It is like a Doctor Phil episode. My Mom's cousin has run off with another man she claims is her soul mate. The other man is like a snake. There is no good in the man. No idea what possessed my Mom's cousin to do this. However, this all broke in February 2017. Now my Mom is CONSTANTLY with the cousin's soon to be ex-husband. She is decorating his house, buying him stuff for his house, visiting his kids when they are with him, befriending his siblings and mother, saying she loves him like a brother, offering to testify in court for him if there is a custody case, etc.... I find this so weird and worst of all my Mom is married. I am not suggesting that my Mom is having sex with this guy but it seems like an emotional affair. My Dad does not object but he is not nearly as involved with this guy as my Mom even though he is nice to the fellow. My Mom's cousin who used to be like a sister to her now hates her. So how do I explain this to people as the family likely thinks its weird also. Not justifying my Mom's cousin but my own Mom is being bizarre for a year and a half now. It is like this guy is her lover. He is not even that nice in terms of social or jolly though he is an okay person and certainly not mean. The weirdest part is how she enjoys this guys family now and won't go to her own family's stuff if the cousin who cheated or her allies are there.

Although it isn't too painful, I believe it is not right that she believes she can do that without any consequence. So one time I said I'd call 911 and she said, "Do it! It won't matter what you say because you're bigger than me so they will take my side!" Is she correct? Or does she sound just as insane as I think she does?

I have 3 children - ages 10, 3 and 1. My 10 year old is from a previous marriage and this was the first summer that he spent the majority of summer with Mom. For the past 9 years, she did not have much parenting time. She completed rehab and court granted her extended time in the summer. During the school year, she gets 4 days a month. So this is the first time he'd gotten freedom like this since they were born. He said he can watch whatever he wants on tv and no one else plays with his toys at Mom's. Since he's never acted this way toward his sister before, I am connecting these two things. But I could be wrong. When I've tried to talk with to my oldest about using his own space for a tv or toys (he has his own room), he says I am nicer to his sister and he asks to leave for Mom's. I am not sure how to approach this. I do take him to things just the two of us - like movies or the library, we did both on Saturday - regularly. Watching them, 10 year old is typically the one who tries to assert control first (he says my toy, my food, my game); he also readily takes her items and gets angry when she mimics his behavior. But I know that son has his own needs and I don't want to dismiss them. Advice?

In my family, a few members have an actual college degree and they are not THAT GOOD. I wanted to be remembered by my family as the person who had the first PhD in the family, or something. You know what I mean? I want to be special. The problem is that one of my cousins, younger than me, is also trying to be the first one at this. She has better grades than me, WAY BETTER and she is probably going to have a better degree than mine. She is basically going to win my family s respect over me and steal my really-wanted spot. What can I do in a situation like this, where I am not the special one and I am just another one? What will my family think of me?

She was ruined by her investment and anger at her father's alcoholism. Her father got better, she did not. UPDATE---I identified dry alcoholic wrong, apologies. I thought it meant one consumed by alcoholism who is not the drinker. So I guess I should say my mother is a child of an alcoholic. Sorry about that. I thought dry drunk meant those affected by the drinking.

I am 24. My sister is 20. We had the normal sister life growing up. I thought we were fairly close.. but she never messages/calls me. Even when I message her she wont reply most of the time. I told her I feel she ignores me and she didnt even reply to that. She is getting married and asked me to be her brides maid, she expected her family to help her with the wedding but she doesn't really communicate with her and she does not even say thank you for our help or anything. She did not evolve us when she got her wedding pictures taken, or anything. She done all the shopping with her soon to be mother in law and involves her soon to be husbands mother and family is everything.i notice she never likes anything I put on Facebook. That might not be a big deal but she is always on there and she literally likes everyone else's pics but I post pics and stuff on there and she wont say or like anything. I feel like there is something weird, but she will pretend everything is fine if I ask her. What should I do?

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Am 38 and my Mum and Dad are splitting up. Actually I saw it coming years ago, he is a difficult man to live with and I gave up on a relationship with him when I was a kid. He keeps sending me messages telling me he still loves and cares and I just feel awkward and don t know what to say to that.

I have 3 kids 10, 9 and 2. The 9 year old I haven't seen since she was 2. The relationship with her father was very bad/toxic so after he took her from me I walked out. I was supposed to go to court so the judge could give us instructions on what days we have her but I didnt go so up to this day we have joint custody. I took my other 2 kids to eat at a pizza place and ran into my 9 year old and her grandma. Grandma said she had been asking for me but I dont feel anything for this little girl and I dont want to be part of her life. Her grandma started crying and I know I'm a bad person for not feeling love for my daughter but I can't change how I feel and I actually felt glad this lady cried cause she used to treat me and my first child very bad. I love my other 2 kids I raised them on my own, I'll give my life for them but tlmy other daughter I dont feel anything for her. I'm a bad person right? Why dont I feel like one?

