He wants me to stop the divorce proceedings so that he can prove to me why we should stay together. He was addicted to drugs, he has physically abused me, and he can't hold a job for more than six months. Then above everything else he was in a relationship the same day I asked for the divorce. So he had been seeing her prior to me wanting the divorce. He is the reason i have an anxiety disorder and he wants me to believe he can change. In the last four months he has lost everything. He lost his job, he lost his gf, and now that he hit rock bottom he believed that now he is a changed person. I told him that I would not mind giving the relationship another chance if he changed but I still want the divorce because he has had three years to change and he didn't. Instead he abandoned his family for another life because he thought the grass would be greener. I have been healing great with him out of the picture and now that he is slowly creeping back into my life I just feel anxious and on the edge all the time. We don't see each other, we only Facebook message, and we don't live together we live in two different cities. We are only friends and I was trying to see whether I should wait it out to see if he can prove me wrong because I do love him or do I just get divorced and get remarried later if me and him can work things out?

I really need some advice. My husband and I are high school sweethearts, we dated 3 yrs before we got married. I got married at the age of 21, & he was 20.His mom is one of those mother-n-laws that you see on tv. She still tries to control him, and I let him talk me into moving next door to his entire family. She didn't want us to get engaged. He proposed to me whenever he was 18, and we had both just graduated. His friend let it slip to me the day that he was going to do it, which of course ruined the surprise, but I didn't tell him I knew. He told his mom that he was going to ask me, and she begged him for three hours not to, because she said that she wasn't ready for him to do it. . He was late for our family dinner that day,and we showed up two hours late I knew something was wrong, and I knew that was the day, he finally let it slip that him and his mom had been fighting and that she didn't want him to do it, he wasn't going to ask me that day, because he didn't want to upset her. We got into the biggest fight ever over it, but he still asked. I feel like I pushed him to do it. I don't feel appreciated either, he doesn't do small things for me like pick or buy me flowers, or anything like that. He doesn't pick up after himself, and it sometimes feels like I have a small child to tend to instead of a husband. We almost split up during the winter, when he thought he was losing me he started doing nice stuff, now that I'm still here, it's back to the same old same old.

We don't have room & my husband wants a 50 theme . I want a country . What would be easier

The people at her job get more attention than me... An animal get more love than me... We argue about everything I feel passionate about... I can't have serious conversations with her because I've been made to feel like an idiot when I speak. I can't make decisions, I can't go outside without permission if I do then I'm cheating, I cant have friends she don't like or she cause a scene when it's time to hang out with them, my family and I barely talk, spend time with each other because I don't go see them because I'm afraid of how she'll react if I'm gone too long or not home when she get home and she's embarrassed me so much, that they don't want to come around. She said i cant work full time, I can't be there for anybody without her approval. I'm afraid I'll be stalked, I'll be bashed online, she will break or ruin everything she ever bought me... and honestly that's all I have at this point because she's taken care of me these last 3 years. I have nobody or nothing! If I tell her this and she make me feel like **** for feeling this way. She says she don't give a ****, to shut the **** up from talking to her, threaten to take things from me, to abandon me, put me down, call me names... When is enough, enough? We are married, what am I to do? I love my wife. I want it to work out... but she'll never change... So I need to leave . I have no where to go... just got a part time job but she's probably going to get me fired if I leave her... what can I do?

so im 13 & my mom & step dad have been together for about 7-8 years & have been ingaged for over 2 years & they are good together & they dont usually bring up when they actually want to get married but this past month they argue more than normal & they scream at eachother for hours (sometimes drunk) & say they dont need eachother & my mom wants to move out & stuff and all of a sudden my mom said they are setting a date (sometime in august 2016) & their going to make it official soon ?? i just dont want them to get a divorce as soon as they get married & i don't want a new "dad"i really like my stepdad now hes better than my real dad. (me & my real dad havent talked in 2 years) but i dont know & also my mom was talking to some guy friend of hers on facebook from 2014 nov to june 2015 & they would talk dirty gross stuff to eachother & he would say he loves my mom (obviously without my stepdad knowing). i replied to one of his messages & my mom saw but she pretended i never saw it & they continued to talk. they havent talked in about a month almost. should i leave it? or do something?

