So, I have a complicated Daddy-Issue. I was raised by one man who I called dad - Let's call him stan. My mom and Dad were never really married, but he was still there for me and my siblings. He helped raise us and we loved him so much. When I turned 13, Mom got married to a different man - Bob. Bob and Stan didn't really get along but eventually, they shook hands and decided to allow bygones to be bygones. Well, by the time I turned 15, my Dad died. I was heartbroken, thrown into depression and just a changed person after that, and not in a good way. It took a long time for me to start getting along and accepting Bob and now he's one of the most important people in my life. He's a father figure. And then, out of the blue, right after I turn 18, this man shows up. My biological father. Let's call him Jerry. When we first met, he referred to my Mom as a breeding doe, got very drunk and asked me to call him Dad. I didn't even give my step-father the honor of being called Dad when deep down, I know he deserves that title. But I already gave that title to the man who raised me and it feels wrong calling anyone else that. I am now 24 and only met him 3 times. I have a little sister I never met and a little brother I only met once. He never even tried reaching out to me after the 3rd time but I haven't done it either. I have a lot of spiritual damage from losing my Dad and I have Bob who still isn't called dad. Should I really contact Jerry and let him in my life?

I'm a 19 yo male who is on the verge of moving out of my parents place and cutting off all contact with my mother. She constantly nags me about small things, like keeping the water running for more than a few seconds, getting the counter wet when washing dishes, etc and when I try to explain my frustration she just says that if I have a problem then I need to get a job and move out. The thing is that I only have this problem with her, and my dad rarely if ever nags me, especially for things so small so I see no reason to move out so soon. My mother will also bring up bills as a defense when she doesn't have a job, and only does the duties she's expected to do as a mother. I'm very responsible and since I was age 7 I've cooked, cleaned, washed dishes, washed laundry, and taken out the trash without help. Why does my mother treat me as if I'm some kind of burden or freeloader when the only thing she does for me is pick up food using my dad's car and money since I don't own a car yet. And I thank her Everytime. Of course it's not a job, but I have chores so I'm not just sitting around each day contributing nothing. Okay, I'm listening to all the responses and so far what I've gotten from them is that moving out would be the only way to stop the nagging. Graduated HS last year and am currently studying game design right now. I made a deal with my dad that I'd get a job at age 21 if my career doesn't take off by then. So should I just give up my dreams of becoming a software engineer, get a 9-5, save up for a few months and just move out? Okay I guess that is a yes, thanks for all the replies everyone.

I don't really know how to explain this, but i am praying that someone can help me. I have no idea what to do. Every once in a while, maybe once a month, although sometimes much more or a little less, I get this feeling. It is a feeling like no other. It often happens when I am hanging out with my friends or if I am with my family members or am thinking of something nostalgic. It is a feeling of EXTREME guilt. I feel beyond disturbed and disgusted and impure and sick to my stomach. It is a crippling feeling, beyond crippling. It usually only lasts for 1-30 seconds at a time. I know for a fact that if I felt this for more than say, a few minutes I would quite literally kill myself. This feeling makes me feel like my entire existence is wrong. I'm crying writing this because I am having a hard time trying to explain it. Everyone I've explained it to does not understand. I am not one to be dramatic, I hope you can take my word for that. I promise you this feeling is nothing average. It is killing me. It is so bad. I am 16 and I have experience childhood trauma with my parents if that helps. Although, this trauma was usually consistent for most of my life up until I was 13 or 14, so, I cannot really pinpoint a specific occurrence that would have caused this feeling. I just need some information. I have no idea what to do. This feeling is keeping me from hanging out with my friends or doing things I want to do. Thank you

I was asked by my ex s mom if her grandkids could go out of town with them. However, they are leaving in a week and says they are going to Disney World & Sea World. All the other grandkids were invited a year ago. Now I have to come up with the money for this week long trip at the last minute. I feel like she asked at the last minute for a reason.. Should I let them go??

