Family: Question: Weird for male cousin to repeatedly ask female cousin to send him a pic? Flirting or normal, more inside?

Question: Weird for male cousin to repeatedly ask female cousin to send him a pic? Flirting or normal, more inside?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 01:30 PM PDT

Cousin by marriage(30 years old) lives in a nearby state. He's asked for pics 4 times, in which I explain, not sending any(I dont use social media either). Now, he's planned to come visit me in my state(coming solo). Due to divorce & moving across several states, havent seen him in 15 years at famiy functions. Is this normal or is he interested in me?

Question: My grandparents loved each other. I noticed that lots of old people had long happy marriages.How come nowadays it aint' happen anymore?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 01:08 PM PDT

In WWII my grandpa joined the Marines. He fought in the pacific. Before joining,in 1941,he met a girl in his high school. Once he came back from the war they started dating,they got married. Grandpa became a gp. He was a family man, a good and honest person. yet simple despit being a doctor. They really loved each other,my grandpa wasn't all lovey dovey but you could tell they loved each other. They were married for 54 years when grandma died. Grandma died in 2000 of leukemia. Until the last moment they always were there for each other. After grandma died grandpa was strong but you could tell he missed her. Grandpa died in 2015 at age 91. When I look around I don't see the love they had anymore. I see people cheating,lying to each other,treating each other bad. My parents didn't stay together and most of my friends' parents split aswell. Where is the point when we lost such valors?

Question: Please help?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 11:46 AM PDT

I don't really know how to explain this, but i am praying that someone can help me. I have no idea what to do. Every once in a while, maybe once a month, although sometimes much more or a little less, I get this feeling. It is a feeling like no other. It often happens when I am hanging out with my friends or if I am with my family members or am thinking of something nostalgic. It is a feeling of EXTREME guilt. I feel beyond disturbed and disgusted and impure and sick to my stomach. It is a crippling feeling, beyond crippling. It usually only lasts for 1-30 seconds at a time. I know for a fact that if I felt this for more than say, a few minutes I would quite literally kill myself. This feeling makes me feel like my entire existence is wrong. I'm crying writing this because I am having a hard time trying to explain it. Everyone I've explained it to does not understand. I am not one to be dramatic, I hope you can take my word for that. I promise you this feeling is nothing average. It is killing me. It is so bad. I am 16 and I have experience childhood trauma with my parents if that helps. I just need some information. I have no idea what to do. This feeling is keeping me from hanging out with my friends or doing things I want to do. Thank you

Question: My parents keep saying things to me about this guy.?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 11:32 AM PDT

This guy and I are only friends we've been out once and we had sex. He's someone I met at a store where he works. And sometimes my parents see and talk to him at the store. At first it was my mom who said she likes him. But now it's my dad he said that I need to make up my mind about the guy. It makes me feel a certain way because the guy and I aren't together. We are just friends that's it nothing more.

Question: How do I not worry all the time but such family matters, read below?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 10:47 AM PDT

I kept posting all week about my fear of missing out with my parents and sister going to the beach with a friend of my sister's and my cousins down there with my uncle and his fiance. Well I just asked my sister "how was it" via Facebook and she noted just my uncle and his fiance were there, the cousins were with their mother at another beach (not anywhere even in the same state as where my parents are). I felt like a fool. All this week panicking that I would be discovered to be less then everyone since I miss out on a family event, turns out the cousins weren't even there. The uncle and his fiance I could care less about, nothing against them as I'm happy to see them, but not afraid of missing one individual visit either. Plus they were with his fiance's family so only saw my parents and sister briefly. All this time I thought I was missing out and would experience the pain of being less then others that I experienced as a kid and it turns out, I missed nothing. So how do I not worry about these kinds of things. In another week a cousin on the other side of my family is in town. Same deal, if I don't see her I will be seen to be the "disloyal one" since most others will cross paths. Yet, she is not that close and much older then me so likely I won't catch her as she is traveling with her kids. How do I stop worrying about being "Less then others" in the extended family like I was as a kid? As a kid I was less then others cause my Mom and her family were at odds. I asked this morning but did not get any answers.

