My mom told me at the beginning of this month that we're moving and I don't wanna go for a handful of reasons that include issues with my mom. I have a job, I'm 18, I recently graduated high school. I can get another job easily, my best friends family is fine with me moving in because we've been friends for so long and they know the problems that I've had with my mom. Her mom says that I don't have to pay rent but I still plan on giving at least something because I'm lucky to even have this option. I would share a room with my friend until her oldest brother moves out then I can have his old space. For school I plan on taking the next year off before getting my license in cosmetology then I will go to college to major in business whenever I feel like I have enough money saved to start attending. When I told her that I could find my own place to live she got mad because it wasn't something she decided. This is one of many problems that we have. If I stay in NY I can get a scholarship that pays full for my college as long as I stay for a couple of years which shouldn't be a problem. My mom has me packing up my stuff now and she wants me to pack it all together with her and my brothers stuff. The containers that we're putting clothes in has to be done by tomorrow. How do I tell my mom? I need the courage because I want to deal with this maturely and I don't want anymore bad blood between us but I don't want to have to do everything she wants to achieve that.

my mom is 66 and works, my dad 72 does not work my father inlaw not 68 my mother in law 70- we help my in-laws with a monthly fee, in our country of origin , my parents since my mom works they don't "need money" yet, or so my husband says, however, my mom needs rides to her doctors apt, since it is 3 of us , we try to take turns with my sisters, but everytime I go , my husband has to mention something negative about it, I do complain about him sending money too, but in my case, it only takes my time, and that I have to ask for few hours off work (which I still get paid) but he still complains , and it really pisses me off, I don't know how to tell him anymore, that it doesn't affect him at all if I take my parents to doctor,...then he throws on my face that he takes the kids to the doctor or to the dentist , I don't really know what to tell him any more , and I am really pissed off at his comments. please help!

Let's say a single mother has the following pros and cons: Pros: college education; has a great career making her financially stable enough to give her son (who she dedicates her life 100% to) everything he wants, therefore spoiling him rotten. Cons: is a raging alcoholic due to the stress from her job and having to single-handedly raise her son who she constantly makes cry by yelling at him (of course stemming from the intoxication) about his lousy tests/quizzes/report cards. And when I say "yell," I mean so loud that the neighbors can hear. Now, keep in mind that this mother is NOT the cliché alcoholic you see in movies (neglectful, hanging out a bars all night, etc.) Like I said in the "pros," she's very much involved in her son's life. But, unfortunately she lets her alcohol intake cross paths with him. If her son grows up to be a smart-a$$ who talks back and yells at her, is she too blame? Or is he just another unappreciative spoiled brat who takes his mother for granted, thus his family/friends not feeling sorry for him when his mother eventually passes on?

My 17 year old brother walks around the house in the mornings with just his shorts on, so bare feet and shirtless. I don't feel uncomfortable with it but my friends tell me that it is weird and he should wear PJ's especially when around the house in front of us. What are people's thoughts on this?

so my parents are gone for a few weeks so my grandma is taking care of me (i'm 16) but don't want to be alone. And so basically she keeps breaking stuff, she pressed to hard on the sink fossit and smashed it off the hinges, she got stressed out and mad and threw my imac 2008 into the ground and smashed it. the vacuum wasn't working so she kicked it and broke it. she clogged the toilet, she smashed the stove in rage. basically i don't know what to do i'm stressed

My son finished freshman year of college on academic probation. He had a semester or so to bring his average up or he will be dismissed. If he does get dismissed, my husband and I will probably have no choice but to kick him out. We are just very angry that he threw thousands of dollars of our money into the trash.

I betrayed my parents over and over my dad says that he might have a heart attack because of the stress I regret whatever done I've said I'm sorry has there anyway I can fix this I do not want to live like this

no matter what I do, I cant get my parents off my back. it doesn't matter that my grades are great, it doesn't matter that I do everything they ask, they constantly think I do everything wrong. i'm 16 years old, they wont let me start drivers ed, it took them a year to convince them to let me apply for a job. they control everything I do. I got my phone taken away for a week for one text I sent with a curse word. they monitor my phone, get my texts and calls, and I cant have social media. when I try to tell them that I can prove I can "take care of myself" I get grounded because apparently im talking back. they constantly tell me im not good enough, that im disrespectful and lazy. I don't know what to do anymore.

I notice everyone including me that they talk about people behind their backs. For example, my mom one day complained how she hates her siblings next day she said they are good people.

I am stuck seeing her on a family vacation in August. She is not a good person, very narcissistic and spoiled.

Grant it she is not as bad as when I was a kid and she was down right wicked.

