I have repeated the same mistakes with men time and time again. I recently had two connections with guys I met on my college campus. The first guy was someone I went on about 6 dates with and found I did NOT feel safe around. (he really liked talking about knives..enough said). The second guy was, in his own words, moody. That being said, he was also kind of charming and funny. I liked him, but we only went on one coffee date and texted a lot. We had two fallings out with each other. He reached out again, and I recently berated him with texts of misery over my stomach flu and described it in detail. I know...not. very. smart. Needless to say, that didn't work out. He was so fed up after I got pissed with him, that he told me to go to bed, told me my fever was making me act crazy, and reminded me that he was not my boyfriend. I was so mad at him. I even decided to ask on here about it, because I felt so peeved. I realize, though, that as moody as he was, and as crazy as the first guy was (ironically he really liked me...he wasn't normal), I was looking to them for attention. I keep doing this. It's like this pattern. I've done it with guys before them, and hope not to, but fear I may. On the other end of the gender spectrum, I realize that they saw me, whether or not I was relationship material to them initially, as a sexual conquest. I knew this when they both brought up sex right off the bat. We want each other for the wrong reasons. falling outs* On the topic of neediness, validation, and the obvious issue that they want sex while I want emotional attention that they don't want to provide without receiving their desired goal, I'm aware that I demand too much. It's hard to admit to yourself when you are wearing rose colored lenses, but the vibe I put out is one of need and flirtation. I'm sure men don't respect this, nor do I think that it breeds a healthy relationship. It's just it always starts as attraction.

I really care about my boyfriend and I love being with him but im not sure he is the one. I don't want to leave him but I don't wanna be with one person my whole life. at least not yet.

My parents and I do not have the best relationship ever. It's nothing extreme but most of the time we are always arguing. I have always wanted to fix the relationship but it never really seems to work.

I am 17 and my bf and I have been together for 6 months. Things have gotten weird ever since he saw me hanging out with a guy who he thought I was cheating with until I told him it was just my gay cousin, but after that he said we should have the passcodes to each others phones so there is total trust. I don't care if he looks at my phone because there is nothing in there but I realised numbers and messages were being deleted all from men, like even family. When I asked if he knew anything about it he said it must have been a phone glitch. I never bothered looking at his phone even after we swapped passcodes but my battery died when i was talking to mom so i tried to use his phone to call her and the passcode he gave me didn't work. he told me that his ex cheated on him with lots of guys and he has trust issues and told me that i need to work with him because he has trauma on this so what can i do so he feels comfortable and works through his trauma so this isn't a problem. thank you

Anytime i approach a girl i want to talk to and i find out they are 26 or older they ask me how old are you? and i tell them im 21 and they are like oh im older than you by this much... and im like can i get ur number still.. i do my best and i try not to get nervous about it but it never works after that they never text you back when they know you are younger.

So my bf and I have been together for a few years. We want to save ourselves for marriage (so do not answer for us to just have sex) and I've never been sexually attracted to anyone so in the beginning we had no problem keeping from doing anything inappropriate but after a year I suddenly became attracted to him in that way. Ever since that it's like we keep pushing the boundaries more and more. We have talked about it and had a few times we tried to stop , but it seems we end up going downhill again. These feelings are strong and I desperately want to bond with him in that way but we also both respect our religion and want to save ourselves for marriage. How can we control these emotions?

I just want to grab every pair I see and suck them for hours!

If a guy is talking about random girls bodies every now and then around you does that automatically mean that you're friend zoned? or could they just be trying to hint at you that that's what they look for in a girl?

The father of my child has been with his girlfriend for 5 months . Our daughter is only a year old. He comes over my house for visitations or anywhere he wants even the park. His new girlfriend who I've never met has been demanding to meet me , or sit in his car while he's in my home having visitations lol. Why would I want this new girl to know where I live and to sit in the car at every spot him and I meet. Why is she doing this ? She's upset now that I'm not ready to meet her , she's upset that he didn't let her sit in the car outside and wait for him. She's also doesn't understand why I'm not ok with her sitting in my house while he has his visitations . Now she doesn't understand why I won't invite her to our daughters birthday party. Why is she doing this ? Is this normal? Why would I give this new girl friend my home address ? No, she hasn't even met our baby girl .

