You say us guys are shallow and we mainly look at appearances but when you think about it society and the media makes the female appearance the most important thing. We grow up in our society seeing the unrealistic expectations on women all the time. But you girls worry about your appearance anyway, wearing makeup and nice clothes. I don't think it's shallow that guys mainly look at appearance. Because it seems that's mainly one of the things you worry about anyway, if you didn't care you wouldn't put so much effort into your appearance. Also I noticed that women are below men in any country in the world. I'm not saying it's a good thing but it's there. How does that make you feel knowing your only importance to men, to society and outside of this country is your appearance? I'm a guy and i lived in Russia for a few years and women over there basically are raised to take care of their future husbands... that's it. I think its really messed up, but how do you women live with that?

I'm a teen living in an apartment building. Last week I heard a bad argument from my neighbors, the next morning the wife had a black eye. I asked my Dad what we should do and he said we should do nothing. He told me it was a private family matter and it wasn't our place to get involved. I don't know if I should listen to my Dad because at school they say to report this kind of stuff. Who's opinion should I listen to my Dad or theschoils

I got taken away from my mom because she tried to kill herself in front of me, but I'm 13 now and live with my abusive father and I'm really tired of him. How can I go and live with my mom?

Okay here's the deal, my sister has a 6 year old and a 3 year old. My parents have been watching them since My niece was born but recently my mom and sister got into it leaving no one to watch her kids. She works 7pm-7am and her husband works 5am -5pm so from 5am to about 7:40am she has no one to watch the kids. I don't work until noon and I am a college student so she asked me to do it. She has not paid My mom one penny and she does not expect to pay me anything. She says we should want to watch them, that she can't afford it, and it's only 2 hours a day. Do you think this is right? I feel guilty for not wanting to. Mind you I would be driving to her house to watch them.

I don't wanna be like her.

I see 11 year olds at the mall, wandering around with very cropped tops. There are 15-16 year olds with tattoos, piercings, and recording half naked videos. Decades ago, all of these girls would've looked like children. It's just that kids should BE kids. They're better off dressing age-appropriate (although parents should let them choose their own clothes within those limits). Why are parents allowing them to choose outfits like these?

The victims get younger and younger as time goes by. Disturbingly, there are articles about 8 and 9 year olds killing themselves because of bullying. 10 years ago, this was only a problem in mostly teens. That was already too much for parents. The rates when it came to children self-harming increased for all ages - including an alarming rate of 4th-7th graders "cutting"/getting hospitalized at such a young age. This seems confusing. Why and how would grade schoolers know how to self-harm, yet succeed?!

I'm 16 my coworker is 25. He worked at a restaurant, with me, my family's restaurant. (Uncles retaurant) He made advances towards me (asking multiple times if I still talk to my ex bf, touching my collar and said fix your collar, bumped into me a lot on purpose, asked "did any guys try talking to you?") I reported it and they moved him to different shift. I'm feeling angry because he didn't get fired. Any help or comments

Last semester I joined a sorority. I've always wanted to & I'm glad I got the courage to put myself out there & join since I figured it's my senior year. With joining a sorority comes obligations such as attending events & supporting sisters etc. Some of these meetings/events end at 10:30 or even 11 pm & because I commute, I take a bus or an uber home depending on how late it ends & ill usually get home by or at 12 am. My parents don't like me coming home at this time because they fear the worst will happen. We've been getting in a lot of arguments bc of this. What's the point of joining if I'm not going to participate at all? Last semester I missed out on a lot just for the sake of them & I feel like I'm getting tired of this. I'm 23 & they've become so controlling I feel suffocated. My brother got a cold last week & my dad assumed he was going to die bc of something he saw in the news. As much as I would love to move out, I don't have $ for that. I'm a straight A student & whenever I get back late, they think the worst of me. One time my dad said I came back late bc I was selling drugs. I text them when I get there, I send a pic of the event I'm attending & whom Im with but it's still not enough. My brother has a good job & sometimes contributes to the bills & they do his laundry, iron his clothes, wake him up early for work, offer a ride to work. Ive talked to them about this but all they say is worry about yourself!! They are driving me crazy. Please help!