I am only 16 so I do not plan on having a child anytime soon! I am Muslim so i do plan on getting married in about 6 years or so and then a child about a year later maybe, depending on what my husband wishes to do. But I am always thinking about child birth! I really want to have a baby I can t wait but I am EXTREMELY scared of the pain it may come with! I can barely even handle the cramps I get once a month. So please just share your stories with me and your level of pain and your own remedies and things you did to help it go smoothly, thanks!!

little background, my ex and i got divorced in 2012 and we keep in occasional contact like every 6 mos or so. Anyway, I recently 2 months ago got remarried, but my ex isnt aware of this. (We've spoken since but I didn't know how to bring it up.) My ex still has feelings for me, and has in the past talked about getting back together, so i feel i should tell him so he knows that will never happen. (Also, even though my new husband and i havent told many people words getting out and i dont want my ex to hear it from someone other than me...proper protocol? should i even care? i dont want to be a d!ck)

My girlfriend says I am being a ***** for making him do all that work and so seldom giving him reward. Is she right?

My ex-wife slept with our son's best friend she's known him since he was for my ex-wife and I still live together but we're not together. Anyway I walked in on her with our son's best friend and I flipped out screaming "What is wrong with you! We have known him since he was born!" she responds with "Oh please you screw anything that moves an has breasts!" I mean yes I've slept around and yes I've been with younger women but none of them have ever been women my kids know and none of them have ever dated my kids (he went to prom with my daughter). I mean we use to babysit him! Yet she says I'm a hypocrite am I being a hypocrite?

My fiance and I have been together for 3 years and are getting married in 3 days. She originally wanted to wait until marriage to lose her virginity but her ex manipulated and pretty much pressured her into having sex, so She isnt a virgin, but i am. She said she didn't really want to lose it but was pressured into it. The fact that she lost it doesn't really bother me, i cant blame her if her ex was a dick. But the problem is i feel like shes going to be comparing me for most of our marriage which doesnt sit too well for me. Im not well endowed, im on the lower end of average, not only that but im inexperienced and nervous. What if i dont please her or cant be good as good as her ex? when we first started dating i thought she was a virgin, but when she told me (a year ino our relationship) it didnt really bother me , but now it does.

Im married anniversary coming up in a month and im pregnant with our second child. My husband has done things in the past that has made me lose trust. It happened when we were having a baby the last time. Though not physical the emotional attachment to someone else almost killed me so now im depressed again. His best friend is a girl which im ok with he told me recently that she was coming on a bit strong but he did tell her that thwy were only friends and showed me. Though I feel this doubt I feel I should give him,the benefit of ftje doubt but I cant help feeling some type of way. I need an outsiders opinion.

I am away on business and I opened my Skype app to video chat with my husband. He was logged in on my laptop and was receiving messages from a woman whom he said he had no contact with. Curious, I opened the conversation. There were dozens of messages some conversational and others like this: Her: I wish I could come see you. Him: me too. Her: I have a few thousand put away but I don't have a car yet. Him: hmm.. Her: I love you *Skype call* -----(next night)--- Her: Want to video chat? I cant do anything naughty just yet. Him: why not? Her: Kids are awake so is my sister. Him: yeah.. I didn't think you would be able to anyways... Her: we can still talk though. Him: maybe.. Her: can I call? Him: sure. *Skype call* --end-- I took screen shots and logged out of his account. He doesn't know I know about this. I also do not have his passwords, if he hadn't been logged in on my computer I wouldn't have been able to see this. I am very upset and would really like some advice. No this is not the first time he has done this (one other time two years ago). Has anyone else gone through this? I am on a business trip I cannot just pack my bags and leave right now. Do I pretend everything is ok until I am home again? Yes, I want to get a divorce. But that will have to wait until I get home. How do I handle this until then? Thanks.