She literally told some guy I know (associates) that she cares about me and loves me but when I asked she said she would never and that she doesnt like me but everybody tells me she does; now I never really told her I liked her but I told her I would have sex with her and thats about it (not sure If she finds it offensive or not) Im just super confused!

So my gf and I have been dating for 4 months now. We are both very mature and hate drama. Yesterday we had sex for the first time. She was a little uncomfortable during it which is why I stopped it after a little, but during I made sure she was in full control. I made sure she was okay and I didn't do anything she didn't want. The rest of the day was great then. We hung out with her friends and painted her friends bedroom. Everything was going great. She acted the same as usual she said she loved me and kissing her good bye was the same. There were no signs at all of a break up. I then left later in the evening before dinner so that she could spend time with friends. Today I go over to her house to pick her for her grandparents party and that's when she says this,"I talked to my friends last night and I don't see how this is going to work, I don't have a good reason why" I didn't scream or yell or anything I acted like a complete gentleman and said okay I hope the best for you, bye. And I left. Can anyone tell me what the heck happened?

On my last date with my girl friend she tells me she wishes I would die in a very painful death and the sooner the better. Should I keep trying or give it up?

This girl and I have been friends for 10 years, and our families are very close, almost like a 2nd family. She's always laughed at all of my jokes no matter how ridiculous, and we seem to be getting more personal with each other. We talk about our lives and our aspirations and a lot more than just random kid stuff like when we were growing up. Whenever our families are together we always end up away from everyone else and just hanging out with one another. I brought up us possibly being in a relationship about a month ago. She said no right now, but that "maybe it's something that could happen in the future". We've discussed it other times previously, but neither of us ever had really tried to turn it into anything. Things didn't really change after, and we still talk basically everyday. When we're together she always makes a point to grab my hands and is always looking for a hug or some kind of attention and seems to just follow me around wherever I go when we're together. She'll even remember things that I've brought up, said, or done that I'll easily forget myself. She gets upset when we don't talk regularly, and constantly apologizes to me if she doesn't immediately respond to a message I've sent her. I just graduated college and started a career, and she is in her 3rd year of college so we're kinda living different lives right now. Really I'm just trying to figure out whether or not she has any interest in me beyond the relationship we already have? Thanks

They sound nervous in their voice, but their fine with other people in my group. A lot of girls act extremely nervous around me.

For example this one day I was walking up to the courthouse in NYC and another dude was walking out and said under his breath " **** you looking at?? " ( like a little ***** ) ( When I wasn't even looking at him crazy ) If we was in the streets I would've said " Who the **** do you think you're talking to like that?? " " You want me to beat the **** out of you and knock your ******* teeth out?? " And the second he'd say some crazy **** to me I'd beat the **** out of him and say " Have you lost your ******* mind talking to me like that??

Date: how was your weekend? Me: it was good. I did some shopping and walked my dog. Want to go to Coney island sometime? Date: yeah! I haven t been there in a while. Me: I can bring sone towels if we go to the beach. Date: that sounds so romantic. Date: i might have to meet a friend from Indiana next Sat but i ll let you know if i m free. Take note: she messages me first at least 2x a week and she asks me how I m doing. It s been a week since we last hang out. She does kiss emojis. We went on 2 dates already in the past. If she flakes out on me on Saturday, I wont ask her out anymore or should i?

He is 28 and I am 29. We don't live together.

I've been dating this guy for almost five months now and after our date we then spend the rest of the night and the next morning in the back of his car and I never sleep at all that night and we do ths every week. I also have an anxiety disorder which makes it hard to be out sometines and a combination of that and nt getting sleeping has been catching up to me and I've been feeling weak which is what I gelt last time I relapsed with my anxiety. I told him I just needed a little time and then once we do go out on dates again that I didn't want t be out all night because of my anxiety. I told him this early this morning and haven't received any reply. Did I say something wrong or do you think he took it personally and thought I shouldn't feel anxious if I'm with him? I'm scared to keep pushing myself and put my mental health at risk but the thought of losing him doesn't feel good either.

