What's the point in having children if they're going to eat up all your money, grow up and move out and find their love of their lives, and hardly ever come to visit you, like only once a year at Christmas?

My husband is my only friend. I have no desire or interest in making other friends. I have no desire to have children. I have cut ties with my parents because they abused me badly. But I have deep love with my husband. I have a job that I love and have a trusting relationship with my bosses. I have hobbies that I love and enjoy. So I'm fully satisfied with my life and I am truly happy. Do you think I'm weird?

Ok so long story short my fiancé and I are planning our housing situation and I feel myself getting mad. His daughter is 15 and I have four kids with my ex husband ages 11 8 4 and 2. I have two boys and two girls in my current four bedroom house. The girls share a room and the boys share a room. I have sole legal and physical custody of my kids as my ex was abusive. From my ex husband I get 3500 a month in child support plus I make just as much after taxes in take home pay. My children live a nice life but my fiancé brings home 1/4th of what I make. He has his daughter every other weekend and that's it. We recently got in an argument because he wants us to move so his daughter can have her own room. I said we can move but she's not getting her own room. I'm not going to have a room vacant because she wants it when she's only here every other weekend. I stated my child support is for my kids to live comfortable lives and have their needs not to make sure your daughter has her own room...am I wrong over this?

There's so much abuse. My parents physically and mentally abused me. There's many parents that go to the extent of killing their child. Many children hate their parents. Many husbands abuse their wives. Many spouses cheat on each other. Many spouses learn to hate each other and divorce. I wonder if there is any family in which all members love each other eternally.

Me and my wife have been married for a year. How often should we have sex ?

I ve been married for 10 years , My husband and I have had problems through out our marriage. A lot of infidelity between the both of us. For the last three years I have been talking to my bff from Jr High school. Whom i fell in love with, He know how i feel and understand that im married. He was always there for me , he understood how i felt. He was there to comfort me. He gave companionship, love that ive asked my husband for over the years. My thing is my friend know everything about my marriage, my life, job just everything. I recently found out that my bff had a fiance and didnt tell me. I asked him and he got angry at me for asking. He tells me he really loves me and that he trust me. But didnt trust me enough to tell me about his fiance. To make a loooong story short. I told my bff that I ve decided to work on my marriage. My husband and i agreed to go to counseling. But my bff is pissed. Cause i told him im working on my marriage.Did i make the right decisions cutting him off?

My longterm boyfriends anwser whenever I try getting some clarity on the subject. Young in love, studied to long and now everyone is leaving their trail of happy moments that I don't feel to ever get untill it becomes a sad situation in wich no e of us cares anymore.

People in third worlds countries parents always encourage them to get married at the very young age. But to us it isn't even valuable and the parents don't even care if we got married ever. We are even encourage not to be too concerned about love. We would be considered shallow if we did. And how come there only a very few people over 30 in third world countries that don't have families of their own? Here there's many single people over 30 that are desperate to find someone to marry? How come it much more easier to them?

To clarify, my bf and I got together at 13 and now we are 28 still happily in love. We studied together and just started working and now are living together for 5 years already. We want to get maried, kids a house the whole lot but economicly we only had setbacks and are just surviving and it's really affecting my happyness everytime I see one of my friends getting maried, pregnant ect. I used to be able to shake that feeling of jealousy away but I just can't anymore.

Your wife talks about your marital problems with a male friend of hers. You are discussed in a negative way and the male friend, who does not know you, also talks bad about you to her. Would you be ok with this?

It always seems like black women wear the pants in most black families while the guy is either non existent in his families life or he is straggling behind. The woman is always raising the kids, paying bills, cooking, working, etc while the guy just smokes weed and chills all day. You see these women dressed in business clothes while their husband is wearing flip flops a t shirt gym shorts and a SnapBack hat at 40 years old still acting like he's 15. What is wrong with African American culture and why are black men so far behind?