This girl started to talking to my grandfather and asking for money. Hes already sent her around eight thousand dollars this year. Shes just a hooker and a catfish. My parents are struggling while hes sends this whore money. I told her to stop and she blocked me. I made another account and got nastier and she said that she has a guy in the states that will kill me. My family cries and screams over this. I also think my aunt and my sisters friends mom could be abusing their kids and foster kids. I have problems in life myself however. All the people in my family and friends are ****** up. An incest couple i once met is more normal than him. I also need to talk my friend out of going to a sex party at a convention on saturday.

I manipulate my younger sister and hit my little brother (but to be fair, he hits and bruises me all the time). Ive made my little sister cry a lot and I think I'm emotionally abusive towards her be I don't know how to stop. She keeps being annoying and makes me mad no matter what. I also can't keep friends for longer than a year because they either move away or we get into a big argument.. I just feel like a very terrible person right now, and I don't know how to stop it. Anyways, am I a toxic person?

Ok hi so my uncle aunt and cousin have lived with my grandparents for a couple of years now and they dont pay rent and they are being extremely rude to them. How would they go about getting them out of there house?

I am 23 years old and will be 24 in a few months. I feel like I'm supposed to have accomplished so much more by now with friends already married with kids and have careers lined up and The only thing I have accomplished is getting my bachelor's and master's degree. I just graduated in May and I feel like I should have a job lined up and be more on my feet. I also have a chronic illness which I have spent the last 7 years trying to get under control and I feel like that has set me back too and being that it is debilitating, I feel like it has made me rely on my family to take care of me too much. Is 24 still considered young? Is it normal to feel this way?

Background: my sister has been dating this guy who goes to jail all the time and he has been in jail for a couple months now. My sisters boyfriend got himself in jail because of armed robbery. My sister and her kid (she is 21 and she is 2) came to live with us because we didn't want to see her live on the streets or in a shelter or anything because she is pregnant and due in a couple weeks. Her daughter broke her phone so she can't press 1 when the jail calls her, so she told all her friends and his family to call my mom's phone. He calls her constantly and my sister just takes her phone and my mom gets mad about it and my sister acts like it is her phone. She won't go get her own phone because its "too expensive" even though she has over 3,000 dollars. My mom took her phone back and she got really angry and almost fought my mom and kept saying that it is our fault that she can't talk to him because we keep blocking the numbers that keep calling my mom. This has been happening for what feels like a month. My sister is so brain washed by the guy that she will do anything to try and get him out of jail. She has been selling nude photos to get money so she can get enough money to bond him out, even though he hasn't even posted bond yet. He beats her, abuses her, and one time punched her and she was the one sent to jail because of "domestic abuse" that he did to her.

For example any roll of the eyes and my parents and other aunt say "see, did you see what she just did" as though she did something wrong. I sent her some old pictures last summer and this aunt said "thank you, I like my family pics since no one took any of me as a kid" and both my parents got rawled up like "if you talk to her it only lets her say those things". I was like "what things, she just said no one took her photo as a kid, let her whine like that" Everyone is hyper sensitive to this instead of just ignoring her. The other aunt used to be lots of fun and now all she talks about is her sister's evil. The two uncles are even rawled up about it though not to as much an extreme. So how do I point out that everyone is too rawled up about it and I am going to be the adult and nice to everyone even if I think their behavior is immature? The issue everyone has with this aunt is she can get hostile when things are not going her way and when angry she does say extremely cruel and immature things. She even has a son she belittles cause he is living with his Dad, her ex, and yet she practically worships her two daughters she has with her husband now. So she is no saint but the others are way too worked up over her. My parents also use me sometimes as a way of getting this woman back while the other aunt uses me to vent about the bad aunt. So any ideas please share, how do I point this out everyone needs to just relax and not be worked up over loony aunt?

Both my parents smoke all the time, I don t even get out of my room to get dinner, or lunch anymore. Whenever I go out of my room the house smells like strong smoke. They leave there ashes and cigarettes also everywhere. The bathroom, counters, tables, my desk, all over there bedroom, etc. My mom has stopped smoking before but she cant with my dad still smoking. Please what do i do.

He even gets mad that I do not lie more often. I feel like getting the prick back by lying to him a bunch. He taught me as a minor not to lie, now he is mad I don't lie. Last year at Christmas for example I was in trouble cause when my grandmother asked what time my parents neighbors the Walkers and their kids were coming over I said "uh, the Walkers are in Hawaii" not knowing my Dad and step-Mom had come up with a scheme to tell her we were with the Walkers so they would not have to entertain. I was in trouble for not lying to her. In reality I had know idea I was supposed to lie or that the lie about the Walkers was expected of me. I just assumed my grandmother had info wrong. That is one of many examples of me getting in trouble for not being the lying scheme my father is. A big part of his divorce from my mother when I was a teen was that he was a lying and arrogant man. I see this man little but when I have to it is awkward. Yet, I don't want him to die one day estranged from me so I figure I have to see him some even though he is bad. I am his 34 year old daughter. So how do I avoid becoming like him? I fear his habits will pass down to me when I get to be older. He was not as bad when I was young though the lying was already a big one of his. He complains of my step-mother's sister cause she cracks down on her son's continual lying so he says "she is too uptight with him". My step-mother is in on the lies also and a big liar but she is nicer to me and not arrogant. Lying is her only weakness.