I could share at them all day, especially when they wear short shorts or tight jeans

This girl I like and been dealing with said that she isn't ready to be in a relationship with anybody. She also just told me that she ain't attracted to me but we do have sex. Also, she is talking to other guys. So, she tweeted today something along the lines of popping up with a boyfriend unexpectedly. I don't know if she was serious but I would be lying if I said I was not triggered by that post. How should I handle the situation since I saw the tweet before I officially followed her on Twitter and don't want to seem like a creep?

Me and this girl been talking for awhile and what can I do to finally make her my girlfriend? So last year I met this girl and I was in a relationship with my ex girlfriend at the time but it wasn't nothing serious with me and her we was just real cool and crack jokes with each other. So I was having problems with my ex girlfriend and I was trying to get her back and I talked to her for advice. So her and her fiancé was having problems and I did the same in return for her. So was starting to become real close friends telling each other everything and talking to each other all day everyday. All of a sudden we started to catch like real deep feelings for each other it wasn't supposed to happen it just happened naturally on it own. Then her birthday came I spent time and took a couple shots with her to remove all the stress and make her smile. I met her kids and her kids love and attached to me and I'm starting to feel the same exact way about them. Now her ex fiancé trying to come back since she's happy now and make things work but she keep telling him she don't want anything to with it. We been telling each other we love each other every night for the past two weeks. How can I pull the trigger and make her mines all the way?

A guy crush and I were having a deep conversation and I'm kinda having a hard time ( I was disowned, long story). He said something along the lines of "I hope you know that I'm always here for you if you need anything. I'm really greatful we're friends" twice now he's said "I'm worried about you, you're not eating enough" and said "I'm not leaving until you eat something" he invited me to go him with to his home to his families 4th of July party. he tells me "you're really awesome" a lot he and some of his school friends and a friends girlfriend play games sometimes and he invited me to go he picks me up for work sometimes and drives me home very often. for a long time he offered me a ride and I always said no but he kept asking. When I finally said yes he said "finally I get to give you a ride after I've been asking and asking and asking" Is he interested or just being a friend/polite

Long story short... I'm not an overbearing boyfriend who stalks my girlfriend's location all the time. We have it turned on, but I literally never use it. But a couple of nights ago she told me that she was going to see an ex-boyfriend. She's talked about him a lot, and I know they ended on sorta weird terms and it has never sat well with her. He's in the area that she is visiting right now so I told her that she should talk to him so they could hash out some old stuff. She asked for a few days to herself so she could work through some things so I gave her some space. The night she was supposed to meet up with her ex I got a notification at 10:45 pm that she had "...stopped sharing location with me." The next morning she turned it back on and said that her phone died. I thought the timing was weird and it has made me uneasy. I'm trying really hard to give her the benefit of the doubt, but I can't find anything on weather or not that is something that would happen. So my question is: can you phone dying cause your phone to, not only stop sharing its location, but send a notification saying that " 'said person' stopped sharing their location. What I'm not looking for is relationship advise. Thank you all for reading all of this...