These girls accept me because I have the same interests, personality and clothes as them. But my mom and dad says no. They say that at 13 years old,its inappropriate for me to be friends with people who are more than 1 year apart or so from my actual age. They believe the difference is too big for me to be in their friend group. I'm really disappointed because theyre really nice and good people. I think they're nicer than most kids in my 8th grade. I'm a good kid and wouldn't do anything wrong. They told me that "responsible parents wouldnt let their kids hang out with much older crowds, unless theyre a family member" (in their words). And they said theyre sure me and my 18 year old friends wouldnt want any parents supervising us 24/7 while we hang out either, so i cant hangout with them

Ok so whenever I'm doing something I'm always thinking about pleasing my parents and my grandparents and I want to stop thinking about pleasing my parents and my grandparents and to just please myself. How can I stop trying to please my parents and my grandparents?

I have only told my wife. I fathered a kid when I was 16 or 17 based on the age Ancestry DNA shows for this person. It would be 41 years ago now. I am married with four children in their twenties and one aged 32. This son of mine I know little about is 41. His family tree shows "Name Unknown" for father and then his adopted step-father and the step-father's family. I guess his step-father took care of him. I was 16 or 17 at the time as I know three times that year I had relations with a girl in her early twenties who I know is the woman named as the mother. I am not sleeping around now and was a reckless teen. My folks would have been furious had they known (they have died) and when I got into college age I settled down and took my faith more serious. At the same time I feel like if I have a son I should reach out but don't know if this will backfire. What do I do?

shouldn't this not be allowedly airlines. I thinksits absurd. I have 2 kids age 1 and 3 and we get them their own seat and they go to sleep or watch a video or something. When I travel on my own now I just dont fly commercially anymore if the flight is more than 2 hours bc I cant stand the crying. How are these women able to get away with this

My 16 year old daughter wants to date a boy she met through a mutual friend. He's a 17 year old boy who got charged with drunk driving last year. He spent a few months in juvenile detention. Ultimately it's her decision, but should I encourage her NOT to date him?

i'm a 16 year old girl and I really REALLY want an ipad pro 12.9 inch wifi + cellular which cost 1149$ so i'm going to use my moms credit card secretly and order one and bring the package in to my house before my parents cone home. will she know i ordered it? in april i bought an ipad mini 5 and iphone XR the same way and she didn't notice those and i also pay for service with her card and she doesn't know

They have a weird relationship, distant, mother lives in CT and we live in North NJ. My mom organized the entire baby shower, her family offered nothing and didn't offer to pay for any of it. They came to the shower and gave us cash and a check but thats about it. Her mom has never once, during the entire pregnancy asked how she is feeling or offered to come visit or help with anything. Now we are only a few weeks away and my parents cant wrap their heads around their relationship/ situation. It has nothing to do with us not being married. Her sister recently had a baby and the mother flew down to Florida and spent a week with them. I don't know if they will do the same for us, I don't know how I am supposed to react to them either way. I sometimes have a habit of speaking my mind if I don't like something and I don't want to start any fights, but at the same time I want to ask her, "what kind of mother doesn't come check on her pregnant daughter who only lives a couple hrs away?" Thoughts??

It's typical for a teen to talk back when getting angry with them. My daughter always used to put up a fight but recently things have been different. Every time I get angry at her and yell, she just stands there quietly. When I'm done, she simply lets out a sigh and says "okay." She then tiredly walks back to her room. I'm not saying I want her to argue with me but it just seems so unlike her. She hardly talks anymore and I don't know what to do. Should I be worried about her?

Not too young, not too old.

I insisted that I could not go, because I have a severe anxiety problem. They didn't respect that. My father forced me into the taxi using physical force. At the airport, I refused to go any further. Now, my father and my brother are traveling. My mother and I are at home now, and she is extremely sad. My father especially seems suicidal. My brother was crying. Everyone is very sad. Is it my fault? I think maybe it isn't, because I think my anxiety problem is real. I fear the urge to urinate/defecate. It eats at my mind constantly. That was all I could think about whilst we were in the taxi, how I didn't have access to toilet. This fear has been with me for a year and a half, and as you can see, it has gotten a lot worse.

this is the father speaking. i found out my son tony and bobby his brother watch porn. whats even worse is that its a hardcore porn tape i buoght hours ago. they ruined it with white sauce. now waht should i do? shuold i smash their "tools" with a bat? or hould i smash their asses with a bomb?