Question: My mother allowed me around a sex offender in 2006 but not my own Dad cause he drank. Why do you think the hypocrisy?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 10:46 AM PDT

My Dad was a non-violent alcoholic and she alienated me from him for 5 years of my life. She robbed me of him. Meanwhile, she was fine with me being around this guy convicted of attempted forcible rape who we now learned is a full blown sex offender (he is back in jail). She was fine with me seeing him when we knew him through a relative whose now ex-wife is his sister. Why such a hypocrisy? Anonymous--What the hell? Your answer is sick and makes no sense, I just reported it. LilyRT ·-- If I do ask her she will just try and justify it with "I was there with you" but people could have supervised me when with my Dad also.

Question: Went to doctor to get my wrist checked due to pain, mom got mad?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 10:42 AM PDT

I been having a lot of pain in my wrist i decided to go to the doctor to get it checked out. My fiancé told my mom for me cause my phone was dead. My mom seemed either upset or something the way she responded to him. Then she writes me a while later she is busy at work just ice your wrist. I dont understand her. My fiancé thinks im overreacting at the text because you cant tell if shes mad over a text. Im 26 years old my mom was yelling at me to keep my job due to the insurance i get a few weeks ago but i was in really bad pain with my wrist. Now she changed her mind even my fiancé said he doesnt mind taking on extra hours (his idea not mine both work same place which is a factory setting). I feel like she is controlling me even though i recently moved out and can make my own decisions. It seems like my future in laws care more than my own mother but everytime i think this my mom claims she wasnt mad at me and acts sweet. What can i do? My fiancé hates seeing me in pain and his family got me an interview with another company related to my college degree.

Question: Why are people so rude to panhandlers who don't look like theyre homeless?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 10:12 AM PDT

What they have on or how clean they are has nothing to do with how much money they have at the moment, if you don't give them money so they can keep looking clean and find a job then they just might be dirty and back on the streets again, unless they're lucky enough to have a family member that's willing to help them, people don't make any sense

Question: I want to show my dad my penis idk why!?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 09:26 AM PDT

Im 15 and i cant do it in a changing room ot sth The only way is in the house or while family vacation Any ideas on how to do it ? (Soft or erect? And HOW ? I just want him to see it to feel the male bond!)

Question: Why does a messy house make people (usually moms) so angry?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 09:13 AM PDT

I still live at home (hard to find an afordable place here, even with a full time job) plus my mom is not well enough to live alone so I help her. However I am getting tired of it. I am off on weekends and thats when I do the brunt of the house work to keep it clean. I admit I get a tad overwhelmed but I do my best. I do everything she asks when it comes to it. even if I am tired from work or not feeling well, I will push through it for her. I like having a nice house as much as the next person, but I don't allow a little mess to upset me. I asked her why she allows a dusty table that I may have missed or some streaks on a mirror so angry. I told her I don't mind redoing a job if need be, but I dont let it bother me or make me mad. Instead of giving me a straight answer, she just cusses me out and accuses me of not caring about the house or caring about her. And then she may go on a tirade about how she wishes she were dead or how she should just kill herself (sometimes I wish she would....it hurts so much to be accused of things like this) does anyone else have similar feelings about a messy house, help me understand why it makes you (and possibly her) so angry

Question: I have to watch 3 of my younger siblings all summer for 8 hours a day. although i’m helping out is it fair to ask for $50 a week?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 08:05 AM PDT

Question: How would sons and daughters usually turn out if raised by dad that lives with them and not get paid attention to?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 07:50 AM PDT

Question: Is it wrong for my mom to kick me out at 18?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 07:33 AM PDT

I live with my mom and 3 siblings at a tiny two bedroom apartment. She wants to kick me out because with me gone, the apartment would be less crowded. She also thinks that I'm old enough to have my own place. I won't turn 18 for another 9 months so I still have time to save up.

Question: I need accountability partner to overcome porn addiction? Who can do me this unforgettable favor.?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 07:16 AM PDT

Question: I feel unsafe at home....advice?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 06:43 AM PDT

It started out with my father figure being verbally abusive (especially when drunk} and he s been doing that for as long as i can remember. My mom wasn t as bad at the time. Didn t do anything to help me, but didn t make it worse. When i was about 14 we moved into my grandparents because they were really sick. That s when it went down hill. I m currently 16 and ever since moving here my mental state has deteriorated due to the verbal and emotion abuse i ve been receiving from both my father figure and my mom. Just a min ago she exploded and started screaming at me. She ended up leaving the house and as she walked out she started screaming over at the neighbor she s going to "beat me up and go to jail for it" and kept threatening to send me to the neighbors to "straighten me out" I feel unsafe, I can t take much more, but i don t know what to do. I m not old enough to leave without consent and i m positive they wont give me consent. I m begging you for advice.