Long story short, I went out with this guy for coffee who had been staring me down in class last semester. He seemed a bit eager and predatorial due to all the staring and even switching seats to sit near me, but after the previous guy with a pocket knife and strange vibe, I felt beyond desperate to connect with someone. So, despite my fears that he may not be the safest choice, I decided to give it a go. (Disclaimer: I'm aware now that I can say no to someone who asks to exchange numbers, is overly attentive, or who simply wants to get coffee...but in my need for validation I didn't think to ask myself if I even liked this guy) We ended up, as I said, getting coffee, and texting quite a bit. We soon had a falling out, because he said I was neurotic and not to compare him to other guys, as well as the fact that he wanted something more sexual. "Lucky me, I know." (palm to face for what happened next). We argued over the phone about the things he was annoyed about. We called each other out. We then proceeded to not talk for weeks until he asked about homework. Fast forward, and we talked again because he said it would be a shame not to see me again when the semester ended. He even apologized for being "moody" with me. I was weary, because I knew his mood may flip, but I obliged. Things were fine, until I told him I had the stomach flu and had been throwing up. I felt like sh**. I had planned to leave class early that day, and he was working. So, a few days passed... ...a few days passed, I was still sick. I had a fever, and told him this. I was miserable. I admit that. He had been pretty sympathetic when I told him I had my period a few weeks prior, but even then said "uh oh that time of the month." I felt like a crappy person for messaging him upset, but I just felt so terrible. Mind you, we weren't dating, but I didn't think he'd react as he did. I asked to talk on the phone. He said if he was around he'd call. So, I waited. I knew that he may not call. I texted him, saying, that if he wasn't going to call just to call it a night, because I didn't want to stay up or wait around. He didn't respond to that. I, having been pretty sick (102) fever and vomiting, kind of lost it. I'm not proud of this, but I said something along the lines of "I don't feel guilty...I feel ashamed that I'm waiting around for a guy who doesn't even like me." I since deleted the text, so I don't know what I said. I also explained that I had been throwing up, and... ...how terrible I felt. I know that I sounded crazy and needy, but this guy who had reached back out to me had been so hot and cold, and now I was really ill and he couldn't give less f***s about me. Around 12:30 am he responded saying that my monologue was too long, and that I sounded crazy. He continued to tell me that I was irrational and that my fever was making me act insane. He was probably right, but he also said he'd call, and had just gotten back from work. finally, he said to go to sleep. I said I felt terrible, and I would, but ended it with goodbye. THe next day I apologized. I knew he hadn't blocked me, because the message was sent, which I tested out with my sisters phone. It went through. I felt so ashamed, so I decided to admit in a drawn out message that I was sorry, that I became too engrossed in our exchange, and that I wished him well. We have not talked since then, but I've never had someone shame me while I had a fever. I'm sorry this is so long, and aware I should not be texting when I'm really ill or talking on the phone as well as that men don't want to hear that you threw up, but he wasn't the least bit concerned. I know there are other guys out there, that he was very moody (a word he used to describe himself), and that I shouldn't have been so open with him, but it's been a few weeks since we've spoken, and if I'm being honest, I actually miss his company. I don't know what to do. Yes, I realize with some afterthought, that I was dramatic. I guess a better question, since it's quite obvious that I went too far with this guy, is how to overcome needing attention and validation. How do I stop seeing men as a means of flirtation, validation, and attention that I crave, and more as potential connections. Obviously I had a selfish mindset with him as I demanded quite a bit from someone I wasn't dating. I don't want to make the same mistakes again.

Whenever my boyfriend and I cuddle he slips his hand under my shirt all the way up to my neck and grabs it (he leaves it there)? Does anyone do that to their partner? It kind of scares me. Am I being dramatic?

My boyfriend use to be only gay for like 5 years and then recently he realized he likes both guys and girls and we started dating like right after that. I find it hard to be in a relationship with him more than half of the time because he's super close, (like sleeping over a different girls house every weekend) close. I feel like it's out of my place to say something to him because he was gay for the longest time and I do not i repeat DO NOT want to ruin any of his connections with all of his girl friends but sometimes it's just like okay I get that you are close with like 600 different girls but it hurts to see him putting every single girl before me... or even us. I don't really know what to do... i love him with all of my heart but at this point I think he doesn't really feel the same way. It's like he doesn't think of anyone but himself and it's hurting me more and more by the day...what should i do?

Typically singers wouldn't care, they look at billions of guys that dig them and they just say 'ah another person that likes me' $$ Sabrina Salerno $$ on the other hand is a more peculiar woman. When a guy likes her, she turns her head to the guy and then she stares at him and she wonders 'MAMA MIA why does this guy like me?' She hasn't replied to my fan mail but I am sure she thinks the same way.... Back in the 80s, and I am gonna reveal her secrets hidden carefully, she wasn't just a singer but a porn model, she sung for the younger group, then in the dark of the night posed for x rated porn films and magazines. HBO all the way. When I was young in the 80s I saw her safe side, the one singing on tv, not the darker side of her. Her porn magazines and porn videos goes very deep and it even dumbfounded me how she gave fans an impression of her being a nice singer who was the perfect daddy's girl, to a swedish erotica porn star.