my uncle and my aunt grew up in the same house but my uncle is more fun and my aunt is more strict. how can people who had the same parents grow up so differently. my uncle lets me do what I want, he is not big on rules, calls himself Libertarian my uncle is older

When I was younger around 7-8 my father had passed and around that same time my "cousin" was came over to my grandmothers house and molested me (i'm a female in case you were wondering) and we smoked. I didn't know what she was doing and whatever I didn't know what p*rn was either and she told me what her uncle did to her and whatever. Fast forward when I was around 9-10 I did the most disgusting thing ever I let my dog lick me down there multiple times after I told me mother she told me not to do it again and I did when I was just a tiny bit older. Now looking back at it I feel horrible for it not only realizing how dirty that was sexually and germs but of what I let a animal do to me and I encouraged it. Looking back at it I feel so bad and I really want to kill myself over it and I'm still a minor I still live with my mom and I haven't even told her and I know that's just going to make me feel worse in the end but not only me her. I have so much guilt that I just don't know what to do anymore what I did was utterly disgusting but that makes me disgusting as well. I just don't know what to do if I should tell her or keep it to myself in the end. This isn't a troll and I really don't know what to do if I could go back in time I would and never would've done that.

my dad always smokes outside during the day or whenever my mom and I are home, but then waits until he thinks we're "asleep" to do whatever he wants. He refuses to get a lighter and uses the fckin stove to light his cigarette. Proceeds to blow in and out at least once before going out the house bc apparently he has no self control or just doesn't care. now as much as I care for his health, I care for mine way more. I might sound selfish, but at this point I don't care. he seems to neglect my mom and i's support to quit and laughs it off whenever I talk to him about it. he's ignorant and tends to go off from the actual subject when I confront him. he picks on my "problems" and tells me to fix myself instead. I'm not close to 18 so it's not like I can move out. And I know living with a smoker increases ur chances of respiratory infections and I already have a bit of asthma due to him smoking when I was a baby

I feel like my mom doesn't treat me equal like she dose with my other siblings I have done some bad stuff in the past but I have changed but she still look down on me I tried so hard to impress her but she's hard to impress she just keep on opening old subjects any advice guys ?

I hate my stepsister. I can't stand to be around her. I'm in my late 30s, and I'm married with kids, and I have older brother and a younger sister. My siblings hate her as well. She's eighteen, and she still lives with my father and her mother. Years ago before I was married and had children, I used to give her a bad time when she was a small child. There was also a time where I saw some guys on the sidewalk and invited them over to her house to a party she was having. But that was like 15 years ago, and to this day, she still bothers me about it. She still tells me about how I treated her every time I see her. She needs to get the f**k over it. So what if I was mean to her as a kid? I don't care. I don't want to have a relationship with her and I don't want her in my life. I don't care about the good things she does in her life, all I care about is the bad things she does and her reactive drama. I'm sick of her and I want my dad to get rid of her. I told my stepsister to her face that I don't even want to do as little as talk to her, because she's the one person in my life who I don't even want to talk to. I don't like her. How can I get my dad to get rid of her?

I own a lawn care business but it doesn't make enough money to rent my own place. I had a second job but was fired because I developed a health problem and spent one too many hours at the doctor's office. I do many of the chores around the house that need doing, except much of the cleaning because I'm not very good at that. I cook and wash the dishes. I mow the lawn and paint the house, the garage, and the barn when it needs it (not easy because it's a 3-story house). I painted a few rooms inside the house. I spent several sleepless nights this spring keeping water from flooding the basement. I replaced some old windows that were rotting. I clean the gutters and grow a few fruits and vegetables for my mom. I drive her to work when the roads are icy and she's not confident about her driving skills. I never ask her for money. But my siblings are always on my case to find a decent paying job and move out. I can't seem to convince them that this is such a rural area that there are no entry-level jobs except for the one that I got fired from due to a slipped disc. I would love to have my own place but it's just not possible right now. My mother and I get along great. She gets a little upset with my sister when she complains about me living here because my sister lives rent free in a house provided by the Lutheran Church, and she gets disability checks. My brother is a high-paid software engineer. They just don't seem to understand what it's like to be down on your luck.