My fiancé (34 y/o) has one 15 y/o daughter from a previous and short lived relationship. He and I got in a fight because I told him I think he loves his daughter more than me, and he said that he DOES love her more than me and ALWAYS WILL NO MATTER WHAT. He said his daughter is his favorite person in the world, his number one priority, the most important person in his life. He said his daughter is more important than his own mother, more important than me, more important than anyone else in the world. He said that if faced with the decision to save her or someone else from a burning building, he'd always choose her without thinking twice

I notice that some parents tend to spend more time with same sex children. For example, a lot of moms go to movies with their daughter but DON'T spend as much time fishing with their son. Also, they seem to be there for them more as well... when they start kindergarten, reach puberty, finish high school etc. Same when it comes to fighting battles and making parental decisions (whether the kid is allowed to play this video game, dye their hair, go to the park alone or no). I don't know if this is true, but I see this in a lot of families where this happens.

So basically my moms boyfriends daughter is rly bossy sometimes and she's just joined a softball team and now she keeps telling me i need to join a sports team or a club and it makes me mad bc it's not her business and she just joined a sports team she knows nothing about it. Just the other day she said I need to run or jog after school sometimes and get "fresh air" like and she just went vegetarian This makes me uncomfortable and insecure. Help? Also I am not overweight I am Fine

I'm 18 and a girl. My mom and I are very close, shes my best friend, shes a great mom. She respects my privacy and doesn't snoop through my stuff. I always keep my room clean although there are some days where i get up to leave to school (college) and I don't have time to fix my bed. She doesn't get mad, it doesn't really matter to her because she knows that I clean my toom a lot but somedays she will do her little fun good things and she will clean my room or fix my bed, just as a good nice thing... well, I am a girl and I own a vibrator. I had used it one night and forgot to put it up, so it was left under my covers. I didn't remember until I got to school and i was just hoping that mom wouldn't do her nice gestures and fix my messy bed. When I came home mom had fixed my bed and ai felt terrible. I looked all over my bed and found it covered under my pillow which she has set up all fancy. I didn't say anything but asked who fixed my bed, she said she did and so I gave her big hugs and thanked her, of course just being our normal happy selves but inside I was embarrassed. How do you think my mom felt after seeing that? I wanted to bring it up but I didn't. Do you think shes upset? Im sire she cried about it when she saw it but moms help?

I know that i'm 19 and I should be pitching in. I am, I work a fast food job and use the little paycheck I get to pay light and phone bills. But it's just me and my mother and we have accumulated so many bills and now she lost her job and I don't know what to do and this job is messing up my schooling and I have F's in every class. My mother is also starting to get sick because of stress and i'm afraid that she's going to have another heart attack and die this time. I feel so lost, we're going to lose everything and it's my fault for not being a better daughter and working harder.

My dad was pretty awful. He had a bad temper but he got abused by his dad too so I guess I can't really blame him. Luckily I'm not allowed to see him anymore. This all happened when I was 6 and under and I'm 16 now, so it's been awhile but I don't know how to feel about it. I just want to know if any of these things count as abuse or not. I remember getting yelled at intensely for every thing I did wrong, even if it was just putting my shoe on the wrong foot by accident. I also remember getting pulled by my hair across the floor and stairs. He got locks installed on the outside of my door so that he could lock me in there when I did things wrong or keep me from getting out when he was in there. My siblings tell me they used to hear me screaming when he would do this. He would throw me into the garage, literally, and lock me in there too. May be they are bad I just feel like it's not as bad as some people have had it so it doesn't count. Is this even enough to affect someone's life longterm? There are so many more things but it was so long ago that I don't remember. I hate not knowing. But for right now I would just like to know does this count?

had a dream about my deceased brother, he's been gone 5 years now. We weren't that close growing up. In my dream, I was being stalked by someone. They sent me pictures of my deceased father while he was in the military and a friend of the family, who is still living that I haven't talked to since i was 6 yrs old. My brother was health in my dream, dressed as usual and doesn't say a word. Some man dressed in black comes to the door and my brother takes his bright shiny black shotgun, I ask, is it loaded? he shows me 2 bright gold shotgun shells, gets up and goes to the front door to the man coming..i suddenly feel myself being sucked up out of the dream i wake up. it was incredibly emotional and i cant get it out of my head. what do you think it means? when i woke up that day...i saw a gorgeous bright sunrise...and peace..it was so incredibly peaceful. now mind i you i live in western NY where we get very little sun in the winter. So that day...was unique