Question: I am sick and my family ignores me and doesn´t want to support me, what to do?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 05:21 AM PDT

I am sick and my family don´t even answer the phone.We live in different countries They are total egoists ( I have one sister and mother) Because I have been sick for months they just want to protect themselves and don´t deal with problems O am suffering and really need their support..but is there anything I can do They just turn off their phone when I call I have been supporting them financially for 10 years. That is why I work abroad to make more money and part of the reason I got sick. I don´t want them to take care of me but at least visit me or talk on the phone.

Question: Can my 16 year old son become emancipated?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 05:09 AM PDT

I'll be going to Minnesota for a few years to take care of my sick elderly mother but my son refuses to go with me. Can he become emancipated and stay here in Ohio? His father died many years ago.

Question: How hurt will my family be if i run away from home?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 04:43 AM PDT

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic, how do I stop getting embarrassed by his behavior when he is drunk?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 04:35 AM PDT

This weekend he walked out at my sister's graduation party without a shirt on and in his underwear in front of 55 guests.

Question: My older brother asks me to drive him everywhere and I’m getting sick of it. What do I do?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 04:32 AM PDT

My older brother is 30 and I'm 23. He doesn't drive, doesn't have a license, blah blah blah. He refuses to drive. Anyway, every time we hang out I have to pick him up and drop him off. Usually he'll stay over until 2 sometimes 4 am. And I have work the next day. It's super annoying. He's taking summer classes and he's been asking me to drop him off to school. I'm really really sick and tired of dropping him off everywhere. How can I bring this up calmly and respectfully. I don't want to hurt his feelings. Thanks

Question: How do I not worry all the time but such family matters, read below?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 04:29 AM PDT

I kept posting all week about my fear of missing out with my parents and sister going to the beach with a friend of my sister's and my cousins down there with my uncle and his fiance. Well I just asked my sister "how was it" via Facebook and she noted just my uncle and his fiance were there, the cousins were with their mother at another beach (not anywhere even in the same state as where my parents are). I felt like a fool. All this week panicking that I would be discovered to be less then everyone since I miss out on a family event, turns out the cousins weren't even there. The uncle and his fiance I could care less about, nothing against them as I'm happy to see them, but not afraid of missing one individual visit either. Plus they were with his fiance's family so only saw my parents and sister briefly. All this time I thought I was missing out and would experience the pain of being less then others that I experienced as a kid and it turns out, I missed nothing. So how do I not worry about these kinds of things. In another week a cousin on the other side of my family is in town. Same deal, if I don't see her I will be seen to be the "disloyal one" since most others will cross paths. Yet, she is not that close and much older then me so likely I won't catch her as she is traveling with her kids. How do I stop worrying about being "Less then others" in the extended family like I was as a kid? As a kid I was less then others cause my Mom and her family were at odds.

Question: I was tied up with a taped mouth as punishment?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 03:59 AM PDT

When I was 13, if I was too loud, I would get tied up and gagged by my parents. I was tied up and gagged in the living room to a chair so everyone can see. The gag was lots of clear tape. My brother thought this was hilarious. All I could do was make "mmmmph" noises, and he would tease me for it. It was humiliating. I would be left like that for hours sometimes depending on how loud I was. What do you think about this?

Question: Does my older estranged sister like me?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 03:54 AM PDT

Every time she visits she looks at me, my mom, and my other siblings funny. It's a really mean look she gives us. She'll just sit there with her glasses on staring at us with a really mean look. It's really scary. She's always done this. I don't think she likes us. I think she just pretends to. Which I don't know why she'd waste time doing that.