Do dead people feel everything in their graves, and is the punishment and bliss of grave on the soul or on the body? - Allah Almight made the homes thrice, the home of world, the home of El-barzakh " The interspace " " The life of grave", and the home of hereafter, and made a home of rulings for each one . And created the human from body and soul, and made the rulings of the world upon the body whilst the soul is just a follower, and made the rulings of El-barzakh upon the soul whilst the body is just a follower. As the souls followed the bodies in the rulings of the world, and they " souls" suffered with their pain and relished with their comfort, and they " bodies" which took charge of all the ways of bliss and punishment, also the bodies , in the life of El-barzakh, followed the souls in their bliss and punishment, and the souls at that time they which assum / take charge of the bliss and punishment. -So the bodies here " in world" are visible and the souls are invisible and they "bodies" are as graves to them " souls" , whilst the souls there " in El-barzakh" are visible and the bodies are invisible in their graves... the rulings of el-barzakh happen to the souls and the bliss and punishment happen to their bodies as the rulings of world happen to the bodies and the bliss and punishment happen to their souls. Allah Almighty showed us by His kindness and mercy from that an example of the condition of Sleeper in world ,that what He feels of bliss or torment during his seleep is originally happening to the soul whilst the body is just a follower, however it may become more stronger and affect the body a visible impact. so the sleeper may see in his sleep that he was beaten, and when he gets up in the morning finds the signs of beating on his body,or he may see that he ate and drank, and when he gets up in the morning finds the signs of food and drinking on his mouth. This is something that really happens The most amazement that you find the sleeper can get up without consciousness during his sleep, and strike and scramble and move with violence as though he is awake in reality. That because when the ruling came upon the soul, It " the soul" resorted to the body from outside, and if it went into it, it" the body" will get up and feel . And If the soul suffers and gets bliss, and this reaches to the body by the way of following thus is the status in el-barzakh, but it is greater. so the soul is still connected to the body and doesnt leave it totally, and when the resurrection comes, the bliss and punishment are on the soul and body together. When Allah the Great desires bliss or punishment for the soul, He connects it to the body. It is in Heaven, but at the same time it looks at and is connected to the body in the ground "as the ray to the heavens" Finally, If the body and soul of a sleeping person can experience joy and pain that are not felt by the person next to him, and a sleeper may even cry out because of the intensity of pain or fear of what is happening to him, and those who are awake can hear him, and he may speak, reciting Qur'aan or dhikr, or talking to someone, and those who are awake can hear that, even though he is asleep with his eyes closed, and he does not hear them if they speak to him then how can we deny that the one who is buried in his grave also feels thing

Why?? like the people from, Alabama, south Carolina, Kentucky... I heard, that some of them date and get with their own cousins..

Ok so basically we have a roommate who has an autistic boy that my fiance and I look after. He is also our sons friend. We want to go to Kentucky next month and she's not ready because she has bad credit and supposedly she will miss us too much. I think she's really going to miss my fiance and his son more. She acts like a ***** to me and admitted she didn't feel I was good enough for my fiance and his kid which is my step kid kinda. But anyway now we have to wait for her to figure out stuff with her aunt and uncle who are really strict and don't even want me in their house because of house rules and trust issues. They don't really know me. But anyway she also wants a babysitter for her son so now we are stuck here for either two more months or until the end of the year because of her and her son. Is this fair to me and him and our kid?

My dad never cheated on her, but my mom is obsessed with being thin and looking like barbie. We told her she should gain weight, she is too thin. My mom insult me and dad and said no she still needs to lose weight. I dont understand why she is like this

My family was reunited with a cousin we haven't seen for years and we told him dinner would be on us. One of my family members told my cousin that he lent his deceased father money years ago, so my cousin said very seriously, "maybe I should pay for the dinner to pay some of it back!" My relative told me afterward he brought up the money issue to let my cousin know how much he cared for my cousin's father (his brother) and wanted to help him. IMO, the money issue shouldn't have been brought up because it sounded like he wanted to be paid back. Do you agree with me, or do you think my cousin's comment about paying for dinner was uncalled for?