My husband has a male friend that he's been friends with for a few years, they text sometimes and hangout sometimes, but nothing like lately. They text SO MUCH more and hangout ALONE so much more. His friend's wife and I were talking about how strange it was at a party all four of us were at the other night. Our husbands will go to dinner together, ride their quads/dirt bikes together, text for most of the day (if they're not working) and it's itching at us wives. I've spoken to my husband about it and he says that they're friends and that's what friends do. That I go out with my friends and he doesn't say anything about it. But I think it's different when two women have brunch alone than when two men go to dinner alone.. I'd just like some advice on the situation. If maybe you've been through the same thing or just some advice on how to talk to him about it.

I've started to date a woman whose been divorced. She's 25 and I'm 23. She got divorced about eight or so months ago. She doesn't have any kids. She was married for about 4 years to a guy in the military. I have never been married. What's some advice that can be given regarding dating someone who's been divorced? Is dating someone who's divorced different from dating someone who hasn't been? How?

This morning my wife of 8 years left work and claims she accidentally turned off her phone (Its a smart phone and requires not only to hold down the on/off button, but to also click "Power Off" on the screen). During the time that her phone was off, she claims she went to a small lake outside of town (in my opinion a very secluded location because very few people go to this lake especially at 7 am and it is very well hidden) to have a conversation with her female friend. She was at this location having this conversation for slightly over an hour. As soon as she left the location, her phone was turned back on. The argument is that she claims that she did nothing wrong and claims that I am psychotic for asking her questions and not believing her story. Simply stated, the story seems absurd. She normally has conversations with this friend after work in the parking lot of her work place. So, why would she go to this location with her phone off to have a simple conversation? Why wouldn't she just have the conversation in her normal location or on the phone? So, I'm wanting to get a poll going and will be showing her other's responses. What do you think: suspicious or just a harmless conversation in a poorly chosen location?

It would be the second marriage for both and he thinks women have orgasms quickly. He is a good person and we have dated about 15 months. Is it possible to be happy even with bad sex and never having an orgasm .

I'm just curious what the norm is... We have a great s life. Just kids get in the way quite abit. How do you get round it. I miss those long sessions instead of quiet quickies price we all pay I suppose.

I asked yesterday but my phone won't allow me to open but We have a court order basically saying I'm allowed to communicate with my son while he's with his dad between 5 and 9 for a month his dad has refused to let me everytime I get my son he's asking why I didn't call him but I'm trying to be the bigger parent and not tell him that his dad isint allowing me to talk to him I'm not sure if I should get a lawyer for something so minor to others but such a big deal to me this was a big deal when we were making our agreement now he's just purposely refusing me to communicate with our son..

Hello world here I come lol.....but seriously ty thoug(nh I just wanted to know which country has the best wives (yes I want to settle down with a down with a woman over seas) I have looked up to see if there was one but didn find anything useful except thailand and my friend has told me that a lot of women in thailand are gold diggers so dont go there so I just want to know which country has the best wives ty

My now husband and I felt very fortunate to find each other after getting out of relationships of infedelity. Right before we got married we said we were going to get tattoos for each other. He had none, I already had 4. I surprised him a few weeks later with one for him. It's now been almost 3 years layer and he still hasn't gotten one for me. Do I have the right to feel hurt and angry? I realize that a marriage is far more of a commitment than a tattoo, but it's more the principle of he saying he would and still hasn't and now said he probably won't. It does in a way make me feel like I'm willing to do more for him. I can't force him and never would, but I'm upset about th