Question: My mom was wrong?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 03:09 AM PDT

My mom is to nag at me if I stayed in shape and I was attracted to get a rich spouse, but I realize in life it's different usually successful men I like to marry educated and successful woman. Just because the guy is Rich doesn't mean he is generous or does it mean he is selfish or has mental issues. I suffered a lot over my weight since my mom annoyed me a lot about my weight because she said if i dont look good the husband will cheat. now I'm in college and I realize that my mom wasn't always right.

Question: Should a 13 year old 8th grade boy like girls by that point if he is heterosexual?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 02:02 AM PDT

My son is 13 going into 8th grade and all he is interested in is video games, superheroes, Monster Trucks and Godzilla.

Question: Nephew broke my iPad?

Posted: 08 Jul 2019 12:00 AM PDT

My sister refuse to pay me back for it and she's the one giving it to him.he is 6 years old and he likes to break stuff should she have to pay or not

Question: Why does it bother me knowing my sister allows my dad who's getting old to clean up after her?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 11:25 PM PDT

she always has an excuse usually it's "i'm too tired" but then she'll b*tch and complain how disorganized she and can't find her cr*p. she's a year older than me and jokingly last time she was over i asked her to help me clean my room because "im sooo tired i need help" she grabbed her stuff and left fast LOL 😂

Question: How do you define a manchild?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 10:04 PM PDT

Question: How to deal with emotions of learning abusive estranged father is dead?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 09:20 PM PDT

My biological father was a child and wife abuser. He was very violent almost killing me and my mother. He threw my 3rd sister down a flight of stairs. She suffered a broken collarbone and brain damage. She is now mentally retarded and disabled. The abuse happened in the 1960s. He was never charged with any crimes. He abandoned us and left us destitute. I last saw him 3 years ago when he came unwelcome to my uncle's funeral. He never apologized to me but blamed my late mother for the abuse. He also said he never loved her and regretted marrying her. I found out by googling his name his obituary. His third wife excluded his 4 biological children from the obituary but listed her sons from a previous marriage as his children. Her children were raised by their father. I really don't care about being left out but it brings back the buried pain of the past. I know I'll be fine I grieved for his leaving decades ago. I don't know if it's relief or what but it's a strange feeling of loss and grief for him.

Question: Anyone in your family that you cannot stand?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 09:19 PM PDT

What is your relationship like? Is it good or bad?

Question: What could be making my mom more protective of me compared to my 14 year old brother (I’m a 17 year old girl)?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 09:17 PM PDT

My mom worries more about my safety compared to my brother's. I don't go out much and do the same things as my brother does. I never did anything to break her trust. However, her main focus is still on me. When I was 13 or 14 (my little brother's age), she was even more protective back then. Years ago, I once asked her why she didn't worry about my brother as much, and she simply replied that she'll have the same conversations with him when he's my age. Well, he is the same age that I was before now. My mom worries about him too but not as much. With him, only worries about drugs and video game addiction. When I was his age, she worried more about sexual abuse, kidnapping, drugs, bullying, social media, and all that. The list goes on, and more topics were/are discussed with me than with him.

Question: Family member makes up malignant lies about me to anyone who will listen?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 09:14 PM PDT

then those people naively instanly believe and go with what they say,they done this for years..also try to/want you to make me out to be a bad person and I'm not, how to deal with the lies they come about?

Question: Have to make granddaughter and 2 small kids move out. the guilt is bad but her lieing and disrespect of us and our home is too rd to take.?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 09:13 PM PDT

Question: Help I need advice my husbands alarm goes off at 5:30 AM but mine is not till just before seven do I just wear air plugs?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 08:24 PM PDT

Question: How do I not worry all the time but such family matters, read below?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 08:12 PM PDT

I kept posting all week about my fear of missing out with my parents and sister going to the beach with a friend of my sister's and my cousins down there with my uncle and his fiance. Well I just asked my sister "how was it" via Facebook and she noted just my uncle and his fiance were there, the cousins were with their mother at another beach (not anywhere even in the same state as where my parents are). I felt like a fool. All this week panicking that I would be discovered to be less then everyone since I miss out on a family event, turns out the cousins weren't even there. The uncle and his fiance I could care less about, nothing against them as I'm happy to see them, but not afraid of missing one individual visit either. Plus they were with his fiance's family so only saw my parents and sister briefly. All this time I thought I was missing out and would experience the pain of being less then others that I experienced as a kid and it turns out, I missed nothing. So how do I not worry about these kinds of things. In another week a cousin on the other side of my family is in town. Same deal, if I don't see her I will be seen to be the "disloyal one" since most others will cross paths. Yet, she is not that close and much older then me so likely I won't catch her as she is traveling with her kids. How do I stop worrying about being "Less then others" in the extended family like I was as a kid? As a kid I was less then others cause my Mom and her family were at odds.