How come nobody has that same attitude about their mothers??? You never hear anybody say "I want to make my mother proud of me!"

Me and her daughter had a "thing" I guess you could say back in March (we made out and cuddled a couple times but I don't think her mom knows about that. We never had sex though) I'm 16 and she is 14. I took her for a ride in my car one night and we got caught by her mom so she's hated me ever since. I still text her daughter every once in a while but I don't say sh*t to her mom when I see her in public and I avoid that b*tch like a d@mn plague. She actually goes shopping at the store I work at so I see her in there a lot. She'll always give me a p*ssed off look and I always give her one right back. Why can't she get over something so minor that happened 6 months ago?

I've gotten a couple "I'm sorry's" and tight/sad smiles growing up. Especially since I had working parents - it was thought that I stared at the TV screens all day long and was addicted to social media while being spoilt by the adults. They'd question my parents about what happens when I turned 18 in the REAL world as if I was less prepared than kids with brothers and sisters.

Hey guys so I have been talking to this girl for 6 months. She always send me nudes and saying that she wants to f me. But that never happen because she always become busy on the day that we going to hang out she told me one time that she had sex with another dude just for me to give up on her ( but she told me again that was a lie ) Should I drop her? I feel like I talk to her whole time but I couldnt even get a simple date. Like I talk to her because I really wanna be her friends, sex is just a bonus though

I got a good job to work part time during school. my parents suggested it and wanted me to be independent and I agreed. so I turned 19 yesterday and they gave me a $300 gift card. I refused to take it because I don't really need their money. If I want $300 then I get off my butt and I work for it just like the rest of society. I told them to donate it to a homeless shelter since they need it more than me. They were really furious at me But I only declined it because I don't want to repay them back for something I never asked. I don't want to sound spoiled or ungrateful but that's the truth. I'm living in their house for free, but other than that I am financially stable.

I got an invitation to my ex mother in law's birthday party. I really liked her when I was married to her daughter Holly. However Holly in now married and I am sure she will be at her mother's birthday party with her husband. I decided my presence at the party might be a problem with Holly so I did not go but I sent a nice birthday gift. I got a thank you note for the gift and the note said Holly really wanted the same as my gift for herself and she asked where I bought it. I am on friendly terms with my ex wife so I bought an identical gift and sent it to her. I got a thank you note from Holly thanking me for the gift. Then unexpectedly I got a text message from Holly's husband that she would be returning the gift to me as he would not allow her to keep any gift I gave her. However the gift was not returned. I can only guess what might have happened, I think I learned a lesson from this that I should stay out of my ex wife's life and not have any contact with her as that might cause her marriage problems . Do you think that is the right lesson I should have learned from this?

My dad is an absolute control freak, he turns off my wifi so I'll be bored as hell and then threatens to take away my money (which he controlls because I'm not allowed to keep cash and I'm 15.) then he opens my door while I'm naked/changing and stalks me after we fight claiming he can't trust me on my own. Or he may just burst into my room to tell me something stupid like "you know you have school tommorrow (on a ******* monday night)" So I was hoping to find lots of different ways annoy him without actually getting him pissed. I would only do each thing once so he doesn't catch on. So far I'm playing rap songs with lots of cuss words. Any other ideas?