Okay so I have a friend. He's a singer. Famous one. He always mention of wanting to get married. Since 2008 he's been telling to people until now, 2015. He's been mentioning it since he was like 19 or 20 until now, he will turn 27 this coming weeks: "If only I have someone, I could get married tomorrow" "I want a dependable family" "What's the feeling of marrying someone from the same industry? They say that in just one glace, you can spot the one. Is that true?" "I want a daughter no matter what. I could get married tomorrow" "I want to be someone a wife could always wait for. Who ever you are my wife, I love you" He's band members admit he always mention of marrying. He's capable. He's rich. Have so many properties, villas and everything. Lamborghini and everything. Chased all around. Every picture he post in instagram hits the headline. But the thing is.. He has a girlfriend. And they're going on for years. And he keeps on denying it but they've always been spotted having skinship and just doing sweet things, dating and everything. I mean why doesn't he marry his girlfriend. And if his girlfriend doesn't want to get married for now, why does he always mention of marrying the right one when he has a girlfriend? I mean gosh, he has a girlfriend what do you think is on his mind?

Hi my wife and I have been together for soon 6 years, but we never make love anymore. I tried to talk to her about it, but she always dismiss my attempts to get her to tell me why. She tells me I focus on things in life that are not important. Why can t she just talk to me about it? It feels like nothing I do works. Anyone been in a similar situation?

I never actually understood that. Also noticed some married/committed men go after single women, I don't get that bit either. Is this the new Millennium? Something happened? Like a cosmic explosion of oxytocin that is inducing this kind of sexually aggressive attitude which is purely awkward. Has the dose of hormones injected in our meat and fish products or even dairy, increased? What's so sexy about a committed person? To be honest, I see someone committed as intimidating, sometimes as if I was talking to my dad, which is really awkward to feel this way, but I do.

I don't believe the reasons for not getting married is that you'll feel trapped ( you can feel trapped in a relationship regardless if you're married or not ex; one of my friend is in an abusive relationship and she tells me she feels trapped and wants to get out but doesn't want to leave her bf) not to mention you have some women who "accidentally" gets pregnant and traps her bf just so he won't leave her.(In my opinion that's selfish) Or that you lose a lot of money for divorce (My best friend's sisters are in debt. One had a kid at 15 and is struggling to make ends meet. The other one made stupid decisions yet they both never been married. I want to get married because I want to spend my life with someone I truly love.I don't care about weddings cause I have bad stage fright :/ But at the same time I'm scared that if I do get married, my husband might divorce me for having an autistic kids because autism runs in family. (im 17 btw) I want to hear peoples viewpoints as to why they dont want to be married also if you have personal stories of experiencing a crappy marriage, I would like to hear them so I can understand your viewpoint better amber that's a good point. I also fear if my husband may cheat on me. However, marriage is work. of course people are going to change and Im not talking just in marriage but in general. People including you and I are not going to stay the same because we will change as long we are still alive. and if you fear of it then dont get married but I understand your perspective so thank you :) I also think that people dont want to be married or ends up in divorces because of the expectations they want in a relationship. so if they dont get it then majority of them just give up and find something or someone to please them. plus people nowadays have bad communication skills with their partners (which explains why people cheat) If you don't want to be married than thats okay, I wont judge you i say do what makes you happy Kim no duh sherlock of course relationships require work! I rarely see any relationships where people would put work into it. Why else do you think it's a lot easier to leave ur bf/gf and find someone else? That's called taking the easy way out. One can argue about how there are some people who don't put work into marriage because of selfish reasons or people who have this idea that marriage is the most perfect easy romantic thing in the world.

I'm not a bad guy. I'm 27 she's 28 and we've been married for 3 years now and have a 4 year old son. Earlier this year at a work party I got really drunk and mistakenly got with a girl there. We both agreed it was a mistake and we don't even talk anymore. I love my wife and have no interest in any other woman it was simply a drunken mistake. So is there any point in me telling her?

I am in Tamilnadu. Ours was love *** arranged marriage and is almost 10 years by now. We got two kids (a girl and a boy). We stay in a separate town away from my parents My wife is not working. She is now harassing me and scolding me everyday. She is beating my kids everyday. She is comparing me with others who is earning more than me. I want to get separated from my wife but I want my kids. kindly help me.