So I live with my sister, I do all the cooking, I do the dishes, and I buy the majority of the groceries. Almost every time I cook she has to complain about something wrong with the food. I spent over an hour making a homemade pasta dish, and she didn't even come to the table to eat it with me she just went straight to her room to play Xbox with her friends. Then I hear her talking about my food again to her friends. I confronted her about it and she just snapped at me and told me to stop. I don't know what to do anymore because it really hurt my feelings and she doesn't even care. Do you think I'm just being over dramatic or do I have a right to be upset?

she said yes okay guys I recently got engaged she said yes I went with my parents to talk to her parents and they approved then she came to my dad's house and ask my dad my hand which was kind of embarrassing that you did it and my dad approved and engage for a month if the past two weeks I've been noticing that she's called her ex three times on Valentine's Day around 12 noon and today after we spoke about our plans but we were going to do today should I confront her or do I need more proof

So i'm 18 year old guy, and my father has always been "explosive", and nervous, but never really went to physical assault, untill today. We were arguing because he didn't want our cat inside anymore, because she was aggressive with him when he was trying to kick her out of his room(you know how cats are), and when he finally did he came out and started arguing, and left the door open,and so our cat entered again, and my mother was in a corner, on her phone and he goes "If you werent on the ******* phone she wound not have entered again, i just wanna breack it" as he was saying this he was storming at my mom really aggressively , and I runned after him sayng "What the ****? Are you out of your mind?", because he was getting really close to my mom, and then he turned around and tried to grab my neck, e gabbed it, but I was able to grab his arm and pushed him away, and before i realize it my mother was separating us. Now after a while, I'm in my bed, and i don't really know what to do, or to think abou it...Because it wasn't like a slap or something, he tried to grab my kneck.

I never used physical force as discipline but my daughter became quite fixated on it. She has Asperger's and ADHD. All she searches on Google is this topic. I myself find this interesting as to why this is going on in her mind.

I got into an argument that my daughter is too young to date someone in college. She talked back and became angry with me. I slapped her and CPS is involved because she went to the counselor the next day, told her that I disapproved of her trying to date someone. The conversation focused on why she "loves" a college boy, but the school called CPS to inform them about multiple concerns. They're related to not only child abuse, but the fact that she's a young girl involved with an older man.

I'm his 15 year old sister. When I was his age, I didn't do heavy chores or was expected to learn how to fix computers etc. When I whined and cried, it was dealt with. My brother is told to grow up and stop being immature if he does it nowadays. Although I'm the oldest kid in the family, my parents do expect less from me. They still make me do chores, run errands, and help translate (they don't speak English). But overall, my brother is growing up faster than I did. There's no excuse for acting like a 12 year old drama king. He deals with his problems alone more than I ever did during my middle school years.

My dads wife is a controlling thief... no idea what he saw in her but now he says it's to expensive to divorce right now. Anyway she just got arrested for stealing candy... from a gas station last night and they let her out. This is like the 8th time in 3 years she's been arrested and let go. Only one time she got sentenced to 9 days in jail but obviously that didn't teach her anything. She's 38 years old and does this... my dad is retired military and works full time, so it's not like he can't afford to buy candy or anything she wants. She's addicted to stealing. It's not even about what it is. She's not allowed in multiple stores in our county and she isn't allowed visitation rights with her children from her first marriage. I thought there was such thing as 3 strikes your out?? I'm aware that our jail is overpopulated with violent criminals so they let others go but that's not going to teach her anything... she just does it again and again and again... she even steals from the family that let her in but that's a completely different story and so is her need to control my little sister. I moved out when she moved inbut my sister is only 14 and she can't.... what should I do???

Tonight, while chatting on Facebook, my female second cousin sent me a picture of her boobs on the condition that I delete it after seeing it. Does this mean she's into me? I don't want to read too much into what she did, but can I assume she wants to be more than just friends?