him. What can I do to make things better. 

I want to tell my abusive father (who has a heart condition ) which requires open heart surgery that my life would be more peaceful and quiet without him. And that I wish he was dead. Though he has done a lot for me, I'm completely sick of him and he's turned my life upside down with abuse. I just wish he was dead.

Hello I need someone to help me deal with a difficult decision. Let me start off by saying this is not a race issue, and I'm sure you are saying ,ok this is a race issue since they are saying it's not . So I am a 40 year old white female, my entire life growing up my dad had been in and out of prison , and my brother has been in and out of prison . My sisters husband she has now she met through a prison pen pal. My mom, dad and sister have sent money and care packages to my brother . They say well your "in there you need to help them "  since he needS stuff . I just received another letter from my brother just now  this one was thicker .i open it and was a few plank paper saying I'm VERY UPSET with you . You haven't written me or asked if I needed anything enclosed I sent you paper  so you can't say I have no paper .Now here the its not a race thing .My now wonderful Hispanic husband Who's never been arrest or have tickets ,tells me it's my brothers choose to be in and out of prison and that we are not send him money .i know he won't get upset if I do BUT  Why should we reward him with $$ to buy what he wants . Now my family is upset because they say I'm different now that I was brought up to help when someone is in prison . My brother and I have been very close . How do I respond to my brothers letter ?

Hello all my significant other of 10 yrs is not taking COVID seriously at all she always says ugh it's so stupid life goes on if I get sick and die whatever if others get sick and die whatever and I always tell her even if you think it's stupid please just wash your hands and wear a mask do it for me please cause eventually she is probably gunna get sick with it by being ignorant we argued about hand washing like 30 minutes ago and she licked her hand to prove a retarded point after driving home from work in her unsanitized Car **** like that will get her sick and I cannot afford to get sick with it cause I have asthma and if I got sick with it I could possibly infect my father who has many pre existing conditions she is just a ***** a ****** self centered ***** that dosnt really care about or my dad or any one of she can say something everybody's gotta die at some point. I'm angered by the ignorant behavior almost to the point of leaving her I'm sick of ignorant people. 

I've hung out with my friends no more than 3 times & am not allowed to have sleep overs/be with anyone after 7pm. I am not allowed to sleep past 11pm & have to keep my phone in their room at night. My father doesn't allow me to get my nails, hair (dyed or cut) or any piercing, wear a dress/skirt/shorts/tank top, i have to wear a bra at all times, can't have a significant other, have a job, get my license (until 18), & I'm not allowing to have any type of social media platforms (even though I do).... so pretty much express myself at all. This has made it so I am unable to be unapologetically me. I've tried talking to my father but he continues to gaslight and explain how ungrateful I am since my parents didn't grow up with their parents and bc i'm a first generation American. But that doesn't take in account that my childhood has been taken away from me and has been replaced with trauma and the feeling of unworthiness. Its quite frustrating that I'm always put down when I am a fairly respectful daughter, I am very trustworthy, and have a GREAT gpa. Not having cousins or siblings that I have good relationships with makes it even harder, I don't have anyone to be by my side, help me through, or help me take my mind off things. All of this has definitely created my anxiety and has made it hard for me to express my self both emotionally and physically, ruining a lot of my relationships. Please tell me what I can do, say, and/or your thoughts/input. Thanks!

Now don't get me wrong I love my in-laws dearly and they're all women but, it irritates me that my wife is in constant communication with them especially a specific one. She calls after 9pm, FaceTime 2-3 times a day and when we lived in our hometown, she came to our house unannounced on a few occasions. We moved away from our hometown almost 3 years ago and now all of a sudden that same sister wants to move here by us which is almost 4hrs away. I just want to make sure I'm not being jealous or do I have a valid point?

Today, my brother, mom, and I were all talking and my mom was talking about something that she was mad about. She was telling my brother and I about it. I looked at her with a look of disbelief and then for some reason, I looked at my brother kind of long with a look of disbelief kind of with my mouth open. It might have looked like a bad look which I didn't mean to give. I stared long by accident because I was thinking of the whole thing in my head and he stared back.  I didn't mean to make it look like a dirty look. I hope he didn't think it was. Will he understand that I wasn't trying to be rude?

Soooooo I have 2 baby cousins one 3 1/2 and the other one 1 1/2. They are very annoying. The 3 1/2 is ALWAYS needing attention with him always saying "Look, Ben, Look it!) they always destroy my room and give my PC a virus by banging on the keyboard and mouse. I tryed EVERYTHING that "helps" and nothing still helps. They break everything in sight that the person at the apple store called me a werido after bringing in my Macbook 4 times. I JUST WANT THEM TO GO AWAY. PLZ SOMEBODY HELP!