Been dating a 33 year old women for more than half a year now , however not sure when to marry or not or if she is a suitable women for me. Could someone please help by providing some help as to when you know a relationship would work or won't and what to look in the opposite sex that is attractive.

Because he discovered my YouTube Channel. Well, kind of. I haven't confirmed anything and since I don't show my face or talk on my videos he can't really know. The thing is I feel observed. My channel is doing pretty goood but I don't want to tell him because 1st: He's very critical and I don't feel free. And 2nd. He's been wanting to start a YT channel and asked me to promote his channel if mine is successful. I would have done it some time ago BUT now I don't want to because I've asked him for favors like that before and he always called me a leech and never really did anything like that for me. So I don't want to either. The thing is, after we took sometime, we are trying to recover our relationship and we're not fighting anymore. But I still don't want to do that for him, it's too soon, but I don't want to tell him rhat because we could end ud fighting and I don't want that. I was trying to avoid rhat topic but he somehow kind of found out. I really don't understand how he did it. Like, the channel is still pretty small. I feel watched.

Hooking up with an old friend we were 30 & 31 when we first started sexual relations.We are just buddies now 49 &48 things are different. During sex he said he wasn't trying to hurt me . The next day in a text he asked me if he was that bad.I said no why he said you looked as if you were in pain.Tet we did have good time During sec he said he wanted me to remember him a d ask please don't give it to anyone else.

Most people tell me I have a cute young face but I think I look my age which is twenty lol.

Do Asian women like white Caucasian american males?

My on and off sex flame I've known for 18 yrs saw me at a pub 2yrs ago.When he saw I was talking to another guy he came over to say hi and ask if I was ok .Didnt know why as it seems he was with a young woman. He always seem excited of we are going to see each other but then I don't hear from him for a long time .I inbox him on Facebook and he replied quick n gave me his new phone number and said to call it's too much back and forth but I have k own him for yrs so I like him

Hello. We got divorced back in 2014 and now he's asking me back, to reconcile and start over. I'm the one that messed up...I cheated on him. I have mixed feelings is that I do want to but then again I don't want him back. The problem is that I can't trust myself, it may happen again. I'm also enjoying my single life, I flirt a lot with men and I have been with a couple of men as well. I've told him how I feel about him, but I haven't told him yet about me not trusting myself because I don't know how to tell him or how he will react to it. What should I do? Would he understand and that I'm not ready to be back in the relationship just yet? Advise and help would be appreciated!!

I told her "sorry if I bother you I'm autistic I've been very busy with a lot right now. could I ask you anything?" and she said "i know haha. yeah you can how old are you ok"

I want to hand them notes with my name and phone # on them while in the drive-thru. Would this work?

So last year I met this girl and I was in a relationship with my ex girlfriend at the time but it wasn't nothing serious with me and her we was just real cool and crack jokes with each other. So I was having problems with my ex girlfriend and I was trying to get her back and I talked to her for advice. So her and her fiancé was having problems and I did the same in return for her. So was starting to become real close friends telling each other everything and talking to each other all day everyday. All of a sudden we started to catch like real deep feelings for each other it wasn't supposed to happen it just happened naturally on it own. Then her birthday came I spent time and took a couple shots with her to remove all the stress and make her smile. I met her kids and her kids love and attached to me and I'm starting to feel the same exact way about them. Now her ex fiancé trying to come back since she's happy now and make things work but she keep telling him she don't want anything to do with it. I'm starting to fall in love with this girl how can I just pull the trigger and make her mines all the way?

My girlfriend and I recently decided to take a break from our relationship due to her being highly depressed and stressed out with anxiety and her not having enough time to spend with me due to school and work.i understand Her not having enough time to spend with me which is fine. We have been together for a year and seven months we hardly argue and every time we're around each other we are happy I started to notice lately that she was very distant I asked her what was wrong and she told me everything that was going on with school and work. She said she was highly depressed and wasn't herself anymore so I told her if she wanted to take a break or break up so she can find herself again. At first she says she doesn't know what she wants to do but after a couple of days I gave her the option again and she said she wanted a break it's been a week since the break and I told her I would not text her or bother her during the break but I wanted to ask how she was doing. Should I text her or wait for her to text me ?