I'm 20, and I discovered photos of my mom and her coworker in bed together about 8 months ago. I confronted her, was sympathetic at the time and asked and listened to her about why she did it. I gave her advice, asked if she could do marriage counseling, anything but cheating on dad. She said no to marriage counseling and that she always has tried to tell her father but it always reverts back to less affection. She said there is little to no sex, etc. I told her she either has to get a divorce with my dad if it'll never get better, or work on the marriage and not cheat. I told her she has to stop cheating and if I find photos again, I would tell my dad. Now, last week I check to see if there are any photos, and I find (not sexual) photos between him and her. A photo of him washing her car, a screenshot text of her telling him how happy he made her, and a selfie photo of him sent to her. I confronted her again, and she denied the whole thing. Saying those photos were "little favors", they are just friends and she's not rarely talking to him anymore, and they haven't had sex and that it was a long time ago. I told her, "Fine, if you're just friends, show me texts right now between you and him." She showed me and two months ago it was constant selfie pictures between him and her (not naked, but still, photos of themselves). I warned her and told her dad needs to know, and AGAIN she begged me not to tell, that she will stop. I haven't talked to her at all, told her I need space. I've been going to counseling. And now, just YESTERDAY, I RUN INTO THE GUY. WHAT ARE THE FREAKING CHANCES. I confronted him at Walmart, and asked if he knew my mom. This is the first time I've ever met him. I told him he has to stop, he's destroying a family, that she is married. He barely said anything. I don't know if it's because he doesn't know English or what. But he said "Ok." and said, "She is lonely after work. She has nobody." I told my mom that I confronted him and she got happy. She said, "Ooh ok! What did he say? That's good, that's good!" I told her and she told me she and him are completely over, nothing is going on. She tried hugging me but I screamed at her to go away and to not touch me. I screamed that she has no idea how I feel and that I'm going to counseling. I haven't been eating, and I'm always thinking about this. She has been CONSTANTLY texting me, telling me how she is so sorry, to forgive her, that she misses the old me. I haven't been responding. She keeps telling me she loves me and I can't even say I love you back. She's guilt tripping me and I know it and I'm falling for it. I just texted her, "Things will never be ok between you and me unless you tell dad that you cheated. It will never get better between us." How the hell am I supposed to act around my mom though? I can't just choose to ignore it without her always trying to force our old relationship back to the way it was. It will never be the same and I don't want to talk to her.

Last night my husband said he and his friend made plans to go out. When it was almost 5 in the morning, I decided to call him. The phone rang once and he send it to VM. I called the friend he was out with, and his friend said around 2:30 am he got tired and went to sleep in the car, and had been trying to call my husband but my husband wasn't responding to him either. He said they were at a bar, and then went to a near by club. His friend asked my husband to leave with him as his friend had to start work in the morning, and after my husband refused his friend went to sleep in the car. My husband goes out late all the time. Lately after I talked to him, he's been trying to be better, but he still does it a few times a month. I want my husband to be social and have friends. But his idea of going out with the guys is staying out till early hours, and it seems like he even loses track of his friends during the night. Whenever I confront him and tell him he needs to grow up and start acting like a married man, he tells me I over react and get upset for no reason. But honestly I am hurting from inside. He's going out with his friends and leaving them behind in clubs...which in my mind tells me only one thing, and that's he's having fun with other women. I cried this morning, because I feel helpless. He came in as I was leaving for work around 5:30 am. Please give me some advice. How should I deal with this. Thank you :)

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so you can't "spend the rest of your life with someone" without signing a legally binding marriage contract? that's a SCAM

I love my husband who has been with me for 6 years and I found out that he used to had wife with a little girl 6 yo. I feel bad and then cheat him, I sleep and hang out with my boss who cares about me more than him and give me a good position at work. But my boss has 3 childrens and also have wife. But he told me his wife is very bad and not understand him like me. He spent more time on me than his wife. I don't know what to do now. I do love both guy and don't want any will hurt if I leave. Im sure that they love me and don't want me leave them too. But I can't live in cheating eachother everyday. What should I do now?