Question: My girlfriends mom dislikes me, we don't know how to fix it.?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 07:04 PM PDT

We have been together for almost 8 months, she liked me the first week, but has had an unspoken issue with me ever since. She is very passive aggressive towards our relationship and her daughter about the relationship. (Ex. I got her a necklace with our anniversary and she turns it around every time she sees it on her daughter for the last 2 months.) we have the idea the idea to talk to her and attempt to fix it, but we don't know how to approach it. If you have suggestions on how to start that conversation or any other ideas, all help is appreciated. (I'm 20 and She is 19)

Question: How to deal with parents who constantly insult you?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 07:00 PM PDT

The insults are relentless. I don't think I'm a bad kid, I got into a good college, my grades are alright, I may procrastinate but I always get my work done on time. I'm not perfect, but I don't think I'm a bad kid. But my parents constantly insult my intelligence and my appearance. It sucks because I'll start out a day happy, and then get absolutely torn down by them randomly. For example, many times when I've gotten dressed up to go to something, my parents will insult how I look right before going, especially things I can't actually change like my hair. And then any excitement I had is overshadowed. Once we were with distant relatives and my dad randomly asked, "Isn't she so ugly?" (referencing me). I hadn't done anything at all. It was embarrassing. I'd get awards at school but nothing seemed to be enough. I've been trying to build a thicker skin, but it sucked when I was little and I was bullied in school and then I come home to be bullied by my parents too, it felt like I had nobody. It still feels like that. I know I'll be able to move out someday, and thank goodness I'm away at college for most of the year, but how do I deal with it right now? (Please don't give me the absolutely useless "talk to them" answer, if that worked, I wouldn't be here right now.) My brother defends me sometimes, but he can only do so much. If they get mad, they'll go on for large amounts of time insulting every fiber of my being. And I don't have the financial stability to move out yet. They don't otherwise neglect me. They used to hit me when I was little, but not anymore. They're not bad parents in any of the other aspects, they're just really emotionally abusive.

Question: My sister is 25 years old but her mental age is only 9 years old...can you help me?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 06:48 PM PDT

My sister is 25 years old with epilepsy and learning disabilities...after doing an IQ test by her doctors, they said that her mental age will never change from being 9 years old and she actually behaves and thinks like a 9 year old child. My mom takes care of her and she is very close to her but we all live together in the same house also with my dad (the 4 of us)...I am mostly worried about my parents passing away one day and leaving us alone...I am not going to be upset to handle such responsibility because I love my sister and I always say to myself that if I am ever going to get married I will marry someone who loves and accepts my sister's condition too so she can live with us one day after my parents pass away....however, I always wonder how am I going to take care of her since she is so dependent on others in terms of medications and normal life chores such as preparing food or showering. She is able to do so many things on her own but she needs help on most of the stuff which my mom helps her with now....can you guys help me with this at all like give me suggestions or recommendations anything...anything

Question: Does greyhound tell anybody when you bought a ticket if someone is looking for you?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 06:42 PM PDT

Like if your family goes to the greyhound station and asks where you bought a ticket to if you're an adult, they can file a missing police report that can run nationaly, but greyhound doesn't give out that information if you're an adult do they?

Question: Can anyone help me out?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 05:50 PM PDT

My 17 year old son calls me a deadbeat who're when I don't bring him where and when he wants to go. I've been working fir the last three days , I drive an hour and 20 minutes each way sometimes more depending on traffic. I have a physical job and I'm 55 years old I'm exhausted and filthy when I get home and want to shower .so I said not tonight we'll go get your chin up bar tomorrow ... we'll thats when the assault cane of me being called a neglectful deadbeat whore , narcissistic child services case ! He had spent the day with his aunt who has a big house a lot of money ( both of my sisters do) and he went on to say really insulting things about us living in an apartment and me never giving him what he needs... I have explained that I'm divorced and struggling but far from a deadbeat. I'm beginning to feel low about myself and to give up. Why should I compete with my own sister?! She also plays a part as she has no kids and trys to influence them against me to make herself look better . I try not to take it personally but it's difficult .o

Question: Is it wrong to hate my parents for making me so short?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 05:47 PM PDT

Ever since I was 10, I always dreamed of becoming a model. The problem is that I'm 17, done with puberty, and I'm only 5'3!! This is so unfair. No model agency is going to hire me...both of my parents are short and therefore I'm short.