I told my wife smoking or me. It went from 1 or 2 a day to about 7-8 a day. What makes it worse is that her breath smells and so does she. She knows how much it makes me sick but her addiction is too great. I have tried to overcome but with the crap we go through, staying with her smoking is not worth it. I can't give her the physical love throughout the day or be around her because it makes me sick. Then she cries about me not loving on her and when I tell her why she gets defensive. I have thought about if I'm a shallow man. I've thought about how much I really loved her. I've thought about am I myself willing to walk away. All of these which put me deep in thought for years. I can't deal with that the rest of my life. So I told her me or the smoking. Because she's not willing to quit then she too is willing to break up the family. Neither one of us are wrong am I'm not going to put it all on her. I just know I can't do it. We have 1 infant together. I know I'll be a distant father but staying for my son is worse than leaving. I even tried to comp on bj''s with her as she thinks it's disgusting to do. I told her 2wice a week and i won't complain. She wouldnt hold her end of the deal. Can't get it once a month without a fight.

People say to wait and that there's so much you should do before getting married. But I don't see why getting married will stop you from bettering yourself or being able to travel or other things. I mean having kids will definitely change things but I'm just talking about getting married.

Unless his wife likes cooking and actually enjoys it won't she make and expect him to do all the cooking from now on and cook all the meals from now on ? I like cooking experimenting in the kitchen and am a way better cook than my wife who's just a novice but I don't want her pushing all the cooking on to me and I don't want to do all the cooking in the house

I don't want my husband to date, kiss or sex my best friend when I die. Why? because I know he would like it too much and forget about me.

They are childless and in order to spend time with you they have to drive to your place to see you as you always have your kids (from your previous marriage) you blame your spouse for not spending enough time together but they work and when they have free time they have to come and see you as it is never the other way around. You do not work but have three kids from your previous marriage while are always with you as their father never takes them more than an hour here and there. What do you do?

My husband and I just got married a month ago, and my sister and I are vacationing alone. Husband isn't happy. He always checks up on me and asks if im having fun and calls me to tell me good night or good morning, but his tone is like "How could you leave me here for 8 days?" Do you think I did my husband wrong? ***** Also, we are vacationing in Colombia and going to cities he believes are dangerous. He tells me not to go there but I insist on going and I tell him it's very safe and that im gonna be using my common sense.. He isn't liking that I'm not taking his advice. ***** HE couldnt go with me because he has work.

I am watching TV and a "therapist" is on saying that if cheating or an affair happens it isn't done and can be saved. I say no way. What do you think?

My husband had told of his first love that he wanted to get married to but she got engaged to someone else n it was too late to tell her. He has been honest to me and i appreciate it. But, he has few pictures of them in his laptop n i tear up everytime i see them together. My husband likes long nails n asked me to grow my nails out. She also had super long nails n now im thinking maybe he liked them first n wants me to be like her? Should i ask this to him? I have done this asking regarding other attributes of her n i try to be like her n i also told him i look so much like her n he gets ANNOYED when i say this n we had worst arguments n i found out this long nails when i just lurked through his laptop. Ours is an arranged marriage n i have told him that i love him but he doesnt say by his own first. He says back when i say him that i love him. Im crying n i dont know how to be strong. What is my problem? Please help me out.

I used to be on Instagram a lot, it really bothered my husband and we always got into huge fights. So I cut back, I stopped going on Instagram during family time and that wasn t enough so I even cut back as much as only going on it at night time while I lay in bed. Then he got really upset, because he said why do I need to be on it in bed? We already made love and I took care of his needs, the kids are in bed and I m not tired, so why TF does he still get mad if I m on Instagram, even in my down time? So I feel like I have to sneak to be on Instagram, like when I sit on the toilet bowl, then he came in and got upset, so now I don t take my phone in the bathroom with me anymore. This is very annoying and I m so over it, I feel like I can t even be myself, the only time I can go on Instagram is when I m traveling home because that s like my only free time apart from him and the kids. What do I do? Is this worth splitting up? He said to choose him and the kids or the internet. Is he wrong?

My husband was married to another woman before he met me. Although she has a drug problem, she swears that he is a cross dresser & is gay. He has never given me any reason to believe that he's gay, other than not always being able to perform in bed, and have to take ED medicine before sex. Is he just trying to cover it up? Should I be worried?