This girl and I have been friends for 10 years, and our families are very close, almost like a 2nd family. She's always laughed at all of my jokes no matter how ridiculous, and we seem to be getting more personal with each other. We talk about our lives and our aspirations and a lot more than just random kid stuff like when we were growing up. Whenever our families are together we always end up away from everyone else and just hanging out with one another. I brought up us possibly being in a relationship about a month ago. She said no right now, but that "maybe it's something that could happen in the future". We've discussed it other times previously, but neither of us ever had really tried to turn it into anything. Things didn't really change after, and we still talk basically everyday. When we're together she always makes a point to grab my hands and is always looking for a hug or some kind of attention and seems to just follow me around wherever I go when we're together. She'll even remember things that I've brought up, said, or done that I'll easily forget myself. She gets upset when we don't talk regularly, and constantly apologizes to me if she doesn't immediately respond to a message I've sent her. I just graduated college and started a career, and she is in her 3rd year of college so we're kinda living different lives right now. Really I'm just trying to figure out whether or not she has any interest in me beyond the relationship we already have? Thanks

Have an old friend since 2001. We Used to live in same apt complex up until 2005.After loosing contact we both got married for short time then divorced. In 2012 we re connected.We hooked up off an on then may not see each other for a yr He acts as of he's excited to see me but once we hook up I don't hear from him Two yrs ago we bumped into each other at a pub spotted each other accross the bar.I was talking to a guy and few mins later he came by me and asked if I was good. The guy o was talking too even said was that an old boyfriend it was awkward.This past Wed we had sec since 2 yrs he said he wanted me to remember him.Kind of mentioned didn't want me sleeping with anyone else. He don't really like me I'm confused.

He's never been with a woman all his life. He's not really great looking either. But he's a good guy. He's very sad that he's never been with anyone. I feel very bad for him because he cried about this. ;(. He has heart problems if you're wondering.

Or do you think that's unlikely? I'm asking because I went to college with a girl and I'm pretty sure that's what she makes.

Please help me ! This is getting really bad for my professional environment!!!! Is there a medical condition that stopped me aging past 16???

My bf is CONSTANTLY LATE/has me sitting around waiting on him for dinner and we never end up eating till AT LEAST 9PM. It's causing me to gain a tremendous amount of weight eating this late. Almost nightly we go out to eat because it's too late to cook which is ALSO causing me to gain weight. Today he called me at 6:30 telling me he was on his way to my house for dinner. We were going to pick stuff up to cook. At 7:20 he just called said he got distracted and is on the way. This is a DAILY occurrence. It's starting to drive me absolutely nuts as I feel it's very disrespectful of my time. Even if we aren't having dinner and just have plans to hang out he does this. He tells me he's on his way then gets distracted and does something else then comes to the house. Any advice on how to fix his behavior?

So I'm 29, been together for 4.5 years and live together. Told him at the beginning of the year I want to get engaged by the end of the year. We are planning a trip to Japan in September and I bring up the proposal thing and He got really annoyed saying he feels pressured and that every time I mention it, it makes him not want to propose even more. Red flag??

So a little context.. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend so when we visit each other we stay at each other's houses. We both still live with our parents.. he's 17 and I'm 18. We've been together for over a year and are very close. We're both convinced that we're right for each other and we're planning on getting married in a couple years or so. Anyways, his family is Christian so they believe that we should sleep in separate beds and not have sex until marriage. She said it was one of the rules so I feel really bad for breaking it. I mean to be fair though, her son is extremely handsome and I'm in love with him, and we both just don't see any issue with having sex and sleeping together. We don't have to worry about pregnancy or stis or anything because I'm on the pill and don't have anything and he doesn't have anything either (he was a virgin). Anyways, what happened was that she walked in our room in the morning and we were both lying together naked. So she was really upset and saying she was disappointed and everything. She asked me to leave that day so I did. I sent her an apology message and also tried to explain to her that I have good intentions for her son but she didn't respond and I just feel really stressed about it. Can someone give me some insight on this and maybe some advice on how to feel better and fix this? I really can't lose this guy because we're like really in love but I'm worried that she won't let me see him