Question: Do I try to live with and inherit my grandparents home?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 05:30 PM PDT

This is the one steady home Ive had. My mom was never home so she left my sister and I with my grandparents all the time. Most of the years of my childhood my dad was broke so we also lived with my grandparents. Mom moved several times so I never had a consistent home. I moved in with dad a year ago when mom kicked me out, he just got a house, and it was fine til mom kicked my sister out too and now she lives here. Dads a pushover and sister does whatever she wants, without a job or school while Im doing both; drives me crazy... Back to my point, I see grandparents all the time cuz they feel more like actual parents, or how parents should be. They put you in your place unlike dad and they dont leave all the time unlike mom. Grandparents have told me a few times I can move in with them, and the only thing stopping me is one of their kids has special needs. Gpa had a stroke and hes fine now but it put things in reality, so my aunts and uncles have been discussing where my special needs aunt will move once they both pass. I dont know if Im ready to take on responsibility of a special needs person, but I cant just move into their house and expect my aunt to go live with another aunt or uncle... Do I still try to move in with my grandparents and eventually inherit the home? I hate the idea of this home no longer being in the family cuz we gather here every sunday (we're italian) and the thought of this house no longer in our family weighs on me a lot... I'm almost 21 by the way..

Question: Does Aunts have rights?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 05:10 PM PDT

Need some advice! My husbands sister has caused A LOT of drama between our family. We have kept my step son from her since she has caused drama. But now that we got my sister in law out of our life, she wants to see him and has been adding my step sons mom on Facebook. (she is getting in contact with her about seeing him). We plan on talking to my step sons mom, but if she doesn't respect our wishes, what else can we do? My husband is furious. Thank you!

Question: How do I stop my moms crazy spending habits?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 04:54 PM PDT

My mom spends money like crazy! She goes shopping and comes back spending 60 dollars every other day. My sister supports her and always talks about our next vacation and clothes she wants. My dad is not too wealthy and talking to her has done anything. She often gets jealous of what other people do and then does it herself. At this point saving for college seems helpless as she is always dragging me places when she is bored so she can spend money. My dad works really hard but she does not understand. And my sister and I are both in high school. My sister also only spends my parents money and thinks it's easy to gain. I feel like I'm running out of time and my mom won't stop! Help please

Question: (see details) I'm looking for a word to describe someone's constant behavior towards me and/or perspective towards me.?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 04:47 PM PDT

If someone barely acknowledges you when you walk into a room and is generally dismissive and contemptuous of you, but thinks they're being nice and respectful when they ask you to do something for them and then goes back to their previous state of behavior towards you, is there a single word for that? This is my sister and I can't use the 4 letter "c" word when talking to our mom about this. To my sister I am always "contemptuous" even when she wants something from me.

Question: Why i feel bad my friend married?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 04:00 PM PDT

I'm 20 and I am not ready to get married since I realized that marriage is a huge responsibility that might have cheating, financial responsibility, and family issues. My friend is 21 years old and she got married two weeks ago, I'm not jealous but suddenly I had very negative emotions and I am kind of bothered by it. It makes me feel bad about myself because I thought only people who are smart, desirable, and mature getting married and I feel like I'm still just a kid.