I have been doing extra chores, dinner, taking care of both kids so my wife can recoup. It's been 6 weeks now and maybe it has caught up. Just the past week I have become sad. All I think about is stresses at work, not getting, sleep and how it has been effecting my marriage. Any advice? This didn't happen with first child so its new to me.

My wife has a long history of drug abuse.... Aka H. She has been on a methadone program for almost 5 months and is only on 40mg and randomly does H. It doesn't matter what excuses there are aka bored with life or stressed or whatever clearly it is happening she lies about doing it but I know better. I am desperate for help she always says she is done and will deal differently and better and stop then says I knew she was an addict before and that she is trying. Idk what to do I know methadone programs have their own issues but its the only thing she will do and I'm so afraid for the future. I can't ever just pretend it's OK even just now and then and we want to start a family but I cannot imagine doing so with this being an issue. Please help I am unsure what to do or where to go from here. I know she has to do this and want this and says she does but she just makes it seem like I'm the one suffocating her or making it seem like she's not getting high and insisting its me. I told her I'm going to start peeing her she said fine and if she fails to send her to her mom's. So what she can go find someone to get her high and pretend it's all good and make us worse off? I need help I am in love with her but I can't keep on feeling like this.

So I'm not married yet, but I do have a bf, who I'm going to marry. Here's the thing I have seen my bf doing his thing more than once, and I don't freak out. I do one of 2 things. Either let him do his thing or I ask him if he needs some help, and put it in my mouth. I really don't understand what the big deal is. If you are married or in a long term relationship it's your responsibility to make your man happy. I really hate these women who complain about their man cheating or playing with himself, but at the same time won't give it up. How can you withhold sex from a guy, and than be shocked when he's using his hand? I really wonder if the women whose husbands cheat try to prevent their man from straying by offering more sex, or do they actually think a guy is going to put up with being married to someone who won't put out? Oh and because I know someone is going to mention this I'll save you the trouble. In one of my questions I mentioned that I was a virgin until about a month ago. That is true, but I have done other things. I only count vaginal sex as actual sex. BJs HJs and anal don't count to me.

my nose is just like yours and i use to like to pretend it looked like a normal straight flattish nose. but i have to be real. its lik a picasso painting

My husband walked out on me and our three kids, two of whom have special needs. One is very autistic and non-verbal. I've been a stay at home mom for over a decade particularly because of this. We have had a pretty difficult couple of years but I never stopped loving him or our family. He immediately reunited with an old girlfriend and we're now in the process of a divorce. But we're also still very co-dependent and he refers to me by the nickname he gave me and talks in terms of we, our and us. Money is tight for me because I have the kids the majority of the time and what he gives us isn't enough. I can't work because I have no car and the kids are home. Plus I always need to be available when school starts in case I have to go to school for our autistic daughter to take something to her or pick her up. I don't know what to do or think but to keep moving forward with the divorce. At least at the end of it, he'll have to give me the money he's holding that was meant for my car and I'll be mobile. Is there any hope for a amicable outcome of this or reconciliation? Is there any advice anyone can give me?

Husband: "The dress looks stunning on you!" Wife: "Since you said that merely to get ten dollars, I know it is not true. But here is your money anyway." a.Perfectionist Fallacy b.Circumstantial Ad Hominem c.No problem d.False Dilemma e.Wishful Thinking

(a spouse, a house, with children and pets, etc). I'm just wondering because I had never really found Mr. Right (I thought I did in the past but you know how it is). Can anyone with what I described clue me in? Is it all it's cracked up to be? or am I just dreaming about the positives? I would LOVE to have my own children and a loving husband and at times I dream about it. No more being told what to do with mom and dad. Don't get me wrong it's not like I don't love my original family, it's just that I sometimes wonder about the other side. And I wonder about the rich people too lol, but that's for a different site? I would love to have my own house where I have complete privacy and no body telling me where to put my stuff and what to do with things. I can fix up my yard to my liking, and paint the room orange if I wanted to. Paint the dinning room coral pink if I wanted to!