Hello! My family and I are taking a trip to Disney in the very beginning of August 2019, now that I have a well enough paying job to take a 6 person family without breaking the bank. My father is 55 years old and usually wears sneakers without any proper support or basic dad open toed sandals with the strap in the back. Now he is a hard working man working night shifts ever since I was born, he usually does not walk a lot nowadays. Since, we will be walking a lot, I already bought my mother shoes and the shoe inserts, however, I know my father will need supportive shoes if he's going to be walking all day. Price doesn't matter when it comes to my dad, as long as he can be as comfortable as he can. Any recommendations would be appreciated. I tried looking it up but all I ever see is articles about what to wear and not to wear, generalizations, or what grandpa should avoid, none of them being actually about the well-being of the man just about how to avoid upsetting the kids/grandkids. Again, any help is appreciated. Thank you :)

I have always paid for my children's college. My oldest son graduated with a 3.4 GPA and I paid for more than half of his tuition. My second child graduated with a 3.7 GPA and I paid for of a lot her college as well. My youngest child just graduated with a 2.6 GPA and below 1000 SAT score and we have decided that we shouldn't pay for his college for the first year. If he proves to us first that he can handle college, then we will pay for it. What happens if we pay for it and he flunks out? He will have to get a job while he attends community college.

Hi everyone so recently my dad has gotten married to this new woman and he told my mom that there is no reason for her to ever meet his girlfriend unless it's at an event like my college graduation. He is excluding her from family events even though my mom is never around my dad's family. I ******* hate my dad right now! Any advice? I can't stand his new wife either. I wish they would leave me alone and stay out of my life.

Consider the Epstein pedophile case.

I'm almost 20 years old and I'll be entering my sophomore year of college in roughly a month. I'm majoring in education but I don't even know if that's what I want to do, I don't know what I want to do. I work part time at a gas station and make less than two hundred dollars every two weeks. I still live with my parents who need me at home all the time. I bust my *** to make money, keep myself on the honor roll, make my parents proud (I had professors who barely knew my name show more enthusiasm over my accomplishments than my parents do) all the while trying to stay sane. I often get so anxious that it becomes hard to breath and my heart feels faint. I want to move out but like I stated earlier I make way too little to even contemplate that thought. I just feel so overwhelmed with everything. I feel underappreciated for everything I do for my family, I feel like everything I do is over looked because my circumstances "could be worse". What should I do?

My husband and I moved into my parents beach house for the next 6 months until our home is finished being built. I'm CONVINCED my mother has an untreated mental disorder. She came to visit/stay for the next 2 week. I was sick all week and recently washed all the towels. The linen closet is in her bedroom (the guest room) I forgot to put the towels up in the closet so they were sitting on her bed. She went INSANE. Screaming, stomping her foot telling my husband and I we hated her that's why we left a mess in her room. She went as far as to completely TRASH our bedroom. She took the trash can from the kitchen and threw tons of trash all over our room. We can't kick her out because first she's not charging us and second it is technically her home and we are only here until October when our home is built. My husband left and is refusing to come back until my mom is gone. She's here for almost 2 weeks. ANY SUGGESTIONS?? How would YOU handle it? She REFUSES to get help

Let's say the brother and sister are both in their late 20s. Each person knows the other loves them and they get along well. But there's a part of her that makes it hard to want to get closer to him by talking to him and just being around. Let's say she shows her love when she feels it's best also.

I m 17 years old and my mom wants me out of the house on my birthday(which is in September). I m a failure of a child simply put. I have 4 other younger siblings who drive my mom insane and she blames me for doing nothing. I clean the house everyday because my siblings make a mess. Anything she asks me to do I ll do it for her. I watch over them for my mom and step dad and I don t complain. Since I am older than my siblings I have to bare more responsibilities. However, since I didn t apply for college or for any grants she told me "I do not want another kid doing absolutely nothing in my house". I m the one who wakes up at 5 am and starts cleaning the house while everyone is asleep yet she tells me I do nothing which confuses me.The reason I didn t apply for anything was because I was betting on getting accepted into the US Navy but they disqualified me for having an auto immune disease which I know was not harmful to me yet they did not want to take any chances and I understand that. I should have applied for anything to give me an extra cash and apply for college but I didn t and I screwed my life over for being so incompetent. I don t have a job, I don t have any friends, and I don t have anyone to ask for help which is why I turn here. You can say anything to me. Please.