Question: How can I explain to my mother in law that I don’t want her babysitting my daughter?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 04:00 PM PDT

My MIL is an alcoholic. She nearly died a few years ago from acute pancreatitis, you would think this would've put her off drinking for life but nope she still will get drunk occasionally and still has alcohol in the house. She's a bit unpredictable and has all sorts of mental problems now because of it. She's a nice enough woman (not nasty or horrible) but she's not someone I really want to be around my daughter a lot (because of obvious reasons). I only really allow supervised visits a couple times a month with her and her grandchild. She's asked if she can have her one night to babysit and spend time alone with her at her house. I already expressed to my husband before our daughter was even born that this is something I would never feel comfortable with (his mother babysitting) and that all visits with her needs to be supervised. He understood and respected my feelings but now he's too scared to upset his mother by declining her offer to babysit so I feel like it's down to me to tell her. I don't want to be too 'nicey nicey' about the subject to her, I want to stand my ground and explain 'no sorry this is the way it is' but I also don't want to be made out to be the ' bad one' and have her b*tch about me to everyone. How can I explain to her

Question: How do i use being sick to my full advantage?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 03:42 PM PDT

so far ive thought of getting out of my chores and still getting my allowance and skipping school. What else can I do? I want to get the most out of this before I get better. im npot lying if i really am sick

Question: Mother-in-law requests family pictures without me?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 03:16 PM PDT

So my manipulative mother in law of 2.5 years has requested her family come together for family photos, without me, the daughter in law that she hates forstealing her son from her. What do I do, and do you think it's wrong that my husband is going anyway? I feel sad, and feel as if that's exactly what his mother wanted.

Question: Does anyone else get wedgies from their sister?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 02:58 PM PDT

I know it's not uncommon for older siblings to wedgie the younger sibling, but my little sister gives me the wedgies and it's all the time, pretty much daily. Does anyone else have this problem?

Question: HELP ME. HOW do I respond to someone giving me hurtful gossip?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 02:57 PM PDT

apparently one sister got into it with one brother and dragged our name into it. according to the brother, she repeated things we said in confidence, but twisted it. now she's texting, asking me to call, saying that we're going to hate the brother after what she has to say. I don't want to know. I just want to get along with everyone. I HATE pettiness. my husband's in the hospital and we don't need this stress. how can I respond to this hurtful "news" she so wants to reveal?

Question: Is it wrong of me to say no to family?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 02:49 PM PDT

I just brought my first home and am really excited. However, my sister has asked to live with me. Which means her, her fiancé and six kids. I told her no that it wasn't a good idea. Then at my home warming my friend asked can her and her kids live with me until she gets on her feet. I feel bad about saying no. But in all honesty I need my space and don't want to feel like the bad guy or guilty for saying no. While it's just me and my daughter that stays here and it's plenty of room. Still..all my family are telling me how bad of a person I am. Am I wrong and how can I fix it?

Question: I hate my younger sister and life isn't fair to older brother?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 02:21 PM PDT

Younger siblings know parents are more lenient towards them growing up so they become manipulative. Our family was raised by my single mother. I dropped out of college because I put my family first. I worked for several years before I returned to school and I'm going to a good school, studying software engineering. I tell my sister about how hard I had it, while she went to college straight from high school and now works. She gives no sympathy and told my mom "so what did you do for me? you didn't do anything for me" and she has told me "So how has your struggle and sacrifice benefited me?" and tells me to stop victimizing myself and self pity. Ironically, according to my mom, my sister told my mom that she did not feel good about an important exam she took for grad school. My mom didn't get mad but expressed her worries. My sister complained to my mom that she felt hurt that my mom did not believe in her when her friends did. I think she's immature, childish and manipulative. She is dead to me and I'd want to break her neck but I hold back because I think of my mom, for her sake, I conform and hold back. She doesn't want to hear her own family's struggle because to her, she had it worst when my mom worked night and day as a single mother. I have done so much for my family as well. If it's someone else who isn't from my family, people may not want to hear nor care about struggles in other people's life. However, if you're part of that family, then you respect. She doens't even respect me. She's insecure and immature so her pride is cheap and hurt easily. Immature grown up baby is what she is. I hate immature people.

Question: Why do white people adopt kids from other races?

Posted: 07 Jul 2019 02:11 PM PDT

I live in a diverse area with a lot of adopted people in it. Some of them are minorities but raised from white families. I think it's best for the kids to be places with parents who are the same race. Decades ago, minorities were forced to assimilate and integrate with white people. Thats why a lot of adopted kids lived with white people. Wouldn't people still be doing the same thing to these kids if they're putting them in white families? Why not people of their own race - so they could grow up learning their own language and culture instead?