Hey everyone, so I'm a 15 yr old boy and I have a cousin who is 14 (female) and I just got back from visiting my aunt, uncle and cousins. For about a year 1/2 I've been suspecting that my cousin is flirting with me. So for instance I see her looking at me from the corner of my eye then when make her laugh she says I'm "Sooo funny" and she also sings and slightly kicks me to get a reaction out me and laughs every time. She'll also say random stuff whenever she's happy or hyper to me to get my attention and get a reaction and of course she laughs. Then when we were swimming which was every day I would make her laugh and then would throw a floaty at me and splashed water in my face and also I would see her peeking at me in the pool. But what makes me question if she has feelings for me is that at times she'll be quiet around me like she's ignoring me or that I'm not even around and then after she would flirt with me she would just walk out like nothing even happened. I have put in mind that her mom, dad, sister and brother are there so she might not wanna make it obvious that she is flirting with me. So do you guys think she has feeling ms for me or do you think she just likes me as a cousin? Thanks.

Im 16 and im on a gym and im bi so sometimes i notice the men bulges. Basically almost all men there wear sports short shorts and i wear it too. And i notice that their bulges show up and mine doesnt as much. When can i have a bulge that will show as much as their? Why mine doesnt show as much? Its because my age(16 yo) and they are +20yo? I know its a stupid question but just answer plz.

my father has been committed because of depression, I don't have a good relationship with him, family insist I should visit him I'm his only son. I don't feel the need but feel guilty if I fail him as he has failed me multiple times. Advice?

In the case of death, the body remains in the ground while the soul is in the interspace between the two worlds. An 'interspace'is something which separates two things: heaven and earth, or this world and the Next World. In other words, it is the period between death and resurrection. The bliss or punishment of the Interspace is not the same as the bliss and punishment of the Next World. It is something that happens between this world and the Next World. Despite the fact that the soul is in the interspace between the two worlds and the body is inside the earth, the' two are still connected. Consequently, the bliss or punishment happens to both of them. We have likened this condition to the sleeping state, but naturally there is a distinction In sleep, the soul subsists fundamentally in the body. It emerges as something like a ray to the heavens ·so that the sleeper has a dream in which he feels either happy or miserable. He experiences either bliss or punishment in his sleep. In death, the soul subsists fundamentally in the Interspace, not in the body. When Allah the Great desires bliss or punishment for the soul, He connects it to the body. It is in Heaven, but at the same time it looks at and is connected to the body in the ground the mind does not change at death, but that only the body and limbs change. Thus, the dead man has intelligence and is able to perceive and know the varieties of pain and pleasure, nothing in his mind having been transformed. For the percipient mind does not consist of these members of ours; rather it is a thing concealed, without length or breadth . The faculty which perceives things consists of every part of one which does not rot away; and were a man's every limb to be scattered abroad leaving nothing but the percipient part, which can neither be dissolved or divided, then that man would be whole and would still exist and continue. So it is after death: for this part is not invaded by death and cannot be liable to extinction.

She says words like "dank", "retarded", "cancer", the "n-word", "wet back", "hella", all the time. I keep telling her to stop because she is not cool and she is annoying, but she is never listens to me.

There is a private college 2 hours away from me that I want to go to and it costs 60k a year including food and housing. I don't know if I can get financial aid because my parents make too much money (500k a year combined). However, I do community service so I might be able to get a community service scholarship to help with some of the costs.

I work 2 crappy jobs to pay my college tuition, help my mom out with the Bills and rent and food. Cause my older sibling don't call or help us and would rather buy $200 shoes and his new wife and kid. I've been rejected from jobs too which resulted me and my mom to spend xmas of 2008 with lights or barely food. Worked to 5am at only 19 to send money to my mom. I've wanted to be on tv too since I was a kid but all the ads are scam. All my years of hard work toward being an animator/writer/ actor is going know where as of now. And watching this dude who ain't even grown yet gets it all thrown in his lap make me see how crappy my life can be. The ways I've been rejected from dates, to jobs and everything