I am a sophmore in college.. im an only child.. my parents were always very overprotective and treated me like a 10 year old so I feel like I do act really immature for my age.. however.. it is starting to annoy me when my parents message me and ask what I did, what I ate, what i did with my friends.. etc.. when i first started college, i was a very honest person and told my mom everything i did like where i went, what i ate, what i bought, because she would ask me.. like when i think about it i dont think a 18 year old would have to tell her mom everything she did with her friends.. she also made me send pics of them.. they also made me skip classes and come home when i had a simple cold and a stomach flu one time.. that would just heal as time passes.. at first my dad made me promise to text him everyday but i think he gave up making me text him everyday but I am willing to do it maybe 2-3 times a week? if i do it everyday then theres nothing really to talk about.. but my mom will suddenly call me and talk about stuff for about an hour while I have other things to do.. I usually just listen and answer whatever she asks me.. I like living alone.. and being away from my parents finally because they never gave me privacy. I feel bad for saying this but I do not miss them at all.. i enjoy cooking by myself, cleaning, living the way i want.. but my mom would send me 2 boxes of homemade food every month and it takes up a lot of space in the fridge and i feel bad because then my roommates have no space to put their stuff i also end up throwing most food away bc i couldnt eat all of them in enough time.. and then i feel bad for my mom because i know she spent a lot of time cooking Im okay if she sends me a little every few months but not so often!!! bc I do enjoy cooking.. and i am trying to control my diet.and if my mom sends me foood then i would never try cooking i told her this and she says she's worried i will not have enough time to cook and will starve or eat unhealthy food and she gets mad at me later when i come home because i dont know how to do anything and it is because my parents do everything for me.. my parents also makes me come home every break..like even if i have one day off.. I rather stay in my apartment.. and who knows if i would go on a trip with my friends? like i ended up not being able to go because i already bought my plane tickets.. and i was so sad and lonely my parents will also drive 14 hours to see me every 2-3 months.. and i do not like that.. i rather see them after the end of each semester or so.. my parents also asks me about my friends and roommates and what they are doing almost everyday? and i think that is creepy.. and of course i can't be completely honest all the time.. idk why they are so curious about them.. is it normal to talk about your college friends so much with your parents? i think it is weird.. I lie to my parents a lot now and i feel bad.. but am I just really easily annoyed? do you think my parents treat me like a child? is this normal? My friend will tell me my dad is so very overprotective and how i survived with my parents.. i agree.. im thankful that they pay for everything and care about me and everything but.. i think.. it's too much? Im so worried they will come to my apartment.both of my roommates brings their boyfriends over almost everyday and what i fi parents find out and get mad at them and me?they told me to make"not bring boyfriends over"as a #1 rule but i dont want to b c when i get a boyfriend i know for sure i will also bring him over also my mom will go into my roommate's room for some reason and clean their bathroom and room and my mom will also clean and organize everything her way and idk i just dont like that i know it is long.. i just have to get this out.. because its frustrating and stressful for me and yes i did tell my parents that no college child prob texts or calls their parents everyday but then they will compare me to other college students who are angels and calls their parents everyday and tells them everything and sends pics but.. really? they also say that their friends who are parents goes to their children;s house to cook and clean almost everyday but thankfully i live far away so they can't do that.. and they think compared to those parents, they are giving me independece and treat me like an adult..

I don't want to sound selfish or anything but, I recently finished school and found a well paying job at a law firm. I have ti pay off 3 years worth of student loans. So my dad comes in and tells me "I will pay for half of your loans", and I told him that I don't want him or my mom paying any of it because they may ask me to do something for them in the future and when I don't want to do it then they are going to be like "well I helped you pay for...". And also recently went to a Chevy dealership to inquire about getting a car. My dad said to get a Honda so he can help put a down payment on it. I said I wanted a Chevy. then he tells me "You're going to regret getting that car. I am not putting a down payment on an American car". Thing is, I never asked him once to do anything. Stuff like this has been going over for like 10 years in my family. They want me to live with the same values as them, why? Am I not my own person? I never told them this, but sometimes I just wish I was never born. When I was a kid and teen they always scolded me for not doing things their way like going to Church, not going out to certain concerts etc... Is it time to move out? Or should I wait until I have enough money? PS: When I move out I probably won't tell them at all.

My neighbor who is 10, accidentally got sprayed in the face by a hose during a water fight on the block. The water stung because of the maximum mode that the hose was on. So he started crying, to which his father, who apparently has this "man up" mentality that only girls cry, went ballistic and smacked him in the face really hard. He said to his son, "Quit making all that noise!" as if he was disturbing the peace. Another time, the boy fell on the sidewalk and scraped his knee. As the tears were about to be shed, his dad yelled, "Don't cry!!"

She does take care of spoiled brat step kids and do laundry .She only works on weekends.She did have another job but they closed. She does not clean up enough . She always has enough money to buy herself wine. she asks for 5 or ten bucks once a week.she will not tell me where she is going and why she is doing things I hate that she leaves drink in the fridge with no lids. that breeds germs. She thinks she has rights to watch tv and call her friends without them hearing me yell and scream at her.

Ever since i can remember, i was a very (VERY) strange and hot headed kid. It's so hard to think about how weird i actually was when i was a kid. I have quite a bad temper but only towards my family, so now that i'm older, i've cut ties with my family because we were so unhappy. I really want to have kids and have the experience to be pregnant, but i'm scared that my children will have my personality.. i want to adopt for sure but i would love to experience how it's like to be pregnant, it seems like such a special moment of your life (and your children will be a mixture of the person that you love, isn't that wonderful?). It's like i'm trapped in my own mind, i've tried so many times to change my behaviour but it's so hard, i've basically ruined my whole life with my odd behaviour. I wish i had a normal life and a great personality so i could start a family of my own. Is there something i can do? And if i have children of my own and their personality is like mine, what do i do? I don't want them to be as bitter as i am.

In my case it was 3rd grade and my mom was picking me up from school early. She started swinging my hand as we walked down the hallway and sang "We re going to the dentist, the dentist, the dentist, we re going to the dentist Sophia Asher Zinn." as if her singing my name wasn t bad enough as she sang a quiet class of first graders walked past us in a single file line and I ll never forget the looks on their faces. I was mortified.